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10 Things Type B People Want You To Understand

10 Things Type B People Want You To Understand

Type B personalities enjoy achievement, but just don’t feel the same level of stress or need to achieve. As someone who most closely identifies with Type B personality traits, others seem to think that they have it much more together than I do. Type A people can almost be too together, to the point where they cannot handle any contingency. What many people don’t realize is Type B people do have a system of their own — one that works for them. They just work in a completely different way.

Here are a few things to note about Type B people:

1. They’re laid back, not lazy

Type B personalities won’t be found taking copious notes during a class or meeting. They’re just not bothered if they don’t get all the information they need right away. They know that there will be many opportunities to get what’s needed before a big presentation or deadline, and they’re confident in their ability to get things done. While it may seem lazy or unprofessional to show up to a meeting without a pen and pad in hand, they simply take in information differently, and are able to discriminate between necessary and extraneous details on-the-fly. They analyze as they go and don’t get overwhelmed — which is precisely why they appear so laid back.

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2. They prioritize differently

Type B personalities take in information differently. They listen to what’s being said and keep the most important points. The same goes for other aspects of life. They don’t need to clear out their email inbox every day. Their desk might look like a complete disaster, but they know where everything is without having to file it. Simply put, if Type B personalities were to organize their lives according to how a Type A person would have it, they might find themselves lost in a sea of orderliness.

3. They’re just not as bothered by certain things

While some people simply could not get to work if their desk was a complete mess, Type B people don’t let it bother them. They know they may need to clean up a bit, but they also know there will time for that later. They can separate tasks and focus on one thing at a time. They aren’t thinking about walking the dog or washing the car when they sit down to work. They know it’ll get done, and aren’t bothered by how long it will take to do so.

4. They’re quiet planners

Type B personalities don’t feel like they need to have immediate answers. In fact, they know that solving problems under undue stress will likely lead to failure. Yes, they understand how big the problem is. However, they also understand that it’s not the end of the world. No matter what the situation may be, they’ll figure it out if given adequate time and space. Just because they’re not freaking out doesn’t mean they don’t care; they just understand that freaking out will get them nowhere but running in circles.

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5. They work smarter, not harder

Honestly, it cracks me up hearing people talk about pulling all-nighters to study or meet some sort of deadline. While others scramble to the last minute, Type B individuals are the ones sitting back, ready to hand in the project without all the stress. They don’t have extra time to work on it, they just find the most effective way to go about their work. They don’t get as overwhelmed, meaning they don’t spend precious time wondering how to go about completing something. They just use the most optimal resources available to get the job done.

6. They have their own methods of being organized

Why does it matter if their files aren’t in alphabetical order? Yes, in the long run it might help in some way, but the time spent organizing all of that paperwork is time that could have been spent actually using the paperwork. Think of it this way: If I consciously remember where I put all my important information, even if it’s “disorganized,” I’ll always know where it is.

7. They don’t dwell on problems

Type B personalities know they will find a solution to the problem at hand when they have time to think about it. Then, they can move on to another issue without getting stuck on the former. This may be why they can seem to be lazy or to avoid issues. They simply file it in their minds to be brought up at a more convenient time.

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8. They know when a battle can’t be won

Type B personalities understand when they’re fighting a losing battle. Although they often march to the beat of their own drum, they also know that sometimes it’s worth it to fall in line and complete a task the way the boss wants it done. Of course, this goes back to prioritizing; if it’s something worth fighting for, they’ll fight for it. If not, they just let it go — cue the Disney song.

9. They’re sensitive, too

All the griping they hear about how “lazy” and “disorganized” they are just shows how little others pay attention to them. Okay, if I’m lazy and disorganized, and still managed to get my work done on time, what’s that say about you? Type A people at work can be awe-inspiring. I know I could never commit to being that organized, and would never be able to produce efficiently if I was that high-strung. On the other hand, some Type A people tend to look down on Type B personalities without taking a closer look at what they’ve accomplished.

10. They’re happy just the way they are

I know when I get home from a hard day’s work, I leave the work at work. It’s done until the next day. That doesn’t mean that Type B people blow off work when it needs to be done — they’ll put in the extra hours if the need arises. They don’t waste time with worrying when they should be focussing on time with friends, family, and all the other important aspects of life — and they wouldn’t have it any other way.

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What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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