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How A Healthy Dose Of Narcissism Could Help You Succeed

How A Healthy Dose Of Narcissism Could Help You Succeed

Narcissism is often viewed as a negative attribute, at best it’s a common characteristic shared by the bad guys in movies an television. Jennifer Foster of Wall Street Insanity leads a discussion on the positive impacts narcissism can have on your success:

Narcissism. People use the word all the time… usually in a negative way… without really understanding the meaning of it. This term, generally speaking, is used to describe a person that is self-seeking, self-absorbed, and who largely puts their own well-being as top priority in life. The term has its origin in a Greek mythological story of a man, named Narcissus, who falls in love with himself after looking at his reflection in a pool of water.

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But what does all this have to do with being an entrepreneur and a leader of innovation? Believe it or not, being a narcissist leads to success in business and isn’t as bad of a thing as everyone tries to make it out to be. Why? Largely because starting a business, running a corporation, and working for yourself takes dedication, guts, determination, and truly being in love with your own ideas enough to pursue them heavily. In order to go from an average Joe, who has big plans, to a successful entrepreneur who moves and shakes the world, there has to be some amount of self-service.

Anyone who has ever stepped out of the ordinary and took a flying leap into the extraordinary unknown had to have a reason for doing so. Let’s be honest… no one wakes up on a Tuesday morning, decides to instantaneously throw caution to the wind, and becomes an entrepreneur. No one invests every penny they have, works 80 plus hours a week, and mortgages everything they own just for the hell of it. No, people who do these kinds of things almost always have spent some time, like Narcissus, staring into the pool of life and falling in love with their reflection. They have calculated their own worth and found it to be more valuable than everyone gives them credit for. They have kicked their own ass into gear, become their own cheering squad, and made the decision to show the world what they already know to be true… that they are great.

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But the need for narcissism doesn’t stop here at all. Once you have decided that you can… and will… do something epic, you have to be able to sell it to the world. And who better to do this than someone who loves themselves a little too much? It seems that the best self promoters are those who have narcissist tendencies. They aren’t afraid to talk about what they are doing, demand a fair price for their work, and they don’t usually let rejections spoil their ambition. If ten thousand people say no, they just head back to the pool, rekindle their self-love, and keep looking for the person who will give them the chance they deserve. Arrogant? Maybe. Effective? Absolutely!

But what happens to a narcissistic person who finally achieves what they want? What becomes of them when they have to take on a leadership role that requires them to promote and help others under them? Simply put, their narcissism keeps them productive and always pushing those under and around them towards accomplishment. Narcissistic individuals make wonderful leaders because they know what they want, they don’t take shit from people who attempt to manipulate them, and they closely care for and protect those that contribute to their success. They are generally not moved by circumstances and they keep the morale and confidence high within their camp. People want to follow and devote themselves to a winner and a narcissist always believes themselves to be just that.

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Finally, narcissism keeps a person focused and goal oriented. Once a narcissist has made a decision, there really is very little that will halt their progress. Even traits like compulsion and impatience have a way of propelling a person to the top of the world, simply because they believe that they belong there and are entitled to that place. Narcissists know what they want out of life and they use whatever tools they have at their disposal to make it happen.

In closing, I am reminded of something that I once read about former Apple CEO Steve Jobs. This entrepreneurial genius, it seems, was also a bit of a narcissist. In the book, The Real Genius Of Steve Jobs, he is described as a complicated and exhausting man. One line from the book reads, “He gets stopped for driving a hundred miles an hour, honks angrily at the officer for taking too long to write up the ticket, and then resumes his journey at a hundred miles an hour. He sits in a restaurant and sends his food back three times. He arrives at his hotel suite in New York for press interviews and decides, at 10 P.M., that the piano needs to be repositioned, the strawberries are inadequate, and the flowers are all wrong…” While these behaviors may seem extreme to some, I like what Malcolm Gladwell, staff journalist for the New Yorker, had to say about his personality: “The great accomplishment of Jobs’s life is how effectively he put his idiosyncrasies – his petulance, his narcissism, and his rudeness – in the service of perfection.”

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So, if you have found yourself spending a little too much time looking in the pool because you like what you see so well, don’t be afraid. Let your self-loving, narcissistic ways drive you to the top of the food chain and to success.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Be Happy at Work and Find Fulfillment in Your Career

How to Be Happy at Work and Find Fulfillment in Your Career

If you’re going to spend 1/3 of our life at work, you should enjoy it, right?

Trust me, I know that’s easier said than done. Difficult coworkers, less-than-desirable tasks, or even just being in the wrong position can all lead to a lack of enjoyment and fulfillment in your work.

But what if I told you it doesn’t have to be this way? Or better yet, if you struggle with all of the above (and then some), what if I told you that enjoying your work and finding fulfillment regardless of those obstacles is possible?

Don’t believe me? I don’t blame you because I was there too. Before implementing the tips below, I struggled to get through each day, much less find real fulfillment, in the office. Now, even after the toughest days on the job, I still come away with feelings of pride, accomplishment, and fulfillment. The best news is, so can you.

If you’re ready to make those hours count and find happiness and fulfillment in the office, then read on to find out how to be happy at work and find fulfillment in your career:

1. Discover the root(s) of the problem

For this first step, we’ll need to think back to 8th-grade physics (humor me). We all know Newton’s 3rd law, “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” When you think about it, the same can be said outside of physics, and we see this law play out in our daily lives, day after day.

Simply put, all the issues we deal with in the office (and life in general) affect us in a noticeable way.

If you’re appreciated at work, like the work you do and receive frequent praise, promotions, or raises, then this will probably have an altogether positive effect on your life in the office.

But what if we reverse this? What if you feel under appreciated, get passed up for promotions, or get denied raises? This is sure to affect the way you feel at work on a negative level.

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So, before you can implement the steps of feeling happy and fulfilled at work, we first have to discover the reasons why you don’t feel that way already.

Think about it, write a list, or make a mental note. Run through all the reasons you’re dissatisfied in the office, and don’t hold back. Knowing the exact obstacles you’re facing will make overcoming them that much easier.

In fact, as a side-challenge to this article, I recommend picking the top three reasons contributing to your dissatisfaction at work and using the following tips to tackle them.

2. Practice gratitude for an instant uplift

Did you know the simple act of feeling grateful can increase your happiness and make you more fulfilled at work?[1]

Well, it’s true, and it’s scientifically proven.

Dr. Lisa Firestone notes that practicing gratitude “reminds us of what we lacked in the past.” Meaning, it serves as both a boost to happiness and a bit of a wake-up call that things have been or could be, much worse.

Trying to conjure up feelings of gratitude can seem almost impossible when your work situation seems bleak, but hear me out: There are incredibly easy ways to get started and it doesn’t involve trying to “force” yourself to feel grateful about things that stress you out.

For an instant pick-me-up, try this:

Find a loose piece of paper, a blank sticky note, or anything you can write on, be it physical or digital. List just three things that you are absolutely without-a-doubt thankful for in your life.

Now here’s the trick: Don’t just list what you’re grateful for, you have to list why you’re grateful for them, too.

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For example, simply saying “I’m grateful for my kids” will probably make you feel good, sure, but what if we could amplify the warm, fuzzy feeling into real, lasting motivation?

Instead, write the reason you’re so thankful for your children. Is it because they make you laugh and forget about other stressors? Or maybe they help to remind you of why you go to work every day in the first place?

Whatever your reasons may be, jot them down and keep your list somewhere you can see it while you work. A quick glance at your gratitude list throughout the day can provide powerful, positive motivation to keep going.

Bonus:

If you can find just three things to be thankful for that specifically relate to your job, and list why those things make you grateful, your list can also help you find fulfillment in your work itself which can give you an even bigger boost of positivity throughout the day.

3. Take meaningful time for yourself

We all know creating a strong work-life balance can be crucial to feeling satisfied in our jobs, but rarely do we ever address how we’re spending our time outside of work.

Many of us survive a 9-hour work day and commute home only to find ourselves busy with our personal to-do lists, running a household, and taking care of a child (or 2 or 3, and so on).

If you spend all your time working, whether in the office or within your household, you’re going to feel drained at some point. This is why setting meaningful time for yourself every day is highly important.

Look, I get it: I don’t know anyone in the working world who can shun all responsibility for a 3-movie marathon or happy hour with friends whenever they feel like it. But finding time for yourself, be it just 30 minutes to an hour, can really make a difference in how you feel at work.

This works because you’ll have time to actually relax and let the day’s stress melt away while you enjoy something just for you. The to-do lists and stressors will still be there after you’re refreshed and ready to tackle them.

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No time for me-time? Try this:

If you have a busy household, you’ll need to capitalize on a block of time you know will be completely uninterrupted. The easiest way to do this: try waking up 30 minutes to an hour earlier than usual (or push bedtime back an hour if you’re a night owl, like me) and take time to do something you enjoy.

This could be reading with a cup of tea, catching up on Facebook, spending time on a passion project—anything! As long as it’s meaningful to you, it works!

Bonus:

Starting your day with meaningful time for yourself can set you up to have a positive mood that lasts well into office hours, and having your me-time in the evening can give you something positive to look forward to during the day.

4. Get productive and feel accomplished

Don’t you just love the feeling of checking the last item off of a hefty to-do list? That’s because self-motivation can be a huge driver of positivity and success.

When we accomplish something, no matter how small, it makes us feel good, plain and simple. Applying this tactic to your daily work can be the motivator you need to find fulfillment during the daily office grind.

While there are tons of steps to get more done at work, I’ll share my personal favorite: Prioritizing.

Now, many people handle prioritizing differently. Some like to tackle the little tasks first so they can spend focused time on the big to-dos. Others like to knock out the big items first and get to the smaller ones when they can.

No matter which camp you’re in, you may be missing one crucial step: Time management.

So how’s this work? When you factor in the amount of time your priorities will take, it can transform your productivity ten-fold.

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Say you have three top priorities for the day. You might jump into the smaller ones or the bigger ones depending on your preferred method, and then find yourself out of time and bringing work home with you at the end of the day.

This is prevented when you factor in time. Knowing how long each item will take, or deliberately setting specific blocks of time for your priorities can help you accomplish more in the same 8-9 (or 12) hours that you typically spend at work.

Try this:

Take a look at your priorities and consider how long they should take. Pop into your Google calendar (or Filofax, whatever works for you) and schedule time to work on your priority items around any important meetings or events of the day.

The most important thing to remember is to stick to your dedicated time.

Often, when we know exactly how long we have to work on something (and honor this time limit), we’re motivated to get more done on time to avoid taking work home at the end of the day.

The bottom line

There’s no need to waste 1/3 of our lives feeling unsatisfied at work. Luckily, you now have the tools to get started, take back your time, and become happy and fulfilled at work again.

The only question is — which tip will you try first?

Featured photo credit: Ellyot via unsplash.com

Reference

[1]Psychology Today: The Healing Power of Gratitude

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