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7 Negative Weight Loss Mindsets to Overcome

7 Negative Weight Loss Mindsets to Overcome

When it comes to the weight loss battle, your biggest enemy is usually yourself. There is a mental battle that rages in all of us daily that can be like a swift kick to the stomach! Over the years, one thing I’ve learned from working with new clients is almost all of their weight issues start between their ears. In fact, many of them had great exercise/nutrition programs but weren’t able to implement it due to their terrible mindset. They eventually came to realize that they are constantly berating or degrading themselves – everyday. Do these thoughts sound familiar?

I can’t lose weight – it’s too hard! I’m destined to be overweight. This is my life!

This basically leads to the “you are what you think you are” truth. Although easier said than done, it’s time to drop this terrible mental baggage that has been weighing you down. Here are 7 negative weight loss mindsets that you need to overcome!

1. Right Here, Right Now

“I really want to lose 15 pounds…. in less than 2 weeks!”
“Who has time to do it the right way? I want this weight gone now!”

The bottom line: In all seriousness: how do you expect to lose the weight that has taken you months or years to gain in a matter of days? It’s going to take time!  It usually takes at least four weeks for you to notice small changes in your body and even up to eight weeks for your friends and family to notice these changes! Trust me, four weeks can fly by. Take your weight loss plan four weeks at a time!

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2. I Need the Magic Pill

“Exercise or take a pill? Hmmm seems like an easy choice?”
“I cure my colds with a pill, surely there has to be an easy solution for losing all of this weight!”

The bottom line: Yes, with the fad diets out there you may be able to lose weight quickly, but at what cost? What’s the point of losing 10 pounds in a few days only to regain it and more in 2 weeks? This is the weight yo-yo that occurs when sustainable practices aren’t used. We need to lose weight the sustainable way by teaching ourselves how to live a healthy, gentle lifestyle.

3. I Can’t Do It

“I’ve tried twice before and failed – it’s no use!”
“I simply can’t do it. It’s way too hard for someone like me to do. I’ve always failed!

The bottom line: There isn’t another excuse out there that will annoy your trainer more than this nonsense. Simply put, you can honestly do anything you put your mind to! You see the people that lose weight and you wish you could be like them. Well guess what? They were exactly like you at one point – they simply took action and made changes in their lives. Stand up, take action, make health changes, and take your life back!

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4. I’ll Start Next Week

“Since it’s already Wednesday I’ll splurge all week and then start on Monday!
“Just 3 more cookies – it doesn’t matter anyways, I’m starting to watch my diet next week!”

The bottom line: We’ve all used this one at one time or another – it’s an easy to make excuse. But seriously, you need to start making changes today! Not even massive changes, just small changes that add up to healthy habits and big results. Drop those terrible excuses today. Today you can start learning, failing, overcoming, changing, and making a huge change in your life!

5. I Don’t Know What to Do

 “Nutrition and calorie deficits are hard. I have no idea what to do!”
“What’s “HIIT session” for that matter? I’ll just stick to the treadmill!”

The bottom line: In the grand scheme of things, this excuse at face-value looks pretty valid. Maybe so before the explosion of the internet, but today there are literally hundreds of thousands of workouts you can view for free online – for instance here! Find one that you think would be great for you, mimic the moves, and learn as you go – the same goes for nutrition. There is so much great information out there that can help you get started today!

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6. I Must Always Be Hunger to Be Losing Weight

“The diet isn’t working if I’m not starving!”
“I lost a few pounds on my 1750 calorie diet. If I drop it below 1000 calories a day, I’ll lose even more!”

The bottom line: This is a pretty dangerous mentality that you must overcome. In reality, a small daily calorie deficit is all that you need to start losing weight sustainable. Meaning you need to slightly burn more calories than you take in. Get this: a small 100 daily calorie deficit can lead to 36,500 fewer calories a year. This adds up to over 10 pounds worth of calories a year! Not only that, when you are on a severe calories restriction your body works against you in order to actually slow your weight loss down.

7. Go Hard or Go Home

“They basically workout until they puke on the Biggest Loser – I should do the same!”
“You aren’t doing it right if you aren’t in pain!”

The bottom line: This common negative weight loss mentality occurs to most beginners – they try to mimic what they see on TV. The danger for beginners is that you have a relatively low exercise capacity, so pushing yourself so hard so early can potentially result in injury or quitting the program. Who in their right mind would want to stay on a program that not only made you so sore you couldn’t move for 3 days but also required you to puke each time? I’m definitely out on that program! Instead start slow and slowly increase your intensity as you increase your exercise capacity!

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Wrap-Up

Seriously guys, the stuff we tell ourselves everyday is mind-boggling. We tell ourselves crap that we would never even tell anyone else to their face! What’s worse, as a trainer I see the amazing things everyone is capable of doing but the only thing holding them back is their mindset! It’s not your job, it’s not your friends, it’s not even your finances – it’s your mind!

The potential that you have is staggering – just stand up, take action, and start moving forward. Not next month, not next week, not tomorrow, but today! So let’s stop telling ourselves that we aren’t good enough. Let’s break free from this crappy mental baggage and see how far we really can go!

Featured photo credit: Gerd Altmann via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on August 20, 2019

How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for the creation of good in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life.

Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affect your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality. (And here’s Why Your Perception Is Your Reality.)

I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive and just a general waste of energy.

You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

Choose to be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts. Become the master of your mind.

When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

I currently have few thoughts that are not of my own choosing or a response from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so now my mind is quite peaceful. Yours can be too!

Who Is Thinking My Thoughts?

Before you can become the master of your mind, you must recognize that you are currently at the mercy of several unwanted “squatters” living in your mind, and they are in charge of your thoughts. If you want to be the boss of them, you must know who they are and what their motivation is, and then you can take charge and evict them.

Here are four of the “squatters” in your head that create the most unhealthy and unproductive thoughts:

1. The Inner Critic

This is your constant abuser who is often a conglomeration of:

  • Other people’s words; many times your parents.
  • Thoughts you have created based on your own or other peoples expectations.
  • Comparing yourself to other people, including those in the media.
  • The things you told yourself as a result of painful experiences such as betrayal and rejection. Your interpretation creates your self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely undeserved in cases of rejection and betrayal.

The Inner Critic is motivated by pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance and lack of self-love.

Why else would this person abuse you? And since this person is actually you– why else would you abuse yourself? Why would you let anyone treat you this badly?

2. The Worrier

This person lives in the future; in the world of “what ifs.”

The Worrier is motivated by fear which is often irrational and with no basis for it. Occasionally, this person is motivated by fear that what happened in the past will happen again.

3. The Reactor or Trouble-Maker

This is the one that triggers anger, frustration and pain. These triggers stem from unhealed wounds of the past. Any experience that is even closely related to a past wound will set him off.

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This person can be set off by words or feelings, and can even be set off by sounds and smells.

The Reactor has no real motivation and has poor impulse control and is run by past programming that no longer serves you, if it ever did.

4. The Sleep Depriver

This can be a combination of any number of different squatters including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator, along with the inner critic and the worrier.

The Sleep Depriver’s motivation can be:

  • As a reaction to silence, which he fights against
  • Taking care of the business you neglected during the day
  • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, insecurity and generalized anxiety
  • As listed above for the inner critic and worrier

How can you control these squatters?

How to Master Your Mind

You are the thinker and the observer of your thoughts. You must pay attention to your thoughts so you can identify “who” is running the show; this will determine which technique you will want to use.

Begin each day with the intention of paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you are thinking undesirable thoughts.

There are two ways to control your thoughts:

  • Technique A – Interrupt and replace them
  • Technique B – Eliminate them altogether

This second option is what is known as peace of mind!

The technique of interrupting and replacing is a means of reprogramming your subconscious mind. Eventually, the replacement thoughts will become the “go to” thoughts in the applicable situations.

Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier; and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.

For the Inner Critic

When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself), interrupt it.

You can yell (in your mind), “Stop! No!” or, “Enough! I’m in control now.” Then, whatever your negative thought was about yourself, replace it with an opposite or counter thought or an affirmation that begins with “I am.”

For example, if your thought is, “I’m such a loser,” you can replace it with, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit. I am a perfect spiritual being learning to master the human experience. I am a being of energy, light, and matter. I am magnificent, brilliant, and beautiful. I love and approve of myself just as I am.”

You can also have a dialogue with yourself with the intention of discrediting the ‘voice’ that created the thought, if you know whose voice it is:

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“Just because so-and-so said I was a loser doesn’t make it true. It was his or her opinion, not a statement of fact. Or maybe they were joking and I took it seriously because I’m insecure.”

If you recognize that you have recurring self-critical thoughts, you can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready. This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully, if necessary:

  • They rile up the Worrier.
  • The names you call yourself become triggers when called those names by others, so he also maintains the presence of the Reactor.
  • They are often present when you try to fall asleep so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
  • They are a bully and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
  • They are the destroyer of self-esteem. They convince you that you’re not worthy. They’re a liar! In the interest of your self-worth, get them out!

Eliminate your worst critic and you will also diminish the presence of the other three squatters.

Replace them with your new best friends who support, encourage, and enhance your life. This is a presence you want in your mind.

For the Worrier

Prolonged anxiety is mentally, emotionally and physically unhealthy. It can have long-term health implications.

Fear initiates the fight or flight response, creates worry in the mind and creates anxiety in the body.

You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:

  • Increased heart rate, blood pressure, or surge of adrenaline
  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
  • Muscles tense

Use the above stated method to interrupt any thought of worry and then replace it. But this time you will replace your thoughts of worry with thoughts of gratitude for the outcome you wish for.

If you believe in a higher power, this is the time to engage with it. Here is an example:

Instead of worrying about my loved ones traveling in bad weather, I say the following (I call it a prayer):

“Thank you great spirit for watching over _______. Thank you for watching over his/her car and keeping it safe, road-worthy, and free of maintenance issues without warning. Thank you for surrounding him/her with only safe, conscientious, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, conscientious, and alert.”

Smile when you think about it or say it aloud, and phrase it in the present tense; both of these will help you feel it and possibly even start to believe it.

If you can visualize what you are praying for, the visualization will enhance the feeling so you will increase the impact in your vibrational field.

Now take a calming breath, slowly in through your nose, and slowly out through the mouth. Take as many as you like!

Replacing fearful thoughts with gratitude will decrease reactionary behavior, taking the steam out of the Reactor.

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For example:

If your child gets lost in the mall, the typical parental reaction that follows the fearful thoughts when finding them is to yell at them.

“I told you never to leave my sight.” This reaction just adds to the child’s fear level from being lost in the first place. Plus, it also teaches them that mom and/or dad will get mad when he or she makes a mistake, which may make them lie to you or not tell you things in the future.

Change those fearful thoughts when they happen:

“Thank You (your choice of Higher Power) for watching over my child and keeping him safe. Thank you for helping me find him soon.”

Then, when you see your child after this thought process, your only reaction will be gratitude, and that seems like a better alternative for all people involved.

For the Trouble-Maker, Reactor or Over-Reactor

Permanently eliminating this squatter will take a bit more attention and reflection after the fact to identify and heal the causes of the triggers; but until then, you can prevent the Reactor from getting out of control by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you recognize his presence.

The Reactor’s thoughts or feelings activate the fight or flight response just like with the Worrier. The physiological signs of his presence will be the same. With a little attention, you should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, anger, frustration, or pain:

  • Increased heart rate and blood pressure; surge of adrenaline
  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
  • Muscles tension

I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry—well, you can make those ten seconds much more productive if you are breathing consciously during that time.

Conscious breathing is as simple as it sounds; just be conscious of your breathing. Pay attention to the air going in and coming out.

Breathe in through your nose:

  • Feel the air entering your nostrils.
  • Feel your lungs filling and expanding.
  • Focus on your belly rising.

Breathe out through your nose:

  • Feel your lungs emptying.
  • Focus on your belly falling.
  • Feel the air exiting your nostrils.

Do this for as long as you like. Leave the situation if you want. This gives the adrenaline time to normalize.

Now you can address the situation with a calmer, more rational perspective and avoid damaging behavior.

One of the troubles this squatter causes is that it adds to the sleep depriver’s issues. By evicting, or at least controlling the Reactor, you will decrease reactionary behavior, which will decrease the need for the rehashing and ruminating that may keep you from falling asleep.

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Master your mind and stop the Reactor from bringing stress to you and your relationships!

For the Sleep Depriver

(They’re made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher and the Ruminator, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier.)

I was plagued with a very common problem: not being able to turn off my mind at bedtime. This inability prevented me from falling asleep and thus, getting a restful and restorative night’s sleep.

Here’s how I mastered my mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and all his cronies.

  1. I started by focusing on my breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of my belly—but that didn’t keep the thoughts out for long. (Actually, I now start with checking my at-rest mouth position to keep me from clenching.)
  2. Then I came up with replacement strategy that eliminated uncontrolled thinking—imagining the word in while breathing in and thinking the word out when breathing out. I would (and do) elongate the word to match the length of my breath.

When I catch myself thinking, I shift back to in, out. With this technique, I am still thinking, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I am in control of my mind and I choose quiet.

From the first time I tried this method I started to yawn after only a few cycles and am usually asleep within ten minutes.

For really difficult nights, I add an increase of attention by holding my eyes in a looking-up position (Closed, of course!). Sometimes I try to look toward my third eye but that really hurts my eyes.

If you have trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind, I strongly recommend you try this technique. I still use it every night. You can start sleeping better tonight!

You can also use this technique any time you want to:

  • Fall back to sleep if you wake up too soon.
  • Shut down your thinking.
  • Calm your feelings.
  • Simply focus on the present moment. 

The Bottom Line

Your mind is a tool, and like any other tool, it can be used for constructive purposes or for destructive purposes.

You can allow your mind to be occupied by unwanted, undesirable and destructive tenants, or you can choose desirable tenants like peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.

Your mind can become your best friend, your biggest supporter, and someone you can count on to be there and encourage you. The choice is yours!

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