Advertising
Advertising

11 Things Every Parent Should Tell Their Kids Every Day

11 Things Every Parent Should Tell Their Kids Every Day

Parents are responsible for teaching their children important lessons of life. The child’s mind is like wet clay: whatever he or she hears and sees leaves a lasting impression. They are innocent, sensitive, and need lots of affection! You can place them in your lap and teach them values; try to talk to them instead of instructing them. As parents you need to spend quality time with them and also follow the same rules you are teaching your child if you want them to listen to you.

It is said that words make the greatest impact. Using simple phrases can help to gain your child’s obedience and this will enable you to teach those good habits and values they must know. Here is a list of things you can tell your child every day.

What will you tell your child every day?

It is important that your child learns basic etiquette and habits before he or she attends pre-school. This will make your child smart and confident enough to strike up a conversation with others! A child’s social and emotional development is as important as their physical development. So as a parent you have to know the factors that affect their social and emotional development and teach them the required skills.

1. “I love you.”

You can start your day by saying this to your kid or you can plant a kiss on their little cheeks to show affection. This phrase might mean three simple words to you, but for your child it means a lot! Your affection reassures her or him.

Advertising

2. “How was your day?”

As a parent, it is important that you show interest in their daily activities. Suppose you have sent your child to a daycare center while you work; after coming back home, the first thing you should ask is, “How was your day?” It is always great to hear their little anecdotes!

3. “Say please.”

If you want your child to have good manners, teach them to say “please” before they place a request.

4. “Thank you” & “you’re welcome.”

If you want your child to have impeccable manners, you have to teach the importance of saying thank you and you’re welcome. Suppose your child receives a gift on his birthday and starts tearing the wrapping paper in excitement without saying a thank you to the person who gave the gift. Don’t shy away from saying “shouldn’t you say thank you?” in public. This may embarrass your child a bit, but it will make him more aware.

5. “Never give up.”

When the child grows up, he has to join the rat race, so why not teach him how to take on challenges from childhood? Teach your child the importance of perseverance and patience when it comes to reaching their goals. You can also play puzzles and other brain games; this will not only help to keep the child’s mind agile, it will also teach the child to take up challenges.

Advertising

6. “You win.”

An encouraging word always boosts confidence. If your child has won a race or completed a puzzle or game successfully, always say “you win.” This will give the child a taste of success and what it means to become a winner.

7. “Text me when you get there.”

As parents, you are always worried about your child’s safety, and why not? After all, they are your little treasure. It is a good idea to give them mobile phones to save yourself from a heart attack! Always tell them to text you “I’m here” once they reach their destination. This gives you some peace of mind.

However, keep a tab on how your child is using the mobile phone. Your child is still immature and needs guidance, so keep checking their contact lists and messages without interfering too much. It is important to show that you care about their privacy.

8. “It’s your choice.”

As your child grows up, you have to teach them to make their own decisions and handle their own responsibilities. This will help to build their confidence, so say “it’s your choice” when you want them to make a call on something.

Advertising

9. “How are your friends?”

Always try to know your child’s friend circle. Know the names of their friends. It is said that the company a person chooses can make or break him. This is true, so keep a tab on the kind of friends your child selects. Your child may pick up both good and bad habits from their friends because they tend to emulate others, so correct their bad habits first. You can also arrange for parties at home and invite your child’s friends to play team building activities. Your child will simply love this!

10. “Don’t waste food.”

Children want to eat what they like. Often due to peer influence, they demand junk food. As a parent you have to be strict if your child wastes food; you have to rebuke them. It is a challenging task to make healthy foods tasty on daily basis.

You can probably prepare some healthy and tasty nibbles for them. You can inculcate healthy food habits in your child by repeating phrases, like “eat everything on your plate,” “don’t waste food,” “you have to eat everything if you want to become like Popeye the sailor man!”

11. “Tell the truth.”

Teach your child the value of honesty. Children tend to hide things from their parents since they are afraid of being scolded. You have to coax them to tell the truth always and teach them why it is important. This will make your child open up their secrets more easily.

Advertising

In addition to these other phrases, you can also say something like “you are always on my mind” to show your affection. You can also say “love and respect others” to teach them to empathetic. Always boost their self-esteem and confidence by telling them they are beautiful and intelligent. Happy parenting!

Featured photo credit: Happy Couple via shutterstock.com

More by this author

20 Healthy Pre and Post Workout Snacks You Should Try 11 Things Every Parent Should Tell Their Kids Every Day Hacks for a Professional Looking Manicure at Home 12 Surprising Benefits of Nettle Tea You Should Know

Trending in Family

1 What Happened to Family Dinners? Why We Should Bring Them Back 2 How to Cope with Empty Nest Syndrome and Stop Feeling Lonely 3 How Not to Let Work Take Priority over Spending Time With Family 4 35 Life Hacks for Kids That Make Parenting Easier And More Fun 5 20 Things to Remember If You Love a Person with ADD

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

Advertising

  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

Advertising

Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

Advertising

As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

Advertising

9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

More About Procrastination

Featured photo credit: Malvestida Magazine via unsplash.com

Read Next