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10 Ways Successful People Communicate With Others

10 Ways Successful People Communicate With Others

Every great leader is a great communicator. Great leaders are intentional about their communication. They know how they show up matters, every single day. They strive to form connections with others. They influence and inspire others to do their best. Master these ways successful people communicate and watch your leadership skills soar.

1. They Are Skilled at Reading Body Language

Successful communicators know that posture doesn’t always provide good indications about someone’s feelings. Instead, they learn to pick up on subtle cues. They are experts at picking up on micro expressions, which are very brief facial expressions that occur when people conceal their feelings. Excellent communicators have learned to read these very slight facial cues that last only a fraction of a second. They tailor their messages as they go, based on these tiny cues, in order to maximize their influence. Dr. Paul Ekman, a prominent psychologist and researcher, has studied nonverbal behavior and has developed a training program to read micro expressions. Check out www.paulekman.com to learn more.

2. They Are Honest

Great leaders know that information full of half-truths causes mistrust. They are honest with others. When they’re unable to share classified information, they say exactly that. When they are able to relay messages, they give concise and clear messages without a bunch of fluff.

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3. They Don’t Micromanage

Great communicators don’t demand control of the details. They delegate effectively. They instill a sense of confidence in others, empowering them to do their best. They are positive and encouraging. They enable others to expand beyond their comfort zones to achieve their goals.

4. They Don’t Waste Other People’s Time

Excellent communicators don’t hold meetings just for the sake of holding meetings. They understand the value of someone else’s time. They inform others of their clear agendas and specific goals for each meeting they lead.

5. They Hold Themselves Accountable

The best leaders know they’re not perfect. They don’t wait for the general public to discover their blunders before admitting them. They don’t conceal when they’ve wronged others. Great communicators say things like “I’m sorry,” and “It was my fault.”

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6. They Give Credit

Great communicators give credit where it’s due. They know the significance of making others feel valued, important, and appreciated. They take time to thank others privately and publicly.

7. They Speak with Confidence

Successful leaders speak with authority and confidence. They understand the value of appropriate tone and effectively timed pauses. They don’t bury their heads in the sand when tough messages need to be delivered. They deliver information powerfully, tactfully, and poised.

8. They Are Excellent Listeners

Great leaders have mastered their listening skills. They are actively engaged in every conversation. They don’t let their minds wander when someone is talking to them. They focus on understanding what the other person is saying instead of thinking about what they’re going to say next.

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9. They Ask Questions

The best communicators ask questions to make sure they’ve heard someone’s message correctly. They realize pertinent information can get lost if it’s not fully understood, so they ask for clarification when needed. They also realize they don’t have all the answers on every subject.They recognize when they need the expertise of others, and ask questions for guidance when appropriate.

10. They Invest in Others

Great leaders strive to learn what motivates and inspires others. They invest time and energy into learning what lights people on fire. They know that building up someone’s strengths and fueling their passion promotes innovation. Successful communicators cultivate an environment where others can maximize their natural talents as they work toward achieving their goals.

In Conclusion

Successful people have mastered the art of communication. They value honesty and authenticity in relationships. They lead with intention and clarity and fully understand the importance of excellent communication. By developing your communication skills, your success will soar.

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9 Things Successful People Do To Always Get What They Want

9 Things Successful People Do To Always Get What They Want

One of the best decisions I’ve ever made was to take on the job of hosting my own weekly radio show. My radio show is about finding some of the most successful people in the world and bringing them on my show to ask them about what they did to become so successful in life and business.

In this article, I’m going to share with you some of the key takeaways I’ve picked up from talking to – and reading about – thought leaders from various fields about the things successful people do. Here, you can get some insights on how to get what you want.

Ready to dive in? Let’s go.

1. They Know What They Want

The first and most important thing that successful people do to always get what they want is so simple that most people forget about it: they figure out what they actually want.

When you know what you want, you will also know how to get what you want. If you’re unsure about what you want in life and business, I’d suggest picking up some career and self-improvement books to help you gain some clarity and focus.

2. They Are Assertive

Successful people know that they need to be both bold and sincere. Balancing these two characteristics is the essence of assertiveness.

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Oh, and by the way – being assertive is not a natural talent someone is born with. Assertiveness is a learned skill and anyone can do it, including you!

3. They Learn

You may have heard of the old saying, “great leaders are readers”. For the most part, I’d say this is true.

Let me give you an example. On my radio show, I regularly ask successful people about their habits that lead to success. Do you want to know something really neat? Every single one of them reads books.

Successful people read and learn as much as they can about what they want so that they can get what they want. If you’re curious about how to get what you want, then start reading a book. If you’re low on time, subscribe to a book summary site to get the core concepts of the books in your industry quickly.

4. They Make Things Meaningful

One of the most powerful things successful people do to always get what they want is that they make things meaningful. That is, they ensure that whatever endeavor they decide to embark upon is meaningful to them (and not necessarily to anyone else). They know and understand that it’s only worth it if it matters.

5. They Ask

One big thing that successful people always do to get what they want is this: they ask.

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Most people are too shy to ask for what they really want. If you are too shy to ask, you may never know how to get what you want. So, don’t be like most people.

Here’s an exercise you can do to get over it: next time you’re buying something, regardless of what it is, ask for a discount. Just do it. The worst-case scenario is that you’ll get a chuckle from the Barrista at Starbucks. The best-case scenario is that you’ll get comfortable with negotiating when it’s time to buy your next car.

6. They Take Action

Insight without action is useless. Successful people know that to always get what they want, they’ve got to take massive action.

One of the most powerful exercises I’ve ever discovered is this: never leave the sight of a goal without taking some kind of action towards its achievement. In other words, as soon as you decide you want something or as soon as you set a goal of some kind, do something – anything – that shifts you closer towards getting it.

7. They Use Their Time Wisely

Have you ever heard of NET time? It stands for “No Extra Time”.

For example: when you’re driving and sitting in traffic, are you listening to Mylie Cyrus? Or are you listening to an audiobook?

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Successful people take NET time seriously. Get yourself some audiobook so you can start listening to the best business and self-improvement books available – all while you’re on your way to work in the morning.

8. They Choose to Lead

You don’t need to have formal authority to become a leader. You just need to choose yourself. All successful people know this, and so should you. Knowing how to get what you want requires knowing how to lead the way for others and yourself.

Don’t wait for anyone else to do it, because the truth is that most people want to be led anyway. So, just step up and claim authority. Be the leader you wish you always had.

9. They Contribute

Successful people know that to get what they want, they have to be willing to help other people get what they want.

What happens when you stop doing your job? What happens when you stop caring about your schoolwork? What happens when you become emotionally disconnected from a relationship?

You suffer – that’s what happens. Successful people know and understand that in order to succeed, they need to contribute. They need to add value to the lives of others. They need to do their best so that they can become the best.

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So, Now What?

I hope this article has re-ignited the fire that you already had within you to be successful at any endeavor. The reason why I’m stressing the fact that you’ve already got everything you need to succeed and get what you want is that you wouldn’t be reading this if you weren’t already motivated to be successful.

At the end of the day, however, all the insights in the world are worth nothing unless you combine them with action. When it’s all said and done, it’s your decision what you do with this list and how you apply it to your life and career.

But if I may, here’s what I would suggest you consider as you get started doing the things to help you succeed:

Review this list of the 9 things successful people do to always get what they want and then compare it with where you currently are at each one of these 9 things. Rate yourself in each one of the 9 things. Next, pick just ONE of them to work on every week.

For example, if you find that you’d like to learn more about the business side of the company you work for, then go read the best business books to help you do that.

Never stop learning. Always feed your mind with the knowledge you need to become as successful as possible within your area or industry. It doesn’t matter how busy you are. We’re all busy. Make the time to expand your knowledge.

And remember: every key learning should be immediately followed with action.

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