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7 Easy Ways To Make Your Own Luck

7 Easy Ways To Make Your Own Luck

Sometimes it feels like a small, select group of people people have all the luck. And you might sit around and wonder why you aren’t one of them. However, keep in mind that “luck” is not always as it appears – there are things that go on behind the scenes that the rest of us don’t necessarily see. So here are seven characteristics you should adopt so can create your own luck, too:

1. You are an opportunity magnet.

If you are just sitting around hoping that opportunity will knock on your door, then you are not being an opportunity magnet. For example, if you want to meet Mr. or Ms. Right, you can’t just stay home every weekend and watch sad romantic movies by yourself. Instead, you should accept that co-worker’s invitation to go to happy hour with a group of friends. You never know – Mr./Ms. Right might be there. Or get yourself out on an internet dating site. However you do it, you need to keep your eye out for any opportunity that might bring your desire to you.

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2. You should loosen up and let unexpected things happen.

Getting out of our comfort zone is difficult for some people. For example, maybe a friend of yours just told you about an awesome investment opportunity. You might not have even been looking to invest any of your money. And if you’re not a risk-taker, you might be tempted to turn it down. But we all know the saying, “nothing ventured, nothing gained.” It’s true. So loosen up and warm up to the idea of unexpected opportunities to come your way.

3. You can be outgoing.

Believe it or not, luck often happens through connecting with other people. Maybe you’re looking to change careers. And it’s great to get your resume out on the online job search websites, but there is a chance it might get lost in cyberspace among all of the other people’s resumes. So in addition to doing that, you should start networking. Get yourself out there and go to business meetings. Go to parties. Pass out your business card. Tell everyone you know that you are looking for a new career. We often hear, “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.” So being a “people person” will definitely bring more luck into your life.

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4. You should be flexible.

Maybe you are a great goal-setter. You have your eye on the prize, and you don’t let anything distract you from getting there. For example, maybe you want to make some extra money, so you start an online business. Meanwhile, people start asking you to speak to their groups and offer to pay you a fee. If you turn down those opportunities, maybe you are not embracing the unexpected. Keep your eyes open to alternatives to your plan. You don’t have to change the plan if you don’t want to, just be flexible and don’t ignore other interesting things that come across your path.

5. You shouldn’t be afraid to fail.

Failing is a part of life. As Thomas Edison said, “I failed my way to success.” Did he invent the light bulb on the first try? Heck no! It took a lot of “failures” for him to figure it out. And while it might seem like movie stars are “lucky,” think about how many times they got rejected before they got their big break. If they had given up, then they wouldn’t appear to be “lucky.” They would be just another starving actor. So put in the effort and accept the fact that success doesn’t happen overnight

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6. You work hard.

Do you think that Donald Trump became a billionaire by sitting around eating bon-bons? Or did Oprah become the most famous woman on the planet by watching soap operas all day? Of course not! Many people look at them and call them “lucky,” but they worked their tails off to get where they are. They embraced opportunities and the possibility of failure. They kept showing up and doing the work required to get where they are. So while they appear to be lucky, they are really just talented, hard workers.

7. You change your thoughts and mindset.

Success starts with you. Luck starts with you. In fact everything starts with you. I have two mottos I live by: “Success from the inside – out” and “Change your thinking, change your life.” The reason those are my mottos is because you can’t change your outer world unless you change your inner world. So if you are going around with all sorts of negative thoughts in your head, you will not have the right mindset for creating your own luck. Instead, you need to monitor your negative thoughts and change them into positive ones.

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Creating your own luck doesn’t have to be difficult. If you try to adopt these seven characteristics of “lucky people,” then you will be just fine.

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Carol Morgan

Dr. Carol Morgan is the owner of HerSideHisSide.com, a communication professor, dating & relationship coach, TV personality, speaker, and author.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

The Power of Ritual: Conquer Procrastination, Time Wasters and Laziness

The Power of Ritual: Conquer Procrastination, Time Wasters and Laziness

Life is wasted in the in-between times. The time between when your alarm first rings and when you finally decide to get out of bed. The time between when you sit at your desk and when productive work begins. The time between making a decision and doing something about it.

Slowly, your day is whittled away from all the unused in-between moments. Eventually, time wasters, laziness, and procrastination get the better of you.

The solution to reclaim these lost middle moments is by creating rituals. Every culture on earth uses rituals to transfer information and encode behaviors that are deemed important. Personal rituals can help you build a better pattern for handling everything from how you wake up to how you work.

Unfortunately, when most people see rituals, they see pointless superstitions. Indeed, many rituals are based on a primitive understanding of the world. But by building personal rituals, you get to encode the behaviors you feel are important and cut out the wasted middle moments.

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Program Your Own Algorithms

Another way of viewing rituals is by seeing them as computer algorithms. An algorithm is a set of instructions that is repeated to get a result.

Some algorithms are highly efficient, sorting or searching millions of pieces of data in a few seconds. Other algorithms are bulky and awkward, taking hours to do the same task.

By forming rituals, you are building algorithms for your behavior. Take the delayed and painful pattern of waking up, debating whether to sleep in for another two minutes, hitting the snooze button, repeat until almost late for work. This could be reprogrammed to get out of bed immediately, without debating your decision.

How to Form a Ritual

I’ve set up personal rituals for myself for handling e-mail, waking up each morning, writing articles, and reading books. Far from making me inflexible, these rituals give me a useful default pattern that works best 99% of the time. Whenever my current ritual won’t work, I’m always free to stop using it.

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Forming a ritual isn’t too difficult, and the same principles for changing habits apply:

  1. Write out your sequence of behavior. I suggest starting with a simple ritual of only 3-4 steps maximum. Wait until you’ve established a ritual before you try to add new steps.
  2. Commit to following your ritual for thirty days. This step will take the idea and condition it into your nervous system as a habit.
  3. Define a clear trigger. When does your ritual start? A ritual to wake up is easy—the sound of your alarm clock will work. As for what triggers you to go to the gym, read a book or answer e-mail—you’ll have to decide.
  4. Tweak the Pattern. Your algorithm probably won’t be perfectly efficient the first time. Making a few tweaks after the first 30-day trial can make your ritual more useful.

Ways to Use a Ritual

Based on the above ideas, here are some ways you could implement your own rituals:

1. Waking Up

Set up a morning ritual for when you wake up and the next few things you do immediately afterward. To combat the grogginess after immediately waking up, my solution is to do a few pushups right after getting out of bed. After that, I sneak in ninety minutes of reading before getting ready for morning classes.

2. Web Usage

How often do you answer e-mail, look at Google Reader, or check Facebook each day? I found by taking all my daily internet needs and compressing them into one, highly-efficient ritual, I was able to cut off 75% of my web time without losing any communication.

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3. Reading

How much time do you get to read books? If your library isn’t as large as you’d like, you might want to consider the rituals you use for reading. Programming a few steps to trigger yourself to read instead of watching television or during a break in your day can chew through dozens of books each year.

4. Friendliness

Rituals can also help with communication. Set up a ritual of starting a conversation when you have opportunities to meet people.

5. Working

One of the hardest barriers when overcoming procrastination is building up a concentrated flow. Building those steps into a ritual can allow you to quickly start working or continue working after an interruption.

6. Going to the gym

If exercising is a struggle, encoding a ritual can remove a lot of the difficulty. Set up a quick ritual for going to exercise right after work or when you wake up.

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7. Exercise

Even within your workouts, you can have rituals. Spacing the time between runs or reps with a certain number of breaths can remove the guesswork. Forming a ritual of doing certain exercises in a particular order can save time.

8. Sleeping

Form a calming ritual in the last 30-60 minutes of your day before you go to bed. This will help slow yourself down and make falling asleep much easier. Especially if you plan to get up full of energy in the morning, it will help if you remove insomnia.

8. Weekly Reviews

The weekly review is a big part of the GTD system. By making a simple ritual checklist for my weekly review, I can get the most out of this exercise in less time. Originally, I did holistic reviews where I wrote my thoughts on the week and progress as a whole. Now, I narrow my focus toward specific plans, ideas, and measurements.

Final Thoughts

We all want to be productive. But time wasters, procrastination, and laziness sometimes get the better of us. If you’re facing such difficulties, don’t be afraid to make use of these rituals to help you conquer them.

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