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14 Things Successful People Do Differently

14 Things Successful People Do Differently

Do you know someone who is financially, emotionally, and physically secure? Ever met a man or woman with healthy relationships, a healthy pocketbook, a fit physique, and a charismatic smile that tells you they’re happy and they know it?

Ever wondered how successful people got that way?

As it turns out, these go-getters have a lot in common. Join their ranks and increase your personal and professional satisfaction with these 14 tips from successful people:

1. Define “success” for yourself.

What does your perfect day look like? How do you spend your time, who do you see, what do you do? Is there a family in this picture? Do you get dressed up or embrace your inner pajama-wearing night owl? No two definitions of “success” are the same, nor should they be — the state is that highly personal one where you are happy, healthy, and provided for.

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2. Recognize “success” as a dynamic state, with a changing definition.

What you want and need, what makes you happy, will evolve over time. Allow this evolution to shape your ambitions.

3. Enjoy the process.

Because what you want, need and pursue will change, focus on the process rather than a finite end state. After all, the process is all that you have to keep you going day in and day out; find satisfaction there.

4. Be willing to give things up.

If you have time “for yourself,” or “to relax,” or “you time” during your first year of startup in a new business, you aren’t working hard enough. Likewise, don’t expect a day off during a crunch season in your industry or at your company. “Work-life balance” often means taking only as much as you are happy with from one, to feed the other. In practice, there are a finite number of hours in the day. If you are using them to pursue success, there won’t be much left over.

5. Relentlessly pursue goals.

First, establish a quantifiable, readily explained goal, stated in simple terms. Then, dedicate all your resources of time, energy and money to it. If an endeavor does not further this stated goal, then do not pursue it.

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6. Study, every day.

There is such a vast amount to explore in this world and your corner in it. Successful people are intellectually curious, insatiably hungry for more information and new outlooks.

7. Take advantage of small chunks of time.

People who say they “don’t have time” are wrong — they do have time. They’re probably wasting it zoning out on the train, watching television while they cook, or in some other dribbling way. Know where your time goes, and use small parts of it. It takes a few minutes to return emails or phone calls, or make a little bit of progress around your house or office. Pull a weed every time you step across the lawn, always have a book handy, have the phone number of the next call you need to make at the ready, in case you find yourself in line. There are scraps of time littered throughout your day — use them productively.

8. Rest when needed.

We’re human. We tire. We need sleep. We need quality food and fuel. Give your body and mind these things, if you expect them to perform.

9. Keep a “brains book.”

Don’t rely on your memory — keep a small notebook with you at all times to jot down tasks, notes, and great ideas as they come.

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10. See challenges as a source of inspiration.

You will fail at some point, or many points. Dust yourself off, and resolve to be better. If you’re down, you’re out, and you’ll never become successful without staying in the game.

11. Allow not even the sky to limit you.

Someone who says you can’t means they can’t, or they haven’t tried. Dream big. Work harder.

12. Live joyfully.

Successful people are such by their own terms. When you get there, and as you work to stay there, enjoy it! This is your life, your days, your time, and you built this success. Be proud. Be happy.

13. Empower the team.

It takes a village to do most things worth doing. Also, you’re not the best at everything. Surround yourself with good people, pay them well, let them do their jobs. Trust them. Give them room to grow. Create an environment in which you are an important part of someone else’s success.

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14. Peel back the curtain.

Approach your own feelings, responses, and challenges with intellectual curiosity and a determination to become better.

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Featured photo credit: Moon Shots via flickr.com

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Published on July 22, 2019

The Secret to Success Is Failure

The Secret to Success Is Failure

You see a job that you’d love to do; and, you decide to go for it.

You submit your application, and then are pleased to find a few days later that you’re invited for an interview. This goes well, and you begin to have quiet optimism that a job offer will be coming your way soon…

It doesn’t.

Instead, you receive a letter saying thank you — but, they’ve decided to go with another candidate.

At this point, you could allow yourself to feel defeated, sad, and perhaps even a little angry. These are normal responses to bad news. Yet, it’s not wise to let them fester and disrupt your goals. Successful people don’t let failures kill their dreams.

Sure, they might temporarily feel deflated. But, very quickly, they pick themselves back up again and begin planning their next steps towards success.

How about you? Do you currently feel embarrassed or guilty about failing?

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Don’t worry if you do, as most of us have been programmed since childhood to see failure as a bad thing. Yet, as I’m going to show you in the next few minutes, this programming is dead wrong — failure is actually an essential part of success.

Don’t Be Tempted by Perfection

The first thing I want you to think about is this:

Resisting failure is, at its core, seeking perfection. And, perfection doesn’t exist.

That’s why perfectionists are also likely to be chronic procrastinators.

As Psychology Today noted in their article Pitfalls of Perfectionism, people who constantly seek for perfection stop themselves from engaging in challenging experiences.[1] That’s because these perfectionists are less creative and innovative than the average person — plus they’re less likely to take risks. Add these factors together, and you have someone who is overly focused on their own performance and is always quick to defend themselves. Unfortunately, these traits prevent them from having the necessary focus when it comes to learning new tasks.

Let me be clear: Striving for perfection is not the same as striving for excellence.

The former is a fool’s quest for the unattainable; while the latter is really just about doing our very best (which we can all obtain).

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And, there’s another problem that perfectionists have to deal with. Namely, when they fail to reach their ideal, they feel dejected and defeated. And — as you can imagine — repeat this often enough, and these people can end up feeling bitter and depressed about their lives.

So, forget about seeking perfection, and instead, focus on always doing your very best.

Why Failure Is Good

I recently came across a Forbes article Failing Your Way To Success: Why Failure Is A Crucial Ingredient For Success[2] that helped explain why most people are opposed to failure.

The article referenced the work of two world-renowned psychologists (Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky), who were awarded a Nobel Prize for their work. They discovered something very interesting: the effect of a loss is twice as great as the gain from a win.

Have you ever thought about that before?

What it means is that failure has a far greater negative impact on us than the positive impact of an equivalent win. It’s no wonder then that most people are afraid to fail.

And, here’s where it gets interesting…

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Amazon (which along with Apple, Facebook and Google, is considered one of the Big Four technology companies) has a culture that is tolerant of failure. And Jeff Bezos — Amazon’s founder and CEO — believes that this culture is one of the main reasons for the company’s big achievements over the last 25 years. In a letter to shareholders, he said:

“Failure comes part and parcel with invention. It’s not optional. We understand that and believe in failing early and iterating until we get it right.” 

The truth is, failure can open up a world of exciting opportunities for you.

How does it do this?

By constantly showing you new avenues to travel on. And, by helping you learn from your mistakes — so you can be better next time around. It also helps you identify what’s not working for your life, and what is.

So instead of seeing something as detrimental to success, you should see it as a tool FOR success. A tool that will help you to continually refine your journey in life.

If you still need some convincing that the secret to success is failure, then take a look at the following excerpts from our article 10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On:

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• J.K. Rowling encountered a catalog of failures shortly after graduating from college, including: being jobless, the breakdown of her marriage, and living as a lone parent. However, instead of giving up on life, she used these failures to propel her to write the Harry Potter fantasy series — the best-selling book series in history.

• Walt Disney didn’t have an easy start either. He dropped out of school at a young age in a failed attempt to join the army. Later, one of his early business ventures, Laugh-o-Gram Studios, went bankrupt. He was also fired from a Missouri newspaper for “not being creative enough.” (Yes, you read that correctly.) Was he defeated by these failures? Just ask Mickey Mouse.

• Michael Jordan had this to say about the power of failure: “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

Embrace Failure, and Prepare for Success

I hope this has been an eye-opener for you.

Failure has long been branded a leper; but in reality, it’s a healthy, essential component of success.

The trick of course is to develop the mindset of a winner. Someone who sees failures as stepping stones to success — and defeats as important learning experiences.

So, are you ready to embrace your failures and take the proud road to success?

I sincerely hope so.

Featured photo credit: Bruce Mars via unsplash.com

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