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Avoid These 10 Beliefs That Hold You Back from Success

Avoid These 10 Beliefs That Hold You Back from Success

The number one thing holding most us back is our own headspace. We doubt ourselves on a regular basis, taking stock in limiting beliefs that prohibit us from moving forward. Here are 10 of the most limiting beliefs. Cut these from your headspace, and you will rocket toward success.

1. “I can’t be myself.”

This is one of the most damaging limiting beliefs of all. People fear that they’ll be hated for who they are, so they try to be loved for who they’re not. It doesn’t work; most people will be able to see beyond your facade and recognize that you’re faking it. Be genuine, and be genuine with the right people, to lead a happy life.

2. “I shouldn’t ask because I won’t receive.”

Whether it be asking someone out on a date or requesting a raise, you shouldn’t be afraid to ask the question. “No” is pretty much the worst thing they can say, and the more you hear the word the more tolerant you’ll become of it.

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3. “I’ll never be worth anything.”

You’re worth a lot already. There are probably people in your life that will tell you that, if you ask them. Even if you’re not where you want to be, the roadblocks stopping you from getting there are not insurmountable.

4. “My wings will melt off if I fly too close to the sun.”

Icarus be damned, you shouldn’t be afraid to reach your goal lest you fall short. The most important thing is that you try. If you fail, you learn from the experience. If you succeed, you reap the rewards of your hard work. It’s not as simple as a lose-win scenario; what you take from the experience is part of what defines it.

5. “I shouldn’t trust anyone.”

A lot of people purport that trusting in people is a foolish endeavor. That may be true if you’re on the reality competition show Survivor, but in the real world you have to put faith in others. Living without trust leaves you with a burden you can’t bear. Accept support from others, even if it means leaving yourself a little vulnerable.

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6. “Love only ends in a broken heart.”

It’s true that a lot of relationships (including romantic ones) end in heartbreak, but the heartbreak is not the only thing you take away from the experience. You created memories which, even if they’re bittersweet, will enrich your personal history and ensure that you had a life well-lived.

7. “I won’t succeed.”

You won’t succeed if you accept limiting beliefs like this as facts. Success is an abstract concept; it’s something only you can define. Define it in a way that deems you a winner when you put forth your best effort.

8. “It’s too late for me to ________.”

Don’t accept expiration dates. It’s true that you may not ever be a world-class gymnast if you’re already past 30, but it doesn’t mean you should give up on the endeavor entirely. If you have passion for the sport, go out and perform gymnastics or get involved in gymnastics in some other capacity.

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9. “I’ll implode if ________.”

A lot us fear that our universe will fall apart if something tragic happens, like the loss of a job or a death in the family. But you can, and you will, endure. Don’t forget how strong you are.

10. “I’m not normal.”

This is a true statement, but it’s still a limiting belief. No one in the world is “normal” and no one should want to be. Normal is boring. Try being interesting instead. Author Grant Morrison said,

You’ve got to remember, in the entire history of the universe, you’re the only YOU that has ever existed and ever will exist. For your little span of 70, 80, a hundred years, there’s nothing like you that’s ever existed before or since. And only you see the world the way you see the world. And we want to know how you see it. We try to tell you how we see the world, in the hope that it helps, and at the same time we want to hear what you’ve got to say, because there is nobody in existence who is YOU, and can tell the rest of us how it looks. And it might be so different and so beautiful, that it changes everything.

Got that? You’re the best you that ever existed, so just go and be you.

Featured photo credit: Jesse Hull via flickr.com

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Last Updated on May 16, 2019

The Daily Rituals of 7 Successful CEOs

The Daily Rituals of 7 Successful CEOs

One of my favorite success quotes ever comes from one of the original and most successful ‘CEOs’ of his era: Aristotle. Here’s what he said:

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

This advice is just as sound today as it was when Aristotle first expressed it, way back when. I’m reminded of this at least once a week, when I interview an inspiring author, leader, or successful CEO on my show. I ask my guests a series of questions about what has contributed to their success and their ability to build something meaningful.

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You want to know what nearly all of them say? Almost every time, they respond by telling me that their success is the result of simple habits  enacted day after day.

These quotes from seven successful CEOs demonstrate the daily rituals that have contributed to their success:

1. Promote what you love.

“It’s so much better to promote what you love than to bash what you hate.” – Jessica Alba, CEO of The Honest Company

2. Develop a feedback loop.

“I think it’s very important to have a feedback loop, where you’re constantly thinking about what you’ve done and how you could be doing it better. I think that’s the single best piece of advice: constantly think about how you could be doing things better and questioning yourself.” – Elon Musk, CEO of TESLA Motors

3. Create things that are better, not just “different.”

“Our task today is to find singular ways to create the new things that will make the future not just different, but better—to go from 0 to 1. The essential first step is to think for yourself. Only by seeing our world anew, as fresh and strange as it was to the ancients who saw it first, can we both re-create it and preserve it for the future.” – Peter Thiel, CEO of Palantir and best-selling author of Zero To One.

4. Meditate.

“Meditate. Breathe consciously. Listen. Pay attention. Treasure every moment. Make the connection.” – Oprah Winfrey, CEO of OWN Network

5. Read every day.

“Read 500 pages every day. That’s how knowledge works. It builds up like compound interest.”-Warren Buffet, CEO of investment firm Berkshire-Hathaway

6. Block time for email.

“Set aside a 20- to 30-minute chunk of time two or three times a day for email. Do not check continually through the day.” – Doug Camplejohn, CEO of predictive lead marketing company FlipTop.

7. Make your customers happy.

“We see our customers as invited guests to a party, and we are the hosts. It’s our job every day to make every important aspect of the customer experience a little bit better.” – Jeff Bezos, CEO of Amazon.com

Develop the right rituals. Become a successful CEO.

If the majority of these daily habits are new to you, avoid making the crucial mistake of adopting all of these habits at once. Research on habit-formation indicates that lasting habits are formed one at a time.

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For example, let’s say you’re excited about developing the following daily habits:

  • daily reading,
  • daily meditation, and
  • updating your to-do list every night

Let’s say that daily reading is the one that excites you the most out of the three habits noted above. It would be wise of you to begin by choosing and scheduling time to read every day, and then sticking to that time until it becomes a habit. Once it feels effortless and automatic, you’ll know that you’ve turned it into a daily habit. Now you’re ready to install the next habit… and the next… Until before you know it, you’ll start looking in the mirror and seeing the reflection of a successful CEO.

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