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6 Encouraging Things You Can Say To A Breastfeeding Mom

6 Encouraging Things You Can Say To A Breastfeeding Mom

The ability to make life and then sustain it is amazing. But sometimes breastfeeding mothers need encouragement.

My goal for this article is to encourage moms who breastfeed. Before I continue, I would like to be clear on this: I do NOT intend to bash moms who choose to use formula. My wife breastfeeds our children and the other mothers in my family breastfeed their children, so this is what I am familiar with.

Breastfeeding, as you know, is an excellent source of nutrition for babies. I am very grateful my wife has been able to breastfeed our kids, but there have still been some ups and downs. I have had to support my wife and ask her how she feels about breastfeeding. Sometimes we’ve had some unpleasant reactions from people when they see her nursing our children in public, and even some negative reactions from certain family members who are ignorant on the subject.

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But all l can do is encourage her.

Most importantly, if you are a breastfeeding mom, I want to say: “thank you for breastfeeding”.

If you are the significant other of a breastfeeding mom, or know a breastfeeding mom, below are six encouraging things you can say to her today:

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1. “Thank you for breastfeeding”

How did you feel the last time someone said “thank you” to you? I am sure you felt good and happy. Let’s do the same for our breastfeeding moms. A simple “thank you” will go a long way towards improving a breastfeeding mom’s day.

2. “I support your breastfeeding decision”

If you are the partner or spouse of a breastfeeding mom, tell her exactly how much you support her nursing as long as she sees fit for her and her child. Let her know just how awesome you think it is that she is breastfeeding. Tell her what a great job she is doing.

3. “You are enough”

Trust your body. I know the question of supply comes up often with breastfeeding moms, and misinformation can create stress and extra pressure. Just know for the majority of women, your supply is enough.

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Encouragement is also important as many people are ignorant about the life-sustaining ability of breasts and are only concerned with their sexual function. As a supportive partner, by learning and understanding the basic functions of breasts and nursing, you will be able to understand any complications that arise. Let her know you understand breastfeeding is not easy, and that you are thankful for her.

4. “Great job, mama”

Give her a smile. Don’t avoid her and act awkward. Keep the conversation going or if you are just passing by, smile. Offer an encouraging phrase like “great job, mama!”

5. “Take my seat and be comfortable”

Offer her a comfortable place to sit and perhaps a glass of water. Moms who breastfeed are constantly thirsty because it takes a lot of water to make breast milk.

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6. “Thank you for not giving up”

Breastfeeding is hard work. It can be physically draining and unfortunately, not always socially accepted. So, thank you, breastfeeding moms, for dealing with all of this, and doing what you feel is best for you and your children.

I am not saying this to criticize anyone who is not able to breastfeed. I know not every mom will be able to breastfeed, which is very sad. I learned about this after my wife began breastfeeding and she shared some breastfeeding stories with me.

Breastfeeding moms, thank you for sacrificing sleep to make sure your baby is fed at night. Sometimes breastfeeding hurts; it can involve mastitis, sore nipples, and leaking breast milk. You should be appreciated for dealing with all of this, as well as dirty looks and snide comments. You stuck with your gut and continued to nurse your child as long as was right for both of you. For all these reasons, I am grateful.

Featured photo credit: PublicDomainPictures via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

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