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10 Things Highly Effective People Don’t Do

10 Things Highly Effective People Don’t Do

Sadly, there are very few people who are satisfied with their current work and life. Mostly all of us want a good pay raise, a promotion or want to join a better position at a different company. Yet, in today’s economic environment, there are a few people who are highly effective at work (and life). Those effective people have secrets to their success and manage to achieve their goals. If you want to join them, adopt some of these habits of highly effective people.

1. They don’t accept negativity

If you keep a positive outlook in life, it will affect your whole life in a way that would impossible to measure. As a popular saying goes “act like you’re already rich” to “see the good side of everything.” So, be ambitious not disappointed. Be proactive, not lethargic. A cheerful, positive attitude rubs off on your supervisors and colleagues and helps grease the wheel to upward movement.

2. They don’t work “harder.”

There are two techniques to get more work on your job. You can either come in to work early or stay late at work. Or, you can work efficiently in the same amount of time. Efficiency at work amounts for a lot, mainly when your company tracks your time per task through time tracking sheet like my company does or a similar service. Joining both methods — working smarter and longer — can be a wonderful display of the ability and desire it takes to move up.

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3. They don’t lack confidence.

The biggest thing that holds many people back is lack of confidence to ask for things they want from their bosses. Whether they want raises, or a promotion, or a transfer to another department. They can never get any of them if they don’t know the way to how to ask. You need to learn how to ask for what you want. Learn to identify when a refusal is something you can work past, and when it’s an indication you should find another company.

4. They don’t lack initiative.

Be proactive and take the initiative in your life and at work. Your promotions won’t fall in your lap if you’re not improving your situation and performance. Take some serious steps to make your life and job more effective and efficient. Don’t step on others to get ahead; work with others to raise up everyone.

5. They don’t avoid risk.

Businesses need to implement risk management to hold managers accountable for revenue growth and productivity. Highly effective people treat themselves no differently. They calculate risks and choose the best possible return option for the least possible risk. At work, only you have the viewpoint to analyze your position for the risks and rewards.

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6. They don’t always work alone.

Acting without a focused and defined goal is much like driving without a destination in mind. No one can reach anywhere without knowing where they’re heading. Take some time to define your dreams and the necessary steps to reach them. Analyze and decide the way you need to approach your life for positive results. At work, pool the strengths of other people through teamwork, to achieve the goals no one person could have done alone.

7. They don’t stress out.

If you are working harder to push yourself towards your dreams, it could become a dangerous process. You could burn yourself out. Always take some time for yourself for your family. Spend time in a hobby that brings you peace of mind. Learn to distinguish the signs of stress and burnout and learn how to battle them.

8. They don’t avoid making decisions.

Successful and effective people are expert decision makers in every field of life. They help empower their associates and colleagues so they can reach a planned conclusion or they do the task themselves.  They emphasize on “making things happen” at all times and work on activities that sustain progress.  Effective people master the art of politicking and thus they don’t waste their time on issues that disturb their momentum.

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9. They don’t avoid opportunities.

Sometimes we don’t find the right opportunity, satisfaction or flexibility we desire in our current job. Effective people recognize the best opportunity and take steps to change their careers intelligently. Opportunities are always available for motivated and effective people.

10. They don’t say yes all of the time.

Many of us want to accept everything and help everyone around us. Effective and successful people set boundaries for themselves in order to preserve their energy, time and space. Learn to say “No.” Effective people recognize that they’re their own best asset and that they have to take care of themselves first before helping someone else.

So, be prepared for new opportunities, take necessary steps to reach goals and keep working towards achieving them every day. When you develop these habits for success, you’ll achieve your goals.

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Tayyab is a PR/Marketing consultant. He writes about work, productivity and tech tips at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on August 20, 2019

26 Useful Things to Learn Now That Will Change Your Life

26 Useful Things to Learn Now That Will Change Your Life

If you pay attention to your everyday life careful enough, you’ll know that you can learn from everything and everyone you come across. Our life is basically full of useful lessons that we should learn.

Here are 26 useful things to learn that Abhishek A. Singh shared on Quora. Let’s see how these life theories would lead you to live a different life.

1. Primacy and recency: People mostly remember the first and last things that occurred, barely the middle.

When scheduling an interview, ask the employer the time slots they do interviews and try to be the first or the last.

2. If you work in a bar or in customer service of any kind, put a mirror behind you at the counter.

In this way, angry customers who approach you will have to see themselves in the mirror behind you and the chance of them behaving irrationally will be lowered significantly.

3. Once you make a sales pitch, don’t say anything else.

This works in sales, but it can also be applied in other ways.

My previous boss was training me and just gave me pointers. I was working at a gym trying to sell memberships. He told me that once I got all the small talk out of the way and presented the prices, the first person to talk would lose.

It didn’t seem like a big deal but it actually worked. Often there were long periods of awkward silence as the person tried to come up with some excuses, but usually they bought.

4. If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer, just wait.

If you stay silent and keep eye contact, they will usually continue to talk.

5. Chew gum when you’re approaching a situation that would make you nervous, like public speaking or bungee jumping.

When we eat, our brain tell ourselves, “I would not be eating if I were danger. So I’m not in danger.” This has helped me to stay calm.

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6. People will always remember how you made them feel, not what you said.

Also, most people like talking about themselves; so ask lots of questions about them.

7. When you’re learning something new, teach it to a friend. Let them ask you questions about it.

If you’re able to teach something well, you will be sure that you’ve understood it very well.

8. If you get yourself to be really happy and excited to see other people, they will react the same to you.

It doesn’t always happen the first time, but it will definitely happen the next time.

9. The physical effects of stress — breathing rate and heart rate — are almost identical to the physical effects of courage.

When you’re feeling stressed in any situations, immediately reframe it : Your body is getting ready to be courageous, you are NOT stressed.

10. Pay attention to people’s feet.

If you approach two people in the middle of a conversation, and they only turn their torsos and not their feet, they don’t want you to join in the conversation.

Similarly, if you are in a conversation with a coworker who you think is paying attention to you and their torso is turned towards you but their feet are facing in another direction, they want the conversation to end.

11. Confidence is more important than knowledge.

Don’t be intimidated by anyone, everyone is playing a role and wearing a mask.

12. If you pretend to be something for long enough, you will eventually become it.

Fake it till you make it. Period.

13. Not to be creepy, but if you want to stare at someone unashamedly, look directly past them and wait for them to try and meet your eyes.

When they fail to do that, they’ll look around (usually nervously for a second) they won’t look at you again for some time. This is your chance to straight up stare at this person for at least 45 seconds.

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And as suggested by Brian Stutzman:

If you’re staring at someone and get caught, DON’T turn your head or your body to look away, because that just confirms that you were staring.

Just move your EYEBALLS off the person. Unlike turning your head, it’s instantaneous. And the person will think you were just looking at something behind them and that they were mistaken for thinking you were staring. Do it confidently, and ignore any reaction from the person, and you can sell it every single time.

After a second, you can even look back at them with a “Why are you staring at me?” look on your face to really cement the deal!

14. Build a network.

Become the information source, and let the information be yours. Even grabbing a beer with a former colleague once a year will keep you in the loop at the old office.

Former coworkers might have gotten a new position in that office you always wanted to work in, great! Go to them for a beer, and ask about the office. It’s all about connections and information.

15. If you are angry at the person in front of you driving like a grandmother…

Pretend it is your grandmother, it will significantly reduce your road rage.

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    16. Stand up straight.

    No slouching, hands out of pockets, and head held up high. It’s not just a cliche — you literally feel better and people around you feel more confident in you.

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    17. Avoid saying “I think,” and “I believe” unless absolutely necessary.

    These are phrases that do not evoke confidence, and will literally do you no good.

    18. When feeling anxious, clean up your home or work space.

    You will feel happier and more accomplished than before.

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      19. Always buy the first pitcher or round of drinks.

      You’d be surprised how long you could drink on the phrase “I bought the first one.”

      20. Going into an interview… be interested in your interviewers.

      If you focus on learning about them, you’ll seem to be more interesting and dynamic. (Again, people love to talk about themselves.)

      21. Pay attention parents! Always give your kid a choice that makes them think they are in control.

      For instance, when I want my son to put his shoes on I will say ,”do you want to put your star wars shoes on or your shark shoes on?”

      Pro-tip: In some cases, this works on adults.

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        22. Your action affects your attitude more than your attitude affects your action.

        As my former teacher said “You can jump and dance FOR joy, but you can also jump and dance yourself joyful.”

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        23. When a group of people laugh, people will instinctively look at the person they feel closest to in that group.

        Notice who you look at and who look at you when you laugh with a group of people!

        24. If you want to build rapport or gain someone’s trust quickly, match their body posture and position.

        If someone is sitting with her legs crossed, cross your legs. If they’re leaning away from you, lean away from them. If they’re leaning towards you, lean towards them.

        Mirroring and matching body position is a subconscious way to tell if someone trusts you or is comfortable with you. If you’re sitting with your arms crossed and you notice someone else is sitting with her arms crossed, that is a good indicator that you have/are successfully built/building rapport with that person.

        25. The Benjamin Franklin Effect (suggested by Matt Miller)

        I find the basis of the Benjamin Franklin effect is very useful and extends far beyond pencil borrowing. This knowledge is useful in the world of flirting too.

        Asking a girl in your class if you can borrow a pencil or her notes or to explain the homework will make her more likely to like you than if you let her borrow your stuff or are the one to help her. Even just asking a girl to buy you drinks (facetiously) leaves a much bigger impression than offering to or actually buying a girl a drink.

        The best part is it kills 3 birds with one stone: you get the advantages of the favor itself, the person subconsciously likes you more, and it makes them more open to future favors and conversation.

        26. Handle panic and anxiety behaviors by tapping fingers (Suggested by Jade Barbee)

        When you’re feeling stressed, worried or angry, tap each finger tip while thinking (or speaking quietly) a few specific words about what is bothering you. Repeat the same words while tapping each of your 10 fingers, including thumbs.

        For example, tap while saying, “I’m so angry with her…” Doing so will likely take the charge out of the feeling and return you to a more resourceful (better feeling) state of being. It’s called EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or “tapping,” and it is useful in many life situations – emotional sadness, physical pain, food cravings, traumatic memories…

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