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7 Habits Of Highly Successful Failures

7 Habits Of Highly Successful Failures

Many people hold the common belief that it takes luck in order to succeed at life, but I’m about to tell you why that belief is absurd. Luck has nothing to do with success in life. Rather, it’s the daily habits and mindset of the individual which will determine whether they will succeed or fail. If you truly want to succeed in life then it’s important that you identify bad habits and common pitfalls to avoid in order to set you on the right path towards success.

1. Being Afraid Of Change

The first reason why you aren’t seeing any tremendous leaps of success in life is because you’re afraid to change. What are you afraid to change, you ask? Well everything! In order to succeed in life, you are going to have to learn how to change your behaviors, mindset, how you spend your time, and maybe even your career! There was a quote by a successful businessman who once said…

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what what you’ve always got.” – Henry Ford

In order to achieve your desired level of success and overcome failure then you are going to have to think outside of the box and play the game of life differently then how you’re playing it now. Even the smallest changes that you make in your daily habits can make a huge difference!

2. Playing The Blame Game

We’ve all been there before, that moment where we put the blame on someone else for our lack of success or when we give up because a situation is out of our hands. Well, let me tell you something. You aren’t accomplishing anything by blaming other people for your failures or giving up because you have no control over your situation. Instead of blaming others, accept responsibility for your failure, move on, and start over again.

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“A man can get discouraged many times but he is not a failure until he begins to blame somebody else and stop trying.” – John Burroughs

Most successful people that I know are people who take responsibility for their actions, they don’t blame third parties or other people for their problems, and they believe that they can overcome any obstacle as long as they work hard to do so. It’s your mindset which will determine whether you really can overcome the impossible or not.

3. Not Believing In Yourself

It’s one thing to blame others but it’s even worse to not believe in yourself and your aspirations in life. Maybe you aspire to make something out of yourself in life but you are constantly bombarded with negative thoughts in your head saying that you aren’t ready or that you aren’t good enough. Well you know what, those thoughts in your head are right. You aren’t ready and maybe you aren’t good enough.

“To be a champ you have to believe in yourself when no one else will.” – Sugar Ray Robinson

But so what? Are you going to let your thoughts stop you from taking the first step and doing what you were destined to do? Are you going to let a bunch of thoughts tell you what you can and can’t do in life? Break the shackles now and follow your heart. If you believe that what you’re doing is right and it’s what you were meant to do then don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. Do what you love and live life as you want. Believe in yourself and you can overcome any obstacle that tries to feed those negative thoughts.

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4. Waiting Until The Very Last Minute

The difference between a successful person and a failure is time management. Successful people are doers, they get things done and they get them done on time. Failures are naysayers, they try to talk the talk before walking the walk. In order to succeed in life, you are going to have to learn how to beat procrastination and self motivate yourself each day to perform your tasks flawlessly.

“We have a strategic plan. It’s called doing things.” – Herb Kelleher

Not only do successful people get things done but they’ve also learned how to pick themselves back up after having a bad day. This is just as important as getting things done because you can’t let a bad event stop you from completing your day-to-day tasks. You can’t get back time that you’ve wasted but you can take prevent measures to avoid making the same silly mistakes in the future. The choice is yours.

5. Not Knowing What You Want To Do

Failures have a hard time determining exactly what it is that they want. Maybe, when you were a little kid, you decided that you were gonna be an astronaut when you grow up. And as you grew up, you’ve changed your mind dozens of times and even now, you’re still unsure of what you want to do. And it’s perfectly okay to be unsure! I mean, you have the rest of your life ahead of you so there’s plenty of time to think this through!

Well, do you wanna know something interesting? Successful people know exactly what they want to do in life, they probably knew what they wanted to do from an early age, long before you even thought about thinking about what you should be doing in life. And the reason that they are successful is because they stood firm with their aspiration long enough for them to succeed. For some careers, you may achieve success quicker than in others but that doesn’t mean that the quality of success is the same. Pick your career wisely, preferably, something that you love doing.

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“What you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while.” – Gretchen Rubin

6. Lack Of Planning

Without a plan, you’re setting yourself up for failure. In life, there are many other people out other there who probably have the same goals and aspirations as you and you’re fighting against them for a slice of the pie. If you want to win then you have to strategically create the best plan that you can possibly think of.

If your plan really is as good as you say then there should be no reason for your failure. Well, the thing is, there is no such thing as the best plan. Every plan has flaws in it and the person executing the plan could make mistakes that could foil a good plan before the plan is even fully executed.

“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.” – Truman Capote

In order to be successful, don’t just have a Plan A, have a Plan B, and even a Plan C. Let failure know that you were expecting him and show him your Plan B. And if that doesn’t work out, whip out Plan C.

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7. The Fear Of Failure

The last and most common reason that people fail in life is because we’re simply afraid to try something new with the possibility that we might fail. We’re afraid to take our chances and climb the mountain. We’re afraid of what might happen or whether we actually have a chance to succeed or not.

Well, let me tell you something, until you can overcome the fear of failure, you won’t ever succeed in anything in life. Until you develop a bit of confidence and strive for excellence in all areas of life, your life will continue to be mediocre and you won’t ever get the results that you hoped for.

“Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.”

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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