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10 Amazing Resilience-Building Hacks

10 Amazing Resilience-Building Hacks

Adversity, tragedy, loss, rejection, trauma, stress … living a life free of negatives such as these is entirely impossible. Yet, despite it all, we hear sayings such as ‘life goes on.’ While it may be true that life, itself does indeed go on, most people may not find going through life all that easy. Psychologists have coined the word RESILIENCE to describe the characteristic that creates the fiber, we, as humans have to be able to deal with the curve balls life throws our way and come through to the other side. Resilience-building is growing the elasticity that keeps us bouncing back in the face of adversity and negativity. We can find resilience in disadvantaged young children who survive abusive or neglectful upbringings and still manage to become productive, contributing members of society. We can find it in people who deal with chronic illness or experience severe setbacks. And we see it with elderly people who choose to push beyond the physical components of aging, and work tirelessly to share their life’s knowledge and experience with others and to contribute to society selflessly.

Now that we’ve clearly identified resilience, it is something that many of us would like to develop more of in our lives. Below are ten tried and true ways to do just that.

1. Self Care 101

Nothing can stand strong on a weak foundation. In order to even consider building resilience, we need to first learn and maintain a sound routine of self-care. Exercise and proper nutrition for our physical self-care, find and do things you enjoy for your emotional well-being, and learn to relax, refresh and reinvigorate regularly.

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2. Connect – connect – connect

Build your supports and you build your resilience. We all are faced with times in our lives when being able to bounce things off people who have our best interest at heart and truly want to see us succeed is a sure way to keep us handling the rough spots in our lives and help us get through to the other side.

3. Face adversity squarely

Disappointments, setbacks and other types of adversity are unavoidable. Learning to face it squarely and readjust our outlook toward a brighter tomorrow, helps us break through, stand tall and maybe even look forward to tomorrow being a better day.

4. Live the Serenity Prayer

We can’t move past something we don’t accept. By learning how to determine what we have the ability to change and what is out of our control, we can keep our focus on the things we can positively impact and off spinning our wheels and increasing frustration.

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5. Think Small

We build resilience through developing small successes in our every day lives. Just one tiny step in the right direction routinely, builds momentum. It may not seem like much, but even Mount Everest can only be scaled one step at a time. Small, achievable goals build life times of success and keep us moving forward, even when we hit a bump in the road.

6. Reality Show

Some of the most recent data on stress indicates that what makes it so unhealthy to people is our attempted avoidance of it. When things are not going well, resilient people face it squarely and determine their next move quickly and efficiently, rather than stress and fret over how badly things are going. By getting past it quicker, they have more energy left to actually correct the problem and build resilience.

7. Think Happy Thoughts

Focusing on the things we want helps us achieve them and also distracts us from focusing on things that don’t go the way we want. There is loads of documented proof that positive affirmations and visualization builds success and resilience. If we haven’t yet achieved our goals, by picturing them and focusing our energies on them, we bring them to us that much sooner.

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8. Perspective Means A Lot

By keeping things in their proper perspective, we avoid turning setbacks into insurmountable catastrophes . Keeping a ‘this too shall pass’ perspective in times of trouble, can be just the spoonful of sugar Mary Poppins was talking about that we need to get our medicine down, keep us going and help us to bounce back.

9. Self-Conviction and Confidence

There are very few things that build resilience as well as self-confidence and conviction of purpose. We hit on the perfect combination when we are able to believe in what we are seeking to accomplish and our own ability to get the job done. These two factors work together almost magically, helping to make us pretty much unstoppable. By combining these two factors, we can develop a surplus of resilience that can last for days.

10. Look at the Flip Side

Just like the old 45 RPM records, all life’s adversities have a flip side. For every weakening blow we are dealt, we also are shown a strength we didn’t realize we possessed. Learn to look for the strength that life’s adversities leave in their wake. Was that struggle one that helped strengthen or renew a relationship? Did that hardship help heighten your level of spirituality or appreciation for life? Find the positives that exist in the flipside of the hurdle and you’ll grow your levels of resilience beyond your wildest dreams.

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Resilience is not something we get and use up. Resilience is our emotional elasticity that we need in order to handle whatever life throws at us. And working to build it up is a life-long project. Start building your resilience today for more success, a stronger you, and someone who can keep standing even in the face of adversity.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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