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7 Reasons to Be Friends With Your Sister

7 Reasons to Be Friends With Your Sister

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    The bond that sisters have with each other starts at an early age, and as you grow up with each other you automatically know each other’s inner workings. Only children often wish they had the camaraderie that siblings have together, someone they can play with. Yes, you fight with each other and do mean things like cutting the hair off their favorite Barbie. But at the end of the day, there is a sacred bond between sisters.

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    As we get older, sometimes it becomes more difficult to remain close. There may be arguments or perhaps an ocean between you, but when you need your sis’, she’ll be there as though a day hadn’t passed. Here are seven reasons why it is so great to be friends with your sister.

    1. You have unconditional love

    Whatever mistakes you make, your sister will always love you. While she may not agree with your choices or understand your decisions, she will be there when everything falls apart. That unconditional love can be a miracle for those messy times in your life.

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    2. The silly factor

    There’s something about a sister that brings out the silliest parts of us. Nobody else can have me rolling on the ground with a sore stomach from laughing so much the way my sister does. The child in us just comes out and we can be outrageous and goofy with each other.

    3. You’ve been friends since you were in diapers

    Our sisters have seen all the struggles and triumphs we experienced in our most important, formative years. You relate to each other in a way nobody else could. Although there is a difference between the oldest, middle and baby of the family, you were all raised by the same parents. You were taught the same values and manners. You experienced the same family vacations and lived in the same house with the same dog. Not only do you have these factors, but you also come from the same blood, making you genetically similar.

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    4. She’s your mirror and quasi-therapist

    Sisters understand many of the actions you do based on the upbringing you shared. Things that happen to you when you’re a child can mold the adult you become. If you can’t see a reason for why you are who you are, a sister will often know where emotions are stemming from, which perhaps might be an experience you’ve long forgotten.

    Sisters and siblings in general can both relate to and understand your behavioral patterns. If you had a home that lacked communication, you could be closed off to people. While most of the people in your life won’t get it, your sisters will. Sisters communicate really well about their feelings and often dig into the past to figure out the present. Having another perspective on the family dynamics can be very helpful.

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    5. Leaning on each other

    When a death in the family occurs, sisters can heavily lean on each other for support. Sisters are compassionate and often open with their emotions. This helps each sister realize that they are not alone in their pain. Months after the death, sisters can cry to each other or laugh about the good times had. A sister can see when you’re exhausted and will take over some responsibilities during a family death. There is a certain comfort factor in having a sister during difficult times that nobody else could replace.

    6. There’s nothing like a sisterly hug

    Some hugs in life are terribly awkward where maybe you hang on for too long or your arms are in the wrong spot. With a sister though, it’s natural, genuine and loving.

    7. Your true self

    You are pretty much forced to be your true self in the face of your sister. If you act differently, she’ll call you on it and what’s the point of acting if you’re not believable anyway? This makes it so easy to just be you, to be honest with your feelings and who you are. Even if something has happened between your sister and you, you can keep it real and talk about it openly.

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    Last Updated on January 3, 2020

    The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

    The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

    Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

    The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

    1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

    Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

     I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

    To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

    And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

     2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

    Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

    3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

    Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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    4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

    The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

    5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

    Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

    6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

    Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

    7. Positive people smile a lot!

    When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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    8. People who are positive are great communicators.

    They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

    9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

    One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

    10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

    Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

    How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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    I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

    Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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