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8 Quotes from “Say Anything” That Teach Us How to Rock at Life

8 Quotes from “Say Anything” That Teach Us How to Rock at Life

A 35-year-old version of Lloyd Dobler from the movie Say Anything is my total dream man.

All passionate, and kind, and genuine, and funny, and full of heart. *Swooooon.*  A version of him is out there somewhere, just waiting for me with his boombox and sweet hopeful smile…ah.

Say Anything is pretty much perfection. I love it so so very much. It’s not only got everything great about the 80′s coming-of-age flicks, but it is also arguably one of the most quotable movies ever.

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But that’s just, like, my opinion, man.

Here are 8 quotes from this awesome movie that teach us how to rock at life:

Lloyd Dobler: How many of them really know what they want, though? I mean, a lot of them think they have to know, right? But inside they don’t really know, so… I don’t know, but I know that I don’t know.
I wish that I knew that I didn’t know when I was eighteen!  In order to find the answers to life’s big questions, we must first know that there are indeed questions to be answered.  Three very precious words are the gateway to all knowledge – I don’t know.

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Lloyd Dobler: You must chill. You must chill.
Wigging out has never accomplished anything, plus it’s really obnoxious.  Don’t be a spaz.  Breathe deep, stay calm, and think clear.

Lloyd Dobler: I am looking for a dare to be great situation.
Ah, I love this one!  It makes me wanna do a fistpump!  I am looking for a life to be remembered. A life that improves the lives that surround it. A life that expands my soul.  It feels empowering just to say it, “I am looking for a dare to be great situation”.  BOOM!  Espavo!  Mediocrity is not something we have to accept – and the world benefits most from those who refuse to.

Constance: There’s no food in your food!
Joan Cusak is so wise.  I wish she were my older sister. Processed food is hard for our bodies to extract nutrition from (if it has any to begin with).  It’s best to not eat anything with ingredients too long and crazy to pronounce.  The fewer and simpler the ingredients, the better.

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Lloyd: I don’t want to sell anything, buy anything, or process anything as a career.  I don’t want to sell anything bought or processed, or buy anything sold or processed, or process anything sold, bought, or processed, or repair anything sold, bought, or processed.  You know, as a career, I don’t want to do that.
Sometimes it feels like those are the only options in this crazy ass society, but there’s more, there really is!  What do you love?  What makes time fly?  When do you feel ‘in the flow’?  Tenaciously pursue that thing with all of your heart – and answer phones, or deliver pizza, or whatever hustle you can rustle – until you can make some dough doing what you love.

Lloyd: She gave me a pen.  I gave her my heart, she gave me a pen.
Pens are important tools that show us that we have the power to create the life we want, and that the world is just our blank page.  Nah, I’m totally kidding! This is just a really great quote, and I couldn’t bear to leave it out.

Lloyd: Why can’t you be in a good mood?  How hard is it to decide to be in a good mood and be in a good mood once in a while?
It’s easy to forget that we have control over the thoughts we think, which yield the emotions we feel.  We can choose to be in a good mood and enjoy the day, regardless of the circumstances.  What’s the worst thing that could happen if you chose to focus on the positive instead of having yourself a pity party?

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Diane Court: Nobody thinks it will work, do they?
Lloyd Dobler: No. You just described every great success story.
Challenging society’s norms, taking risks, and daring to defy others’ expectations is the only way anything great has ever been done.  Follow your heart and screw what other people think!

See? Best movie ever.

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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