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10 Reasons Why Being Intelligent Is Problematic (And Even A Curse)

10 Reasons Why Being Intelligent Is Problematic (And Even A Curse)

Being intelligent has a lot of pluses. Not only can you do your homework in a hurry, but you are able to hold your own in abstract conversations. Although there are a lot of bonuses, there are some serious challenges.

When you are carrying a big brain, you have got to learn at least a few ways to navigate these very real problems:

1. People fail to understand your awesome jokes

Your brain moves fast and you are chock full of obscure knowledge. As you crack a truly hilarious joke, you realize halfway through that your beloved friends are not going to know what the heck you are talking about. By the time you have explained all the background they need to get the joke, its probably not funny to anyone anymore.

Ah, such wasted effort.

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2. Your work is NEVER finished

You’ve always got a ton of brain power milling about. As a result, you are constantly noting things to fix, things to learn about and ways to constantly utilize every moment you have.

Unfortunately, this often leads to massive piles of stress and a failure to ever actually rest.

3. Happiness becomes elusive

Related to number two, you struggle to feel okay about the massive piles of things to do. Since work is never finished, you can never feel content. Similarly, when you are so involved in something positive that happiness may naturally arise, your brain returns to the multitude of other things you really should be worried about.

And thus, happiness escapes before it was even present.

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4. Social awkwardness is commonplace

Brain power doesn’t necessarily make every day small talk any easier. Between obscure references, a lack of ability to relate to normal stuff like sports and fashion, and a tendency to say smart things which few people understand, you are rocking the awkward turtle moments.

5. Being wrong is NOT an option

Should the horrible event occur where you happen to get something wrong, every single person that witnessed it will clearly remember the event. They are also likely to remind you of it. You will do everything you can to rationalize the mistake and downplay it. But when you are right most of the time, it’s always memorable to get it wrong once.

6. You struggle to cut yourself some slack

Intelligent people hold themselves to high standards, whether they want to or not. After all, you’ve got all these brain cells ready and able to solve any and every problem you might have. How could it possibly be that you don’t perform to your highest capacity every time?

Of course, this isn’t reasonable, but its really hard to keep some perspective as a highly intelligent person.

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7. You expect greatness, and experience depression with failure to deliver

Not only do you expect yourself to be great all the time, but when that doesn’t work out, you get super bummed. You’ve got all these great resources, its clearly just laziness or lack of effort that leads to sub-par performance. What a horrible person you must be.

At the end of the day, no one can be great all the time, but those with high intelligence struggle to appreciate this fact.

8. You have authority problems

Although you are clearly more intelligent than many, you find yourself in the same position as others of superior intelligence: At some time, you are in a subordinate position to individuals with less mental prowess. As a result, respect for authority becomes quite a challenge.

Its hard to respect your boss when you feel that you have the brain power to do a vastly superior job.

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9.You struggle with your idenitity

If you describe yourself as intelligent, you are clearly an arrogant jerk. If you downplay your intelligence, you will find yourself hanging out with people who are terribly boring. You need to find some way to get both your sense of self and your fear of arrogance in check.

All without turning people off before you even try to be friends.

10. Boredom is overwhelming

Intelligent people like to stay mentally active. Inevitably, he or she will be asked to work on something which is just tedious. This can really drain an intelligent person. To keep an intelligent person motivated, boredom can’t be part of the equation.

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Last Updated on November 26, 2020

How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success

How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success

As playwright Wilson Mizner supposedly said all the way back in the 1930s,

“Be kind to everyone on the way up; you will meet the same people on the way down.”

The adage is the perfect prototype for relationship building in 2020, although we may want to expand Mizner’s definition of “kind” to include being helpful, respectful, grateful, and above all, crediting your colleagues along the way.

5 Ways to Switch on Your Relationship Building Magnetism

Relationship building does not come easily to all. Today’s computer culture makes us more insular and less likely to reach out—not to mention our new work-from-home situation in which we are only able to interact virtually. Still, relationship building remains an important part of career engagement and success, and it gets better with practice.

Here are five ways you can strengthen your relationships:

1. Advocate for Other’s Ideas

Take the initiative to speak up in support of other team members’ good ideas. Doing so lets others know that the team’s success takes precedence over your needs for personal success. Get behind any colleague’s innovative approach or clever solution and offer whatever help you can give to see it through. Teammates will value your vote of confidence and your support.

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2. Show Compassion

If you learn that someone whom you work with has encountered difficult times, reach out. If it’s not someone you know well, a hand-written card expressing your sympathy and hopes for better times ahead could be an initial gesture. If it’s someone with whom you interact regularly, the act could involve offering to take on some of the person’s work to provide a needed reprieve or even bringing in a home-cooked dish as a way to offer comfort. The show of compassion will not go unnoticed, and your relationship building will have found a foothold.

3. Communicate Regularly

Make an effort to share any information with team members that will help them do their jobs more effectively. Keeping people in the loop says a lot about your consideration for what others need to deliver their best results.

Try to discover the preferred mode of communication for each team member. Some people are fine relying on emails; others like to have a phone conversation. And once we can finally return to working together in offices, you may determine that face-to-face updates may be most advantageous for some members.

4. Ask for Feedback

Showing your willingness to reach out for advice and guidance will make a positive impression on your boss. When you make it clear that you welcome and can accept pointers, you display candor and trust in what opinions your superior has to offer. Your proclivity towards considering ways of improving your performance and strengthening any working interactions will signal your strong relationship skills.

If you are in a work environment where you are asked to give feedback, be generous and compassionate. That does not mean being wishy-washy. Try always to give the type of feedback that you wouldn’t mind receiving.

5. Give Credit Where It’s Due

Be the worker who remembers to credit staffers with their contributions. It’s a surprisingly rare talent to credit others, but when you do so, they will remember to credit you, and the collective credit your team will accrue will be well worth the effort.

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How Does Relationship Building Build Careers?

Once you have strengthened and deepened your relationships, here are some of the great benefits:

Work Doesn’t Feel So Much Like Work

According to a Gallup poll, when you have a best friend at work, you are more likely to feel engaged with your job. Work is more fun when you have positive, productive relationships with your colleagues. Instead of spending time and energy overcoming difficult personalities, you can spend time enjoying the camaraderie with colleagues as you work congenially on projects together. When your coworkers are your friends, time goes by quickly and challenges don’t weigh as heavily.

You Can Find Good Help

It’s easier to ask for assistance when you have a good working relationship with a colleague. And with office tasks changing at the speed of technology, chances are that you are going to need some help acclimating—especially now that work has gone remote due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

Much of relationship building rests on your genuine expressions of appreciation toward others. Showing gratitude for another’s help or for their willingness to put in the extra effort will let them know you value them.

Mentors Come Out of the Woodwork

Mentors are proven to advance your professional and career development. A mentor can help you navigate how to approach your work and keep you apprised of industry trends. They have a plethora of experience to draw from that can be invaluable when advising you on achieving career success and advancement.

Mentors flock to those who are skilled at relationship building. So, work on your relationships and keep your eyes peeled for a worthy mentor.

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You Pull Together as a Team

Great teamwork starts with having an “abundance mentality” rather than a scarcity mentality. Too often, workers view all projects through a scarcity mentality lens. This leads to office strife as coworkers compete for their piece of the pie. But in an abundance mentality mode, you focus on the strengths that others bring rather than the possibility that they are potential competitors.

Instead, you can commit relationship building efforts to ensure a positive work environment rather than an adversarial one. When you let others know that you intend to support their efforts and contribute to their success, they will respond in kind. Go, team!

Your Network Expands and So Does Your Paycheck

Expand your relationship building scope beyond your coworkers to include customers, suppliers, and other industry stakeholders. Your extra efforts can lead to extra sales, a more rewarding career, and even speedy professional advancement. And don’t overlook the importance of building warm relationships with assistants, receptionists, or even interns.

Take care to build bridges, not just to your boss and your boss’s boss but with those that work under you as well. You may find that someone who you wouldn’t expect will put in a good word for you with your supervisor.

Building and maintaining good working relationships with everyone you come in contact with can pay off in unforeseen ways. You never know when that underling will turn out to be the company’s “golden child.” Six years from now you may be turning to them for a job. If you have built up a good, trusting work relationship with others along your way, you will more likely be considered for positions that any of these people may be looking to fill.

Your Job Won’t Stress You Out

Study shows that some 83 percent of American workers experience work-related stress.[1] Granted, some of that stress is now likely caused by the new pandemic-triggered workplace adjustments, yet bosses and management, in general, are reportedly the predominant source of stress for more than one-third of workers.

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Having meaningful connections among coworkers is the best way to make work less stressful. Whether it is having others whom to commiserate with, bounce ideas off, or bring out your best performance, friendships strengthen the group’s esprit de corps and lower the stress level of your job.

Your Career Shines Bright

Who would you feel better about approaching to provide a recommendation or ask for promotion: a cold, aloof boss with whom you have only an impersonal relationship or one that knows you as a person and with whom you have built a warm, trusting relationship?

Your career advancement will always excel when you have a mutual bond of friendship and appreciation with those who can recommend you. Consider the plug you could receive from a supervisor who knows you as a friend versus one who remains detached and only notices you in terms of your ability to meet deadlines or attain goals.

When people fully know your skills, strengths, personality, and aspirations, you have promoters who will sing your praises with any opportunity for advancement.

Final Thoughts

At the end of the day, it is “who you know” not “what you know.” When you build relationships, you build a pipeline of colleagues, work partners, team members, current bosses, and former bosses who want to help you—who want to see you succeed.

At its core, every business is a people business. Making a point to take the small but meaningful actions that build the foundation of a good relationship can be instrumental in cultivating better relationships at work.

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Reference

[1] The American Institute of Stress: 42 Worrying Workplace Stress Statistics

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