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10 Things Only People Who Don’t Care About What Others Say Would Understand

10 Things Only People Who Don’t Care About What Others Say Would Understand

People think that those who do not listen to their criticism or opinions are dumb, ignorant or callous. But most times it goes beyond just simply being selfish. It means that you want to assert your authority and responsibility for what choices you need to take. This makes you bolder and defiant to reaching goals and attaining success. Thus such people can understand certain things.

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss

1. You know what choices matter

Not all things that are said to you have to count. You can be very selective and determine what choices you are supposed to take. You do not need anyone’s validation except yourself. Thus you can make progress and be kind to yourself on the decisions you have to take.

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2. You are not liked by everybody

Because you are selective and do not have to follow everyone’s advice you are scorned by certain persons. You understand this and you are comfortable with the idea.

3. You are happy

Only you can understand the excitement you feel from taking your chances and doing what pleases. It is not as if you are stubborn or obstinate, it is just that you know that what applies to other people may not apply to you. Thus you feel unique, special and different. And with this come some self-esteem and an accomplishment that you are one with your inner self.

4. You understand that not everything is under your control

No matter how thoughtful you are and how much you try to make others reason along a smarter line, you just can’t force or bend them to understand your ideals. You understand your limitations that every other person will always have their own perspective of things and there is nothing you can do about that.

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5. You have positive energy

You can store your energy and channel it to more appropriate or worthy pursuits rather than concerning yourself with what others are thinking. You do know that spending time to think or talk about X and Y opinions on a subject will only be futile.

6. You can define your own courage

It takes courage and a strong will to stand in defiance to what others say or think about you. You know what courage means and how disciplined you have become in saying no to things that may not just be best for you.

7. You determine your fate

You become a master of your destiny and do not consume yourself in a life of regrets. You are not asking yourself, “what if I have done this?” Avoiding the doubts, naysayers and what ifs make you live a life of purpose and offers you a rounder knowledge about yourself.

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8. You fool around a little but you still prove a point

Not listening to others’ opinion doesn’t make you perfect. Yes you will make mistakes and fool around in trying to do what pleases you, but at the end of the day you can prove a point to yourself and to every other person who has thought otherwise.

9. You understand how to be expressive

People who do not care about what others say are bold and clear. You understand how to express yourself. Because at the end of the day your decisions could make or mar you, you can be clear about what you want. You are expressive and you either speak out or show your authenticity.

10. You know what it means to be complete

When you are not needy, it doesn’t mean you cannot ask for help when you need it, rather it means that you do not suffer a hole within you to hide something. Rather, you show fullness and completeness that you have it all figured out.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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