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15 Differences Between Ordinary People And Successful People

15 Differences Between Ordinary People And Successful People

It is okay to be ordinary- the vast majority of people are. There are only a handful of billionaires in a world occupied by 7 billion people. What are some of the factors that set these people apart from the pack?

Although you’re not a billionaire, you may find that you possess many aspects of a successful mindset already.

These are some of the differences between the mindsets of ordinary people and the super successful:

1. Ordinary people are stuck with old answers. Successful people ask new questions

Ordinary prefer to live their life the traditional way and repeat the same old processes. For them, it is more secure and comfortable to live this way. But the successful are not satisfied with the status quo. They want to ask new questions and find new answers.

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2. Ordinary people do not set goals. Successful people set realistic goals

Ordinary people often do not see the significance or appeal of setting goals. To them, it really is not that important. But to the successful, goals are compasses that they know will lead them to their desired destination.

3. Ordinary people listen to the opinions of others. Successful people create their own opinions

Ordinary people want to adjust their lives to the standards of others, rather than focus on influencing people with their innovative opinions. Ordinary people think that doing this will make them happy, but successful people are happy with making others adjust to their standards.

4. Ordinary people see failures as the end of the road. Successful people see failures as platforms for growth

No one likes to fail but what differentiates successful people and ordinary people is their attitude towards failure. Ordinary people see it as the end of their plan, because they are not creative enough to reinvent themselves. But successful people see it as a ladder to their next step.

5. Ordinary people do not see the importance of big picture ideas. Successful people cherish these ideas

Ordinary people think hard work is all they need to do to be successful, but successful people know the importance of big picture ideas. They know that these seemingly outlandish ideas could actually generate huge success.

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6. Ordinary people do not value their time. Successful people maximize their time

Ordinary people do not understand how they can make the most of their time and worry about what they are missing out on. Successful people are organised, focused, and do more with the time that they have.

7. Ordinary people see money as evil. Successful people see money as a tool to get what they want

Ordinary people think that those who are successful are either lucky or dishonest, while successful people understand that money will offer them more options in life.

8. Ordinary people make wishes. Successful people act

Ordinary people gamble and hope the government, a spouse, or a boss will change their fortune. But successful people do not wait for things to happen, they make it happen.

9. Ordinary people live for money. Successful people live for their passion

Ordinary people work because of money, but successful people work because of the passion that drives them.

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10. Ordinary people have ordinary expectations. Successful people dream big

Ordinary people have low or average expectations of their lives. On the other hand, successful people believe nothing is impossible and they dream big.

11. Ordinary people live above their means. Rich people live below their means

Ordinary people want everything to be good all at once and struggle with delayed gratification. But successful people know why they have to wait, and they save and invest to make more money.

12.Ordinary people play it safe. Successful people can take risks

Ordinary people understand that by being safe you can protect your wealth, but successful people know that wealth can be attained by taking certain thoughtful risks.

13. Ordinary people believe you cannot have it all. Successful people believe you can have it all

Ordinary people are always playing the victim and claiming you cannot have good things across all the domains of your life. But successful people know you can have wealth, a great family, great health, and a great career.

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14. Ordinary people believe in formal education. Successful people know that education is unending

Ordinary people think the best and only education is in a four-walled institution, but successful people understand that education is unending and you have to keep on learning every day.

15. Ordinary people have a poor attitude. Successful people have a rich attitude

Ordinary people often blame others when their perseverance and determination fall short. But successful people are always working on having a positive attitude, developing their character, and acting in a manner that aligns with their values.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Do you like making mistakes?

I certainly don’t.

Making mistakes is inevitable. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could be at ease with them?

Perhaps there is a way to think of them differently and see their benefits.

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Why Mistakes Feel Dangerous

Mistakes often feel dangerous. Throughout human history, our errors have often been treated as dangerous for a variety of reasons:

  • Our vulnerability. We have limited and fragile support systems. When those systems fail, people often lose their lives.
  • Real dangers. Nature can be dangerous, and making mistakes can put us at the mercy of nature and its animal residents seeking a meal.
  • Ignorance. Many cultures scapegoats someone whenever there is a failure of some kind. Scapegoating can be serious and deadly.
  • Order. Many societies punish those who do not conform to the prevailing orthodoxy and treat difference and non-conformity as a mistake. Even our brains flash an error message whenever we go against prevailing social norms.

We have a history of handling mistakes and failure in an unpleasant way. Since each of us carries our human history with us, it can be a challenge to overcome the fear of making mistakes.

If we can embrace the reality of mistakes, we can free ourselves to be more creative in our lives and dig up some interesting insights.

Why We Can’t Avoid Making Mistakes

Many people operate under the notion that making mistakes is an aberration, a mistake if you will. You can call it perfectionism but it is a more substantial problem. It is really a demand for order and continuity.

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When we think we can eliminate mistakes, we are often working from a perspective that sees the world as a fixed place. The world, however, is not so obliging. Like it or not, the world, and everything in it, is constantly changing.

Change is more constant and pervasive than we can see with our own eyes which is why we often miss it. Our bodies are constantly changing. The natural conditions of the earth change constantly as well. Everything, including economic and cultural systems have life cycles. Everything is in a constant state of flux.

We cannot see all of the changes going on around us since rates of change vary. Unfortunately, when we try to create a feeling of certainty and solidity in our lives or operate from the illusion of stability and order, we are fighting reality and our natural evolution which is built on adapting to change.

It is better to continually bend into this reality rather than fight every change we experience. Fighting it can cause us to make more mistakes. Finding the benefits in change can be useful and help us minimize unnecessary mistakes.

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Lessons Learned from Making Mistakes

Life has so many uncertainties and variables that mistakes are inevitable. Fortunately, there are many things you can learn from making mistakes.

Here is a list of ways to harness the mistakes you make for your benefit.

  1. Point us to something we did not know.
  2. Reveal a nuance we missed.
  3. Deepen our knowledge.
  4. Tell us something about our skill levels.
  5. Help us see what matters and what does not.
  6. Inform us more about our values.
  7. Teach us more about others.
  8. Let us recognize changing circumstances.
  9. Show us when someone else has changed.
  10. Keep us connected to what works and what doesn’t work.
  11. Remind us of our humanity.
  12. Spur us to want to better work which helps us all.
  13. Promote compassion for ourselves and others.
  14. Teach us to value forgiveness.
  15. Help us to pace ourselves better.
  16. Invite us to better choices.
  17. Can teach us how to experiment.
  18. Can reveal a new insight.
  19. Can suggest new options we had not considered.
  20. Can serve as a warning.
  21. Show us hidden fault lines in our lives which can lead us to more productive arrangements.
  22. Point out structural problems in our lives.
  23. Prompt us to learn more about ourselves.
  24. Remind us how we are like others.
  25. Make us more humble.
  26. Help us rectify injustices in our lives.
  27. Show us where to create more balance in our lives.
  28. Tell us when the time to move on has occurred.
  29. Reveal where our passion is and where it is not.
  30. Expose our true feelings.
  31. Bring out problems in a relationship.
  32. Can be a red flag for our misjudgments.
  33. Point us in a more creative direction.
  34. Show us when we are not listening.
  35. Wake us up to our authentic selves.
  36. Can create distance with someone else.
  37. Slow us down when we need to.
  38. Can hasten change.
  39. Reveal our blind spots.
  40. Are the invisible made visible.

Reframe Reality to Handle Mistakes More Easily

The secret to handling mistakes is to:

  • Expect them as part of the process of growth and development.
  • Have an experimental mindset.
  • Think in evolutional rather than fixed terms.

When we accept change as the natural structure of the world, our vulnerability and humanness lets us work with the ebb and flow of life.

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When we recognize the inevitability of mistakes as part of the ongoing experiment which life is, then we can relax more. In doing so we may make fewer of them.

It also helps to keep in mind that trial and error is an organic natural way of living. It is how we have evolved over time. It is better to be with our natural evolution than to fight it and make life harder.

When we adopt an evolutional mindset and see ourselves as part of the ongoing human experiment, we can appreciate that all that has been built up over time which includes the many mistakes our ancestors have made over thousands of years. Each one of us today is a part of that human tradition of learning and experimenting,

Mistakes are part of the trial and error, experimental nature of life. The more you adopt the experimental, evolutional frame, the easier it becomes to handle mistakes.

Handling mistakes well can help you relax and enjoy all aspects of life more.

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