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10 Ways to Get the Most Out of Life

10 Ways to Get the Most Out of Life

Live your dream. I have traveled the world, forging my path through an unconventional career and alternative studies, and I have explored the inner realms of human experience and consciousness. I believe you must learn to trust, and not let anything hold you back from the ultimate experience here on planet Earth. Get the most with these 10 tips on squeezing the maximum juice out of life.

1. Be yourself.

I know, you’ve heard it a million times, but this is the foundation of making the most out of life. You are unique. There is no one like you. You cannot live comparing yourself to others or to a mainstream ideal. Be you and give the world the gift of your particular expression, views, and creativity.

2. Be a spiritual cosmonaut.

Most of experience and reality is defined by the lens we perceive with. Change your inner world and you have changed your universe. It makes a life-changing difference to explore the inner territory of your consciousness. It’s not for the squeamish–especially at the boundaries–but the payoff is tremendous. Bring a lifejacket, some granola, and ask a shaman for directions.

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3. Find the Unity.

We are a speck connected to others and part of a great matrix. The experience of oneness is one of the ultimate toys in existence. Through unity you learn how selflessness relates to happiness, nd how living for others reveals to us who we are.

4. Fear little.

What is there to worry about? Pain? Yes. Suffering? Yes. Money? No! Where you’re going to live? No! Your job? No! We worry about too much for no good reason. With a strong mind and insight into the nature of reality, you will be okay. Depending on where you live, chances are you’ll be able to find a place to stay and a place to eat if you have neither. Not living your dream is costly. Living without fear is priceless.

5. Look for positive relationships.

Relationships can enhance our lives or detract from them. We don’t have time for bad ones; ones that make us tired, less confident, or put constraints on our true selves. Want to hear a secret? Don’t be too quick to ditch a current relationship that needs work. We often re-create the same issues in future relationships. Instead, try to make it a positive, uplifting relationship first. If that doesn’t work, then reconsider it.

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6. Find people like you.

Having a sense of community is a great source of support for your crazy ideas and ways of living life. Whatever you’re into, there are others out there like you. Sometimes family members and friends just don’t get us. Create or join a new family of like-minded folks and feel the relief of finally being understood.

7. Learn what you want, not just what schools offer.

Mainstream schools offer a certain way of learning, a certain method for assessing knowledge, and offer programs along a range of subjects that may not include what you are most interested in. My biggest complaint with many formal learning environments is that they often diminish the natural curiosity and excitement to learn we have as children. Think about what you most want to learn about, and go find learning opportunities in that area. For me, it was traveling to native villages and tapping counterculture hubs of wisdom. Don’t be afraid to take a non-traditional route to your future self and work.

8. Find incredible mentors.

Mentors can make the difference between doing something amazing and doing nothing at all. Get in other people’s jet stream, and let them open new doors for you to explore. In the same way that the top 10% of professionals in many fields provide a vastly different service than the other 90%, a mentor of great talent may have more impact than an average mentor. Seek out the best and brightest that will let you hang around. Seek out unusual, incredible minds and connect yourself to them. You will learn, for sure, but other roads may also open up as a result.

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9. Hit the underground.

One of the most interesting aspects of society in any locale is the collection of elements that are hidden from the mainstream. There is knowledge, wisdom, and unique experiences in these elements, and your awareness of them separates you from most others. These are parts that society has split itself off from and is uncomfortable with. By re-integrating such elements into your own experience, you have greater access to the full human experience and may find hidden doors to future success.

The counterculture often exploits areas of study before they become mainstream. You can get in on new trends, cutting edge information, and access communities of thinkers while they are still small and unknown. You can learn alternative lifestyles that can take your life to the next level, as well as alternative economies and places to live that fit a wide-range of lifestyle dreams. Always be cautious when traveling the underground, as it’s like the Wild West: no rules, no chaperones.

10. Question yourself often.

You don’t know what you don’t know, but you may think you know a lot. I’m often around people of great intellect, experience, and cultural awareness, yet we’re blinded by assumptions about our own knowledge. Be humble. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Try to learn from everyone you meet. And remember, there is so much you don’t know and are unaware of, and so many ways your reality and perception can change as blind spots are worn away. Listen carefully, get in therapy, be challenged. Our mind only realizes our ignorance when a new part wakes up.

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This planet offers unending opportunities for living the life you’ve dreamed of. The biggest limitation is our own mind. Look around, and realize that if mainstream society does not offer an answer, then surely another realm of society does, including inside of yourself! Keep looking, asking, and seeking with intent, purpose and strength. You’ll find your home soon. Now go out and get life!

Featured photo credit: Tourist on the road/Sergii Kolesnyk) via 123rf.com

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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