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10 Things No One Tells You When You Lose A Job

10 Things No One Tells You When You Lose A Job

Losing your job can be scary, frustrating and stressful. Before you freak out and write yourself off as a failure, read these ten things people don’t tell you when you lose a job.

1. Don’t have a cow, man.

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    It’s stressful to lose a job, but don’t let it get you down. Everyone has lost a job, and everyone has gotten past it – you will too! Try to see this as a time for positive change, and embrace the possibilities instead of letting yourself get depressed.

    2. Give yourself time to figure out the next step.

    Don’t feel pushed to get a job just to have one. Take time to figure out what you want to do next. Maybe it’s time to finally make that move to a bigger city you’ve been putting off. Or maybe it’s time for a career change, and you need to research your new field. Even if you stay in the same career, give yourself time to find the right job and not just the first job that pops up.

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    3. Make a plan.

    Regardless of whether you’re staying on the same track or using this opportunity to change careers, make a plan. Set goals for yourself to look for jobs a certain length of time every day, or to apply to a certain number a week. Make plans about what you’ll do if you don’t find your dream job in a month. Plan for any options that might come up in your job hunt.

    4. Don’t be afraid to accept a transitional job.

    Don’t get upset if the only jobs you can find are transitional jobs, and don’t feel like a failure if you need to take a temporary job to make ends meet. There’s nothing wrong with working a job that might not benefit your resume in the long run, just to pay your bills in the meantime. Remember – it’s always good to stay in the habit of working, even if you’re not doing your dream job.

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    5. Change the way you apply for jobs.

    A lot of people apply for jobs by just sending out resumes to any openings. Don’t do this and expect to get what you want. Read job listings carefully, make sure you want the position and would be a good fit, and then tailor your resume to each specific job. Write custom cover letters each time as well. This will keep you from making the mistake of sending the wrong company’s name in your letter!

    6. Let go of your expectations.

    Losing a job means it’s a good time to follow your dreams, but you also need to let go of your expectations. Maybe you thought you’d stay in this job for two years, get a promotion and keep moving up the ladder until you retire. It’s great to have goals, but you also need to know when to let go of these expectations and embrace the new opportunities.

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    7. Expect disappointments.

    It’s important to remember you’ll encounter a lot of struggles along the way. Don’t let disappointments get you down. If you expect them instead of assuming everything will go smoothly, then these disappointments won’t throw you off course.

    8. Don’t blame anyone or anything.

    Don’t try to assign blame after you’ve lost your job. It happened and it’s in the past, so it doesn’t matter if it was the fault of anyone or anything. You need to focus on moving forward instead of holding anger about the job you lost.

    9. Catch up on sleep.

    While you’re unemployed, why not make the most of your time off and catch up on sleep? You’ve been stressed from losing your job and the job hunt, so why not keep your health up in the meantime? If you sleep late or take naps during the day, make sure you’re not sleeping away all your time. Be productive and don’t fall into a bad routine, but take your time, relax, and enjoy the unexpected time off.

    10. Take a vacation.

    You have a little money put aside from working so hard for so long, right? Why not use a bit of it for a vacation? Don’t spend so much that you put your ability to pay bills at risk, but see if you can fit a small trip into your budget. Who knows when you’ll have this opportunity again.

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    Last Updated on March 29, 2021

    5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

    5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

    When I left university I took a job immediately, I had been lucky as I had spent a year earning almost nothing as an intern so I was offered a role. On my first day I found that I had not been allocated a desk, there was no one to greet me so I was left for some hours ignored. I happened to snipe about this to another employee at the coffee machine two things happened. The first was that the person I had complained to was my new manager’s wife, and the second was, in his own words, ‘that he would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I crossed him…’

    What a great start to a job! I had moved to a new city, and had been at work for less than a morning when I had my first run in with the first style of bad manager. I didn’t stay long enough to find out what Mr Agressive would do next. Bad managers are a major issue. Research from Approved Index shows that more than four in ten employees (42%) state that they have previously quit a job because of a bad manager.

    The Dream Type Of Manager

    My best manager was a total opposite. A man who had been the head of the UK tax system and was working his retirement running a company I was a very junior and green employee for. I made a stupid mistake, one which cost a lot of time and money and I felt I was going to be sacked without doubt.

    I was nervous, beating myself up about what I had done, what would happen. At the end of the day I was called to his office, he had made me wait and I had spent that day talking to other employees, trying to understand where I had gone wrong. It had been a simple mistyped line of code which sent a massive print job out totally wrong. I learn how I should have done it and I fretted.

    My boss asked me to step into his office, he asked me to sit down. “Do you know what you did?” I babbled, yes, I had been stupid, I had not double-checked or asked for advice when I was doing something I had not really understood. It was totally my fault. He paused. “Will you do that again?” Of course I told him I would not, I would always double check, ask for help and not try to be so clever when I was not!

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    “Okay…”

    That was it. I paused and asked, should I clear my desk. He smiled. “You have learnt a valuable lesson, I can be sure that you will never make a mistake like that again. Why would I want to get rid of an employee who knows that?”

    I stayed with that company for many years, the way I was treated was a real object lesson in good management. Sadly, far too many poor managers exist out there.

    The Complete Catalogue of Bad Managers

    The Bully

    My first boss fitted into the classic bully class. This is so often the ‘old school’ management by power style. I encountered this style again in the retail sector where one manager felt the only way to get the best from staff was to bawl and yell.

    However, like so many bullies you will often find that this can be someone who either knows no better or is under stress and they are themselves running scared of the situation they have found themselves in.

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    The Invisible Boss

    This can either present itself as management from afar (usually the golf course or ‘important meetings) or just a boss who is too busy being important to deal with their staff.

    It can feel refreshing as you will often have almost total freedom with your manager taking little or no interest in your activities, however you will soon find that you also lack the support that a good manager will provide. Without direction you may feel you are doing well just to find that you are not delivering against expectations you were not told about and suddenly it is all your fault.

    The Micro Manager

    The frustration of having a manager who feels the need to be involved in everything you do. The polar opposite to the Invisible Boss you will feel that there is no trust in your work as they will want to meddle in everything you do.

    Dealing with the micro-manager can be difficult. Often their management style comes from their own insecurity. You can try confronting them, tell them that you can do your job however in many cases this will not succeed and can in fact make things worse.

    The Over Promoted Boss

    The Over promoted boss categorises someone who has no idea. They have found themselves in a management position through service, family or some corporate mystery. They are people who are not only highly unqualified to be managers they will generally be unable to do even your job.

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    You can find yourself persistently frustrated by the situation you are in, however it can seem impossible to get out without handing over your resignation.

    The Credit Stealer

    The credit stealer is the boss who will never publically acknowledge the work you do. You will put in the extra hours working on a project and you know that, in the ‘big meeting’ it will be your credit stealing boss who will take all of the credit!

    Again it is demoralising, you see all of the credit for your labour being stolen and this can often lead to good employees looking for new careers.

    3 Essential Ways to Work (Cope) with Bad Managers

    Whatever type of bad boss you have there are certain things that you can do to ensure that you get the recognition and protection you require to not only remain sane but to also build your career.

    1. Keep evidence

    Whether it is incidents with the bully or examples of projects you have completed with the credit stealer you will always be well served to keep notes and supporting evidence for projects you are working on.

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    Buy your own notebook and ensure that you are always making notes, it becomes a habit and a very useful one as you have a constant reminder as well as somewhere to explore ideas.

    Importantly, if you do have to go to HR or stand-up for yourself you will have clear records! Also, don’t always trust that corporate servers or emails will always be available or not tampered with. Keep your own content.

    2. Hold regular meetings

    Ensure that you make time for regular meetings with your boss. This is especially useful for the over-promoted or the invisible boss to allow you to ‘manage upwards’. Take charge where you can to set your objectives and use these meetings to set clear objectives and document the status of your work.

    3. Stand your ground, but be ready to jump…

    Remember that you don’t have to put up with poor management. If you have issues you should face them with your boss, maybe they do not know that they are coming across in a bad way.

    However, be ready to recognise if the situation is not going to change. If that is the case, keep your head down and get working on polishing your CV! If it isn’t working, there will be something better out there for you!

    Good luck!

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