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10 Questions Happy and Successful People Always Ask Themselves (That Make A Huge Difference)

10 Questions Happy and Successful People Always Ask Themselves (That Make A Huge Difference)

It is easy to look at people who succeed in life and think they must be super lucky. But, more often than not, success has nothing to do with luck. Success is about taking little, deliberate actions-steps day by day, over and over for as long as it takes to reach your goals. If you want to succeed in life and become the A+ student of life you ought to be, you need to start asking yourself enough of the right questions.

Asking the right questions helps you determine if you are headed in the right direction and shaping your life for true happiness. Successful people do it all the time and it helps them make the right decisions and take the right actions that bring desired outcomes. Here are some thought provoking questions you should start asking yourself more often to better understand and adjust your life for a bright and happy life.

1. What’s going well in my life today? Any wins (major or minor) this week?

This is a great place to start because it allows you to be grateful for the positives in your life. A positive energy means you are optimistic and optimism fuels your hunger for more positivity and success in life. Be grateful everyday for everything, including the small things that get overlooked because they seem not related to your ultimate goal in life. At the very least be grateful for good health and good friends.

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2. What challenges am I currently facing? Where am I stuck?

Life is not smooth sailing all the time. You will face challenges and get stuck somewhere along the way. Ask yourself where you are stuck and what you have to overcome daily to define the problem and start the process of getting unstuck. The first step for getting a solution to most things in life is often as simple as admitting you have a problem and then thinking about the best approach to overcome the problem.

3. What am I doing right now to improve things? Truly, Am I doing the best I can?

It is critical that you do your best to succeed and improve your life situation. Nothing is quite as satisfying as merited success. If success is not merited, it is not as sweet. Ask yourself if you are really putting in the effort to merit success. This includes investing your time, energy and resources to realize your dreams and visions for the future.

4. Am I further along on my goal(s) and dream(s) today than yesterday?

Only when you make small, steady steps forward day by day can you make progress and reach your dream. If you don’t take stock of your day to day activities, you are likely to lose sight of your ultimate goal and fall by the wayside. Ask yourself this question often and it will help keep you focused and edging closer and closer to your dream.

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5. Am I adding value in other people’s lives?

Our happiness and success is usually tied to that of the people around us, including our family, friends, clients, neighbors and community as a whole. When you add value in another person’s life, you achieve a deep sense of satisfaction and pride in yourself and it always brings good fortune. Ask this question in your daily life and find ways to genuinely add value in other people’s lives and you will never regret it. You will only set yourself up for success and true happiness in life.

6. Where should I break the rules?

Rules can stifle creativity and chock innovation. Sometimes you need to break free from the shackles of rules and regulations, stretch your wings and fly with the wind. Ask yourself which rules you should break on a regular basis to stay in sync with your inner creativity and moral compass. That can make the difference between perpetuating the status quo and charting the way to new, big and wonderful accomplishments in life.

7. Based on my daily routines, where can I expect to be in five years?

Your daily routine determines how fast you can reach your goals and dreams. It is a secret ingredient for success. If you find you are stuck in the same place for too long, then it’s time to evaluate you daily routines and change a few things to achieve better results. Experiment different ways of doing things until you find what works for you and stick with it.

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8. What is the worst that can happen?

Fear can paralyze even the best of us. That includes fear of the unknown, fear of failure and fear of achieving more than you thought possible. However, in every situation, ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen and prepare for it. Remain hopeful always knowing that while it is important to plan and prepare for the worst, the worst that can happen rarely does.

9. How have past failures and or rejections affected my self-confidence?

You will inevitably face knock-backs, failures and rejections in life. While some people doubt themselves and break under the weight of failure and rejection, others thrive on it. You must be the latter. Failure is only an opportunity to do things better next time. Ask yourself this question routinely to learn from your mistakes and develop character and courage to face your detractors with boldness; and also, to recover from bruised confidences. That is how to get ahead in life.

10. Are the people around me helping or hurting me?

You’ve heard it said many times before that you are the average of the five people you keep around you. That is a true assessment. Ask yourself if the people around you encourage and support you to be the best you can be or put you down. If they discourage and bring you down, remove them from your life immediately. You are better off alone than surrounded by people who hurt and bring you down.

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Published on March 19, 2019

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success


Do you remember the last time you faced a major setback–when you felt so low, that nothing seemed to make you happy? No matter how hard you tried, you just felt like the world was against you. Perhaps it was a bad relationship, or the loss of a loved one… maybe something bad happened at work? Whatever it may be, could you recall how your attitude was towards that situation?

Often when we’re caught in an unhappy situation, we feel limited and sometimes trapped. We want to get out of it as quickly as we can, but it’s never quite that simple.

Unfortunately, some people can remain in that terrible situation for weeks, months or even years; while others may come out strong and ready to start over–or continue from where they left off–fairly quickly.

So what sets these two groups apart?

The answer is their attitude.

Attitude is everything when it comes to achieving a goal, and tackling a setback or problem. 

When you’re able to have a positive mindset, you’ll be able to break free of your limitations that are holding you back.

A positive attitude also goes a long way in ensuring you come out victorious from whatever limitations that were holding you back before. It transforms not just your mental state, but your physical and emotional well being. It is the key to lasting total transformation.

Positive Attitude Brings About Positive Health 

When you’re stuck in a rut, often the first thoughts that run through your head are negative, thus your outlook likely becomes pessimistic. But, if you can transform those thoughts into more positive ones, then you’re on your way to talking yourself out of that rut, which allows you to move forward.

Of course, positive thinking doesn’t mean ignoring all the bad or unpleasant feelings altogether. It just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way–instead of taking everything as a victim to negative circumstances, you see it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Be aware of self talk!

These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self talk comes from logic and reason, while other self talk may arise from misconceptions that you create. Others could come from external sources such as negative people around you, or messages from the media.

The key is to surround yourself with positive influences that can help turn those negative thoughts into positive, more productive actions.You’ll not only feel better about the situation, but in the long run, positive thinking can lower your levels of distress and depression and give you better coping skills during hardships.

Researchers studying the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health have also found that positive thinking may provide increased life span, better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, and even greater resistance to the common cold!

It’s unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits, but one theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body.

It’s also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

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Suffering is Inevitable, So It’s Best to Accept It 

Now, one thing that everyone goes through at some point, is suffering. It’s a harsh reality, yet you can’t actually avoid it. We experience suffering as the result of unhappiness, fear, anger, loss or frustration. In fact, it would be hard to even imagine the feeling of happiness if we never experienced suffering! How would we ever compare it?

So instead of wallowing in sorrow about the suffering you have endured, take the suffering as an opportunity for change. Did you get laid off from your job? Perhaps this would be a good time to re-assess your career goals.

Rather than feeling negative and stuck, use your time and energy to find opportunities which will put you ahead. With the right attitude, anything can seem possible.

This may sound crazy, but suffering is the secret to being successful! 

Here’s what I mean. It’s impossible to think of new ideas or understand new experiences without stepping outside of your comfort zone. Anyone who has met great successes has also faced many failures, as nobody wins on every try.

To propel you toward success, find a way to track your progress and to set and celebrate small benchmarks. It may be helpful to conduct a weekly review to assess where you are and acknowledge all of the small wins of the week. Every accomplishment, no matter how small, is an achievement; so, be sure to take note of them.

Tracking your progress is also a great way to find and mitigate triggers and hindrances that impede your progress. The point is, you’re making progress; even if it feels like suffering, you can see that it’s leading you to joy.

Remember, don’t compare yourself to others. Only compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Each step you make towards progress is making you a better version of you.

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Gratitude Goes a Long Way in Shaping Attitude 

Now, this may seem difficult to do when you’re already feeling down, but having gratitude is a very useful when you’re trying to navigate your way out of a setback. Being grateful for existing accomplishments and the supports in your life will help you see them more clearly, build your own confidence, and give you a better overall outlook on what your limitations really are and what you have to do to overcome them.

With a grateful attitude, you limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Being grateful, even during the toughest of times, steers your attitude towards a more positive one, allowing you to get back on your feet much more quickly. Many studies done on gratitude have shown positive results for people who practice regularly, such as improvement in relationships and in mental health. There’s even studies that show higher motivation in work settings due to a simple ‘thank you’ from managers to their subordinates.

Believe in Yourself and Your Truth

This is often easier said than done, but is also the most empowering truth to overcoming your setbacks and limitations in life.

Many people find it hard to keep a positive attitude during tough times because they lack inner confidence. They doubt their abilities because of the ‘failure’ that they’re experiencing, and don’t think that they can rise above again.

But, confidence doesn’t just come from talent, luck or easy opportunity. Confidence comes from overcoming difficulties and facing your fears head on. 

Confidence is a result of getting out of your comfort zone. The more you do this, the more confident you’ll be, and the more positive your attitude will be. Confidence will help you see your goals more clearly, find your strengths within, reach your goals and overcome your limitations much more quickly.

Here’s a quick story about my own struggles helping me get ahead:

When I first started Lifehack, it took a long time to gain a solid readership. Just getting 100 visitors was a challenge and took a good bit of time. I had great ambitions for this site, yet it seemed like I was doomed to fail. I received plenty of criticism, too. Some people thought that the world didn’t need yet another self help site, others offered the opinion that there was something wrong with the idea itself and I was making a mistake.

It was hard for me not to listen to them and, at some times, agree. But, persistence is key, and in the end I chose to believe in my truth.

I worked tirelessly changing the site layout, restructuring articles, and making the site more user friendly. Slowly, I expanded to a team with the hiring of some extremely dynamic and talented people. With each determined effort, the site grew in popularity, and a few years later, we had influenced millions–and continue to do so.

Pushing myself out of my comfort zone and facing every challenge head on were the greatest contributing factors to increasing my confidence. So welcome the challenges that come; don’t avoid them, as they’re all opportunities in disguise to feed your growth.

Your Attitude Sets the Tone for Success 

Do you see the importance of having a positive attitude? It is so much more than a mindset or state of mind. Your attitude sets the tone for every action and behavior that follows after, and that will determine how long it takes for you to break free from your current circumstance.

So if you’re currently in an unhappy situation, why not give it a try and look at things from a more positive outlook? As mentioned, not only does having a positive attitude bring about favorable outcomes, it also brings about positive health in the long run.

Embracing hardship as it is, and using it as a learning experience to grow, will also make you stronger. And, whether you’re going through good or bad times, practicing gratitude will no doubt help to limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Lastly, in any circumstance, you are your greatest barrier to success, which is why it’s important to always believe in yourself!

You will always have the power to be in control of your situation because your attitude is determined by you. So start harnessing all that positive thinking to turn those limitations into strengths!

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