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9 Exercises You Should Practice Every Day To Boost Your Confidence

9 Exercises You Should Practice Every Day To Boost Your Confidence

Self-confidence is a very powerful tool which can help us a lot in life. It helps us enjoy every moment we live in a better way and live our life to the fullest. However, many of us lack this spirit, for which we have to remain far from realizing our potential. But you don’t need to worry even if you haven’t got it yet. Self-confidence can not be developed overnight but you need continuous application and persistent preparation on your part. If you do small things, one at a time on a regular basis, you’ll surely get there.

Here are the 10 exercises you should practice every day to boost your confidence and uncover the world, full of potential for you.

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1. Have a positive outlook towards life.

Always take a positive outlook towards life, finding something pleasant and in even the worst situations. Try to be happy with what you have, what you can do and where you stand today. You need not limit yourself to certain things forever but being pleased with your achievements until now will help you be a lot more confident. One of the most common reasons people lack confidence is that they feel they do not have enough and they can do nothing about what they want or need. You should build positive approach towards life and believe you can get things done, if you put your maximum efforts. This will surely help boost your confidence.

2. Groom yourself properly.

Groom yourself properly, take care of your personal hygiene and dress yourself appropriately. Feel happy looking at yourself in the mirror. If you can feel happy about the way you look, you avoid all sorts of self-conscious thoughts about you not looking good and others not fancying you. Organizing yourself in the best way you can, will not only help you gain others’ appreciation but also feel good about yourself and it’s the most important factor to build up your self-confidence.

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3. Be prepared and at your best.

A lot of times we are not able to execute things in the best manner, often on grand stages and huge occasions, largely due to the lack of preparation. This can have far-reaching consequences. On one hand, we won’t be able to perform at our best level at the time. Furthermore, on the long run, we may begin to doubt ourselves and get to believe that we can never do things in a better way. This can derail our future endeavors too, trapping us in a vicious circle. But we can avoid this by preparing for the occasion, even if it’s a trivial one and giving our best for it. Gradually, one step after another, we’ll feel we can excel too and this will gradually boost our confidence a lot.

4. Consume healthy and balanced diet.

You may be wondering what sort of role food can have to boost your confidence. But believe me, we’re undermining the role of balanced diet in building self-confidence and life as a whole too. A healthy and balanced diet keeps us fit and the chances of catching most ailments are easily off. Being in the best possible shape and good health instills in us the feel good factor and we’re ready for most of the challenges. One has the zeal and energy to take part in happenings going round the corner, in a highly enthusiastic and passionate way. This will work a long way to make you believe in yourself and feel confident across all situations. 5. Inch a step closer to your dream.

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All of us have our own dreams. Some of us want to be a successful writer, some to become a great musician one day and some to become a successful footballer one day. We cherish those dreams and live by them and they add a great meaning to our lives. We should try to inch a step closer to fulfilling our dream day after day, even if the step seems of little worth, looking at the big picture. This will help us enjoy our life, feel good about ourselves and we develop the feeling that life is beautiful, after all. And when you feel good about yourself, you’re confident about yourself as well.

6. Perform physical exercises.

Perform physical exercises every day in whatever way you find appropriate. This can range from jogging and working out in the gym to taking part in competitive sports. By performing these physical exercises, you will get yourself into great shape and become a fit individual. While doing the exercises, you can also make new friends along the way and develop reinvigorated spirits. Physical efforts, whether you’re jogging or working in the garden, can release endorphins and improve your mood and confidence overall.

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7. Stop negative and worrying thoughts.

Stop worrying and developing negative thoughts, constantly worrying about the circumstances and feeling worthless. If you can change things for better, just do it, whatever way you can. And, if you can do nothing about it, why all those constant worries and helplessness? Let go of things. If you couldn’t work it out this time, try your luck next time around or on some other thing. Negative thoughts are highly detrimental to person’s development and well-being. Avoiding negative thoughts and cultivating positive thoughts on everyday basis, can lead you a long way to being much confident about yourself.

8. Enjoy the moment you’re living in.

It might be hard for many of us but the best way to build the self-confidence and succeed in life as well is to focus completely on the moment one is living in. Allowing yourself to think about bad times or something unpleasant that happened during the day will only trigger negative thoughts in us and is highly detrimental to our self-confidence. We will feel bad about ourselves and cannot perform at our best level too on the thing we’re currently working on. So live in the moment, cherish it, try to do your best and enjoy it. This way, you’ll make the best of every occasion and feel a lot better about yourself and the surroundings you’re living in. So no turning your mind to some depressing thoughts next time around when you’re at work.

9. Remember who short and precious life is.

Remember every day that life is very short and you may never have a second chance. So make the best out of the first chances you get. Always act with self-belief and always believe that you can succeed, even when it seems a distant possibility. Work every day, even in a small way, to realize your dreams and enjoy every moment you live. Listen to your heart and go all out to take it where it really wants to go. Never undermine the power of self-confidence. You are what you feel and act. Do the things you enjoy and love to do — as long as they don’t interfere with anyone else’s ability to do the same!

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Last Updated on March 21, 2019

11 Important Things to Remember When Changing Habits

11 Important Things to Remember When Changing Habits

Most gurus talk about habits in a way that doesn’t help you:

You need to push yourself more. You can’t be lazy. You need to wake up at 5 am. You need more motivation. You can never fail…blah blah “insert more gibberish here.”

But let me share with you the unconventional truths I found out:

To build and change habits, you don’t need motivation or wake up at 5 am. Heck, you can fail multiple times, be lazy, have no motivation and still pull it off with ease.

It’s quite simple and easy to do, especially with the following list I’m going to show to you. But remember, Jim Rohn used to say,

“What is simple and easy to do is also simple and easy not to do.”

The important things to remember when changing your habits are both simple and easy, just don’t think that they don’t make any difference because they do.

In fact, they are the only things that make a difference.

Let’s see what those small things are, shall we?

1. Start Small

The biggest mistake I see people doing with habits is by going big. You don’t go big…ever. You start small with your habits.

Want to grow a book reading habit? Don’t start reading a book a day. Start with 10 pages a day.

Want to become a writer? Don’t start writing 10,000 words a day. Start with 300 words.

Want to lose weight? Don’t stop eating ice cream. Eat one less ball of it.

Whatever it is, you need to start small. Starting big always leads to failure. It has to, because it’s not sustainable.

Start small. How small? The amount needs to be in your comfort zone. So if you think that reading 20 pages of a book is a bit too much, start with 10 or 5.

It needs to appear easy and be easy to do.

Do less today to do more in a year.

2. Stay Small

There is a notion of Kaizen which means continuous improvement. They use this notion in habits where they tell you to start with reading 1 page of a book a day and then gradually increase the amount you do over time.

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But the problem with this approach is the end line — where the “improvement” stops.

If I go from reading 1 page of a book a day and gradually reach 75 and 100, when do I stop? When I reach 1 book a day? That is just absurd.

When you start a habit, stay at it in the intensity you have decided. Don’t push yourself for more.

I started reading 20 pages of a book a day. It’s been more than 2 years now and I’ve read 101 books in that period. There is no way I will increase the number in the future.

Why?

Because reading 40 to 50 books a year is enough.

The same thing applies to every other habit out there.

Pick a (small) number and stay at it.

3. Bad Days Are 100 Percent Occurrence

No matter how great you are, you will have bad days where you won’t do your habit. Period.

There is no way of going around this. So it’s better to prepare yourself for when that happens instead of thinking that it won’t ever happen.

What I do when I miss a day of my habit(s) is that I try to bounce back the next day while trying to do habits for both of those days.

Example for that is if I read 20 pages of a book a day and I miss a day, the next day I will have to read 40 pages of a book. If I miss writing 500 words, the next day I need to write 1000.

This is a really important point we will discuss later on rewards and punishments.

This is how I prepare for the bad days when I skip my habit(s) and it’s a model you should take as well.

4. Those Who Track It, Hack It

When you track an activity, you can objectively tell what you did in the past days, weeks, months, and years. If you don’t track, you will for sure forget everything you did.

There are many different ways you can track your activities today, from Habitica to a simple Excel sheet that I use, to even a Whatsapp Tracker.

Peter Drucker said,

“What you track is what you do.”

So track it to do it — it really helps.

But tracking is accompanied by one more easy activity — measuring.

5. Measure Once, Do Twice

Peter Drucker also said,

“What you measure is what you improve.”

So alongside my tracker, I have numbers with which I measure doses of daily activities:

For reading, it’s 20 pages.
For writing, it’s 500 words.
For the gym, it’s 1 (I went) or 0 (didn’t go).
For budgeting, it’s writing down the incomes and expenses.

Tracking and measuring go hand in hand, they take less than 20 seconds a day but they create so much momentum that it’s unbelievable.

6. All Days Make a Difference

Will one day in the gym make you fit? It won’t.

Will two? They won’t.

Will three? They won’t.

Which means that a single gym session won’t make you fit. But after 100 gym sessions, you will look and feel fit.

What happened? Which one made you fit?

The answer to this (Sorites paradox)[1] is that no single gym session made you fit, they all did.

No single day makes a difference, but when combined, they all do. So trust the process and keep on going (small).

7. They Are Never Fully Automated

Gurus tell you that habits become automatic. And yes, some of them do, like showering a certain way of brushing your teeth.

But some habits don’t become automatic, they become a lifestyle.

What I mean by that is that you won’t automatically “wake up” in the gym and wonder how you got there.

It will just become a part of your lifestyle.

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The difference is that you do the first one automatically, without conscious thought, while the other is a part of how you live your life.

It’s not automatic, but it’s a decision you don’t ponder on or think about — you simply do it.

It will become easy at a certain point, but they will never become fully automated.

8. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There

Marshall Goldsmith has a great book with the same title to it. The phrase means that sometimes, you will need to ditch certain habits to make room for other ones which will bring you to the next step.

Don’t be afraid to evolve your habits when you sense that they don’t bring you where you want to go.

When I started reading, it was about reading business and tactic books. But two years into it, I switched to philosophy books which don’t teach me anything “applicable,” but instead teach me how to think.

The most important ability of the 21st century is the ability to learn, unlearn, and relearn. The strongest tree is the willow tree – not because it has the strongest root or biggest trunk, but because it is flexible enough to endure and sustain anything.

Be like a willow, adapting to the new ways of doing things.

9. Set a Goal and Then Forget It

The most successful of us know what they want to achieve, but they don’t focus on it.

Sounds paradoxical? You’re right, it does. But here is the logic behind it.

You need to have a goal of doing something – “I want to become a healthy individual” – and then, you need to reverse engineer how to get there with your habits- “I will go to the gym four times a week.”

But once you have your goal, you need to “forget” about it and only focus on the process. Because you are working on the process of becoming healthy and it’s always in the making. You will only be as healthy as you take care of your body.

So you have a goal which isn’t static but keeps on moving.

If you went to the gym 150 times year and you hit your goal, what would you do then? You would stop going to the gym.

This is why goal-oriented people experience yo-yo effect[2] and why process-oriented people don’t.

The difference between process-oriented and goal-oriented people is that the first focus on daily actions while others only focus on the reward at the finish line.

Set a goal but then forget about it and reap massive awards.

10. Punish Yourself

Last two sections are pure Pavlovian – you need to punish bad behavior and reward good behavior. You are the only person who decides what is good and what is bad for you, but when you do, you need to rigorously follow that.

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I’ve told you in point #3 about bad days and how after one occurs, I do double the work on the next day. That is one of my forms of punishments.

It’s the need to tell your brain that certain behaviors are unacceptable and that they lead to bad outcomes. That’s what punishments are for.

You want to tell your brain that there are real consequences to missing your daily habits.[3]

No favorite food to eat or favorite show to watch or going to the cinema for a new Marvel movie- none, zero, zilch.

The brain will remember these bad feelings and will try to avoid the behaviors that led to them as much as possible.

But don’t forget the other side of the same coin.

11. Reward Yourself

When you follow and execute on your plan, reward yourself. It’s how the brain knows that you did something good.

Whenever I finish one of my habits for the day, I open my tracker (who am I kidding, I always keep it open on my desktop) and fill it with a number. As soon as I finish reading 20 pages of a book a day (or a bit more), I open the tracker and write the number down.

The cell becomes green and gives me an instant boost of endorphin – a great success for the day. Then, it becomes all about not breaking the chain and having as many green fields as possible.

After 100 days, I crunch some numbers and see how I did.

If I have less than 10 cheat days, I reward myself with a great meal in a restaurant. You can create your own rewards and they can be daily, weekly, monthly or any arbitrary time table that you create.

Primoz Bozic, a productivity coach, has gold, silver, and bronze medals as his reward system.[4]

If you’re having problems creating a system which works for you, contact me via email and we can discuss specifics.

In the End, It Matters

What you do matters not only to you but to the people around you.

When you increase the quality of your life, you indirectly increase the quality of life of people around you. And sometimes, that is all the “motivation” we need to start.

And that’s the best quote for the end of this article:

“Motivation gets you started, but habits keep you going.”

Keep going.

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Reference

[1] Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy: Sorites paradox
[2] Muscle Zone: What causes yo-yo effect and how to avoid it?
[3] Growth Habits: 5 Missteps That Cause You To Quit Building A Habit
[4] Primoz Bozic: The Lean Review: How to Plan Your 2019 in 20 Minutes

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