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10 Things Only People Who Don’t Care About What Others Say Would Understand

10 Things Only People Who Don’t Care About What Others Say Would Understand

People think that those who do not listen to their criticism or opinions are dumb, ignorant or callous. But most times it goes beyond just simply being selfish. It means that you want to assert your authority and responsibility for what choices you need to take. This makes you bolder and defiant to reaching goals and attaining success. Thus such people can understand certain things.

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss

1. You know what choices matter

Not all things that are said to you have to count. You can be very selective and determine what choices you are supposed to take. You do not need anyone’s validation except yourself. Thus you can make progress and be kind to yourself on the decisions you have to take.

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2. You are not liked by everybody

Because you are selective and do not have to follow everyone’s advice you are scorned by certain persons. You understand this and you are comfortable with the idea.

3. You are happy

Only you can understand the excitement you feel from taking your chances and doing what pleases. It is not as if you are stubborn or obstinate, it is just that you know that what applies to other people may not apply to you. Thus you feel unique, special and different. And with this come some self-esteem and an accomplishment that you are one with your inner self.

4. You understand that not everything is under your control

No matter how thoughtful you are and how much you try to make others reason along a smarter line, you just can’t force or bend them to understand your ideals. You understand your limitations that every other person will always have their own perspective of things and there is nothing you can do about that.

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5. You have positive energy

You can store your energy and channel it to more appropriate or worthy pursuits rather than concerning yourself with what others are thinking. You do know that spending time to think or talk about X and Y opinions on a subject will only be futile.

6. You can define your own courage

It takes courage and a strong will to stand in defiance to what others say or think about you. You know what courage means and how disciplined you have become in saying no to things that may not just be best for you.

7. You determine your fate

You become a master of your destiny and do not consume yourself in a life of regrets. You are not asking yourself, “what if I have done this?” Avoiding the doubts, naysayers and what ifs make you live a life of purpose and offers you a rounder knowledge about yourself.

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8. You fool around a little but you still prove a point

Not listening to others’ opinion doesn’t make you perfect. Yes you will make mistakes and fool around in trying to do what pleases you, but at the end of the day you can prove a point to yourself and to every other person who has thought otherwise.

9. You understand how to be expressive

People who do not care about what others say are bold and clear. You understand how to express yourself. Because at the end of the day your decisions could make or mar you, you can be clear about what you want. You are expressive and you either speak out or show your authenticity.

10. You know what it means to be complete

When you are not needy, it doesn’t mean you cannot ask for help when you need it, rather it means that you do not suffer a hole within you to hide something. Rather, you show fullness and completeness that you have it all figured out.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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