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7 Things Successful Women Do To “Have It All”

7 Things Successful Women Do To “Have It All”

Successful women don’t have it all by accident. They consciously make choices that allow them to create a life they love. So what’s their secret? They prioritize the things that matter most.

No matter how you define your priorities (kids, career, health, access to an all-night taco stand), there are seven solid things that successful women do to have it all.

1. They Define Success On Their Own Terms.

Before starting my business, I thought success meant having a fancy title, a corner office, and a paycheck the size of Texas. And because of that conditioned narrow view, it took years for me to discover that success, to me, meant freedom.

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– Freedom to choose how I spend my time and with whom.
– Freedom to express myself in a way that feels true to me.
– Freedom to Skype my clients while wearing sweatpants.

The point is that until you know exactly what success means to you, you aren’t going to achieve it.

2. They Choose Where To Invest Their Energy.

Simply put, people who have it all aren’t running on autopilot. They are consciously choosing to invest their time, energy, and money on the things that help them to feel happy, fulfilled, and energized.

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3. They Schedule Their Priorities Instead Of Prioritizing Their Schedules.

Women who have it all don’t fill their calendars with meetings, errands and obligations to others, and then wonder where their time goes. They fill their time with the actions that help them to turn their dreams into reality.

Instead of prioritizing their “To Do” List, successful women prioritize their goals. They make sure to schedule in time for the big tickets items (like starting that business) and the less-than-desirable tasks (like starting that laundry) each day.

4. They Make Time For Themselves.

Women who have it all put themselves first. Not in a selfish way, but in an I-respect-myself-too-much-not-to-honor-my-needs kind of way. And no, it doesn’t mean you need to turn off your phone and disappear on a yoga retreat (though it certainly wouldn’t hurt).

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It can be as simple as committing to a morning meditation, an afternoon walk, or an evening cup of tea. Successful women know that carving out time for yourself, in whatever form it takes, is a simple act of self-love and self-care.

5. They Set Boundaries.

Fact: Sometimes people are the worst. They ask to borrow your car (again), they don’t return the only working office stapler to your desk, or they simply fill your time with negativity.

Women who have it all got it all because they worked for it all. They shed their co-dependent ways and honor their needs enough to express their boundaries in a loving and respectful way.

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6. They Accept Responsibility.

Women who have it all, own it all. They are willing to take ownership of every area of their lives. If something’s not working, they don’t blame others and they don’t play the martyr.

Instead, they take responsibility. They accept what they think they deserve. Women who have it all know they deserve love, happiness, and respect.

7. They Cultivate Gratitude.

They focus on what they have instead of what they don’t have. Because not only does this condition our brains to attract more of the good stuff, but it also allows us to approach the world from a place of abundance instead of lack. And abundance, in any form, is akin to having it all.

It doesn’t take money or a team of 10 to have it all. All it takes is a few simple tweaks to ensure that you’re spending less time putting out fires and more time on what matters most.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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