Advertising
Advertising

Encourage Growth in Your Kids With These 16 Children’s Classics!

Encourage Growth in Your Kids With These 16 Children’s Classics!

Classic children’s books bring you back to a younger you. You visit them over and over, and they make you laugh – and sometimes cry. They are your favorite children’s books. They are clever and entertaining, and sometimes they teach you a lesson or two. Here are a selection of some of my favorite children’s books and why I think they would be a wonderful addition to any child’s collection. (Spoiler alert!)

1. Harry Potter (the Series) by J.K. Rowling

9780545162074_p0_v2_s260x420

    The Harry Potter books may not be old enough to be “classics,” but they will stand the test of time! The books seamlessly weave in and out of each other through Rowling’s masterful story development.

    The Potter world is a child’s dream, opening the doors of imagination through magic, new locations, and quirky characters with real issues and fantastic character development. Rowling surpasses limits and takes us to new worlds and possibilities. All of the characters play their own role in the battle for the wizard/muggle world, and the heroes are children. The reader learns the value of teamwork, of courage and faith, of determination, of wits and study, and of unconditional love.

    2. Anne of Green Gables (the Series) by Lucy Maude Montgomery

    9780553609417_p0_v2_s260x420

      There’s bound to be mischief when a fiery redhead is involved! A compassionate decision to take in a young orphan girl forever changes the lives of an elderly pair. We are taken in by this character who teaches us about hope, about the many types of love, and about the many wacky adventures you can have with a very active imagination! As you read through the series, you grow up with Anne, giggling at her mishaps, shaking your head at her temper, and melting and weeping through her experiences with love.

      3. The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein

      9780060256654_p0_v5_s600

        This is a book with soul; it’s my favorite on this list. I’ve cried every time I’ve read it. It starts as a simple story of companionship between a boy and a tree but transcends into the deepest sort of giving and love: the willingness to sacrifice everything – even oneself – for another. The reader experiences unconditional loving and giving, from a tree who hopes for affection and attention — but never expects it. We are moved in the end when the boy – now an old man – finally returns from his travels to spend the rest of his life with the tree who loves him.

        Advertising

        4. Where the Sidewalk Ends by Shel Silverstein

        9780060572341_p0_v7_s260x420

          Here’s the other side of Shel Silverstein … It’s hard not to love anything from this quirky, fun author! His poetry is well-written, entertaining, and keeps you on your toes. Large on the ridiculous and master of with the quick quip, Silverstein makes you think – while making you giggle!

          5. Love You Forever by Robert Munsch

          9780920668375_p0_v2_s600

            “I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always, As long as I’m living my baby you’ll be.” What’s not to love? This poetic affirmation is passed from mother to child as he passes through the different stages of his life. This story contains a beautiful example of the circle of love: between a parent and her child, between a son and his mother, and between the son/father and his new daughter.

            6. The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper

            9780448405209_p0_v2_s260x420

              “I think I can; I think I can. I think I can. …” This is another great story with another great mantra. (I’ve actually chanted this to myself when biking up particularly nasty hills!) While the bigger guys find excuses not to help, the little engine saves the day by slowly and determinedly working toward his goal. It’s a great testimony to the power of thought and the importance of will power.

              7. The Sneetches by Dr. Seuss

              9780394800899_p0_v1_s260x420

                Dr. Seuss was such a master storyteller. His play with words and fanciful creatures and scenarios have brought a whole new level to children’s literature.

                Advertising

                I chose this book in particular for its moral implications: this book may be the first written exposure a child has to discrimination and racism. The “Star-Belly” Sneetches are superior to their “Plain-Belly” counterparts because of their special adornment. When a fly-by-night, get-rich-quick schemer figures out a way to add and remove stars, pandemonium ensues.

                In the end, the lines have been confused, and all of the Sneetches learn to accept each other. Through this story, the child is able to experience a separation, a progression through experiential learning, and a peaceful resolution that results in an evolution of the Sneetches.

                8. Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst

                9780689711732_p0_v3_s260x420

                  I debated putting this one on the list because the title sounds so negative, and much of the book seems negative. But the ending has such a subtle, wonderful tie-up that puts the whole story in perspective.

                  From the moment he gets up, Alexander’s day seems to be one awful happening after another, starting with the gum that he fell asleep with in his mouth that has ended up in his hair. From missing prizes in the cereal box to scoldings from the teacher and being picked on by his older bothers, nothing seems to go right for Alexander. He’s ready to throw in the towel and move to Australia.

                  His mother is the one who puts the whole day in perspective with her well-chosen response: “Some days are like that. Even in Australia.” Her simple quote reminds us of the power of perspective, while also giving us permission to have some not-so-pleasant, messy days.

                  9. Harold and the Purple Crayon by Crockett Johnson

                  9780064430227_p0_v1_s260x420

                    What a fanciful, magical book — so simple in its presentation and so freeing and expansive in its creation! The world is Harold’s oyster as he creates his reality with the markings of his purple crayon. This is an excellent example for children of imagination, visualization, and thinking outside the box!

                    Advertising

                    10. The Polar Express by Chris Van Allsburg

                    index

                      Do you believe? I still remember my grandma reading this one to me … In this book we join the young narrator on a magical trip to the North Pole! We feel his wonder and delight as he gets to experience the beginning of Christmas, and we marvel at his humble, original request from Santa: a small bell from one of the reindeer’s harnesses. This story is about the power of faith and of holding to a belief, despite the passing of time and the disbelief of others: “At one time, most of my friends could hear the bell, but as years passed, it fell silent for all of them. Even Sarah found one Christmas that she could no longer hear its sweet sound. Though I’ve grown old, the bell still rings for me, as it does for all who truly believe.”

                      11. How the Grinch Stole Christmas by Dr. Seuss

                      9780394800790_p0_v4_s260x420

                        This is another classic Suess book, filled with fanciful creatures and towns, wrapped up in a holiday theme. But it is so much more than that. It explains the true nature of giving and love, of joy without expectation and attachment. It’s about community, and it’s about loving — just because.

                        The Grinch hates Christmas — he cannot understand it! He thinks he will destroy Christmas by stealing all of the Christmas presents and trappings from the nearby town of Whoville. However, he discovers he hasn’t stolen Christmas at all. Christmas is intangible; it is love and joy. When the Grinch sees how his actions have not affected the Whos of Whoville, understanding finally reaches him. His heart is opened and actually grows — three extra sizes!

                        12. The Dot, and 13. Ish by Peter H. Reynolds

                        9780763619619_p0_v1_s260x420
                          9780763623449_p0_v1_s260x420

                            These two stories are fantastic together. I learned about these treasures in a teacher’s workshop, and I recommend them to any educator or parent.

                            I have a plaque on my shelf that reads, “The greatest gift anyone can give is encouragement.” In The Dot, a young girl  does not believe she is an artist. Her teacher encourages her to start small — with a dot — and honors the girl’s piece on display the next day. A whole world opens up to the young girl, culminating in an exhibit of all of her dot projects. The book concludes in her encouragement of another discouraged, reluctant art student.

                            Advertising

                            Ish starts in disaster but takes a turn and parallels the encouraging nature of The Dot. Young Ramon excitedly draws picture after picture, but he is discouraged and quits when his older brother laughs at his work. It’s his younger sister who sees the hidden beauty and creativity of his “Ish” art (“Vase-ish!”), and Ramon’s inspiration leads him to surpass his previous explorations, even delving into “ish” writing. He even takes a moment to stand back and appreciate the simplicity and beauty of the world around him.

                            14. Stone Soup by various authors, illustrated by Marcia Brown

                            9780684922966_p0_v2_s260x420

                              Though this story may seem a little crafty or tricksy, it is a great allusion to the importance of sharing. Give and receive — a little from everyone goes a long way! Some hungry strangers approach the nearby town, asking for some food. At first, no one has anything to spare. But once the townspeople hear about the strangers’ special “stone soup,” they miraculously find a little extra in their stashes to add to the pot. In the end, all partake in the wonderful final concoction.

                              15. The Giver by Lois Lowry

                              index

                                Can’t we all just get along? The citizens in The Giver believe they have found the solution: creating sameness by eliminating color, eliminating emotions, eliminating attachments, and limiting choice and individuality. When some young individuals get a taste of the real world, they realize all that they have been missing and are determined to set things right. This book is a testimony to the beauty of the human experience, to the benefit of emotions, to the senses, to growth, and to free choice. This may be a little heavy for younger kids but is more accessible for them than 1984 by George Orwell!

                                16. Have You Filled a Bucket Today? by Carol McCloud

                                9780978507510_p0_v2_s260x420

                                  Are you a bucket-filler? It’s a fantastic analogy for kids (and adults)! A substitute teacher introduced this book to me, and I immediately begged to borrow it, so that I could use it with my students. Every day you have the chance to be a bucket “filler” or “dipper” through the words and actions you choose. This can be used as a great end-of-day self-reflection or even a great objective tool in the moment: “How did I do? How can I be more of a bucket-filler?”

                                  Are these the books in your top 16? I hope you’re inspired to dust off some of these goodies and read and enjoy them all over again!

                                  More by this author

                                  10 Things Your Dreams Can Tell You About Yourself What Babies Would Say if They Had Twitter Accounts 17 Things Only Slow People Would Understand How You Should Communicate with Cat-People and Dog-People 27 Things Your Daughters Should Know by Age 10

                                  Trending in Family

                                  1 The Secrets to Balancing Work and Family Life 2 15 Best Father’s Day Gifts Your Father Won’t Buy On His Own 3 6 Ways to Care For Your Aging Parents From a Distance 4 What to Do If You Grew up in a Dysfunctional Family 5 How to Strengthen Family Bonds When You’re Staying at Home

                                  Read Next

                                  Advertising
                                  Advertising
                                  Advertising

                                  Last Updated on October 14, 2020

                                  How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

                                  How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

                                  When you learn how to be confident, you can use it in your everyday life to tackle all of your goals and challenges. However, not many people realize that learning how to gain self-confidence is like building a muscle—it grows in response to the level of performance required of it.

                                  Here I will give you 51 proven ways to overcome a lack of self-confidence and achieve more.

                                  1. Learn Something New

                                  Sign up for that evening class and enjoy it. Alternatively, read a book (or take an online course) on a topic you’ve always wanted to learn more about.

                                  Learning new things stretches your abilities, keeps your mind active, and most definitely improves your confidence in your ability to do new things.

                                  2. Ask Your Partner or a Friend What You Can Do For Them

                                  This can be something as easy as helping them with a chore they don’t like or have little time for. Through helping them, you’ll find that you feel better about yourself.

                                  3. Hit the Gym

                                  The physiological effects of going to the gym will leave you feeling great.

                                  Countless studies have shown that regular workouts at the gym can boost not only your sense of well-being, but can increase your self-esteem, too[1].

                                  4. Go to a Networking Event

                                  Rather than being nervous about your own stuff, focus on how to help others. Instead of going along with the aim of trying to sell yourself to others, why not change your approach and simply go along to see how you can help the people you meet?

                                  By doing this, you’ll come across as calm, confident, and someone that people will want to turn to again and again.

                                  5. Get Clear on the Things That Matter to You

                                  If these things are not in your life, you’ll need to bring them in.

                                  For example, if your daily work routine is currently as dull as dishwater—but you’d like it to be fun—then do something about it. Turn data entry into personal speed contests, paper filing into “screen-free” time, and interactions with your colleagues into enjoyable conversations.

                                  6. Remove Negativity From Your Life

                                  Write a list of the things you’re tolerating and putting up with in your life, then write down how you can remove, minimize, or diminish each one.

                                  I personally like to do this with pen and paper as it feels just a little more real and definite than on screen. It’s also a good idea to put the priority items at the top of your list, so you can begin resolving these first.

                                  7. Celebrate Your Big and Small Wins

                                  Look at the big or small goals you’ve completed, and give yourself credit for your part in it.

                                  Recognizing your achievements is not egotistical, it’s healthy.

                                  8. Converse With New People

                                  Go and have a conversation with someone you don’t know. By doing this, you may be pleasantly surprised by what—or who—you’ll discover.

                                  You can also extend this trait by breaking outside of your normal social situations at your workplace. This will do wonders when learning how to be confident.

                                  9. Do Something You Would Normally Say No to

                                  Next time you talk yourself out of doing something (a party invite, a challenging project, etc.), go and do it anyway. This is a great way to boost personal development.

                                  10. Do One Thing Each Day That Makes You Smile

                                  This could be something as simple as sending a thank you email to a colleague that has been helpful to you, or leaving a surprise present for your partner that they’ll discover when they wake up.

                                  Life shouldn’t be drudgery, and we all need to make the effort to keep it light, loving, and fun.

                                  11. Give Yourself Good Advice

                                  Look for the patterns of thought that take you to a place where you start second-guessing or overthinking.

                                  Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same thought process and ended up holding themselves back—what would you want to say to them?

                                  This is known as Soloman’s Paradox—we’re often quite good at solving others’ problems but not our own. Challenge this and take your own good advice next time[2].

                                  12. Ask Someone on a Date

                                  If you’re single and have met someone that you’re definitely attracted to—go ahead and ask them out.

                                  Advertising

                                  Even if they turn you down, it will help you learn how to be confident through the fact that you were decisive and made an effort. What’s the best thing that could happen? They might just say yes!

                                  13. Write Down 20 Things That Make You Feel Good

                                  Think of this as a gratitude list. Typical things you might include are: your partner, your kids, your parents, your pets, etc.

                                  I recommend writing this list at least once a month. And most importantly—make sure you’re giving the 20 things plenty of room in your life.

                                  14. Stop Playing Different Roles

                                  Stop playing different roles and squeezing yourself into boxes based on what you think people expect of you.

                                  Be your authentic self, the one who knows what to do and loves what they do. It’s easy to find this part of yourself as it’s inherent in your hobbies and your close friendships.

                                  If you can bring this authenticity into your work life, you’ll be surprised at how positively others will react to you.

                                  15. Cultivate a Positive Mindset

                                  Learn to catch yourself every time you tell yourself that you can’t have, won’t get, or aren’t good enough to get what you want[3].

                                  Talk yourself up when learning how to be confident.

                                    Instead, tell yourself that you can have, will get, and are good enough to get what you want. Mindset is everything. Make sure yours is positive and dynamic.

                                    16. Take Yourself off Auto-Pilot

                                    Make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.

                                    For instance, if you normally work 9 to 5 but find yourself spending hours getting to and from work, why not negotiate with your boss to mix your hours up a bit?

                                    You might also suggest a day or two working from home. Sell this to your boss by reminding them that the time and stress lost to commuting can be neatly transferred to productive work hours.

                                    17. Listen Carefully to What You Tell Yourself

                                    Next time you come up against a risk or a challenge, listen to what you tell yourself, and look for a way to improve your inner dialogue.

                                    If you normally find that your inner dialogue is negative, then break out of this by asking yourself questions such as:

                                    • What would make this easier?
                                    • Is there a different way of doing this?
                                    • Could research help?

                                    18. Laugh at Yourself

                                    Scared of looking silly? It’s no biggie, so don’t let it stop you.

                                    Whenever we try something new, there’s a fair chance that we’ll make fools of ourselves. But you’d be a bigger fool to let that stop you. Instead, laugh at your baby steps and watch your confidence soar as you begin to master your chosen activity.

                                    19. Listen to Your Doubts

                                    Sometimes your doubts are there to let you know what you need to prepare for, so you can use them to your benefit as you move forwards. Other times, they are just doubts.

                                    The trick is to quickly determine if your doubts have validity. If they do, use them to shape your decisions.

                                    To illustrate this, imagine that you’ve had an enticing job offer, but you doubt whether you’re capable of doing the job. Spend a little time analyzing your doubts to see whether they reflect reality, or whether they are just negative thoughts that are trying to hold you back.

                                    20. Recall a Time When You Did a Great Job

                                    Think of a time when it felt like a whole bank of switches in your head flicked to the on position, and you were firing on all cylinders. What were you doing, and what’s the reason it felt so great? Can you emulate that passion and drive that you had?

                                    21. Tear up Your Rule Book

                                    You may not know it, but you’ve almost certainly got a whole bunch of outdated rules that determine what you do and don’t do. These rules limit your thinking and your behavior.

                                    It’s time to change them. Tear up this subconscious rule book and toss it in the fire. Once you’ve done this, you’ll immediately notice how free you feel to make challenging and exciting decisions.

                                    22. Ask Yourself What You Have Gained When You Lose

                                    Do you get annoyed with yourself because you didn’t make the most of something or stepped back from an opportunity?

                                    Firstly, don’t beat yourself up because that’s just going to make you feel worse. Instead, be brutally honest and ask yourself what you gained from the situation and what you lost out on.

                                    Advertising

                                    Based on this win/lose balance, what’s a different choice you can make next time?

                                    23. Don’t Let People Put You Down

                                    If there’s someone in your life who puts you down or makes you feel small, you owe it to yourself to let them know that you expect something different from now on. 

                                    Trust me, once you’ve told them, they’ll change, and you will, too. Inevitably, you’ll boost both your confidence and happiness by taking control of your life in this way.

                                    Learn how to get out of toxic relationships in this article.

                                    24. Reveal a Little Bit of the Real You

                                    Relationships can be difficult. They can also lose their zest and become stale. If this happens in your relationship, then it’s time to add some magic to the mix.

                                    Try revealing something interesting about yourself or your past that your partner doesn’t currently know when learning how to be confident. Perhaps you never mentioned to them that you used to play in a rock band—and you still have the recordings to prove it!

                                    By adding new things to your relationship, you’ll deepen the bond and keep the spark alive.

                                    25. Be Your Own Hero

                                    Recognize that you’re more than a match for any situation you might find yourself in—no matter how tough the going gets.

                                    We all love movies like Die Hard where ordinary people are driven to super-ordinary feats. But here’s the rub: you can be your own action hero.

                                    Whatever the situation, meet it head on and overcome it. Keep in mind the classic phrase: “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

                                    26. Don’t Give in to the Instant Pay-off

                                    If I was to offer you $100 now for a day’s work tomorrow or $110 for the same work, but I won’t pay you for a week, which would you choose? Well, I can’t read your mind, but I do know that studies using a similar question to this have found that most people choose the instant, smaller payment over the latter, bigger payment. It seems that we’re hardwired for instant gratification.

                                    However, if you want to be a success in life, always look at the bigger picture. In the example above, if you could have only waited seven more days, you would have been $10 richer!

                                    27. Instead of Yelling “I Deserve Better,” Say “I Can Be Better”

                                    Too often I hear people complaining about their personal circumstances but refusing to do anything about it. Don’t be like them.

                                    If things aren’t going your way, find solutions and implement them. Your boldness and decisiveness will boost your confidence and help you rapidly climb the ladder of success.

                                    28. Admit You’re Wrong

                                    It may not be easy, but you should always be prepared to hold your hands up and change your mind if things are going south. Not every idea you have will be a winning one. The trick is to know when things are clearly not working out.

                                    You can either attempt to get them back on track or kill them off completely (sometimes that’s the best way).

                                    29. Trust Your Instincts

                                    We all have our gut feelings and intuitions, but many people choose to ignore them and rely only on facts, facts, and more facts! While this may work for many scenarios, there will be other times when you’ll need to rely on your instincts.

                                    30. Imagine Your Confident Future Self

                                    Imagine you’re visited by a successful, confident, attractive, and vibrant version of you from the future, a version of you who’s everything you hope to be. What do they want to tell you?

                                    They might praise your efforts, but they may also criticize your lack of planning and weak goals.

                                    Luckily, if you listen closely to what they tell you, you’ll be able to rapidly shift gears in your life and become the you of the future!

                                    31. Ask for Help

                                    This is a common issue. We take on way too many responsibilities and end up either burning ourselves out or just doing a bad job!

                                    The secret is to put the vast majority of your energy and efforts into what you do well. Give the stuff you don’t do well to others who have a gift for it. Sometimes the most confident and effective thing to do is ask for help.

                                    32. Be Around People Who Make You Feel Like You

                                    Do this by spending more time with the people who support and encourage you and less time with those who undermine you.

                                    At work, don’t be ruined by negative, petty people. Instead, make sure you surround yourself with colleagues who make you laugh and feel good about yourself.

                                    Advertising

                                    33. Participate in the World Around You

                                    Ask yourself this question: “What can I participate in that’s important to me?”

                                    Typically, this could be your church, a sports club, or even just a weekly get together with your best friend.

                                    34. Develop Skills to Work on Things That Matter to You

                                    What can you practice that would radically improve your chances of winning?

                                    If you want to climb the corporate ladder, for example, then develop the skills needed to do this. These might include: effective project management skills, powerful presentation abilities, and superb goal setting skills.

                                    Of course, don’t forget that emulating those who have already achieved your goal is one of the quickest and most reliable ways for you to achieve your aims, too.

                                    35. Act Until You Make It

                                    The body is a mirror for the mind, so shifting your body language into a confident state can have surprising results.

                                    This is all about acting. If you want to come across as tough, act tough. If you want to come across as successful, act successful. And if you want to come across as confident, act confident.

                                    Try doing these things, and you’ll be amazed by the results.

                                    36. Push Through When You Want to Give up

                                    Don’t get disheartened or demotivated when you get to 90% with something you’re working on. Push through, and you’ll see that the last 10% is where the magic happens.

                                    37. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

                                    Keep comparing yourself to others? Stop it. If you want to learn how to be confident, don’t try to validate yourself through comparison—you’re just peachy as you are.

                                    Social media often makes this difficult. Try stepping away from your Facebook page for a few days and reconnect with the great things in your own life.

                                    You can get started with this guide.

                                    38. Speak up When You Can Make a Difference

                                    Speak up if there’s something you think could be improved or if you have an idea you think has legs.

                                    Have you noticed that quiet people at work rarely get the promotions? It’s not that they are incapable or lacking talent, but their abilities are usually overlooked as they don’t know how to engage with others or how to sell themselves.

                                    Step out of your comfort zone and be sure that you’re an active player. Speak up in meetings by suggesting ideas and offering constructive criticism.

                                    39. Stop Struggling and Start Accepting

                                    If there’s something you’ve been struggling to understand for a while, stop trying to understand it. Accept it just as it is, fully and wholly.

                                    Life offers endless mysteries. If you try to resolve them all you’ll drive yourself insane. Instead, let some mysteries remain, and keep your mind focused on your goals and dreams.

                                    40. It’s Okay to Be Shy

                                    There’s nothing wrong with being shy, and it doesn’t mean you’re not a confident person.

                                    If you suffer from shyness, you might think it’s a major weakness of yours. However, introverted people have the edge in many ways, such as: they’re first-rate listeners, they have excellent observational skills, and they’re easier to trust[4].

                                    41. Clean up Your Environment

                                    Your environment directly impacts your self-perception. So, if you’re surrounded by clutter, paperwork, and rubbish, put a morning aside to clean up your stuff and get organized.

                                    42. Write a List of Things You Would Love to Do

                                    Write yourself a list of the amazing things you’d love to do in your life, and make a start by simply looking into the first one or two things that leap out at you. This will help you get started as you learn how to be confident

                                    Even if you don’t currently have the means to live your dreams, you can, at the very least, make a start. The best way to do this is to write out the things you’d love to do. These may include cool stuff, such as travelling the world, learning a new language, or climbing a mountain.

                                    Once you’ve added the items to your list, don’t stop there. Begin researching and preparing ways to turn your dreams into realities.

                                    43. Make Your Self-Worth Independent From Others’ Validation

                                    Don’t make your happiness or self-worth dependent on being in a relationship or being validated by someone else.

                                    Advertising

                                    While it’s difficult to admit it, we often find ourselves rating our self-esteem by the value other people put on us.

                                    For instance, you may have a super-positive boss who is always encouraging and supportive. They make you feel upbeat and confident at all times.

                                    However, imagine if they left and your new boss was the complete opposite. They constantly look for faults in your work and regularly criticize you. Would you still feel confident in those circumstances?

                                    If you’ve answered no, then you need to reappraise your self-worth, as it shouldn’t be dependent on the validation of others.

                                    44. Use Your Strengths

                                    We all have our weaknesses, but they only undermine your confidence if you let them.

                                    For instance, are you aware that Virgin’s founder Richard Branson suffers from dyslexia? He never let this hold him back or destroy his confidence. Today, he is one of the world’s most successful men, with a net worth of approximately $5 billion[5].

                                    45. Complete a To-Do List

                                    The longer you leave that big thing on your to-do list, the more it’ll drain you, and the bigger it’ll seem. Get it done and free yourself up.

                                    If you have a big goal, break it down into smaller tasks. For instance, instead of trying to write a whole chapter of your book in one go, how about just writing the opening paragraph?

                                    46. Treat Your Body Well

                                    When learning how to be confident, our body image does matter, because if you have a bad relationship with your body, you won’t feel confident in yourself.

                                    What’s one of the first things most of us do when we get up in the morning? We look in the mirror. If we don’t like what we see there, then our day starts off with negative self-talk. If, on the other hand, we look in the mirror and feel proud of our appearance, then we start the day off in an upbeat, positive way.

                                    If you’re unhappy with your body and looks, do something to improve them. Exercise, diet, and styling are common ways of improving your body image—and your confidence.

                                    47. Learn to Say No

                                    Don’t say yes to taking on a task simply because you don’t want to rock the boat. You can politely decline requests you can’t meet without needing to create excuses.

                                    While saying yes to everything that comes your way might feel like you’re being helpful and in demand, in the long run, you’ll burn yourself out.

                                    48. Learn From Confident People

                                    Look at the people you respect who seem confident. Don’t copy them, but identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and what you can learn from it.

                                    People-watching is not only fun, but it can be informative, too. Look closely at successful people you know, or those being interviewed on TV, and over time you’ll begin to notice common traits, beliefs, and behaviors that they exhibit.

                                    49. Follow Through on Your Plans

                                    Most people find it easy to write plans. The hard part, of course, is seeing them through. To stand out from the crowd, make sure that you know exactly how to complete your plans.

                                    If you need to, write down a step-by-step guide and begin following it. Not only will this drive you towards the completion of your plans—but experiencing the progress will also give you a continuous boost to your self-esteem.

                                    50. Shift Your Focus When You Doubt Yourself

                                    When you feel yourself focusing inwards and becoming paralyzed with doubt or fear, switch to focusing outwards at what you can engage and interact with.

                                    I remember one of my writing tutors telling me that when the words stop flowing, it’s time to take a break— preferably a walk in the park. It’s sound advice as it’s very easy to get caught up with our thoughts and emotions and be unable to make progress.

                                    51. Never Beat Yourself up for Failing

                                    Life is guaranteed to not always be a barrel of laughs. Instead, it’s much more like a roller coaster. There will be ups and downs, so ride them out.

                                    The art of living is to know how to handle whatever comes you way. The best way to achieve this is by developing an iron core that is unhindered by the topsy-turvy outside world.

                                    Final Thoughts

                                    Here I’ve given you 51 different ways to start building self-confidence Take action on the ways that you’re drawn to.

                                    It’s not enough to read about them. For them to work, you must adopt them into your daily life. Do this, and you’ll start to feel your confidence soar.

                                    More on How to Be Confident

                                    Featured photo credit: Matheus Ferrero via unsplash.com

                                    Reference

                                    Read Next