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10 Reasons Why Some People Will Never Succeed

10 Reasons Why Some People Will Never Succeed

In O.G Mandino’s The greatest salesman in the world, a very important fact was made which said that:

“two amongst a thousand wise men, will define success in the same words, yet failure is always described in one way. Failure is man’s inability to reach his goals in life whatever they may be.”

While success is relative, subjective, holds monetary and non- monetary value, failure is more a “one size fits all” recipe. Below are ten things people do to fail on purpose.

1. They don’t understand the value of time.

“Any successful entrepreneur knows that time is more valuable than money itself.” – Richard Branson

Unsuccessful people don’t value their time. They are everywhere, anywhere, anytime because they lack the ability to dedicate their time towards their goals. And year after year they make new promises which never come to fruition simply because they couldn’t be bothered to put in the time required towards their goals. Time management skills, learning how to say no and knowing what commitments to undertake, is a step towards great success in any area of our lives.

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    2. They don’t do things that are in alignment with their goals

    “It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” – Roy Disney.

    The more important a goal is, the higher it will be on your hierarchy of values and the more discipline and order you will have associated with it. The less important a goal is, the lower it will be on your hierarchy of values and the less discipline and more disorder you’ll have associated with it. Unsuccessful people have mistaken busyness with productivity. They are a part of everything but nothing which they do is in alignment to their values and their goals. Writing down in a journal what your gaols are and implementing strategies which can get you there will help you identify things that are not on par with where you are going.

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      3. They never step up to the plate

      “People seem to think that success in one area can compensate for failure in other areas, but can it really? True effectiveness requires balance” – Stephen Covey

      So your boss sucks and you really hate your job but this is no reason to slack and produce mediocre work. You’re getting paid to be there so do it right, life has this universal law of giving you what you put in. It’s just maturity and wisdom to pursuit excellence no matter the circumstances. Unsuccessful people are the ones who are okay with getting bad grades and won’t bother finding an effective studying method that will help their learning ability, because after all, being a student of distinction is less about how smart you are but more about how well you can plan and prepare, and that makes you feel smarter and that in itself produces great results.

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        4. They have self-imposed limitations

        “You are what you are by what you believe” – Oprah Winfrey

        Unsuccessful people tend to say things like “I’m just not good with numbers”, “I just really hate studying”, and “I just don’t think I can run a successful business”. They put limits on themselves and excuse their behaviour but it’s really just a way of underachieving and aiming low enough to not miss. Get rid of the idea that you only have a specific set of skills and talents for specific tasks, stop thinking that you’re not as intelligent as the next person. What life requires of you is to make the most of yourself, for yourself, and for others.

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          5. They are good at making excuses

          “If you can’t make it good, at least make it look good” – Bill Gates

          These are the people who will find reasons and logic as to why they can’t and why they shouldn’t. They sometimes mistake this abhorrent tendency for “just being realistic”. They lack imagination and always find ways to justify why something shouldn’t be but they never really try. The best remedy for this is to stop your mind when it’s about to start making the excuses and re-ignite the engine that has started it all.

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            6. They lack class

            “You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.” ― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

            Unsuccessful people usually tend to have no social IQ. They say things like “well at least I’m being honest” or “this is how I am, deal with it”. They don’t know how to treat other people and tend to be arrogant, for no apparent reasons most of the time. Nobody likes a big mouth, a show off, a humble boaster, or people who don’t know how to just say thank you when given a compliment. These traits are unbecoming and are not what true class acts are made of. Being nice and polite to people you like is easy, being nice and polite to someone you cannot tolerate or who you are in constant disagreement with – that is character. Learning how to speak to people is a skill only few have mastered. It has been said the best way to test a man’s character is by watching how he acts when standing in a very long queue and is met with bad service, how he handles Christmas lights and his reaction when you ruin their expensive items.

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              7. They are procrastinators

              “Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone” ― Pablo Picasso

              The funny thing about this one is that they are usually self-proclaimed procrastinators. They see no shame in it. This goes back to them never understanding the value of time. They are okay with living a life that keeps up with yesterday. They live life as though they just have another one in the bank. Let’s just see how round one goes and if all else fails we press next or rewind or pause. Understanding that you start dying the moment you are born and wisdom to realize that every day is a gift and you owe it to yourself to do everything you can do in those twenty four hours because nothing’s ever promised today tomorrow.

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                8. They don’t’ take action

                “Do something today, your future self will thank you for” – Les Brown

                The simplicity of this rule of life may be why they disregard the magnitude of its effects. Unsuccessful people tend to ponder and leave footprints in the sands of time. They can talk a great game and they dream really big but they lack the courage to just go forth. Stop dreaming about what will be, dreams in themselves are not bad but get up, show up and DO something. Stop with the coffee shop meetings and go do something.

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                  9. They can’t face adversity

                  “All sunshine and no rain makes a dessert” – Arabian Proverb

                  There was a shepherd boy, he was not a warrior and he was small in size. He looked at a giant and said “I will strike you down and cut off your head” and that is exactly what he did. The thing with challenges is, they’re only as big as we make them seem and as strong as our weakness will allow. Unsuccessful people have not understood this and they give up all too quickly because things got uncomfortable, things got a little bit rough, they want roses without the thorns, babies without labour and a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow without bearing the storm. Overcoming challenges not only bring us closer to our goals but they turn us into someone we never imagined existed. Don’t be afraid to conquer fears and to enter new territory, step out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself. In the midst of adversity courage is born. You’ll never know how strong you are if you’ve never had to fight and sometimes you might fail but at least you failed and proved to Goliath that he wasn’t quite the Giant he thought he was.

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                    10. They are apathetic

                    “So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth” -Revelation 3:16

                    Yes there are natural fence sitters. They never have an opinion about anything, they can’t make decisions and are over the border plain ignorant. They can’t hold smart conversations and are not open minded if it isn’t directly in relation to what they know. They think everyone should view life the way they view it. They are indifferent about everything and stand for nothing. They don’t read, they don’t educate themselves past “formal education” and they put no effort into how they present themselves. Even if they never achieve their highest potential this is okay with them because in a world so full of wonder and curiosity they have managed to find a way to be bored. Apathy is a silent killer. Find something that you are passionate about, even if you don’t get paid for it. Put your gift to use.

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                      The people who are out there making things happen are not as extraordinary as we make them ought to be. They’re pretty plain and most of  the time after a second glance they’re not all that exceptional in any way but they’ve managed to get to where they are and stay there because they mastered the art of discipline and being the right person at the right time. Maybe you have so many things you want to complete and sometimes you feel so overwhelmed because, there’s just not enough time. Put the cell phone down, log off once in a while and stop minding everybody’s business and you’ll be amazed at the potential you’ll unlock.

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                        Published on January 16, 2019

                        How to Effectively Manage a Heavy Workload at Work

                        How to Effectively Manage a Heavy Workload at Work

                        We’re all busy, but sometimes we go through periods where the work piles up and it seems like it might never end.

                        You might have such a heavy workload that it feels too intimidating to even start.

                        You may have said yes to some or too many projects, and now you’re afraid you won’t be able to deliver.

                        That’s when you need to take a step back, take a deep breath, and start looking at what’s working and what’s not working.

                        Here’re 13 strategies you can use to get out from under your overwhelming workload:

                        1. Acknowledge You Can’t Do It All

                        Many of us have a tendency to think we can do more than we actually can. We take on more and more projects and responsibility and wear numerous hats.

                        We all have the opportunity to have and take on more work than we can reasonably expect to get done. Unfortunately, our workload is not static. Even now, while you are reading this article, I’m guessing that your inbox is filling up with fresh new tasks.

                        To make real, effective progress, you have to have both the courage and resourcefulness to say, “This is not working”. Acknowledge that you can’t do it all and look for better solutions.

                        At any given time in your life, there are likely many things that aren’t going according to plan. You have to be willing to be honest with yourself and those around you about what’s not working for you, both personally and professionally.

                        The more you exercise your ability to tell the truth about what’s working and what’s not working, the faster you’ll make progress.

                        2. Focus on Your Unique Strengths

                        Whether you’re an entrepreneur, a leader or working as part of a team, every individual has unique strengths they can bring to the table.

                        The challenge is that many people end up doing things that they’re simply not very good at.

                        In the pursuit of reaching your goals or delivering a project, people end up doing everything themselves or taking on things that don’t play to their unique strengths. This can result in frustration, overwhelm and overwork.

                        It can mean projects taking a lot longer to complete because of knowledge gaps, or simply not utilizing the unique strengths of other people you work with.

                        It is often not about how to complete this project more effectively but who can help deliver this project.

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                        So, what are your unique strengths that will ensure your workload is delivered more effectively? Here’re some questions to help you reflect:

                        • Are you a great strategist?
                        • Are you an effective planner?
                        • Is Project Management your strength?
                        • Is communication and bringing people together your strength?
                        • Are you the ideas person?
                        • Is Implementation your strength?

                        Think about how you can bring the biggest value to your work and the projects you undertake.

                        3. Use the Strengths of Your Team

                        One of the simplest ways to manage your workload effectively is to free up your time so you bring your highest level of energy, focus and strengths to each project.

                        Delegation or better teamwork is the solution.

                        Everyone has unique strengths. It’s essential to think teamwork rather than working in isolation to ensure projects can be completed effectively. Besides, every time you give away a task or project that doesn’t play to your unique strengths, you open up an opportunity to do something you’re more talented at. This will empower both yourself and those around you.

                        Rather than taking on all the responsibilities yourself, look at who you can work with to deliver the best results possible.

                        4. Take Time for Planning

                        “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe”. – Abraham Lincoln

                        One hour of effective planning could save hours of time. Rather than just rushing in and getting started on projects, take the time to map everything in.

                        You can take the time to think about:

                        • What’s the purpose of the project?
                        • How Important is it?
                        • When does it need to be delivered by?
                        • What is the best result and worst result for this project?
                        • What are the KPIs?
                        • What does the project plan and key milestones look like?
                        • Who is working on this project?
                        • What is everyone’s responsibilities?
                        • What tolerances can I add in?
                        • What are the review stages?
                        • What are the challenges we may face and the solutions for these challenges?

                        Having absolute clarity on the project, the project deliverables and the result you want can save a lot of time. It also gets you clear on the priorities and timelines, so you can block out the required amount of time to focus and concentrate.

                        5. Focus on Priorities

                        Not everything is a priority, although it can often feel, in the moment, that it is.

                        Whatever you’re working on, there is always the Most Urgent, Important or Most Valuable projects or tasks.

                        One tool you can use to maximize your productivity and focus on your biggest priorities is to use the Eisenhower Matrix. This strategic tool for taking action on the things that matter most is simple. You separate your actions based on four possibilities:

                        1. Urgent and important (tasks you will do immediately).
                        2. Important, but not urgent (tasks you will schedule to do later).
                        3. Urgent, but not important (tasks you will delegate to someone else).
                        4. Neither urgent nor important (tasks that you will eliminate).

                        James Clear has a great description on how to use the Eisenhower Matrix: How to be More Productive By Using the Eisenhower Box

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                          The method I use with my coaching clients is to ask them to lay out their Top Five priorities for the day. Then to start with the most important priority first. At the end of the day, you review performance against these priorities.

                          If you didn’t get everything accomplished, start the next day with your number one priority.

                          If you are given additional task/projects during the day, then you will need to gauge their importance V the other priorities.

                          6. Take Time Out

                          To stay on top of a heavy workload, it’s important to take time out to rest and recuperate.

                          If your energy levels are high and your mind and body is refreshed and alert, you are in more of a peak state to handle a heavy workload.

                          Take time out of your day to go for a walk or get some exercise in. Leave early when possible and spend time with people who give you a lot of energy.

                          In the background, it’s essential to get a good night’s sleep and eat healthily to sharpen the mind.

                          Take a look at this article learn about The Importance of Scheduling Downtime.

                          7. Maintain a Healthy Work-Life Balance

                          Maintaining a healthy work-life balance can be tough. The balance we all crave is very different from one another.

                          I’ve written before about 13 Work Life Balance Tips for a Happy and Productive Life. Working longer and harder doesn’t mean achieving more, especially if you have no time to spend with the people that matter most. The quality of who you are as a person, the relationships you have, the time you spend in work, deciding on what matters most is completely within your control.

                          Work-life balance is about finding peace within yourself to be fully present, wherever you are, whether that be in the office or at home, right now. It’s about choosing what matters most and creating your own balanced life.

                          If you feel there is not enough balance, then it may be time to make a change.

                          8. Stop Multitasking

                          Multi-tasking is a myth. Your brain simply can’t work effectively by doing more than one thing at a time—at least more than one thing that requires focused attention.

                          So get your list of priorities (see earlier point), do the most important thing first, then move to the next item and work down your list.

                          When you split your focus over a multitude of different areas, you can’t consistently deliver a high performance. You won’t be fully present on the one task or project at hand.

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                          If you allocate blocked time and create firm boundaries for specific activities and commitments, you won’t feel so overwhelmed or overworked with everything you have to do.

                          9. Work in Blocks of Time

                          To keep your energy up to produce your best results it’s essential to take regular breaks.

                          I use the 60-60-30 method myself and teach it to my coaching clients.

                          Work on a project for a sustained period of 50 minutes.

                          Then take a 10-minute break. This could be taking a walk, having a healthy snack or just having a conversation with someone.

                          Then continue to work on the project for a further 50 minutes.

                          Then take another 10-minute break.

                          Then take a complete 30-minute break to unplug from the work. This could be time for a proper lunch, a quick bit of exercise, reading or having a walk.

                          By simply taking some time out, your energy levels stay up, the quality of your work improves and you reduce the risk of becoming burned out.

                          10. Get Rid of Distractions

                          Make an estimation on how many times you are distracted during an average working day. Now take that number and multiply it by 25. According to Gloria Mark in her study on The Cost of Interrupted Work, it takes us an average of 23 minutes and 15 seconds to return to the original task after interruption.[1]

                          “Our research has shown that attention distraction can lead to higher stress, a bad mood and lower productivity.”

                          Distractions don’t just take up your time during the distraction, they can derail your mental progress and focus for almost 25 minutes. So, if you are distracted 5 times per day, you could be losing almost 2 hours every day of productive work and almost 10 hours every week.

                          If you have an important project to work on, find a space where you won’t be distracted, or try doing this.

                          11. Commit Focused Time to Smaller Tasks

                          You know sometimes, you need to simply tackle these tasks and take action on them. But there’s always something more pressing.

                          Small tasks can often get in the way of your most important projects. They sit there on your daily To Do list but are often forgotten about because of more important priorities or because they hold no interest for you. But they take up mental energy. They clutter your mind.

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                          Commit to spending a specific period of time completing all the small tasks you have on your To Do list. It will give you peace of mind and the space to focus more on your bigger priorities.

                          12. Take a Time Audit

                          Do you know exactly where your time is going each day? Are you spending too long on certain projects and tasks to the detriment of bigger opportunities?

                          Spend a bit of time to analyze where you are spending your time. This insight will amaze you and give you the clarity to start adjusting where you focus your time and on what projects.

                          You can start by taking a piece of paper and creating three columns:

                          Column A is Priority Work. Column B is Good Work. Column C is low value work or stuff.

                          Each day, write down the project or task and the time spent on each. Allocate that time to one of the columns.

                          At the end of the week, record the total time spent in each column.

                          If you are spending far too much time on certain types of work, look to change things so your focused time is in Column B and C.

                          13. Protect Your Confidence

                          It is essential to protect our confidence to ensure we don’t get overwhelmed, stressed and lose belief.

                          When you have confidence as a daily resource, you are in a better position to problem solve, learn quicker, respond to anything, adjust to anything, and achieve your biggest opportunities.

                          Confidence gives you the ability to transform fear into focused and relaxed thinking, communication, and action. This is key to put your mind into a productive state.

                          When confidence is high, you can clearly see the possibilities at hand and create strategies to take advantage of them, or to solve the challenges you face each day.

                          Final Words

                          A heavy workload can be tough to deal with and can cause stress, burnout and ongoing frustration.

                          The key is to tackle it head on, rather than let it go on and compound the long-term effects. Hopefully, you can take action on at least one of these tips.

                          If it gets too much, and negatively affects your physical and mental health, it may be time to talk to someone. Instead of dealing with it alone and staying unhappier, resentful and getting to a point where you simply can’t cope, you have to make a change for your own sanity.

                          Featured photo credit: Hannah Wei via unsplash.com

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