“Our bodies are our gardens – our wills are our gardeners.” ~William Shakespeare
Food is a mirror to your inner state. Like the outer world and other people can show your deepest thoughts and feelings, food tells how you feel. We are so used to living in a constant hurry and do things automatically, that we have lost the connection of food to ourselves. Have a quick lunch. Order pizza or Chinese food for dinner or have a lot of snacks between meals — or instead of them — depending on our mood. Food has become a comforting thing, an easy way to sooth feelings and have pleasure. It never disappoints, you always receive what you have wanted. Food is no longer just about nutrition. We feed our feelings. Living in a never ending circle. Food cravings differ from one to the other but there are some similarities, which can help you to start look at eating certain things differently. And before going for lunch with colleagues ask yourself. Am I hungry? What I really want to have? How do I feel? Why I want this? Does my body ask for this or it is a certain feeling that wants to eat?Advertising
Sweets and Chocolate
When you feel lonely, misunderstood or sad, the first thing that you may look for is chocolate. Chocolate gives you a reason to smile, to believe that life is good. But does it work in the long term? Try and find other ways to get those good feelings and raise your endorphins, such as through exercise or chatting with a friend. Then, you can enjoy and taste every bite of your chocolate for what it is.
Hot and Spicy Food
Being in a hurry with daily duties and responsibilities you can lose the joy of life. Spicy food awakens the senses and helps you to see the different colors of life — to taste every situation and feel the blessings. Learn to see the nuances of life and feel happiness in any daily situation. And spice it up occasionally with a your favorite spicy foods.Advertising
Meat, Fast Food and Bread
Stress, overload, rush – when you need to ground yourself you try to feed it with heavy food. Stop your daily rush regularly, feel yourself here and now. You don’t need to fill your stomach with everything you can to be able to feel yourself as whole. When your mind is everywhere but here, find a quick relaxation method to calm your mind.
“Health is a state of complete harmony of the body, mind and spirit. When one is free from physical disabilities and mental distractions, the gates of the soul open.” ~B.K.S. Iyengar
There are no right or wrong foods, but how often you eat it. How do you feel when having this or that? Do you really enjoy it, feeling gratitude or trying to hide some feelings and fight with guilt afterwords? When you are in love, you can live all day without thinking of food or you can eat whatever you want but keep losing weight. A lot of who we are depends on our feelings, both positive and negative. Try to step out of this circle, when you feed negative emotions with food and then experience them more, you might want to look for other items to eat. Start writing down your foods and the emotions you are experiencing at the same time. This can help you listen to what your body really needs. Food is one of the strongest things that influence your life. You are what you eat. If you don’t have any goals or dreams you eat everything and anything. Look for fulfillment outside of eating food — try and find those parts of you that want to do other things. Then food can be a flavorful enhancement to your day.
The more you eat, the less flavor; the less you eat, the more flavor.” ~Chinese Proverb
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Last Updated on November 20, 2018
10 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail
A new year beautifully symbolizes a new chapter opening in the book that is your life. But while so many people like you aspire to achieve ambitious goals, only 12% of you will ever experience the taste of victory. Sound bad? It is. 156 million people (that’s 156,000,000) will probably give up on their resolution before you can say “confetti.” Keep on reading to learn why New Year’s resolutions fail (and how to succeed).
Note: Since losing weight is the most common New Year’s resolution, I chose to focus on weight loss (but these principles can be applied to just about any goal you think of — make it work for you!).
1. You’re treating a marathon like a sprint.
Slow and steady habit change might not be sexy, but it’s a lot more effective than the “I want it ALL and I want it NOW!” mentality. Small changes stick better because they aren’t intimidating (if you do it right, you’ll barely even notice them!).
If you have a lot of bad habits today, the last thing you need to do is remodel your entire life overnight. Want to lose weight? Stop it with the crash diets and excessive exercise plans. Instead of following a super restrictive plan that bans anything fun, add one positive habit per week. For example, you could start with something easy like drinking more water during your first week. The following week, you could move on to eating 3 fruits and veggies every day. And the next week, you could aim to eat a fistful of protein at every meal.
2. You put the cart before the horse.
“Supplementing” a crappy diet is stupid, so don’t even think about it. Focus on the actions that produce the overwhelming amount of results. If it’s not important, don’t worry about it.
3. You don’t believe in yourself.
A failure to act can cripple you before you leave the starting line. If you’ve tried (and failed) to set a New Year’s resolution (or several) in the past, I know it might be hard to believe in yourself. Doubt is a nagging voice in your head that will resist personal growth with every ounce of its being. The only way to defeat doubt is to believe in yourself. Who cares if you’ve failed a time or two? This year, you can try again (but better this time).
4. Too much thinking, not enough doing.
The best self-help book in the world can’t save you if you fail to take action. Yes, seek inspiration and knowledge, but only as much as you can realistically apply to your life. If you can put just one thing you learn from every book or article you read into practice, you’ll be on the fast track to success.
5. You’re in too much of a hurry.
If it was quick-and-easy, everybody would do it, so it’s in your best interest to exercise your patience muscles.
6. You don’t enjoy the process.
Is it any wonder people struggle with their weight when they see eating as a chore and exercise as a dreadful bore? The best fitness plan is one that causes the least interruption to your daily life. The goal isn’t to add stress to your life, but rather to remove it.
The best of us couldn’t bring ourselves to do something we hate consistently, so make getting in shape fun, however you’ve gotta do it. That could be participating in a sport you love, exercising with a good friend or two, joining a group exercise class so you can meet new people, or giving yourself one “free day” per week where you forget about your training plan and exercise in any way you please.
7. You’re trying too hard.
Unless you want to experience some nasty cravings, don’t deprive your body of pleasure. The more you tell yourself you can’t have a food, the more you’re going to want it. As long as you’re making positive choices 80-90% of the time, don’t sweat the occasional indulgence.
8. You don’t track your progress.
Keeping a written record of your training progress will help you sustain an “I CAN do this” attitude. All you need is a notebook and a pen. For every workout, record what exercises you do, the number of repetitions performed, and how much weight you used if applicable. Your goal? Do better next time. Improving your best performance on a regular basis offers positive feedback that will encourage you to keep going.
9. You have no social support.
It can be hard to stay motivated when you feel alone. The good news? You’re not alone: far from it. Post a status on Facebook asking your friends if anybody would like to be your gym or accountability buddy. If you know a co-worker who shares your goal, try to coordinate your lunch time and go out together so you’ll be more likely to make positive decisions. Join a support group of like-minded folks on Facebook, LinkedIn, or elsewhere on the internet. Strength in numbers is powerful, so use it to your advantage.
10. You know your what but not your why.
The biggest reason why most New Year’s resolutions fail: you know what you want but you not why you want it.
Yes: you want to get fit, lose weight, or be healthy… but why is your goal important to you? For example:
Do you want to be fit so you can be a positive example that your children can admire and look up to?
Do you want to lose fat so you’ll feel more confident and sexy in your body than ever before?
Do you want to be healthy so you’ll have increased clarity, energy, and focus that would carry over into every single aspect of your life?
Whether you’re getting in shape because you want to live longer, be a good example, boost your energy, feel confident, have an excuse to buy hot new clothes, or increase your likelihood of getting laid (hey, I’m not here to judge) is up to you. Forget about any preconceived notions and be true to yourself.
- The more specific you can make your goal,
- The more vivid it will be in your imagination,
- The more encouraged you’ll be,
- The more likely it is you will succeed (because yes, you CAN do this!).
I hope this guide to why New Year’s resolutions fail helps you achieve your goals this year. If you found this helpful, please pass it along to some friends so they can be successful just like you. What do you hope to accomplish next year?