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Top 7 Tips For Hiring A Nanny Or Babysitter

Top 7 Tips For Hiring A Nanny Or Babysitter

Having a nanny has become important for the working women to reduce stress and workload. Nannies can be living with you full time or even come during the day and leave by night. I know the thought of leaving your kid with a complete stranger can freak you out.

The first question to arise in your mind would be, “Why should I hire a nanny?” You can handle both work and family, but in reality it gets hectic to balance both worlds. Working the whole day and having sleepless nights can affect your work, as well as your family life. A couple of thoughts cross your mind, like how will you be able to find a nanny, and how trustworthy would she be with your baby.

Here are a handful of tips to keep in mind before you allow a stranger to care for your kids.

1. Know your search

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    Understand the need of your child and know what kind of a nanny you are looking for. Do you want a nanny to stay with your family? Are you looking for a part-time nanny or a night-time nanny? The criteria needs to be clear. You do not want a person walking in expecting to work part-time and you offer them a full-time nanny job. This way you are clear. It also saves a lot of time during the interview.

    2. Know your budget

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      Knowing your budget is one of the most important points while hiring a nanny. A little flexibility in the offered price is okay. Do not over-budget yourself with hiring a nanny. A live-in nanny actually charges less. Remember, you are providing the nanny with a room and board, but a live-in nanny will also have full access to your family. You will be adding a complete stranger as a family member, so make sure you are ready for it. Also remember that a nanny needs privacy if she stays with your family.

      3. Background check

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        You are allowing a person to have access to your personal life. A nanny will have the right to enter your family, your home, and your baby’s life. You need to know the background of the person you are letting into your life. A personal one-on-one interview isn’t enough to know the person. You need to have thorough knowledge of where she worked earlier. Why did she quit? Where does she live? You should also contact their previous employers to know what she was like while she was working with them. Most importantly, you want to find out how she treated the children? This will give you an idea of how exactly she deals with kids.

        4. Talk with your family

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          Sit and have a discussion about your decision to your family. You do not want an awkward situation later. Listen to the suggestions they give you. What kind of questions would you want to ask? Is your family ready to have a live-in nanny or would they prefer a nanny who comes in the morning and leaves by night? It is necessary to have a discussion because a person entering your home will require some adjustments. Knowing whether your family is ready for such a big adjustment is needed before hiring a nanny. Also, put the pros and cons in front of your family about having a live-in nanny and a nanny coming in the morning and leaving by night.

          5. Contract

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            Start drafting a contract once you get approval from the family. The contract should have be nice and clear. How much are you going to pay? Will you take care of her food and travel allowance if she comes by day and leaves by night? Can she have guests overnight? Can she use the appliances at your place? What are the number of hours you want her to work for you? This will help her get a better understanding of your needs.

            6. Word of mouth

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              While hiring nannies, word of mouth is the best publicity. People refer you nannies they know of. They might have had a personal contact with her or might have seen them work for people they know. This way you know where to knock on the door to do a check on her. Also, people will refer you with the names they think are good at their work. It will save time for you interviewing several other candidates for the job.

              7. Trial period

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                A trial period is compulsory before hiring. During this trial period you’ll get to observe the way she works. It will also give you time to get to know her and get comfortable with her. Another point to keep in mind is to stay back during the trial period of your nanny. Let your children get comfortable before you leave them alone with this stranger.

                Conclusion

                Who would have thought that hiring a nanny would be so hectic? We thought all it took to finish the job would be contacting a local nanny providing firm. However, when it comes to letting your baby be with a stranger, a little extra effort and stress up front will be well worth it in the long run.

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                Last Updated on January 17, 2019

                8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

                8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

                In life, we all need to be conscientious of what we are doing. You don’t need to live a life of stress if you don’t want to. You can achieve peace and happiness in life by carefully building mindfulness exercises into your life’s routine.

                Exercising mindfulness isn’t rocket science and as importantly, you can do it. It will, however, take a few tries to get into the groove of things but once you get it, it is like riding a bike, you will never lose it.

                Trust me. It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. In this article, I will share with you 8 mindfulness exercises that will help you to boost your energy, vitality and live a more peaceful and happier life.

                Why Is It Hard to Live A Peaceful And Happy Life?

                Our Habitat Has Become Too Technological

                The world has accepted the idea that technology is often the cure for all evil. We have accepted, as a society, that everything technological will make us live a better life without fully investigating the many side effects that modernity brings.

                There are a number of technological side effects that have a tremendous impact on your life that the media rarely tells you about.[1] Some of them include self-harm, economic inequality, having less sex, and even suicide. The global community is becoming less happy because of technology.

                How can anybody live a peaceful and happy life when they are depressed? Technology advancements, ladies and gents, is a major reason for why we are living a poor life because it has infiltrated our lives too much.

                According to my research, Americans spend an average of 8 hours a day looking at the computer screen — The average screen time spent on smartphones alone is about 20 hours per week. That’s a lot! No wonder why living a happy and peaceful life is so difficult these days.

                Too Many People Don’t Want to Unplug

                Americans check their phones an average of 80 times during vacation.[2] Some admit to checking their smartphones 300 times every single day. In countries like Brazil, India and China, the situation is no different.

                The reality is that people are constantly plugged into technological devices and this behavior is literally making people all over the globe fight an inner war with themselves, which consequently makes them very sad. As we know, war is the enemy of peace which won’t make anybody happy.

                Listen carefully:

                We have a global anxiety epidemic because people don’t want to unplug from their smartphones and most people aren’t doing anything to fix it. It is a sad state of affairs but very real. This obsession with technology is turning us into perishable robots who live terrible lives.

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                The era of anxiety is here to stay. There is little doubt about it. We can, however, fight back with the best remedy of all — We call it mindfulness!

                Thank God there is an antidote to this whole technological madness. Without further ado, let’s go straight to the mindful exercises.

                8 Mindfulness Exercises to Start Practicing

                There are tons of mindfulness exercises available for you to engage with out there.[3] In the paragraphs below, I will include the best ones I’ve personally tried or have seen my close friends and family members try.

                Are you ready for it? Let’s go!

                1. Pray Daily

                You should pray on a daily basis. Why is that you may ask — Well, because science has told us to do so.

                When people pray, they feel peaceful, almost eliminating anxiety. Worries become secondary, and often gives people energy and hope to cope with the difficulties of life.

                Prayer can make you more confident and focused. Prayer also helps you with self-control, helps to control pain, and can protect you against illnesses and disorders like cancer and high blood pressure. At least, this is what researchers from Harvard Medical School have said.[4]

                Pray. You won’t regret it.[5]

                2. Pay Attention to Your Inner Thoughts

                A lot of people allow themselves to be influenced by their negative thoughts. Be different and resist believing in them. It is a bad habit that can lead to unhappiness.

                By the way, if you do feel this way, chances are high that somebody other than you put these thoughts into your head.

                Here is my secret to combat this cancer — look at things objectively. I bet that if you look at things as they are, you will realize that most if not all of your negative thoughts are only inside of your head.

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                If you pay close attention, you will quickly realize that these voices aren’t worth your time. Believe me — Ignoring them and looking at things with objectivity is often the best course of action.

                This article can guide you to beat negative thoughts:

                How to Stop Automatic Negative Thoughts When You’re Overwhelmed

                3. Smile Often

                Smiling will slow down your heart. It will also relax your body because when you smile, your body releases endorphins which in itself has a number of positive benefits for you as a person.

                Smile often! You may want to smile early in the morning, during the day, and late in the evening. It is amazing what happens to you when you decide to smile instead of being grumpy.

                Surrender your problems to a nice smile. You will notice two things. First, most people just don’t which makes them live a miserable life. Second, if you decide to smile often, you will eventually smile unconsciously which is the ideal.

                The moment that you smile unconsciously, you then know that you are truly happy.

                4. Organize Your Working Desk

                A messy desk will make you less productive and can agitate and overstimulate you. You don’t want that.

                When you clear your desk, you engage in deep inner-thinking and your systematic decision making ends up becoming therapeutic.

                Most people realize that they are most creative when their creative space is clean and organized. The former often makes people more aware of what they are doing which lends to less stress and more productivity.

                Organizing your desk will also make you more energetic and focused because order often decreases chaos which is a condition that often slows down daily progress.

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                5. Celebrate Your Friend’s Victories

                I love this mindful exercise. One of the best ways to live a happy and peaceful life is to celebrate the victories of others. When you do that, you automatically make your friends in a better mood which makes you in a better mood, as well.

                Happiness is contagious! We might as well celebrate others as much as we can. If you find out that your peer has won an award, celebrate with him! If your friend is the recipient of a local charity award, celebrate with her!

                What is also awesome is that when you celebrate with others, they often celebrate with you in return. This, ladies and gentleman, will make you feel fantastic. You can’t go wrong with this one, period.

                6. Listen to Your Spouse/Partner

                God put someone in your life for a reason. You might as well listen to him or her.

                I listen to my wife everyday. In fact, I often ask the following question to her, “Amanda, what are your thoughts about…” or “What am I missing about…” It is shocking what I hear back from her. Without her having much context and perspective, by the art of observation in my own nonverbal behavior and the behavior of others, she accurately gives me incredible insights which helps me out with living my life to the fullest.

                I’m a firm believer that spouses are supposed to engage in interpersonal communication every day. I most definitely do and will continue doing it. You should do the same.

                7. Give Yourself a Break from Technology

                You can’t be in total equilibrium if your computerized devices control your life. You must get away from technology on a daily basis.[6]

                How do you do that? This is my formula:

                First, take this smartphone control test. It is only ten questions but this test will place you somewhere in the human robot cycle continuum.

                If your score is between 25-30, take a break from the computer (or smartphone, pad, laptop/desktop) every twenty minutes and stop being on a computerized device after 8:00pm.

                If you score between 30-35, still take a break every 20 minutes but stop being on these devices at 5:00pm.

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                If you score more than 35, you need to take action immediately.

                Limit computer use as much as possible throughout the day. Give yourself as many breaks from the computer as possible. Are you ready for the challenge?

                8. Go Exercise

                Go exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care if you need to workout early in the morning, late in the evening, on the weekends or during work days. Working out is absolutely imperative for you to live happy and peaceful life.

                The stresses of the modern world are too much for you to neglect this important mindfulness exercise. When you go to the gym, you burn calories, focus on activities one step at a time, your mind relaxes, anxiety decreases, you sweat and often think about topics unrelated to your work place among many other benefits.

                You must exercise at least three hours each week for optimum results. Why? Just take a look at all the benefits of regular exercising:

                12 Benefits of Regular Exercise You Should Know

                The Bottom Line

                It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. Now that our habitat has become too technological and many people just don’t want to unplug, engaging in daily prayer, celebrate your friends’ victories, and listening to your spouse are among the best ways to be mindful about what you are doing and how you are living.

                It is possible to live a happy and peaceful life. It only depends on you.

                Go exercise! Take a break from technology and invest in you! Life is too short for distractions.

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