“Our bodies are our gardens – our wills are our gardeners.” ~William Shakespeare
Food is a mirror to your inner state. Like the outer world and other people can show your deepest thoughts and feelings, food tells how you feel. We are so used to living in a constant hurry and do things automatically, that we have lost the connection of food to ourselves. Have a quick lunch. Order pizza or Chinese food for dinner or have a lot of snacks between meals — or instead of them — depending on our mood. Food has become a comforting thing, an easy way to sooth feelings and have pleasure. It never disappoints, you always receive what you have wanted. Food is no longer just about nutrition. We feed our feelings. Living in a never ending circle. Food cravings differ from one to the other but there are some similarities, which can help you to start look at eating certain things differently. And before going for lunch with colleagues ask yourself. Am I hungry? What I really want to have? How do I feel? Why I want this? Does my body ask for this or it is a certain feeling that wants to eat?Advertising
Sweets and Chocolate
When you feel lonely, misunderstood or sad, the first thing that you may look for is chocolate. Chocolate gives you a reason to smile, to believe that life is good. But does it work in the long term? Try and find other ways to get those good feelings and raise your endorphins, such as through exercise or chatting with a friend. Then, you can enjoy and taste every bite of your chocolate for what it is.
Hot and Spicy Food
Being in a hurry with daily duties and responsibilities you can lose the joy of life. Spicy food awakens the senses and helps you to see the different colors of life — to taste every situation and feel the blessings. Learn to see the nuances of life and feel happiness in any daily situation. And spice it up occasionally with a your favorite spicy foods.Advertising
Meat, Fast Food and Bread
Stress, overload, rush – when you need to ground yourself you try to feed it with heavy food. Stop your daily rush regularly, feel yourself here and now. You don’t need to fill your stomach with everything you can to be able to feel yourself as whole. When your mind is everywhere but here, find a quick relaxation method to calm your mind.
“Health is a state of complete harmony of the body, mind and spirit. When one is free from physical disabilities and mental distractions, the gates of the soul open.” ~B.K.S. Iyengar
There are no right or wrong foods, but how often you eat it. How do you feel when having this or that? Do you really enjoy it, feeling gratitude or trying to hide some feelings and fight with guilt afterwords? When you are in love, you can live all day without thinking of food or you can eat whatever you want but keep losing weight. A lot of who we are depends on our feelings, both positive and negative. Try to step out of this circle, when you feed negative emotions with food and then experience them more, you might want to look for other items to eat. Start writing down your foods and the emotions you are experiencing at the same time. This can help you listen to what your body really needs. Food is one of the strongest things that influence your life. You are what you eat. If you don’t have any goals or dreams you eat everything and anything. Look for fulfillment outside of eating food — try and find those parts of you that want to do other things. Then food can be a flavorful enhancement to your day.
The more you eat, the less flavor; the less you eat, the more flavor.” ~Chinese Proverb
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Last Updated on January 21, 2020
The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want
Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.
Why You Need a Vision
Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.
How to Create Your Life Vision
Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.
What Do You Want?
The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.
It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.
Some tips to guide you:
- Remember to ask why you want certain things
- Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
- Give yourself permission to dream.
- Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
- Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.
Some questions to start your exploration:
- What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
- What would you like to have more of in your life?
- Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
- What are your secret passions and dreams?
- What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
- What do you want your relationships to be like?
- What qualities would you like to develop?
- What are your values? What issues do you care about?
- What are your talents? What’s special about you?
- What would you most like to accomplish?
- What would legacy would you like to leave behind?
It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.
What Would Your Best Life Look Like?
Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.
A few prompts to get you started:
- What will you have accomplished already?
- How will you feel about yourself?
- What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
- What does your ideal day look like?
- Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
- What would you be doing?
- Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
- How are you dressed?
- What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
- What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
- Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.
It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next step. Give yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.
It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.
- What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
- What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
- What would you have needed to learn along the way?
- What important actions would you have had to take?
- What beliefs would you have needed to change?
- What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
- What type of support would you have had to enlist?
- How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
- What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?
Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.
It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.
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