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10 Things Only Mothers Of All Boys Understand

10 Things Only Mothers Of All Boys Understand
You must have heard a dazzling mixture of supportive, commiserative, even pathetic comments when you announced that you were about to be blessed with a another boy. Preoccupied with anticipated challenges, you may have approached the early years of mothering your sons with little room for joy!
But, as time passes, things start to loosen a bit for most mothers of all boys. After all, it looks like a lot of what you have heard was just hot air. Here is a list of 10 things that only you and your fellow ‘blue tagline’ mothers can relate to:

1. You own the exclusive rights of being “the only woman in the house”

There are no power struggles over makeup or accessories, no problems in sorting laundry and no other female dealing with “her time of the month.” That must feel so good!

2. You have lots of “boyfriends”

If fathers of girls have their own father-daughter time, you have got your mother-son dates. It’s true that female friends may be more compassionate or understanding, but a ‘masculine’ touch of friendship has its own magic, especially when you need a reality check. In addition, having multiple men in the house means that there will always be a big boy around to save the day, like when you need the spider on the wall killed or the jar just that you just can’t seem to open.

3. You cook a lot

For some reason, men eat more and it doesn’t necessarily reflect on their shapes. Nevertheless, as probably the main cook in the house, that fact doesn’t make a difference to you! And what a wonderful time you would have when your sons decide to invite their friends over for dinner or to watch the Super Bowl at home. That’s the time for blessings to multiply.

4. You enjoy shopping for newborn girls

I have met quite a few mothers of all boys, and despite their vast differences, they share one thing in common: they all love shopping for little girls. Is it the pink color that they miss, or is it the irresistible attractiveness of those little ruffly dresses? No matter what the reason is, your I-am-expecting-a-girl friends have one more reason love you!

5. You don’t have much drama in the house

Boys usually speak their mind, and tend to have higher self-regard. It’s true that they still fight, but they come to resolution faster and hold no hard feelings afterwards. And, most importantly, they usually don’t involve you in the aftermath, which offloads your time a lot!

6. You need less time to get everyone ready to go out

No pony tails, tights, hair clips, matching shoes or scarves. Boys still love to dress up and look good, but it takes them less time to get ready. Even when they get older, most of them don’t grow long hair and won’t need to spend hours on its drying and styling. An ad hoc outing? No problem: quick shower, jeans, T-shirt, throw some sneakers on and you’re in the car!

7. You get creative to bond with your kids

It may get a bit challenging for you to bond with the boys, especially when they grow older. Instead of making beaded bracelets or decorating cupcakes together, you may have to get out of your comfort zone and get a bit tough in search of a common activity with boys. Do Thomas the Train and hockey games ring a bell?

8. You know that boys are not all the same

It’s true that you have not experienced how different genders of children mingle together, but you know that there are differences in personalities even within the same gender. Erica Hill, a mother of all boys, shared her experience on this matter in an article that appeared on Today Parents: “I do believe that having four boys helped me to look at them as individuals, rather than chalking up their behavior to their sex.”

9. Your definition of ‘fun’ is probably expanded

Do your boys have a contest on who can burp the loudest or create the biggest mess? You are not alone. A boy’s definition of fun spans a wide spectrum: wearing ugly masks, carrying around swords and putting in fake teeth. They may often dig in the mud, kick a soccer ball around and get dirty. Fun can even take a disturbing turn: killing ants and pulling the tail of your neighbour’s cat.

10. And last but not the least: you have tremendous power to end domestic violence and enhance gender equality

You can teach your boys how to treat women respectfully, and you can model it to them. It’s a tremendous opportunity that you have to make an impact. Alexandra, another mother of all boys, mentioned in a blog post that appeared on Scary Mommy: “It sounds ridiculous to have to teach this, but it’s what we as mothers need to do. I turn off commercials that show women as less than capable or inferior or needy, because actions speak louder than words. I comment on magazine covers or ads that show women feeble and manipulative.”

Featured photo credit: What a life / Ryan McGuire via imcreator.com

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Published on November 7, 2018

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

In 2016, it was estimated that 1.7 million children were being homeschooled in the U.S, roughly 3.3% of all school-aged children.[1] Although this may not sound like a big portion of the population, the growth rate of homeschooling has been 7 to15% per year for the last two decades.

The burgeoning numbers are not a coincidence. There are tremendous benefits to homeschooling, including one-on-one teaching, adaptability to individual needs and learning styles, a safe learning environment, encouraging learning for knowledge rather than grades, and tailoring a curriculum to the child’s interests.

Is homeschooling something that you have been considering for your family? With all of the tools and resources available for homeschoolers in the 21st century, it may be easier than you think.

How to Homeschool (Getting Started)

After thinking it through, you’ve decided that homeschooling is the right step for you and your family. Now what? Here are the first things you should do to get your homeschooling journey started on the right track.

Figure Out the Laws

Homeschooling is regulated by the state, not the federal government. The first step is to find the current and accurate legal requirements mandated by your state in order to educate your child legally.[2]

The regulations can vary widely, from strict guidelines to no guidelines at all. However, don’t be overwhelmed by the legal jargon. There are many resources and local communities for homeschooling families that can help you figure out the logistics.

Decide on an Approach

Every child’s needs are different. This is your chance to choose the homeschooling style or combination of styles that best fits your child’s learning style and interests. A brief description of seven different homeschooling methods are listed below.

Supplies/Resources

Often times, purchasing a homeschooling curriculum is done too early in the planning process, resulting in buyer’s remorse.

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A curriculum is not always needed for homeschooling, and other types of free or less structured resources are readily available.

Find a Community

Getting connected with a community of homeschoolers is one of the most important parts of building a successful and thriving homeschool environment for your kids.

Look for communities online for virtual support or a local group that you and your kids can interact with. Partnering with others fosters better socialization skills for the students and provides opportunities for field trips, classes, and outings that wouldn’t have otherwise been a part of the homeschooling experience.

7 Different Homeschooling Methods

1. School-At-Home

Also known as Traditional homeschool, School-At-Home uses essentially the same curriculum as the local private or public school but at home.

The lessons can be completed independently, but more commonly, they are administered by a parent or a teacher-facilitated online school.

  • Benefits: formal standards, wide selection of curricula, same pace as peers, short-term friendly
  • Drawbacks: expensive, inflexible, time consuming, parent can get easily burnt out
  • Resources: K12, Time4Learning, Abeka

2. Classical

One of the most popular homeschooling methods used, it borrows educational practices from Ancient Greece and Rome. Subject areas are studied chronologically so that students can understand the consequence of ideas over time.

Socratic dialogue fosters effective discussions and debate to achieve beyond mere comprehension. There is often a strong emphasis on Great Books[3] as well as Greek and Latin.

3. Unit Studies

Rather than breaking up education into subjects, unit studies approach each topic as a whole, studying it from the perspective of each subject area.

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For example, a unit study about animals could include reading books about animals, learning about the classification of animals, figuring out which animals live on which continents, etc. This method is often used as a technique in other more comprehensive educational methodologies.

  • Benefits: promotes thinking about concepts as a whole, not monotonous or redundant, student-directed, bolsters weaker subject areas, beneficial for teaching multi-age students
  • Drawbacks: incomplete, knowledge gaps, curriculum-dependent
  • Resources: Unit Study, Unit Studies, Unit Studies Made Easy, Konos

4. Charlotte Mason

This Christian homeschooling style utilizes shorts periods of study (15-20 minute max for elementary, 45 minute max for high school), along with nature walks and history portfolios.

Students are encouraged to practice observation, memorization, and narration often. With a focus on “living books” (stories with heroes, life lessons, socio-ethical implications), reading plays a big role in this student-paced teaching style.

5. Montessori

Maria Montessori developed this method through working with special needs children in the early 20th century.

With a primary focus on the student setting the pace and indirect instruction from the teacher, this approach includes free movement, large unstructured time blocks (up to 3 hours), multi-grade classes, and individualized learning plans based on interests.

6. Unschooling

Unschooling is a learning model largely based on the work of John Holt.[4] The teaching style focuses mainly on the students’ interests, putting priority on experiential, activity-based, and learn as you go approaches.

For basic skills such as reading, writing, and math, a systematic technique is employed, but testing and evaluations are typically not utilized. Teachers, in general, play more of a facilitator role.

7. Eclectic/Relaxed

As the most popular method of homeschool, eclectic homeschooling is child-directed, resourceful, and non-curriculum based.

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Parents can sample any combination of homeschooling methods and styles or resources. One growing sector of eclectic homeschooling combines part homeschooling with part traditional schooling.

How to Facilitate Homeschooling with Technology

One of the reasons homeschooling is more feasible than ever before is due to the accessibility of tools and resources to enhance the learning process.

Email

Email is a tool that has really stood the test of time. Invented in 1972, it is still used today as a primary means of communicating on the Internet.

It is a great way to share assignments, links, and videos between parent and student.

Google Drive/Calendar

Google Drive offers a multitude of essential programs that can come in handy for homeschoolers, such as Docs, Sheets, Slides, and more.

With its sharing capabilities, easy accessibility, and auto-save ability, it’s easier than ever to organize and complete assignments. It will improve students’ writing and typing skills, as well as eliminate the need for paper.

Google Calendar is an excellent tool for tracking assignment due dates, planning field trips and activities, and developing time management skills.

Ebooks

Rather than invest in physical copies of books, ebooks are a wonderful option for saving money and space. There are plenty of places that offer a free or paid subscription to a wide selection of ebooks:

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E-Courses

When a structured curriculum is necessary for teaching a certain topic, an e-course is the way to go.

From watercolors to calculus, there are e-courses available about almost everything. Including different teaching styles that vary from the parents will encourage students to learn in different ways.

The visual and auditory stimulation will also be beneficial in helping students understand and retain the concepts being taught.

Some recommendations:

Youtube

Youtube is not just a platform for music videos and cats doing funny things. There are a number of Youtube channels that produce quality educational videos, free of charge.

Creating a playlist of videos for various topics is a great way to supplement a homeschool education.

Some recommendations:

Final Thoughts

Homeschooling in the current age looks much different than it did ten years ago. There are more options and more flexibility when it comes to educating kids at home.

Don’t be overwhelmed by the idea of homeschooling your children if it could make a positive impact on your family.

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