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26 Simple Ways To Add Style To Your Home

26 Simple Ways To Add Style To Your Home

Finding the right balance between functionality, coziness and style seems difficult to achieve when decorating our homes. No matter how much money we spend on decent furniture, rooms always seem to be lacking something and look nothing like the perfect spaces we see in magazines.

Sometimes the situation can be solved with a few small tricks that only require a few minutes of your time and don’t involve spending any money. Read through the following tips to find out how you can make your home look more stylish with minimal effort.

1. Treat the front door the same as the indoor

    The first impression you create about your home should not be overlooked, even if you live in an apartment building. Treating the outside of the entrance with the same attention as the inside is a great way to add style to your home.

    Put something from the inside of your house (nothing particularly precious though), hang a seasonal wreath or decorations, or update your house number sign. Plants are always a great idea, as long as they get sufficient light.

    2. Display stuff in threes

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      As in many fields and disciplines, the rule of three is vastly used in decorating and styling. Displaying a trio seems to be more appealing visually and more balanced, especially when sizes, heights and materials bring some variety.

      Start small by testing in a little corner or table and then apply the concept to different areas throughout the house. Just make sure you’re not overdoing it, otherwise the effect won’t be read right.

      3. Layer your carpets and rugs

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        Professionals use this tip a lot to save money on client projects or to “cheat” on shoots. Not only does this method cost less to bring a room together, but it also doesn’t deprive you from getting the pattern you love in case you can’t find the right size. It’s also a great way to test how you feel about a bolder choice and it makes the whole room feel cozier and more stylish.

        Start by layering a small bold rug on top of a bigger neutral carpet or rug.

        4. Stack your books in alternative ways

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          While the usual vertical or slightly tilted stack in bookshelves is common for a classic home, alternative placement speaks for a bolder style.

          Try alternating between vertical and horizontal book piles in shelves. Horizontal stacks will break the pattern of the vertical lines and add more visual interest, making it much more easier to style the shelves with additional objects. Just make sure the rhythm is random and not the same all over, as it defeats the purpose by creating a rigid pattern that’s heavy on the eye.

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          5. Display conversation pieces

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            This tip is a little trickier than it sounds because you don’t want to display your dear objects all over and find out nobody is impressed.

            In order to get people’s attention, conversation pieces should be standing out from the surroundings and immediately draw the eye to them. Don’t forget that you don’t need to cross an ocean to find a piece worth talking about. As long as there’s a dear memory related to them, distant or recent, anything can be a conversation piece (even a random picture or a thrifted piece).

            6. Make liquid soap bottles fancier

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              Next time you have a beautiful bottle of hand wash, save it after you use up the soap and refill with a cheap one. For a quick and easy fix, just soak the plastic bottles you usually buy in warm soapy water until all labels are easy to peel off. A transparent bottle looks less tacky and much fancier than a labeled one, even if it costs very little and is still plastic. Do this in the kitchen sink with dish wash bottles and on all bathroom sinks.

              While you’re at it, add a bottle of random lotion by each sink, to slather on your hands after doing the dishes to keep them soft and feel more stylish yourself.

              7. Keep the dust away

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                Nothing kills style like dust. It might be just yesterday that you cleaned the whole house, but dust finds its way back no matter what.

                Test and see which surfaces are more visible in the usual light at home and be sure to swipe them more often in between general cleaning. You will be able to enjoy your home and stay relaxed and not get alarmed when guests stop by. To remember to do it often, keep an easy cleaning supply (even wet wipes will do) tucked somewhere near the problematic areas.

                8. Display fresh flowers randomly

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                  When you get flowers put them in a vase somewhere in a corner of the room, nothing too central. Bonus points if the flowers are mismatch from street vendors or a garden. The casual look and random placement gives the impression that you do this all the time and for your own pleasure, without trying too hard to impress others.

                  9. Move stuff between different rooms

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                    We’re used to the logic of moving things around in the same room and it doesn’t naturally occur to move things from room to room. Doing so provides a fresh way of rearranging furniture and layouts. Also many things might look better in a new space or might serve a better function. When there’s no time or budget to go shopping, this is the fastest solution to freshen up every room in your house.

                    10. Keep white towels in the bathroom      

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                      This is a personal choice, but the white color in towels gives the idea of freshness and cleanliness (they have to be actually clean though). Additionally, having more than one towel in the bathroom is great, because it adds to the idea of effortless hospitality and curated details.

                      11. Always have books on the coffee table

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                        Books instantly add style and make for great entertainment moments with guests. Make sure to include what you love most and a couple of different genres, so everyone is pleased. You can have only books stacked in low piles or a mix of magazines, photo books and table books. This is a perfect setting to apply the rule of three and mix books with decorative elements and small objects.

                        12. Serve water in a pitcher

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                          Whether you drink water out of the tap, refrigerated or bottled, keeping it in a pitcher allows for easy access for also looks fancier. There’s nothing cooler than taking out a pitcher during meals with family or when guests are around. You can also add slices of cucumber or lemon to the water for a ridiculously quick, but super fancy touch.

                          Add a pitcher to your bedroom nightstands as well, to make hydration easier and give your bedroom extra style points.

                          13. Paint mismatch pieces the same color and finish

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                            If there’s a lot of mismatch pieces of furniture around your home that don’t stay well together because of their different style, finish or color; consider painting or even spray painting a few in the same color and finish to bring some unity to the space. Choose a couple of pieces that are scattered across the room and not too close to each other. There’s no need to go overboard, as even a small dose can help bring unity.

                            14. Keep placemats on the table even when you’re not eating

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                              This might sound counter-intuitive, but it actually gives the illusion of tidiness at home and order in the family (especially if you have kids). Placemats are also a great way to add color and pattern in small doses, if that’s your style. They can be inexpensive store-bought ones in plastic, rubber or paper. You can also make your own by cutting fabric or repurposing old sheets.

                              15. Display a bunch of the same element

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                                Choose one kind of produce you have in bulk at the moment. Fruit works best and the brighter the color the better. But you can also use some kind of vegetable or simple elements found in nature, such as stones or wood pieces.

                                Place a bunch of them in a big vase or bowl and display somewhere visible (like the kitchen countertop or a shelf), but not too central, unless you are using it as a table centerpiece. The aim is to make a big visual impact by having the same element in bulk, so better keep it simple with the shape and material, going for a glass vase or porcelain bowl.

                                16. Light candles in groups

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                                  Gather all the candles you have and arrange them in small groups around the house. The leaving room and entrance are great spots to start.

                                  Lighting candles in groups is much more effective than displaying them individually because they will provide a bigger glow, which is perfect for the evenings and when you have guests over. Also, having a bunch of candles burning gives the impression that you are used to do this randomly and you don’t save them for special occasions.

                                  When buying candles, skip the fancy smells and go for plain white ones, which look classic and chic and perfect for grouping.

                                  17. Add indoor plants

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                                    Plants are a great way to take any place to the next level. Not only they bring freshness and color to the room, but treating them as decorative pieces when choosing their placement helps adding style points to the room.

                                    Play with different scale plants and different leaf design if possible. Put big plants near big pieces of furniture or use them to fill empty corners, while small plants can be mixed within furniture parts or compliment bigger ones (when the rule of three is applied). Just make sure to provide them the right amount of light needed to survive.

                                    18. Remove some accessories

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                                      If you’re usually a fan of the “more is more” look, you have an eclectic style or you’re just looking to define your style, this is a quick tip for you. Take away a few items from what’s on display. Decorative objects, wall art, rugs, pillows can go one by one until you are left with a cleaner state. You can go back and forth replacing items or taking things back until you’re pleased with what you have.

                                      This tactic is not aimed to give you a minimalistic home, but rather take you a step back in order to rediscover the potential your home already has. From there, it’s easier to add “style” in different ways, big or small.

                                      19. Keep throws and blankets over the sofa

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                                        Not only do light blankets and throws make everything look cozier and lived-in, but they provide an effortless way to add texture or color/pattern to a rather flat or neutral room. If you want only one throw, make sure it’s not neatly folded, but thrown a little loosely. If you want two or more, play with the placement until the space looks balanced.

                                        20. Keep baskets in display around the house

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                                          Baskets are great to fill with clutter before guests arrive or carry from room to room to pick up stuff and take objects back to where it belongs. They seem much more expensive and exotic than they really are. Having them around the house in a few visible spots makes them feel part of the decor.

                                          They can be different sizes and shapes, but they should be the same material or have a common color, in order not to make too much noise in a rather busy looking home. On the contrary, they can be totally unique and loud in a neutral space.

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                                          21. Remove all packaging and store products in containers

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                                            Often stylish homes are defined by a few details and this little tip is a big helper. For everything food related you buy and keep on display, you should remove the packaging it came in and place it in a neat looking container. Glass containers are beautiful, but they can sometimes get expensive if you need a lot. Repurpose jam or sauce jars for an inexpensive solution or get plain porcelain ones. The point is not to have a whole matching set, but go for the same material or color in order to create a coherence and clean look in a kitchen or pantry.

                                            22. Hang up stuff on the walls

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                                              Many people avoid dressing the walls because they dread the expensive cost of art and frames. But you don’t need frames and you don’t even need art, because everything can be art as long as it moves you in a way and evokes feelings.

                                              Magazines pages are fast and inexpensive to display using tape, as you can choose images of the same theme or contrasting ones to add dynamics to the wall. Also, you can switch them up as often as you can without feeling guilty.

                                              23. Display your hobbies

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                                                Nothing says “you” like the things you love doing, so don’t shy away from letting your hobby creations or even equipment right there in the open. It will ensure for interesting discussions, probably more quality time if you manage to get someone else into it and a ton of character added to your house without any extra effort. Hang objects on the walls, place randomly on shelves or just leave on the floor.

                                                24. Fill a non-functional fireplace with something unexpected

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                                                  The classic place to play with its function is a fireplace. Put anything other than burning wood inside it and you instantly have style added to the space. Other examples where you can apply the same tip are small corners, architectural elements, windows with partial or no view, old appliances or even parts of big furniture.

                                                  25. Layer, layer and layer some more

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                                                    If you want to go the full magazine styled home, layering is the answer for you. Start small and add more layers as you get comfortable with your home’s dynamics. A good place to start practicing is a sofa or coffee table. Experiment with the rule of three and different materials, textures, colors until it feels right to your eye.

                                                    26. Let your home reflect who you are

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                                                      The most stylish homes I have seen are either styled for a photo shoot; or are real life houses of interesting people, that look somewhat “different” to what we are used to see, but hold a lot of character and style.

                                                      The easiest and foolproof way to make your home more stylish is to add more of who you are and what you like. Make it a beautiful place you are eager to spend time in and love it as much as you can. When you love and “support” your home’s quirks, it’s easy to impress everyone else.

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                                                      Last Updated on October 14, 2020

                                                      How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

                                                      How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

                                                      When you learn how to be confident, you can use it in your everyday life to tackle all of your goals and challenges. However, not many people realize that learning how to gain self-confidence is like building a muscle—it grows in response to the level of performance required of it.

                                                      Here I will give you 51 proven ways to overcome a lack of self-confidence and achieve more.

                                                      1. Learn Something New

                                                      Sign up for that evening class and enjoy it. Alternatively, read a book (or take an online course) on a topic you’ve always wanted to learn more about.

                                                      Learning new things stretches your abilities, keeps your mind active, and most definitely improves your confidence in your ability to do new things.

                                                      2. Ask Your Partner or a Friend What You Can Do For Them

                                                      This can be something as easy as helping them with a chore they don’t like or have little time for. Through helping them, you’ll find that you feel better about yourself.

                                                      3. Hit the Gym

                                                      The physiological effects of going to the gym will leave you feeling great.

                                                      Countless studies have shown that regular workouts at the gym can boost not only your sense of well-being, but can increase your self-esteem, too[1].

                                                      4. Go to a Networking Event

                                                      Rather than being nervous about your own stuff, focus on how to help others. Instead of going along with the aim of trying to sell yourself to others, why not change your approach and simply go along to see how you can help the people you meet?

                                                      By doing this, you’ll come across as calm, confident, and someone that people will want to turn to again and again.

                                                      5. Get Clear on the Things That Matter to You

                                                      If these things are not in your life, you’ll need to bring them in.

                                                      For example, if your daily work routine is currently as dull as dishwater—but you’d like it to be fun—then do something about it. Turn data entry into personal speed contests, paper filing into “screen-free” time, and interactions with your colleagues into enjoyable conversations.

                                                      6. Remove Negativity From Your Life

                                                      Write a list of the things you’re tolerating and putting up with in your life, then write down how you can remove, minimize, or diminish each one.

                                                      I personally like to do this with pen and paper as it feels just a little more real and definite than on screen. It’s also a good idea to put the priority items at the top of your list, so you can begin resolving these first.

                                                      7. Celebrate Your Big and Small Wins

                                                      Look at the big or small goals you’ve completed, and give yourself credit for your part in it.

                                                      Recognizing your achievements is not egotistical, it’s healthy.

                                                      8. Converse With New People

                                                      Go and have a conversation with someone you don’t know. By doing this, you may be pleasantly surprised by what—or who—you’ll discover.

                                                      You can also extend this trait by breaking outside of your normal social situations at your workplace. This will do wonders when learning how to be confident.

                                                      9. Do Something You Would Normally Say No to

                                                      Next time you talk yourself out of doing something (a party invite, a challenging project, etc.), go and do it anyway. This is a great way to boost personal development.

                                                      10. Do One Thing Each Day That Makes You Smile

                                                      This could be something as simple as sending a thank you email to a colleague that has been helpful to you, or leaving a surprise present for your partner that they’ll discover when they wake up.

                                                      Life shouldn’t be drudgery, and we all need to make the effort to keep it light, loving, and fun.

                                                      11. Give Yourself Good Advice

                                                      Look for the patterns of thought that take you to a place where you start second-guessing or overthinking.

                                                      Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same thought process and ended up holding themselves back—what would you want to say to them?

                                                      This is known as Soloman’s Paradox—we’re often quite good at solving others’ problems but not our own. Challenge this and take your own good advice next time[2].

                                                      12. Ask Someone on a Date

                                                      If you’re single and have met someone that you’re definitely attracted to—go ahead and ask them out.

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                                                      Even if they turn you down, it will help you learn how to be confident through the fact that you were decisive and made an effort. What’s the best thing that could happen? They might just say yes!

                                                      13. Write Down 20 Things That Make You Feel Good

                                                      Think of this as a gratitude list. Typical things you might include are: your partner, your kids, your parents, your pets, etc.

                                                      I recommend writing this list at least once a month. And most importantly—make sure you’re giving the 20 things plenty of room in your life.

                                                      14. Stop Playing Different Roles

                                                      Stop playing different roles and squeezing yourself into boxes based on what you think people expect of you.

                                                      Be your authentic self, the one who knows what to do and loves what they do. It’s easy to find this part of yourself as it’s inherent in your hobbies and your close friendships.

                                                      If you can bring this authenticity into your work life, you’ll be surprised at how positively others will react to you.

                                                      15. Cultivate a Positive Mindset

                                                      Learn to catch yourself every time you tell yourself that you can’t have, won’t get, or aren’t good enough to get what you want[3].

                                                      Talk yourself up when learning how to be confident.

                                                        Instead, tell yourself that you can have, will get, and are good enough to get what you want. Mindset is everything. Make sure yours is positive and dynamic.

                                                        16. Take Yourself off Auto-Pilot

                                                        Make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.

                                                        For instance, if you normally work 9 to 5 but find yourself spending hours getting to and from work, why not negotiate with your boss to mix your hours up a bit?

                                                        You might also suggest a day or two working from home. Sell this to your boss by reminding them that the time and stress lost to commuting can be neatly transferred to productive work hours.

                                                        17. Listen Carefully to What You Tell Yourself

                                                        Next time you come up against a risk or a challenge, listen to what you tell yourself, and look for a way to improve your inner dialogue.

                                                        If you normally find that your inner dialogue is negative, then break out of this by asking yourself questions such as:

                                                        • What would make this easier?
                                                        • Is there a different way of doing this?
                                                        • Could research help?

                                                        18. Laugh at Yourself

                                                        Scared of looking silly? It’s no biggie, so don’t let it stop you.

                                                        Whenever we try something new, there’s a fair chance that we’ll make fools of ourselves. But you’d be a bigger fool to let that stop you. Instead, laugh at your baby steps and watch your confidence soar as you begin to master your chosen activity.

                                                        19. Listen to Your Doubts

                                                        Sometimes your doubts are there to let you know what you need to prepare for, so you can use them to your benefit as you move forwards. Other times, they are just doubts.

                                                        The trick is to quickly determine if your doubts have validity. If they do, use them to shape your decisions.

                                                        To illustrate this, imagine that you’ve had an enticing job offer, but you doubt whether you’re capable of doing the job. Spend a little time analyzing your doubts to see whether they reflect reality, or whether they are just negative thoughts that are trying to hold you back.

                                                        20. Recall a Time When You Did a Great Job

                                                        Think of a time when it felt like a whole bank of switches in your head flicked to the on position, and you were firing on all cylinders. What were you doing, and what’s the reason it felt so great? Can you emulate that passion and drive that you had?

                                                        21. Tear up Your Rule Book

                                                        You may not know it, but you’ve almost certainly got a whole bunch of outdated rules that determine what you do and don’t do. These rules limit your thinking and your behavior.

                                                        It’s time to change them. Tear up this subconscious rule book and toss it in the fire. Once you’ve done this, you’ll immediately notice how free you feel to make challenging and exciting decisions.

                                                        22. Ask Yourself What You Have Gained When You Lose

                                                        Do you get annoyed with yourself because you didn’t make the most of something or stepped back from an opportunity?

                                                        Firstly, don’t beat yourself up because that’s just going to make you feel worse. Instead, be brutally honest and ask yourself what you gained from the situation and what you lost out on.

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                                                        Based on this win/lose balance, what’s a different choice you can make next time?

                                                        23. Don’t Let People Put You Down

                                                        If there’s someone in your life who puts you down or makes you feel small, you owe it to yourself to let them know that you expect something different from now on. 

                                                        Trust me, once you’ve told them, they’ll change, and you will, too. Inevitably, you’ll boost both your confidence and happiness by taking control of your life in this way.

                                                        Learn how to get out of toxic relationships in this article.

                                                        24. Reveal a Little Bit of the Real You

                                                        Relationships can be difficult. They can also lose their zest and become stale. If this happens in your relationship, then it’s time to add some magic to the mix.

                                                        Try revealing something interesting about yourself or your past that your partner doesn’t currently know when learning how to be confident. Perhaps you never mentioned to them that you used to play in a rock band—and you still have the recordings to prove it!

                                                        By adding new things to your relationship, you’ll deepen the bond and keep the spark alive.

                                                        25. Be Your Own Hero

                                                        Recognize that you’re more than a match for any situation you might find yourself in—no matter how tough the going gets.

                                                        We all love movies like Die Hard where ordinary people are driven to super-ordinary feats. But here’s the rub: you can be your own action hero.

                                                        Whatever the situation, meet it head on and overcome it. Keep in mind the classic phrase: “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

                                                        26. Don’t Give in to the Instant Pay-off

                                                        If I was to offer you $100 now for a day’s work tomorrow or $110 for the same work, but I won’t pay you for a week, which would you choose? Well, I can’t read your mind, but I do know that studies using a similar question to this have found that most people choose the instant, smaller payment over the latter, bigger payment. It seems that we’re hardwired for instant gratification.

                                                        However, if you want to be a success in life, always look at the bigger picture. In the example above, if you could have only waited seven more days, you would have been $10 richer!

                                                        27. Instead of Yelling “I Deserve Better,” Say “I Can Be Better”

                                                        Too often I hear people complaining about their personal circumstances but refusing to do anything about it. Don’t be like them.

                                                        If things aren’t going your way, find solutions and implement them. Your boldness and decisiveness will boost your confidence and help you rapidly climb the ladder of success.

                                                        28. Admit You’re Wrong

                                                        It may not be easy, but you should always be prepared to hold your hands up and change your mind if things are going south. Not every idea you have will be a winning one. The trick is to know when things are clearly not working out.

                                                        You can either attempt to get them back on track or kill them off completely (sometimes that’s the best way).

                                                        29. Trust Your Instincts

                                                        We all have our gut feelings and intuitions, but many people choose to ignore them and rely only on facts, facts, and more facts! While this may work for many scenarios, there will be other times when you’ll need to rely on your instincts.

                                                        30. Imagine Your Confident Future Self

                                                        Imagine you’re visited by a successful, confident, attractive, and vibrant version of you from the future, a version of you who’s everything you hope to be. What do they want to tell you?

                                                        They might praise your efforts, but they may also criticize your lack of planning and weak goals.

                                                        Luckily, if you listen closely to what they tell you, you’ll be able to rapidly shift gears in your life and become the you of the future!

                                                        31. Ask for Help

                                                        This is a common issue. We take on way too many responsibilities and end up either burning ourselves out or just doing a bad job!

                                                        The secret is to put the vast majority of your energy and efforts into what you do well. Give the stuff you don’t do well to others who have a gift for it. Sometimes the most confident and effective thing to do is ask for help.

                                                        32. Be Around People Who Make You Feel Like You

                                                        Do this by spending more time with the people who support and encourage you and less time with those who undermine you.

                                                        At work, don’t be ruined by negative, petty people. Instead, make sure you surround yourself with colleagues who make you laugh and feel good about yourself.

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                                                        33. Participate in the World Around You

                                                        Ask yourself this question: “What can I participate in that’s important to me?”

                                                        Typically, this could be your church, a sports club, or even just a weekly get together with your best friend.

                                                        34. Develop Skills to Work on Things That Matter to You

                                                        What can you practice that would radically improve your chances of winning?

                                                        If you want to climb the corporate ladder, for example, then develop the skills needed to do this. These might include: effective project management skills, powerful presentation abilities, and superb goal setting skills.

                                                        Of course, don’t forget that emulating those who have already achieved your goal is one of the quickest and most reliable ways for you to achieve your aims, too.

                                                        35. Act Until You Make It

                                                        The body is a mirror for the mind, so shifting your body language into a confident state can have surprising results.

                                                        This is all about acting. If you want to come across as tough, act tough. If you want to come across as successful, act successful. And if you want to come across as confident, act confident.

                                                        Try doing these things, and you’ll be amazed by the results.

                                                        36. Push Through When You Want to Give up

                                                        Don’t get disheartened or demotivated when you get to 90% with something you’re working on. Push through, and you’ll see that the last 10% is where the magic happens.

                                                        37. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

                                                        Keep comparing yourself to others? Stop it. If you want to learn how to be confident, don’t try to validate yourself through comparison—you’re just peachy as you are.

                                                        Social media often makes this difficult. Try stepping away from your Facebook page for a few days and reconnect with the great things in your own life.

                                                        You can get started with this guide.

                                                        38. Speak up When You Can Make a Difference

                                                        Speak up if there’s something you think could be improved or if you have an idea you think has legs.

                                                        Have you noticed that quiet people at work rarely get the promotions? It’s not that they are incapable or lacking talent, but their abilities are usually overlooked as they don’t know how to engage with others or how to sell themselves.

                                                        Step out of your comfort zone and be sure that you’re an active player. Speak up in meetings by suggesting ideas and offering constructive criticism.

                                                        39. Stop Struggling and Start Accepting

                                                        If there’s something you’ve been struggling to understand for a while, stop trying to understand it. Accept it just as it is, fully and wholly.

                                                        Life offers endless mysteries. If you try to resolve them all you’ll drive yourself insane. Instead, let some mysteries remain, and keep your mind focused on your goals and dreams.

                                                        40. It’s Okay to Be Shy

                                                        There’s nothing wrong with being shy, and it doesn’t mean you’re not a confident person.

                                                        If you suffer from shyness, you might think it’s a major weakness of yours. However, introverted people have the edge in many ways, such as: they’re first-rate listeners, they have excellent observational skills, and they’re easier to trust[4].

                                                        41. Clean up Your Environment

                                                        Your environment directly impacts your self-perception. So, if you’re surrounded by clutter, paperwork, and rubbish, put a morning aside to clean up your stuff and get organized.

                                                        42. Write a List of Things You Would Love to Do

                                                        Write yourself a list of the amazing things you’d love to do in your life, and make a start by simply looking into the first one or two things that leap out at you. This will help you get started as you learn how to be confident

                                                        Even if you don’t currently have the means to live your dreams, you can, at the very least, make a start. The best way to do this is to write out the things you’d love to do. These may include cool stuff, such as travelling the world, learning a new language, or climbing a mountain.

                                                        Once you’ve added the items to your list, don’t stop there. Begin researching and preparing ways to turn your dreams into realities.

                                                        43. Make Your Self-Worth Independent From Others’ Validation

                                                        Don’t make your happiness or self-worth dependent on being in a relationship or being validated by someone else.

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                                                        While it’s difficult to admit it, we often find ourselves rating our self-esteem by the value other people put on us.

                                                        For instance, you may have a super-positive boss who is always encouraging and supportive. They make you feel upbeat and confident at all times.

                                                        However, imagine if they left and your new boss was the complete opposite. They constantly look for faults in your work and regularly criticize you. Would you still feel confident in those circumstances?

                                                        If you’ve answered no, then you need to reappraise your self-worth, as it shouldn’t be dependent on the validation of others.

                                                        44. Use Your Strengths

                                                        We all have our weaknesses, but they only undermine your confidence if you let them.

                                                        For instance, are you aware that Virgin’s founder Richard Branson suffers from dyslexia? He never let this hold him back or destroy his confidence. Today, he is one of the world’s most successful men, with a net worth of approximately $5 billion[5].

                                                        45. Complete a To-Do List

                                                        The longer you leave that big thing on your to-do list, the more it’ll drain you, and the bigger it’ll seem. Get it done and free yourself up.

                                                        If you have a big goal, break it down into smaller tasks. For instance, instead of trying to write a whole chapter of your book in one go, how about just writing the opening paragraph?

                                                        46. Treat Your Body Well

                                                        When learning how to be confident, our body image does matter, because if you have a bad relationship with your body, you won’t feel confident in yourself.

                                                        What’s one of the first things most of us do when we get up in the morning? We look in the mirror. If we don’t like what we see there, then our day starts off with negative self-talk. If, on the other hand, we look in the mirror and feel proud of our appearance, then we start the day off in an upbeat, positive way.

                                                        If you’re unhappy with your body and looks, do something to improve them. Exercise, diet, and styling are common ways of improving your body image—and your confidence.

                                                        47. Learn to Say No

                                                        Don’t say yes to taking on a task simply because you don’t want to rock the boat. You can politely decline requests you can’t meet without needing to create excuses.

                                                        While saying yes to everything that comes your way might feel like you’re being helpful and in demand, in the long run, you’ll burn yourself out.

                                                        48. Learn From Confident People

                                                        Look at the people you respect who seem confident. Don’t copy them, but identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and what you can learn from it.

                                                        People-watching is not only fun, but it can be informative, too. Look closely at successful people you know, or those being interviewed on TV, and over time you’ll begin to notice common traits, beliefs, and behaviors that they exhibit.

                                                        49. Follow Through on Your Plans

                                                        Most people find it easy to write plans. The hard part, of course, is seeing them through. To stand out from the crowd, make sure that you know exactly how to complete your plans.

                                                        If you need to, write down a step-by-step guide and begin following it. Not only will this drive you towards the completion of your plans—but experiencing the progress will also give you a continuous boost to your self-esteem.

                                                        50. Shift Your Focus When You Doubt Yourself

                                                        When you feel yourself focusing inwards and becoming paralyzed with doubt or fear, switch to focusing outwards at what you can engage and interact with.

                                                        I remember one of my writing tutors telling me that when the words stop flowing, it’s time to take a break— preferably a walk in the park. It’s sound advice as it’s very easy to get caught up with our thoughts and emotions and be unable to make progress.

                                                        51. Never Beat Yourself up for Failing

                                                        Life is guaranteed to not always be a barrel of laughs. Instead, it’s much more like a roller coaster. There will be ups and downs, so ride them out.

                                                        The art of living is to know how to handle whatever comes you way. The best way to achieve this is by developing an iron core that is unhindered by the topsy-turvy outside world.

                                                        Final Thoughts

                                                        Here I’ve given you 51 different ways to start building self-confidence Take action on the ways that you’re drawn to.

                                                        It’s not enough to read about them. For them to work, you must adopt them into your daily life. Do this, and you’ll start to feel your confidence soar.

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