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Every Daughter Wants And Needs A Perfect Dad Like This

Every Daughter Wants And Needs A Perfect Dad Like This

I’m happy to have a dad who’s been taking very good care of the family and who always loves his daughters. I want to dedicate this post to all the fathers and daughters. I think every daughter wants and needs a dad who does these 30 things.

  1. A dad who loves and respects his wife, and is not afraid to show affection for her in front of others. When his daughter grows up, she’ll love someone who’ll cherish her the way her father cherishes her mother.
  2. A dad who loves his parents and his wife’s parents. He takes good care of them and is a role model to his daughter.
  3. A dad who doesn’t say foul words or smoke in front of his daughter (or doesn’t do these at all). He doesn’t want his daughter to learn any of these bad habits.
  4. A dad who’s willing to spend time with the family. He does not just physically present, but mentally involves in every stage of his daughter’s life as she’s growing up.
  5. A dad who lets his daughter ride on his shoulders all the time when she’s still a little girl.
  6. A dad who always pat his daughter’s head gently to show his encouragement for her.
  7. A dad who holds her little daughter up, throws her to the air and catches her back. He knows his little girl is brave enough to enjoy the fun, and when she grows up she won’t be afraid of height.
  8. A dad who is like a superhero and saves his daughter’s day when she needs help the most. He’ll try everything he can to make sure his daughter doesn’t feel helpless.
  9. A dad who doesn’t easily throw temper in front of his daughter even though he has had a rough day at work or is very stressful.
  10. A dad who can wisely choose sides in fights between his wife and his daughter (and sometimes, even his mother or mother-in-law).
  11. A dad who knows when and how to punish his daughter so she doesn’t get spoiled and can learn her lessons.
  12. A dad who teaches his daughter how to do sports to stay healthy. He goes cycling, jogging and hiking with his daughter.
  13. A dad who praises his daughter every now and then, for her beauty and her wisdom, so she’ll always feel confident about herself.
  14. A dad who never misses his daughter’s birthday, and because of this, his daughter will never miss his either.
  15. A dad who knows how to deal with his teenage daughter’s sadness. Instead of annoying her, he knows how to cheer her up.
  16. A dad who does not spy on his daughter, rather, talks with her frankly to find out how she thinks and feels.
  17. A dad who treats his daughter’s friends friendly. He doesn’t have to be very good-looking but will make her friends want to have a father like him.
  18. A dad who talks with his daughter about relationships and the way men think. He knows his daughter has to learn the life lessons herself but he wants her to know how to protect and love herself.
  19. A dad who feels a little jealous when his daughter starts dating, but at the same time feels happy for her.
  20. A dad who gains respect from his daughter’s boyfriend. Her boyfriend will learn from him how to be a respectable man and how to love and treat her right.
  21. A dad who allows his daughter to hold the wheel when she has got the driver’s license.
  22. A dad who trusts his daughter and gives her more freedom as she grows up.
  23. A dad who texts his daughter at late night just to make sure that she’s safe if she’s not home yet.
  24. A dad who’s always backing up his daughter when it comes to difficult situations like failing in exams, feeling under pressure and going through painful breakups.
  25. A dad who gives his daughter the firmest hug, and may even be in tears when he sees her off to somewhere else.
  26. A dad who is not afraid to show how much he misses his daughter when she has to leave for a while. He will send her emails and call her just to make sure she’s doing fine.
  27. A dad who supports the things his daughter does and encourage her to practice more and do the best all the time.
  28. A dad who secretly wipes his tears when it comes to the day that his daughter has found “the one” to marry.
  29. A dad who feels happier than his daughter when she has a baby. He will hug and kiss the baby the way he used to do with his little daughter.
  30. A dad who is proud of his daughter for whatever she has achieved. To him, she is always perfect.

I know what you’re going to say, no one in this world is perfect, right? That’s true, but my father is perfect to me (and my younger sister at least)!

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Anna is a communication expert and a life enthusiast. She's the editor of Lifehack and loves to write about love, life, and passion.

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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