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12 Signs You’ve Found Your Once In A Lifetime Friend

12 Signs You’ve Found Your Once In A Lifetime Friend

Have you found your once in a lifetime friend? Friends and best friends will come and go, but your once in a lifetime friend will be there forever, and they will change your life for the better.

You’re inseparable and you love each other – here are 12 signs with which you can confirm that you’ve found your once in a lifetime friend.

1. You Have No Filter With Each Other

You both know each other’s grossest, most embarrassing stories, so you can be 100% open with each other. You know what they have for tea last night, and they know about the time you wet yourself when you were five.

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2. They Always Have Your Back

Seriously, always. They never upload unflattering pictures of you to Instagram, and they always defend you – even when you’re not there. If you’re having a down day, they will sympathetically listen while you vent, and they are always up for a night out when you’re in a good mood.

3. You Have A Song

Forget couples with their cheesy, romantic songs; you and your BFF have your own awesome upbeat song, and every time it comes on you both get up and dance until you’re sweating.

4. You Have The Exact Same Sense Of Humour

You laugh at the same TV shows and Youtube videos, and sometimes you catch yourself wondering why the two of you don’t have your own comedy show – you know it would definitely be hilarious.

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5. You Don’t Need to Knock On Their Door

You and your lifetime friend have known each other for so long, it would actually be weird if you knocked on their door. You just walk right in and help yourself to some food from the fridge. You even have a spare key – you know, just in case you get to their house before they are home.

6. You Don’t Have To Make An Effort With Each Other

You have seen your best friend hungover in PJs more times than you’ve seen them in an expensive outfit on a night out. You don’t have to make an effort with each other anymore – so neither of you ever do.

7. You Both Miss Each Other If You Don’t Talk For A Few Days

Normally, you talk to your bestie every day, so it feels super weird whenever you don’t talk for a while. If your best friend goes travelling, you can guarantee that they will Skype you more than their family. After all, you NEED to know if they are eating well and making friends. You just want to make sure that they are okay – that’s normal, right?

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8. You Share The Same Enemies

If someone has a problem with your bestie, you have a problem with them. How could anyone dislike your awesome friend?! After all, you know your friend has a great taste in people, so if they don’t like someone they must be pretty terrible.

9. They Are Totally Honest With You

If you’re worried your outfit looks bad, you always go to your once in a lifetime friend, because you know no-one else will be as honest with you. They are more than happy to tell you if you look bad, which you appreciate – honesty is key.

10. You Can Communicate Without Talking

You have known each other for so long that words are no longer necessary – you can have full blown conversations with each other just using facial expressions. This is particularly useful if there is a mutual enemy around.

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11. They Always Have Time To Talk To You – Even At 2AM

This is the one person who you don’t feel bad about calling if you’re having a life crisis, even if it is the early hours of the morning. No matter what, they are always there for you with great advice and a shoulder to lean on.

Another reason you don’t feel bad about calling them at 2AM is because they have done it to you, too – multiple times.

12. You Know You Are Friends Forever

As soppy as it may sound, you know that they will still be your best friend, no matter what happens. You don’t worry about them moving away or getting married – you know you will still be making each other laugh when you both have grandchildren.

Can you think of any other signs that you have found your once in a lifetime friend? Leave your suggestions in the comments below!

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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