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15 Signs That It’s Time to Have a Baby

15 Signs That It’s Time to Have a Baby

Having children is the biggest decision most people make in their lives. It’s a huge responsibility. Children are expensive, they require most of your time, and they’ll be around for at least 18 years. Are you ready? Here are 15 signs that you may be ready for parenthood.

1. If you are between 25 and 35 years old

This seems to be the statistical sweet spot to have kids. Most people have kids when they’re between the ages of 25 and 35. If you’re in that age range, then you’re officially in the age range that most people have kids and that’s always a good start in figuring out if you’re ready to have kids.

2. Your priorities are in line

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    You know where your money is going. Your bills are up to date, you have a stable place to live, and your job is stable. Your significant other is there to stay. When you get off of work you have literally nothing to do for the rest of the day because all the important stuff is done. When all your priorities are in order, then you’re definitely ready for the responsibility of having kids.

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    3. Your significant other is ready to have kids

    You’ll know it when it happens. They’ll start dropping hints about it. They seem to stare a little to long at other couples who have children. They walk by the baby stuff at the grocery store every single time you go. Obviously you shouldn’t be pressured into something you’re not ready for but if your significant other is ready to go then you know you’re not going into this alone and that’s helpful.

    4. You start enjoying being around other people’s children

    Your friends probably have kids. When the biological urge to have your own starts to hit you hard, you’ll compensate by enjoying spending time with other people’s kids. You volunteer to babysit. At picnics or BBQs, you’re the one with the pool noodles pretending to be the ocean monster or tossing the baseball around with the kids. If this sounds like you then you may be ready to have kids of your own.

    5. You start talking about when you have kids

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      This one requires a little self realization but you’ll know when it happens. You’ll begin to tell other people how you’ll raise your kids, what you’ll do with them, and how you’ll teach them things. You’ve heard other people say this stuff before. “Yeah when I have kids, I’m going to get them enrolled in music lessons at an early age. I hear that helps them develop better learning skills.” That is a person who is ready to have kids.

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      6. You have begun to have more non-romantic feelings

      This is the mother or father inside of you yearning to come out. You just have that urge to care about something or someone in a way you’ve never felt before. That’s kind of what parenthood feels like when you ask about it. It’s a different kind of love and one that isn’t immediately quantifiable. If you’re wanting something in your life to care for that much, maybe it’s time to have a kid so you can have it.

      7. You’ve started unconsciously planning for it

      You could have bought that Shelby Mustang. That one bedroom apartment downtown looked pretty good. Nope, you instead went and bought an SUV or a minivan and you moved out to the suburbs. Aren’t those the perfect things to have when raising a family? Why yes, yes they are. You may be planning on having kids someday but when you actually put into motion those plans then it means you’re pretty close to being ready to have kids.

      8. You’re ready to continue on the family traditions

      When you were a kid, you had traditions in your household. You may have had family Christmas parties or Thanksgiving dinners. You may go camping one week every summer with your family. It can be anything. When you start thinking about wanting to continue that family tradition, you’ll need kids to pass it on to. Thus, it’s a pretty good indication that you secretly want some kids when you’re having that urge to pass on the tradition.

      9. You treat your pets like people

      Having pets is nothing like having kids but there are some similarities. You have to feed them and clean up after them. You care about them more than some of your friends. However, when you start telling people that your pets are your kids, it’s really your subconscious shouting that you’re ready for the responsibility for real kids. It’s your biology speaking. If you’re will to pretend your pets are kids, then you’re probably ready to have your own kids.

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      10. Your attitude toward children’s things change

      Have you started enjoying things like Spongebob? Do you spot someone changing their kid’s diaper and not run away in terror? You may have found that the things kids do don’t gross you out quite as much as they used to or that the things they like aren’t as bad as you originally though. People who aren’t ready to have kids generally dislike the things that kids do. If you’re not one of those people, then you’re probably good to go with having your own.

      11. Your attitude toward other people having kids change

      When you’re ready to have kids then your friends having kids doesn’t seem like such a bad idea anymore. You’re not thinking about how lame they’re going to be. You’re not dreading the seemingly infinite number of baby pictures that’ll erupt from Facebook like a giant volcano. You’re excited for them and that means you’ll be excited for you when it happens to you.

      12. Sleeping in doesn’t sound as much fun as it used to

      Everybody knows that having kids means you won’t get a good night’s rest again until they go visit grandma and grandpa for the weekend. If the thought of waking up at 6 a.m. every morning is something that sounds just horrible then you may not be ready for kids yet. If you’re already waking up kind of early and you don’t really look forward to waking up at noon then you’re already ready to deal with arguably one of the worst parts of having a baby.

      13. Going clubbing sounds like a bad idea

      Or really any late-night activities. Going to the bar, going to the club, going to a house party, or really going anywhere where there is shenanigans can be included. If you’re done with that kind of lifestyle it’s probably because you’re ready for a different kind of lifestyle. One where bed time is earlier, the activities are more PG, and one that involves having kids.

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      14. You’re ready for more challenges

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        If you’re currently bored with life then you may need a new, much harder challenge. Raising kids is very challenging and never boring. You’re going to teach them how to use the bathroom, tie shoes, drive, the birds and the bees, and how to avoid and learn from mistakes. It’s a 24/7 responsibility and some people simply aren’t ready for that kind of commitment. If you’re feeling like your life needs more responsibility then maybe it’s time to give yourself some more responsibility.

        15. Your outlook on life changes

        There is a point in all of our lives where we live for us. It’s about what makes us happy. We’re buying the food we want and the gadgets we want. We go where we want and do what we want. Eventually that feeling fades and you start wanting to live for others. Suddenly other people’s lives matter as much as your own. You start buying things with other people in mind. You start allowing your life to be planned around others. You may even start feeling bad when you do something selfish. If that sounds like the transition you’re going through, it’s because you’re preparing yourself to be a parent. When you have kids, they’re the ones that matter and deep down you know that. When you can put the lives of others ahead of your own, you’re ready to have kids.

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        10 Powerful Ways to Stop Worrying and Start Living Today

        10 Powerful Ways to Stop Worrying and Start Living Today

        Plato knew that the body and mind are intimately linked. And in the late 1800s, the Mayo brothers, famous physicians, estimated that over half of all hospital beds are filled with people suffering from frustration, anxiety, worry and despair. Causes of worry are everywhere, in our relationships and our jobs, so it’s key we find ways to take charge of the stress.

        In his classic book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Dale Carnegie offers tools to ditch excessive worrying that help you make a worry-free environment for your private and professional life.

        These are the top 10 tips to grab worry by the horns and wrestle it to the ground:

        1. Make Your Decision and Never Look Back

        Have you ever made a decision in life only to second-guess it afterwards? Of course you have! It’s hard not to wonder whether you’ve done the right thing and whether there might still be time to take another path.

        But keep this in mind: you’ve already made your decision, so act decisively on it and dismiss all your anxiety about it.

        Don’t stop to hesitate, to reconsider, or to retrace your steps. Once you’ve chosen a course of action, stick to it and never waver.

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        2. Live for Today, Package Things up in “Day-Tight Compartments”

        You know that feeling: tossing, turning and worrying over something that happened or something that might, well into the wee hours. To avoid this pointless worrying, you need “day-tight compartments”. Much as a ship has different watertight compartments, your own “day-tight” ones are a way to limit your attention to the present day.

        The rule is simple: whatever happened in the past or might happen in the future must not intrude upon today. Everything else has to wait its turn for tomorrow’s box or stay stuck in the past.

        3. Embrace the Worst-Case Scenario and Strategize to Offset It

        If you’re worried about something, ask yourself: “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” Could you lose your job? Be jailed? Get killed?

        Whatever the “worst” might be, it’s probably not so world-ending. You could probably even bounce back from it!

        If, for example, you lose your job, you could always find another. Once you accept the worst-case scenario and get thinking about contingency plans, you’ll feel calmer.

        4. Put a Lid on Your Worrying

        Sometimes we stress endlessly about negative experiences when just walking away from them would serve us far better.

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        To make squashing that worry easier, try this strategy, straight from stock traders: it’s called the “stop-loss” order, where shares are bought at a certain price, and then their price development is observed. If things go badly and the share price hits a certain point, they are sold off immediately. This stops the loss from increasing further.

        In the same manner, you can put a stop-loss order on things that cause you stress and grief.

        5. Fake It ‘Til You Make It – Happiness, That Is

        We can’t directly influence how we feel, but we can nudge ourselves to change through how we think and act.

        If you’re feeling sad or low, slap a big grin on your face and whistle a chipper tune. You’ll find it impossible to be blue when acting cheerful. But you don’t necessarily need to act outwardly happy; you can simply think happier thoughts instead.

        Marcus Aurelius summed it up aptly:

        “Our life is what our thoughts make it.”

        6. Give for the Joy of Giving

        When we perform acts of kindness, we often do so with the expectation of gratitude. But harboring such expectations will probably leave you disappointed.

        One person well aware of this fact was the lawyer Samuel Leibowitz. Over the course of his career, Leibowitz saved 78 people from going to the electric chair. Guess how many thanked him? None.

        So stop expecting gratitude when you’re kind to someone. Instead, take joy from the act yourself.

        7. Dump Envy – Enjoy Being Uniquely You

        Your genes are completely unique. Even if someone had the same parents as you, the likelihood of someone identical to you being born is just one in 300,000 billion.

        Despite this amazing fact, many of us long to be someone else, thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. But living your life this way is pointless. Embrace your uniqueness and get comfortable with who you really are: How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

        8. Haters Will Hate — It Just Means You’re Doing It Right

        When you’re criticized, it often means you’re accomplishing something noteworthy. In fact, let’s take it a step further and consider this: the more you’re criticized, the more influential and important a person you likely are.

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        So the next time somebody talks you down, don’t let it get to you. Take it as a compliment!

        9. Chill Out! Learn to Rest Before You Get Tired

        Scientists agree that emotions are the most common cause of fatigue. And it works the other way around, too: fatigue produces more worries and negative emotions.

        It should be clear, therefore, that you’ve got to relax regularly before you feel tired. Otherwise, worries and fatigue will accumulate on top of each other.

        It’s impossible to worry when you are relaxed, and regular rest helps you maintain your ability to work effectively.

        10. Get Organized and Enjoy Your Work

        There are few greater sources of misery in life than having to work, day in, day out, in a job you despise. It would make sense then that you shouldn’t pick a job you hate, or even just dislike doing.

        But say you already have a job. How can you make it more enjoyable and worry-free? One way is to stay organized: a desk full of unanswered mails and memos is sure to breed worries.

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        Better yet, rethink about the job you’re doing: What to Do When You Hate Your Job but Want a Successful Career

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