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9 Reasons You Can’t Resist Dating A Dreamer

9 Reasons You Can’t Resist Dating A Dreamer

Have you ever stopped to watch someone blow bubbles? These soapy bubbles are colorful and beautiful. Even though you know that all bubbles will burst in the end, you will still stop and follow each bubble to see where it goes.

Dating a dreamer is like watching bubbles float in the air. There’s something irresistible and enigmatic about dreamers that makes you stall for a moment. Why are dreamers so irresistible? Here are 9 reasons why you can’t resist dating a dreamer.

1. You can’t stop looking into their dreamy eyes.

There is something intriguing about a dreamer’s eyes. You can spend a lot of time getting lost in their eyes and still be fascinated by them. Through their beautiful eyes, you feel a deep connection with their souls, yet they still remain somewhat mysterious to you.

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2. You feel special around them.

When you date a dreamer, you finally know what it means to be special. Dreamers treat you like a prince or princess from the fairy tales. You will be loved because dreamers believe in love. Once they have decided that you are the one, they will fight for you despite all obstacles and challenges.

3. You always have surprises.

You never know what’s going on inside a dreamer’s head. They are full of surprises. Dating a dreamer means you will never have a boring date again and will soon forget what boring is. They are hopelessly romantic and they sure know how to surprise you when you least expected it. You won’t know where they will take you for a date or what they will give you next.

4. You have someone who believes in you.

Dreamers believe in the impossible. They see potential in everything, including you. If you have a dream, they will encourage and inspire you to take action. They are positive and optimistic not only towards their own dreams, but also towards yours too.

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5. You are amused by his absent-mindedness.

There is a certain cuteness and charm when dreamers get absent-minded. They might wear unmatched socks or shoes. They might search for an item that they already have with them. They might not be aware of what’s going on in their surroundings. It’s pure joy to look at them dream and live inside their own head.

6. You are dating more than one person.

Dreamers are imaginative. When you date a dreamer, it feels like you are dating more than one person. They can be naughty and fun, romantic and loving, intelligent and confident. They are everything you wish for in a partner. Dating a dreamer means you just bought a ticket to fantasy-land. You don’t get the best of both worlds. You get the best of all worlds.

7. You feel like a kid again.

Have you seen a kid fall down and cry, only to later get up on his feet and start laughing and having fun again? That’s what dating a dreamer is like. You momentarily forget what unhappiness is. Ask dreamers about their dreams, you will see a big kid with wide-opened eyes talking about his or her aspirations. Their positivity and kid-like excitement is infectious, making you feel like a kid again.

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8. You are blessed with endless creative solutions to your problems.

Dreamers may not seem to possess the conventional wisdom that people admire, but they are actually very creative and smart. In fact, with their heads in the clouds all the time, they are able to see solutions that most people normally won’t. They have visions beyond what currently exists. They also always find ways to improve your life and theirs.

9. You are dating someone who is potentially very successful.

For realists out there who think that dreamers are not worth dating because they wouldn’t be financially stable in the long run, you couldn’t be more wrong.

Yes, some dreamers never took off with their dreams. However, some of the most successful people in the world are dreamers. Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, and Thomas Edison are all dreamers.

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Without dreamers, there wouldn’t be any new inventions or progress. Dreamers don’t follow the crowd. Their ideas may not be the most popular at first. However, you won’t know what you have missed if you give up on a dreamer who has ambition.

Featured photo credit: Couple / Mo Riza via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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