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10 Things No One Tells You When You Lose A Job

10 Things No One Tells You When You Lose A Job

Losing your job can be scary, frustrating and stressful. Before you freak out and write yourself off as a failure, read these ten things people don’t tell you when you lose a job.

1. Don’t have a cow, man.

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    It’s stressful to lose a job, but don’t let it get you down. Everyone has lost a job, and everyone has gotten past it – you will too! Try to see this as a time for positive change, and embrace the possibilities instead of letting yourself get depressed.

    2. Give yourself time to figure out the next step.

    Don’t feel pushed to get a job just to have one. Take time to figure out what you want to do next. Maybe it’s time to finally make that move to a bigger city you’ve been putting off. Or maybe it’s time for a career change, and you need to research your new field. Even if you stay in the same career, give yourself time to find the right job and not just the first job that pops up.

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    3. Make a plan.

    Regardless of whether you’re staying on the same track or using this opportunity to change careers, make a plan. Set goals for yourself to look for jobs a certain length of time every day, or to apply to a certain number a week. Make plans about what you’ll do if you don’t find your dream job in a month. Plan for any options that might come up in your job hunt.

    4. Don’t be afraid to accept a transitional job.

    Don’t get upset if the only jobs you can find are transitional jobs, and don’t feel like a failure if you need to take a temporary job to make ends meet. There’s nothing wrong with working a job that might not benefit your resume in the long run, just to pay your bills in the meantime. Remember – it’s always good to stay in the habit of working, even if you’re not doing your dream job.

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    5. Change the way you apply for jobs.

    A lot of people apply for jobs by just sending out resumes to any openings. Don’t do this and expect to get what you want. Read job listings carefully, make sure you want the position and would be a good fit, and then tailor your resume to each specific job. Write custom cover letters each time as well. This will keep you from making the mistake of sending the wrong company’s name in your letter!

    6. Let go of your expectations.

    Losing a job means it’s a good time to follow your dreams, but you also need to let go of your expectations. Maybe you thought you’d stay in this job for two years, get a promotion and keep moving up the ladder until you retire. It’s great to have goals, but you also need to know when to let go of these expectations and embrace the new opportunities.

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    7. Expect disappointments.

    It’s important to remember you’ll encounter a lot of struggles along the way. Don’t let disappointments get you down. If you expect them instead of assuming everything will go smoothly, then these disappointments won’t throw you off course.

    8. Don’t blame anyone or anything.

    Don’t try to assign blame after you’ve lost your job. It happened and it’s in the past, so it doesn’t matter if it was the fault of anyone or anything. You need to focus on moving forward instead of holding anger about the job you lost.

    9. Catch up on sleep.

    While you’re unemployed, why not make the most of your time off and catch up on sleep? You’ve been stressed from losing your job and the job hunt, so why not keep your health up in the meantime? If you sleep late or take naps during the day, make sure you’re not sleeping away all your time. Be productive and don’t fall into a bad routine, but take your time, relax, and enjoy the unexpected time off.

    10. Take a vacation.

    You have a little money put aside from working so hard for so long, right? Why not use a bit of it for a vacation? Don’t spend so much that you put your ability to pay bills at risk, but see if you can fit a small trip into your budget. Who knows when you’ll have this opportunity again.

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    Last Updated on November 26, 2020

    How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success

    How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success

    As playwright Wilson Mizner supposedly said all the way back in the 1930s,

    “Be kind to everyone on the way up; you will meet the same people on the way down.”

    The adage is the perfect prototype for relationship building in 2020, although we may want to expand Mizner’s definition of “kind” to include being helpful, respectful, grateful, and above all, crediting your colleagues along the way.

    5 Ways to Switch on Your Relationship Building Magnetism

    Relationship building does not come easily to all. Today’s computer culture makes us more insular and less likely to reach out—not to mention our new work-from-home situation in which we are only able to interact virtually. Still, relationship building remains an important part of career engagement and success, and it gets better with practice.

    Here are five ways you can strengthen your relationships:

    1. Advocate for Other’s Ideas

    Take the initiative to speak up in support of other team members’ good ideas. Doing so lets others know that the team’s success takes precedence over your needs for personal success. Get behind any colleague’s innovative approach or clever solution and offer whatever help you can give to see it through. Teammates will value your vote of confidence and your support.

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    2. Show Compassion

    If you learn that someone whom you work with has encountered difficult times, reach out. If it’s not someone you know well, a hand-written card expressing your sympathy and hopes for better times ahead could be an initial gesture. If it’s someone with whom you interact regularly, the act could involve offering to take on some of the person’s work to provide a needed reprieve or even bringing in a home-cooked dish as a way to offer comfort. The show of compassion will not go unnoticed, and your relationship building will have found a foothold.

    3. Communicate Regularly

    Make an effort to share any information with team members that will help them do their jobs more effectively. Keeping people in the loop says a lot about your consideration for what others need to deliver their best results.

    Try to discover the preferred mode of communication for each team member. Some people are fine relying on emails; others like to have a phone conversation. And once we can finally return to working together in offices, you may determine that face-to-face updates may be most advantageous for some members.

    4. Ask for Feedback

    Showing your willingness to reach out for advice and guidance will make a positive impression on your boss. When you make it clear that you welcome and can accept pointers, you display candor and trust in what opinions your superior has to offer. Your proclivity towards considering ways of improving your performance and strengthening any working interactions will signal your strong relationship skills.

    If you are in a work environment where you are asked to give feedback, be generous and compassionate. That does not mean being wishy-washy. Try always to give the type of feedback that you wouldn’t mind receiving.

    5. Give Credit Where It’s Due

    Be the worker who remembers to credit staffers with their contributions. It’s a surprisingly rare talent to credit others, but when you do so, they will remember to credit you, and the collective credit your team will accrue will be well worth the effort.

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    How Does Relationship Building Build Careers?

    Once you have strengthened and deepened your relationships, here are some of the great benefits:

    Work Doesn’t Feel So Much Like Work

    According to a Gallup poll, when you have a best friend at work, you are more likely to feel engaged with your job. Work is more fun when you have positive, productive relationships with your colleagues. Instead of spending time and energy overcoming difficult personalities, you can spend time enjoying the camaraderie with colleagues as you work congenially on projects together. When your coworkers are your friends, time goes by quickly and challenges don’t weigh as heavily.

    You Can Find Good Help

    It’s easier to ask for assistance when you have a good working relationship with a colleague. And with office tasks changing at the speed of technology, chances are that you are going to need some help acclimating—especially now that work has gone remote due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

    Much of relationship building rests on your genuine expressions of appreciation toward others. Showing gratitude for another’s help or for their willingness to put in the extra effort will let them know you value them.

    Mentors Come Out of the Woodwork

    Mentors are proven to advance your professional and career development. A mentor can help you navigate how to approach your work and keep you apprised of industry trends. They have a plethora of experience to draw from that can be invaluable when advising you on achieving career success and advancement.

    Mentors flock to those who are skilled at relationship building. So, work on your relationships and keep your eyes peeled for a worthy mentor.

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    You Pull Together as a Team

    Great teamwork starts with having an “abundance mentality” rather than a scarcity mentality. Too often, workers view all projects through a scarcity mentality lens. This leads to office strife as coworkers compete for their piece of the pie. But in an abundance mentality mode, you focus on the strengths that others bring rather than the possibility that they are potential competitors.

    Instead, you can commit relationship building efforts to ensure a positive work environment rather than an adversarial one. When you let others know that you intend to support their efforts and contribute to their success, they will respond in kind. Go, team!

    Your Network Expands and So Does Your Paycheck

    Expand your relationship building scope beyond your coworkers to include customers, suppliers, and other industry stakeholders. Your extra efforts can lead to extra sales, a more rewarding career, and even speedy professional advancement. And don’t overlook the importance of building warm relationships with assistants, receptionists, or even interns.

    Take care to build bridges, not just to your boss and your boss’s boss but with those that work under you as well. You may find that someone who you wouldn’t expect will put in a good word for you with your supervisor.

    Building and maintaining good working relationships with everyone you come in contact with can pay off in unforeseen ways. You never know when that underling will turn out to be the company’s “golden child.” Six years from now you may be turning to them for a job. If you have built up a good, trusting work relationship with others along your way, you will more likely be considered for positions that any of these people may be looking to fill.

    Your Job Won’t Stress You Out

    Study shows that some 83 percent of American workers experience work-related stress.[1] Granted, some of that stress is now likely caused by the new pandemic-triggered workplace adjustments, yet bosses and management, in general, are reportedly the predominant source of stress for more than one-third of workers.

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    Having meaningful connections among coworkers is the best way to make work less stressful. Whether it is having others whom to commiserate with, bounce ideas off, or bring out your best performance, friendships strengthen the group’s esprit de corps and lower the stress level of your job.

    Your Career Shines Bright

    Who would you feel better about approaching to provide a recommendation or ask for promotion: a cold, aloof boss with whom you have only an impersonal relationship or one that knows you as a person and with whom you have built a warm, trusting relationship?

    Your career advancement will always excel when you have a mutual bond of friendship and appreciation with those who can recommend you. Consider the plug you could receive from a supervisor who knows you as a friend versus one who remains detached and only notices you in terms of your ability to meet deadlines or attain goals.

    When people fully know your skills, strengths, personality, and aspirations, you have promoters who will sing your praises with any opportunity for advancement.

    Final Thoughts

    At the end of the day, it is “who you know” not “what you know.” When you build relationships, you build a pipeline of colleagues, work partners, team members, current bosses, and former bosses who want to help you—who want to see you succeed.

    At its core, every business is a people business. Making a point to take the small but meaningful actions that build the foundation of a good relationship can be instrumental in cultivating better relationships at work.

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    Reference

    [1] The American Institute of Stress: 42 Worrying Workplace Stress Statistics

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