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15 Things I Want My Son to Understand Before He Becomes A Teenager

15 Things I Want My Son to Understand Before He Becomes A Teenager

Do you have a son? Watching your son grow from a boy to a teenager can be both beautiful and confusing for the parents and the son.

Check out these 15 things I want my son to understand before he becomes a teenager.

1. Fake It Until You Make It

Sometimes you many not feel very confident, but know that you are capable, talented and intelligent. Sometimes you will have to fake confidence, but if you believe in yourself you will realize you are worthy of respect and that you deserve to be confident.

2. Always Try To Be Nice

If you live by one rule, choose this one. Always try to be nice and your life will be more pleasant and easier because of this. Use your manners, offer to hold doors open for others, and be respectful towards everyone you meet.

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Don’t be a bully – hurting and intimidating others will get you nowhere in life. And it won’t go well for you if I ever discover you have behaved like a bully!

3. Understand The Importance Of Trust

Be willing to trust everyone you meet – but do not trust anyone blindly. People have to earn your trust, and many people will deserve your trust. Be thankful, and appreciate everyone in your life that you can trust.

4. Learn How To Be Independent Around The House

Cooking, cleaning and doing the laundry – these are life skills that you will use every day. It may seem like a boring waste of time now, but when you get older you will be extremely glad that you don’t smell bad and that you can feed yourself.

You will feel good about yourself for being self-reliant – and it will be much easier for you to get a date.

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5. Do Not Be Ruled By Negative Emotions

It is simple; fear and bitterness can ruin your life and make you very unhappy. Learn forgiveness, and how to let go for a much happier life.

6. Be Funny, But Don’t Be Mean

It is a lot of fun cracking jokes and being witty with your friends and family, but try to think before you make a joke. Will it offend, embarrass or upset someone? If it does, it isn’t a joke – and you could lose a friend. Would it be worth it?

7. Enjoy Me-Time

When life gets hectic and you feel overwhelmed, spend a few hours alone. Play on the Xbox or go for a walk – it will help you relax, and the peace and calm can also help to solve many of your problems.

8. Don’t Be Afraid To Tell Me If You Make Mistakes

Even the best humans make mistakes. We all do, and if you ever make a bad mistake, know you can always tell me. Even if it seems like the worst thing in the world, I promise to try and help you.

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And if you really can’t tell me, tell someone else who you trust.

9. Decide What Matters To You

Decide what matters the most to you in life, and then live by it. Whether it is a career, your family or simply following happiness, stick to it and you are likely to live a good life.

10. Explore Everything

Explore the whole world, and if you don’t like the idea of that, explore the town where you live. Broaden your horizons and see new things. These things will broaden your mind and make you a more insightful person. I will always be waiting at home for you.

11. Treasure Your Family And Friends

Hold the people you love dearly close to your heart. When times are hard they will help carry your burdens, and when times are good they will join you to celebrate your successes.

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12. Trust And Respect Are The Most Important Parts Of Sex

You may worry that everyone is having sex with everyone, but this is not simply not true. Don’t worry about if you’re having sex, or how many people you’ve slept with – sex is a beautiful thing and when it happens, it happens.

If someone is kind enough to let you have sex with them, wear protection and treat them with the respect they deserve. Never forget that no means no.

13. Feelings Are Not Permanent

No matter how happy you are, you will be sad again. Remember this and try to throw yourself into every great moment.

No matter how sad you are, you will be happy again. No feelings are permanent, but if you are going through a very hard time, get help.

14. Choose Your Own Path

Don’t try to follow the crowd. Put a lot of thought into what makes you happy and what you want to spend your life doing. Remember that hard work, sticking at it and a good attitude will help you to achieve anything you want in life.

15. Stand Up For Your Beliefs

Your beliefs help to shape you as a person. If you see something that you know is wrong, speak out. Be strong and brave even if it feels hard, because you will be proud of yourself later.

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Last Updated on March 13, 2019

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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