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7 Easy Ways To Make Your Own Luck

7 Easy Ways To Make Your Own Luck

Sometimes it feels like a small, select group of people people have all the luck. And you might sit around and wonder why you aren’t one of them. However, keep in mind that “luck” is not always as it appears – there are things that go on behind the scenes that the rest of us don’t necessarily see. So here are seven characteristics you should adopt so can create your own luck, too:

1. You are an opportunity magnet.

If you are just sitting around hoping that opportunity will knock on your door, then you are not being an opportunity magnet. For example, if you want to meet Mr. or Ms. Right, you can’t just stay home every weekend and watch sad romantic movies by yourself. Instead, you should accept that co-worker’s invitation to go to happy hour with a group of friends. You never know – Mr./Ms. Right might be there. Or get yourself out on an internet dating site. However you do it, you need to keep your eye out for any opportunity that might bring your desire to you.

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2. You should loosen up and let unexpected things happen.

Getting out of our comfort zone is difficult for some people. For example, maybe a friend of yours just told you about an awesome investment opportunity. You might not have even been looking to invest any of your money. And if you’re not a risk-taker, you might be tempted to turn it down. But we all know the saying, “nothing ventured, nothing gained.” It’s true. So loosen up and warm up to the idea of unexpected opportunities to come your way.

3. You can be outgoing.

Believe it or not, luck often happens through connecting with other people. Maybe you’re looking to change careers. And it’s great to get your resume out on the online job search websites, but there is a chance it might get lost in cyberspace among all of the other people’s resumes. So in addition to doing that, you should start networking. Get yourself out there and go to business meetings. Go to parties. Pass out your business card. Tell everyone you know that you are looking for a new career. We often hear, “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.” So being a “people person” will definitely bring more luck into your life.

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4. You should be flexible.

Maybe you are a great goal-setter. You have your eye on the prize, and you don’t let anything distract you from getting there. For example, maybe you want to make some extra money, so you start an online business. Meanwhile, people start asking you to speak to their groups and offer to pay you a fee. If you turn down those opportunities, maybe you are not embracing the unexpected. Keep your eyes open to alternatives to your plan. You don’t have to change the plan if you don’t want to, just be flexible and don’t ignore other interesting things that come across your path.

5. You shouldn’t be afraid to fail.

Failing is a part of life. As Thomas Edison said, “I failed my way to success.” Did he invent the light bulb on the first try? Heck no! It took a lot of “failures” for him to figure it out. And while it might seem like movie stars are “lucky,” think about how many times they got rejected before they got their big break. If they had given up, then they wouldn’t appear to be “lucky.” They would be just another starving actor. So put in the effort and accept the fact that success doesn’t happen overnight

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6. You work hard.

Do you think that Donald Trump became a billionaire by sitting around eating bon-bons? Or did Oprah become the most famous woman on the planet by watching soap operas all day? Of course not! Many people look at them and call them “lucky,” but they worked their tails off to get where they are. They embraced opportunities and the possibility of failure. They kept showing up and doing the work required to get where they are. So while they appear to be lucky, they are really just talented, hard workers.

7. You change your thoughts and mindset.

Success starts with you. Luck starts with you. In fact everything starts with you. I have two mottos I live by: “Success from the inside – out” and “Change your thinking, change your life.” The reason those are my mottos is because you can’t change your outer world unless you change your inner world. So if you are going around with all sorts of negative thoughts in your head, you will not have the right mindset for creating your own luck. Instead, you need to monitor your negative thoughts and change them into positive ones.

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Creating your own luck doesn’t have to be difficult. If you try to adopt these seven characteristics of “lucky people,” then you will be just fine.

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Carol Morgan

Dr. Carol Morgan is the owner of HerSideHisSide.com, a communication professor, dating & relationship coach, TV personality, speaker, and author.

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Last Updated on May 23, 2019

Ditch Work Life Balance and Embrace Work Life Harmony

Ditch Work Life Balance and Embrace Work Life Harmony

How do you usually go about your day?

Do you wake up in the morning, get ready for work, and then spend the whole day looking forward to being at home and unwinding?

We often hear about work life balance – having a good balance between work and personal time. Whilst this may sound like a smart idea, it can also imply that we should dedicate at least half of our time to work–and sacrifice time for our “personal life”.

To me, that seems…off balance. Because, the truth is, it’s nearly impossible to split your time equally between the two. And, you may end up stressing out if you’re not able to meet that expectation of balance.

Instead, why not think of having work life harmony instead?

With this mindset, you can actually integrate work into your life in a way that feels more complete. This way, you don’t need to view work and having personal time as separate.

So, how do you achieve work life harmony?

Work Life Harmony Explained

The difference between work life balance and work life harmony is pretty simple. With the former, there is an implication that you have to sacrifice your “life” for work. But, this is the worst way to go about things! How can you truly be at peace in life if you dread 8 hours of your day?

Work life harmony on the other hand, allows your work to be a part of your life. This means that you can choose to be happy both at home, and at work! Work no longer needs to be seen as the ‘bad’ or un-fun activity.

Having work life harmony also ensures you’re truly present in whatever place you find yourself.

Just take a look at Jeff Bezos, CEO of Amazon for example.

He uses a non traditional approach to work by making time for breakfast every morning with his family, doesn’t set his alarm before going to bed, schedules surprisingly few meetings, and still puts aside a few minutes every day to wash his own dishes.

He believes that all his staff should stop trying to achieve a ‘balance’ in their work and personal lives as that implies a trade off. Instead, he envisions a more holistic relationship between the two.

As the world’s richest man, he must be doing something right!

Rethink Time Management

Now, when we think of striking a balance, we usually associate it with time, don’t we? How much time are we spending at work versus how much time are we spending in our personal lives?Are we taking enough time to be with our loved ones, to do meaningful activities with others or even for ourselves, or are we just dedicating all our time to work?

This is the so-called-balance that many struggle with.

With work life harmony, we learn to rethink time management. By re-assessing how you manage your time, you’ll have a lot more of it. It’s incredible how much time can get wasted over the period of a day–especially when you’re not accurately tracking it.

Unfortunately, unless you’re consciously making an effort, your brain is not always the best at making accurate judgement calls when it comes to prioritizing. It tends to have a bias towards short term benefits and short term costs.

As there are often many more options our brains link to short term benefit; when you’re trying to focus on a task that gives you a long term benefit, that task usually becomes low priority. This is otherwise known as Priority Chaos.

In order to overcome this and be in better control of your time, identify the tasks that need the most focus to get accomplished. If it’s a big task, then it’s good to break it down into smaller bite-sized actions that will provide you with a clearer short term benefit.

When setting up tasks, give yourself a time limit. The brain has a bias towards short term benefits, and your attention span is limited, so if your tasks are going to take ages to complete, you’ll end up losing focus… and wasting time.

Once you have all your tasks written down, it’s time to prioritize them. Since you have a time limit, your focus should be on the top priority tasks. By doing this, you will already be able to get more done in less time at work!

Have Passion for What You Do

Managing your time is important in achieving that work life harmony. But, perhaps of greater importance, is loving what you do in life. One of the most effective ways to achieve a work life harmony is to really enjoy, or find a purpose, in what you do for a living. Even though everyone isn’t always lucky enough to find a position that pays them for pursuing their passion, you can strive to find meaning in what you are already doing, or pursue something new entirely!

For example, say you work at an office that sells paper. While many people wouldn’t consider this a world changing pursuit, I beg to differ. Think of all the individuals in the world that rely on paper. From creative types to quantum physics experts, your role at your workplace brings incredible value to many many people all over the world. You will have, without a doubt, helped bring a new idea into existence. Several new ideas to be precise.

So have a think about what you’re doing now. Is it something that allows you to embrace your passion?

Or perhaps you might not even know what it is that you love or enjoy doing. Why not explore and reflect on what gives you joy and contentment? Is there an area or industry that you could see yourself exploring to experience that fulfillment?

Can you find a deeper purpose in what you’re already doing?

When you’re able to find meaning in your work, you’re that much closer to achieving work life harmony.

Don’t Be Intimidated By Obstacles and Limitations

Creating work life harmony is also about understanding yourself–which includes your limitations and past obstacles–as this allows you to become more resilient.

If you never had to experience struggles, challenges or setbacks, then you would never be forced to adapt and mature. So in theory, having to face obstacles in life is actually quite necessary.

Most of us think of setbacks and obstacles as negative. Though, if you’re able to maintain an optimistic attitude, you’ll almost always have a higher chance of success of overcoming those obstacles to reach your eventual goal.

Your attitude towards setbacks will define the outcome of whether you rise from the challenge or remain stuck in it. So, in order to achieve work life harmony, it’s important to have a resilient attitude as challenges will always come your way–especially when you strive to integrate work into your life, and not a separate or dominant part of life.

Delegate When You Need To

Of course, when you want to increase productivity and minimize the time or effort spent, a great way to do so is to delegate!

If you spend a lot of time doing tasks on your own that could be delegated to others (whether at work or at home) you’re losing a lot of precious free time that could otherwise be spent elsewhere.

At the end of the day, we all have a limited amount of time. So we should all be striving to create a harmonious work and living situation where we can find meaning in all that we do.

While an overall goal may be meaningful, not all of the milestones or tasks needed to get there may be meaningful. That’s because we have our strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. Not every task is going to be enjoyable or easy to complete. That’s where delegation comes in.

Delegation simply allows you to leverage time from an external source, thus giving you opportunities to increase your own quality of time. Keep in mind that delegation should be done with deliberate attention, otherwise you may end up over relying on others.

If you find that you’re running into the problem of over delegating, then it may be time to re-evaluate your motivation for doing whatever it is that you’re doing.

Embrace the Circle and Become Happier and More Productive

Living in harmony is about feeling good about the ways in which you spend your time, despite how busy you may be.Your switch from work mode to a more personal mode should be effortless. It’s about integrating your personal life and the things you love into your busy work life!

It all begins with the shift in perspective. Understanding what your passions are, and learning to be resilient, before taking a different approach to the way you manage your time and everyday tasks.

These are steps that you can start taking to move away from balance to harmony. 

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