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7 Ways To Truly Master Your Own Mind

7 Ways To Truly Master Your Own Mind

Mastering our thoughts can be one of the hardest, yet most rewarding tools towards experiencing truly fulfilling lives. If you’re reading this, you probably already know that it’s possible to be the master of your own mind, but how often do you implement your phenomenal power do to so?

The quality of our thoughts determines the quality of our lives. That’s how important it is to encourage a disciplined mindset towards monitoring our thoughts and making sure we’re planting roses in our gardens of life, rather than toxins.

Here are 7 practical, easy to implement ways to stay on the exhilarating path to becoming the master of your own mind.

1. Become Best Friends With Your Emotional Guidance System

Your emotional guidance system is your biggest cheerleader on your path to being in control of your own mind. Not only do your emotions tell you when you’re on frequency with your highest and greatest good, they also tell you when you’ve strayed far away.

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The trick is to become consistently mindful of your emotions, before your thoughts have a chance to run with pre-conditioned ideas or negativity. Emotions can range from a general feeling of anxiety or nervousness, to outright anger; regardless, simply experiencing the emotion means it’s time to stop and evaluate your thoughts, before they gain momentum. This way, you can acknowledge and release emotions, rather than enhance them (unless they’re good ones), with unnecessary, thought-based worry and fear.

2. Listen To Your Body

Your body is a finely honed instrument, just waiting to advise you that your thoughts are taking you on a merry ride down into a bad mood. Of course, when you allow this, due to the attention you’re giving to negative thoughts, your external situation will begin to reflect those thoughts.

The first point of call is in your own body, in the form of a tug in your stomach, sweat on your forehead, a frown, a sudden headache, aching limbs or the beginning of an illness. If you’ve ignored your emotional guidance system, your body will give you another chance to reevaluate your thoughts and change your path. All you need to do is become mindful of it.

3. Find Your Own Stop Sign

You might choose to visualize an actual red sign with STOP written on it, or, to say it out loud. Whatever form your stop sign naturally takes, have it at the ready at all times to bring you back from your thoughts and into the present moment.

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This takes practice and time, however, once you’ve mastered it, your trusty stop sign will be instantly at the ready, as soon as your emotions and body give you the indication that your thoughts aren’t working in your best interest.

4. Think Of Words As Nutrition

We know that feeding our body nutritious food is important for our health, however words and images we allow to enter our minds are of equal, if not more, importance. The easiest way to monitor this is to stop watching things that irritate you on television. Eliminate any negativity from your Facebook feed. Reevaluate relationships in your life that often result in a lowering of your mood.

Whatever you consume, through images, words or actions, has the same effect on your thoughts, as food and drinks have on your body. So, next time you’re tempted to delve into a gossip session that could be hurtful to someone else, for example, understand that it’s the same as drinking three bottles of wine; you can’t escape the hangover.

5. Use Affirmations

Affirmations are the perfect way to remind yourself, on an hourly basis, to be the master of your own mind. Pin quotes, positive sayings and goals all over your house or office to give yourself the best chance at keeping track of your thoughts.

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Sometimes, all you need is a little reminder to stop the negative spiral of unnecessary thoughts in their tracks, before you start seeing the results of those thoughts in your experience.

6. Don’t Forget To Take Out The Trash

The outcome of consistently monitoring and switching your thoughts, is that you become increasingly aware of the rubbish hiding away, ready to leap out at you in a moment of unawareness. The beauty of this, is that you can confront long-held thoughts and beliefs to let them dissolve into nothingness, leaving you free to expand into originality.

This doesn’t mean over-analyzing or going back into past issues. It simply means acknowledging thoughts that no longer serve you, in order to change them to ones that do. Daily meditation is the single most effective method of silencing your mind and allowing the clearing process to take place.

You’ll know when you’ve been successful, because you’ll feel light, clear and a tiny new bud of bliss will have received enough light to break through towards expanding the overall awareness of your mind.

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7. Read Books From The Masters To Be A Master

There is an abundance of books out there to help you become aware of your thoughts, in order to change them. Here are two quotes to inspire you:

“Thinking is only a small aspect of consciousness. Thought cannot exist without consciousness, but consciousness does not need thought” ― Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment.

“Relax, let go, allow, and recognize that some of your desires are about how you think your world should be, rather than how it is in that moment. Become an astute observer…judge less and listen more. Take time to open your mind to the fascinating mystery and uncertainty that we all experience.” – Wayne W. Dyer, Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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