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10 Ways Successful People Communicate With Others

10 Ways Successful People Communicate With Others

Every great leader is a great communicator. Great leaders are intentional about their communication. They know how they show up matters, every single day. They strive to form connections with others. They influence and inspire others to do their best. Master these ways successful people communicate and watch your leadership skills soar.

1. They Are Skilled at Reading Body Language

Successful communicators know that posture doesn’t always provide good indications about someone’s feelings. Instead, they learn to pick up on subtle cues. They are experts at picking up on micro expressions, which are very brief facial expressions that occur when people conceal their feelings. Excellent communicators have learned to read these very slight facial cues that last only a fraction of a second. They tailor their messages as they go, based on these tiny cues, in order to maximize their influence. Dr. Paul Ekman, a prominent psychologist and researcher, has studied nonverbal behavior and has developed a training program to read micro expressions. Check out www.paulekman.com to learn more.

2. They Are Honest

Great leaders know that information full of half-truths causes mistrust. They are honest with others. When they’re unable to share classified information, they say exactly that. When they are able to relay messages, they give concise and clear messages without a bunch of fluff.

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3. They Don’t Micromanage

Great communicators don’t demand control of the details. They delegate effectively. They instill a sense of confidence in others, empowering them to do their best. They are positive and encouraging. They enable others to expand beyond their comfort zones to achieve their goals.

4. They Don’t Waste Other People’s Time

Excellent communicators don’t hold meetings just for the sake of holding meetings. They understand the value of someone else’s time. They inform others of their clear agendas and specific goals for each meeting they lead.

5. They Hold Themselves Accountable

The best leaders know they’re not perfect. They don’t wait for the general public to discover their blunders before admitting them. They don’t conceal when they’ve wronged others. Great communicators say things like “I’m sorry,” and “It was my fault.”

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6. They Give Credit

Great communicators give credit where it’s due. They know the significance of making others feel valued, important, and appreciated. They take time to thank others privately and publicly.

7. They Speak with Confidence

Successful leaders speak with authority and confidence. They understand the value of appropriate tone and effectively timed pauses. They don’t bury their heads in the sand when tough messages need to be delivered. They deliver information powerfully, tactfully, and poised.

8. They Are Excellent Listeners

Great leaders have mastered their listening skills. They are actively engaged in every conversation. They don’t let their minds wander when someone is talking to them. They focus on understanding what the other person is saying instead of thinking about what they’re going to say next.

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9. They Ask Questions

The best communicators ask questions to make sure they’ve heard someone’s message correctly. They realize pertinent information can get lost if it’s not fully understood, so they ask for clarification when needed. They also realize they don’t have all the answers on every subject.They recognize when they need the expertise of others, and ask questions for guidance when appropriate.

10. They Invest in Others

Great leaders strive to learn what motivates and inspires others. They invest time and energy into learning what lights people on fire. They know that building up someone’s strengths and fueling their passion promotes innovation. Successful communicators cultivate an environment where others can maximize their natural talents as they work toward achieving their goals.

In Conclusion

Successful people have mastered the art of communication. They value honesty and authenticity in relationships. They lead with intention and clarity and fully understand the importance of excellent communication. By developing your communication skills, your success will soar.

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Featured photo credit: Steve Jurvetson/Planet Explorers debut with Will Marshall’s TED Talk via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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