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7 Things Successful Women Do To “Have It All”

7 Things Successful Women Do To “Have It All”

Successful women don’t have it all by accident. They consciously make choices that allow them to create a life they love. So what’s their secret? They prioritize the things that matter most.

No matter how you define your priorities (kids, career, health, access to an all-night taco stand), there are seven solid things that successful women do to have it all.

1. They Define Success On Their Own Terms.

Before starting my business, I thought success meant having a fancy title, a corner office, and a paycheck the size of Texas. And because of that conditioned narrow view, it took years for me to discover that success, to me, meant freedom.

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– Freedom to choose how I spend my time and with whom.
– Freedom to express myself in a way that feels true to me.
– Freedom to Skype my clients while wearing sweatpants.

The point is that until you know exactly what success means to you, you aren’t going to achieve it.

2. They Choose Where To Invest Their Energy.

Simply put, people who have it all aren’t running on autopilot. They are consciously choosing to invest their time, energy, and money on the things that help them to feel happy, fulfilled, and energized.

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3. They Schedule Their Priorities Instead Of Prioritizing Their Schedules.

Women who have it all don’t fill their calendars with meetings, errands and obligations to others, and then wonder where their time goes. They fill their time with the actions that help them to turn their dreams into reality.

Instead of prioritizing their “To Do” List, successful women prioritize their goals. They make sure to schedule in time for the big tickets items (like starting that business) and the less-than-desirable tasks (like starting that laundry) each day.

4. They Make Time For Themselves.

Women who have it all put themselves first. Not in a selfish way, but in an I-respect-myself-too-much-not-to-honor-my-needs kind of way. And no, it doesn’t mean you need to turn off your phone and disappear on a yoga retreat (though it certainly wouldn’t hurt).

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It can be as simple as committing to a morning meditation, an afternoon walk, or an evening cup of tea. Successful women know that carving out time for yourself, in whatever form it takes, is a simple act of self-love and self-care.

5. They Set Boundaries.

Fact: Sometimes people are the worst. They ask to borrow your car (again), they don’t return the only working office stapler to your desk, or they simply fill your time with negativity.

Women who have it all got it all because they worked for it all. They shed their co-dependent ways and honor their needs enough to express their boundaries in a loving and respectful way.

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6. They Accept Responsibility.

Women who have it all, own it all. They are willing to take ownership of every area of their lives. If something’s not working, they don’t blame others and they don’t play the martyr.

Instead, they take responsibility. They accept what they think they deserve. Women who have it all know they deserve love, happiness, and respect.

7. They Cultivate Gratitude.

They focus on what they have instead of what they don’t have. Because not only does this condition our brains to attract more of the good stuff, but it also allows us to approach the world from a place of abundance instead of lack. And abundance, in any form, is akin to having it all.

It doesn’t take money or a team of 10 to have it all. All it takes is a few simple tweaks to ensure that you’re spending less time putting out fires and more time on what matters most.

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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