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8 Steps To Breaking Free From The Miserable Job

8 Steps To Breaking Free From The Miserable Job

70% of people hate their jobs. For the remaining portion, it is just as miserable with 18% describing their job situation as disengaged and discontent. Gallop’s 2013 poll on the American Workplace highlights a 28% increase in job dissatisfaction since 2010. The figures reveal that although dissatisfied, still more people are remaining in these detrimental situations. No doubt much of the paralysis comes out of simply not knowing how to make a transition. Here are 8 steps to break free from the miserable job.

1. Is it the job, or is it you?

Oftentimes, there can be a great deal of baggage that is brought into the workplace or your the personal life. Make sure that the frustration you are experiencing is in fact coming from your work and that you are not falsely attributing your frustration to your job. Perhaps the passion for the job is still there, but it is buried underneath your personal struggles. Think of a time when your personal life was great. How did you feel about your job during that period? If your personal life is great and you are still miserable with your job, that is a great indication that you need a sea-change.

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2. Values, Vehicle, & Vision

You need to be absolutely clear in these three areas. Your values are the non-negotiable details of what you are passionate about. For example, being your own boss, in the food industry, working with kids etc. Your vehicle is the how of making those things possible. It is the delivery system for your values—the job, the company. Put these two together and you will have your vision: the what + the how of your passion. Unless you are absolutely clear about these aspects, then you will just jump from one miserable job to another.

3. Research

Once you have your values, vehicle, and vision clear. The next step is to research your socks off. Get online and access as many free articles and videos that are available on your passion or dream job. This is a great step for gauging your level of interest. It will either cause you to press on with your passion or re-evaluate if it is indeed the right path for you.

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4. Reach Out

Identify some key people in the field that you are wanting to step into. Check out their company website and look for their email. This will require you to silence that voice of fear and be brave enough to try and connect with someone you do not know. What is the worse that could happen? They could say “no.” Just go onto the next person.

5. Salvage

While you are doing all of the above. Salvage the time and potential resources you have at your current job. You do not have to let the cat out of the bag with quitting, but speak to your workmates—you never know who they may be able to introduce you to. Also use this time to save up as much money as possible to fund your new venture. If you have a great relationship with your boss, you definitely want to check out who they are connected with. Definitely do not burn any bridges.

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6. The “Side Hustle.”

Many folks who have made successful mid-career shifts refer to the crucial stage in their transition known as the “Side Hustle.” Once you have researched and gathered the knowledge you need to start putting some wheels on your dreams, you can really get it rolling by engaging in it on a “part-time” basis. Turn all the theory into practice, taking it step by step. Set up the website, buy the basic equipment that you require. Treat it as taking on a part-time job for now until you really get some great momentum.

7. Support Network.

An encouraging community is key, whether that consists of your spouse, your family, or friends. You are guaranteed to hit some low points as you step out into uncharted waters. Share your goals with some close friends and have them not only keep you accountable, but also be that shoulder to cry on when things get a little tough. Just make sure you keep pressing on!

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8. Validate

Before you completely cut the umbilical chord to your old job, you need to think about the long term viability of your new venture. You are not looking to make a quick sale and be out of the game at half-time. The “side hustle” is crucial in its ability to validate your venture. Look for signs of long term success. No musician wants to be known as a “one-hit wonder” but rather a veteran of the industry.

It is also important to note that unless you are in a great financial situation and can afford to take an extended unpaid break, it is not advisable to immediately quit your job. It is easy to be impulsive when you are unhappy and miserable, but you need to keep your wits about you and be wise in your transition.

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Last Updated on March 29, 2021

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

When I left university I took a job immediately, I had been lucky as I had spent a year earning almost nothing as an intern so I was offered a role. On my first day I found that I had not been allocated a desk, there was no one to greet me so I was left for some hours ignored. I happened to snipe about this to another employee at the coffee machine two things happened. The first was that the person I had complained to was my new manager’s wife, and the second was, in his own words, ‘that he would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I crossed him…’

What a great start to a job! I had moved to a new city, and had been at work for less than a morning when I had my first run in with the first style of bad manager. I didn’t stay long enough to find out what Mr Agressive would do next. Bad managers are a major issue. Research from Approved Index shows that more than four in ten employees (42%) state that they have previously quit a job because of a bad manager.

The Dream Type Of Manager

My best manager was a total opposite. A man who had been the head of the UK tax system and was working his retirement running a company I was a very junior and green employee for. I made a stupid mistake, one which cost a lot of time and money and I felt I was going to be sacked without doubt.

I was nervous, beating myself up about what I had done, what would happen. At the end of the day I was called to his office, he had made me wait and I had spent that day talking to other employees, trying to understand where I had gone wrong. It had been a simple mistyped line of code which sent a massive print job out totally wrong. I learn how I should have done it and I fretted.

My boss asked me to step into his office, he asked me to sit down. “Do you know what you did?” I babbled, yes, I had been stupid, I had not double-checked or asked for advice when I was doing something I had not really understood. It was totally my fault. He paused. “Will you do that again?” Of course I told him I would not, I would always double check, ask for help and not try to be so clever when I was not!

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“Okay…”

That was it. I paused and asked, should I clear my desk. He smiled. “You have learnt a valuable lesson, I can be sure that you will never make a mistake like that again. Why would I want to get rid of an employee who knows that?”

I stayed with that company for many years, the way I was treated was a real object lesson in good management. Sadly, far too many poor managers exist out there.

The Complete Catalogue of Bad Managers

The Bully

My first boss fitted into the classic bully class. This is so often the ‘old school’ management by power style. I encountered this style again in the retail sector where one manager felt the only way to get the best from staff was to bawl and yell.

However, like so many bullies you will often find that this can be someone who either knows no better or is under stress and they are themselves running scared of the situation they have found themselves in.

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The Invisible Boss

This can either present itself as management from afar (usually the golf course or ‘important meetings) or just a boss who is too busy being important to deal with their staff.

It can feel refreshing as you will often have almost total freedom with your manager taking little or no interest in your activities, however you will soon find that you also lack the support that a good manager will provide. Without direction you may feel you are doing well just to find that you are not delivering against expectations you were not told about and suddenly it is all your fault.

The Micro Manager

The frustration of having a manager who feels the need to be involved in everything you do. The polar opposite to the Invisible Boss you will feel that there is no trust in your work as they will want to meddle in everything you do.

Dealing with the micro-manager can be difficult. Often their management style comes from their own insecurity. You can try confronting them, tell them that you can do your job however in many cases this will not succeed and can in fact make things worse.

The Over Promoted Boss

The Over promoted boss categorises someone who has no idea. They have found themselves in a management position through service, family or some corporate mystery. They are people who are not only highly unqualified to be managers they will generally be unable to do even your job.

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You can find yourself persistently frustrated by the situation you are in, however it can seem impossible to get out without handing over your resignation.

The Credit Stealer

The credit stealer is the boss who will never publically acknowledge the work you do. You will put in the extra hours working on a project and you know that, in the ‘big meeting’ it will be your credit stealing boss who will take all of the credit!

Again it is demoralising, you see all of the credit for your labour being stolen and this can often lead to good employees looking for new careers.

3 Essential Ways to Work (Cope) with Bad Managers

Whatever type of bad boss you have there are certain things that you can do to ensure that you get the recognition and protection you require to not only remain sane but to also build your career.

1. Keep evidence

Whether it is incidents with the bully or examples of projects you have completed with the credit stealer you will always be well served to keep notes and supporting evidence for projects you are working on.

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Buy your own notebook and ensure that you are always making notes, it becomes a habit and a very useful one as you have a constant reminder as well as somewhere to explore ideas.

Importantly, if you do have to go to HR or stand-up for yourself you will have clear records! Also, don’t always trust that corporate servers or emails will always be available or not tampered with. Keep your own content.

2. Hold regular meetings

Ensure that you make time for regular meetings with your boss. This is especially useful for the over-promoted or the invisible boss to allow you to ‘manage upwards’. Take charge where you can to set your objectives and use these meetings to set clear objectives and document the status of your work.

3. Stand your ground, but be ready to jump…

Remember that you don’t have to put up with poor management. If you have issues you should face them with your boss, maybe they do not know that they are coming across in a bad way.

However, be ready to recognise if the situation is not going to change. If that is the case, keep your head down and get working on polishing your CV! If it isn’t working, there will be something better out there for you!

Good luck!

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