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16 Signs Your Dad Is Your Best Friend

16 Signs Your Dad Is Your Best Friend

You watch TV, ride your bikes, and eat together. You know all of his cheesy jokes by heart, but they still make you laugh. He always listens to your stories and you have a great time together. You even feel comfy lying down next to him in your pajamas looking like a big mess. A really good male friend? Totally. Except that your best buddy is more than a few years older than you, and you call him… Dad. What are the 16 signs that your Dad is your best friend?

1. He is one of the people you know the longest.

He is always there and he always has been. Friendship can be measured by the amount of time you spend together – and you’ve spent time with him your whole life. Though he had a million other things to do, he was never too busy when you really needed him. The time you’ve had together is already more than enough reason to consider you Dad your best friend.

2.  He has knowledge and experience that none of your friends have.

He is the person whose advice you trust the most. You might have other friends and family, but when you need really important advice you always head to him. He can give you advice about what career path to choose, where to invest your first earned money, and what to wear for a date. You value his viewpoint more than anyone else’s and he’s willing to help you – from the bottom of his heart.

3.  He is the person with whom you shared your first little discoveries about the world.

The two of you have shared so many precious moments together. You still miss your secret places where you spent your free time together. He taught you so many important things about life like how to woodwork, how to climb a tree, and how to not care what other people say about you.

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    4.  He walked on all fours, pretending he was an animal to cheer you up.

    When you were upset, he would do the stupidest things just to cheer you up. Remember when he pretended to be a monster, put on stupid hats, and did whatever he could to make you happy? Because putting a smile on your face warmed his heart, he didn’t stop clowning until your face shone with happiness.

    5. He carried you on his hands when your little feet hurt.

    Who else on earth would do something like that for you?

    6. He always takes your side.

    He took your side against your mom when you did something wrong. He would do anything to make you happy, and he was never able to say ‘no’ to you.

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    Signs Your Dad Is Your Best Friend

      7. He was the first person you had a beer with.

      He knew you would become an adult sooner than he expected, and that you would be keen to experience new things – even the things that aren’t really good for you. He was tolerant and wise enough to be the first to show them to you – and take care of you, if needed.

      8. He prefered to lose sleep so he could pick you from parties in the middle of the night.

      He understood that teenagers do crazy things. He waited up for you text him, so he could pick you up and make sure you made it home safe.

      9. He witnessed all your weird love affections.

      You asked him for sticky tape when you wanted to post a huge cheesy poster of the Backstreet Boys or Justin Bieber on your wall. And he helped you out without saying a word.

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      10. He encouraged you to try crazy things, even when your mother was panicked with fear.

      He understands the adventurous souls of young people. He supported your solo trips, extreme sports, and other risky passions – when your mother would rather have locked you in your room.

      11. He was there for you when you experienced heartbreak for the first time.

      He was discrete when you spent all day shut in your room with a broken heart because your sweetheart rejected you at a school party. He wanted to find and torture anyone who would even think about hurting you.

       Signs Your Dad Is Your Best Friend

        12. He is the first person you call.

        You know he’ll pick your call, no matter what he’s doing – or what time it is. You love to talk with him on the phone and share the news of your day. You call him when you feel lonely, when you’re broke, when you can’t make a decision, or when you need an advice on how to hang a picture on the wall…

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        13. He put high standard for potential partners so it’s difficult to find someone who will be as amazing as him.

        Having an amazing dad is both lucky and an obstacle at the same time. If you grew up with him, he’s probably your model for men or for people in general. How could you even take a person seriously who isn’t as good as him and can’t take care of you as well as he did?

        14. He likes to hang out with your friends.

        He’ll always find some excuse to visit when your friends are over. Hanging out with people your age makes him feels younger and he likes to share his brilliant stories. Your friends think he’s hilarious and like to have beers with him.

        15. He never changes.

        He’s like a rock. You might not see each other for a long time, but when you meet it’s like nothing ever changed. He’s always truly himself around you; he’s more genuine than anyone else.

        16. He’s the only person you can’t imagine ever living without.

        Life changes all the time, and people come and go. When we’re busy growing up, it’s easy to forget that our parents are growing older, too. We’re lucky to have them in our lives for a limited amount of time, so don’t take them for granted! If many of the signs I’ve listed seem familiar to you, you’re a lucky person – your Dad is your best friend. Be sure to thank him for it!

        Featured photo credit: Father and daughter laughing and bonding via shutterstock.com

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        Last Updated on July 10, 2020

        How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

        How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

        We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

        We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

        So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

        Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

        What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

        Boundaries are limits

        —they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

        Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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        Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

        Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

        Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

        How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

        Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

        1. Self-Awareness Comes First

        Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

        You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

        To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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        You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

        • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
        • When do you feel disrespected?
        • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
        • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
        • When do you want to be alone?
        • How much space do you need?

        You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

        2. Clear Communication Is Essential

        Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

        Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

        3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

        Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

        That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

        Sample language:

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        • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
        • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
        • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
        • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
        • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
        • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
        • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

        Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

        4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

        Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

        Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

        Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

        We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

        It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

        It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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        Final Thoughts

        Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

        Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

        Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

        The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

        Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

        Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

        They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

        Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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