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10 Easy Ways To Be Charming Without Much Effort

10 Easy Ways To Be Charming Without Much Effort

You don’t need to spend much time or money to be more charming. By merely accentuating your natural features like face shape and body type you can look more attractive. Here are ten easy ways how you can do it:

1. Throw away your conventional, media-defined ideals of beauty

Bruno Mars was absolutely right – you are beautiful just the way you are. If you are ten pounds heavier, or 20 inches shorter from currently trending beauty standards, you should not give a damn about it. Beauty standards change fast, but neither your soul, nor your body could ever chase them without any harm. Think of your flaws as peculiarities and learn to feel comfortable in your skin.

2. Pick a hairstyle that suits your face shape

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    A good haircut can make your face look thinner, longer, wider or more attractive in any other way you want. However some hairstyles won’t look that flattering and you should better avoid them. By types:

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    • Heart: introducing curls and waves around the cheekbone area will help you create a balance between the top and bottom of your face. Shoulder length style should look great on you, along with a long and side-swept fringe. However, avoid heavy fringes, along with sleek jaw-length bobs as they will make your chin look even narrower.
    • Oval: your face is equally proportional and  is roughly equal to one and a half times its width.  Most haircuts and hairdos look well on you.
    • Long: you can visually shorten your face with a mid-length or long cut with layers at eye level. Having a long, side-swept fringe will also help creating an illusion of a wider face. Avoid wearing top knot buns and long straight hair as both will make your face seem even longer.
    • Square: soften your strong jaw line with a medium or long hairstyle (straight, curly and wavy). Try avoiding long straight fringes and blunt cuts that stop at the widest part of your face.
    • Round:  the length and the width of your face appear roughly the same and your chick bones are rather prominent. Opt for hairstyles that soften your face like layered/feathered styles and soft waves. When making an up do, leave some loose tendrils of hair to fall around the hairline. Blunt bobs and sleek styles aren’t your best choice as they accentuate the roundness even more.
    • Triangle: bangs and half ups are your go-tos to make your forehead look narrower. Wavy bobs with bangs will also soften your face and widen the cheekbone/jawline. Avoid wearing super straight hair with minimal layers as it will make your face look even thinner and disproportional.

    3. Choose glasses and sunglasses depending on your face type

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      Same as with hairstyle – glasses can make or break your looks. For instance, round, oval and semi-rimless glasses will accentuate your eyes and balance the prominent jaw line if you have square face type. If your face is round, opt for wayfarers and rectangle shapes to make your face look thinner.

      4. Practice good posture

      By standing up straight, you’ll automatically look leaner, with more defined musculature and overall body look. You’ll also project more confidence – an quality that most people find extremely appealing. To practice better posture try the next things:

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      • Get a standing desk – spending hours sitting in front of the computer makes your back hurt and muscles lose tone. A few hours a day in front of a standing desk can fix that.
      • Do a simple exercise once a day: Roll your shoulders down and back, then pull your elbows back toward your back pants pockets.
      • Do wall angles: press your elbows and wrists against the wall. Don’t arch your low back. Now, lift your elbows up to height of your ears and down to lower ribs. Repeat at least 20 times a day.

      5. Buy tops with a flattering neckline or shirt collar

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        Not all shirts where created equal. Necklines and shirt collars also work with for or against your face shape and sharpen your looks. For example, classic “Semi-spread” collar suits best for oval types, while point collars with longer tips make a round face stand out and look more appealing.

        Wear boat neck or sabrina styled cleavage if you have a long face, while V-necks look flattering on round type faces.

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        6. Identify your body shape and buy clothes that fits

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          Knowing your body type will help you make smarter shopping decisions and identify those outfits that will suit you great without even trying them on. If you have Pear body type (your hips are much bigger than your top and you have a nicely defined waist) opt for tops with nipped or fitted waists; wrap shirts that emphasize your small waist with full or structured shoulders and a wide neckline to add more volume to the top and opt for A line skirts and straight trousers with no or minimal pockets as your bottom.

          Hour glass body types (bust and bottoms are well balanced and you have a beautifully defined waist) should choose belted and wrap-up tops to accentuate the waistline along with pencil skirts, skinny jeans and pretty much any other bottoms will look fine on you. You can check out this guide by Shop Your Shapes for more suggestions on each body type.

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          7. Use Technology to Find Clothes That Fit You Better

          If you struggle identifying your body type or finding the right clothes, let the technology do it for you! Fitbay app will suggest you clothes based on your body type (with detailed instructions on how to identify yours), plus match you with your body doubles to sneak peak inside their wardrobe. You can post pictures of your outfits and ask for tips and suggestions from the community. The app works great both for men and women.

          8.  Choose your handbag based on your body shape

          Yep, even your bag can create more allure around your persona, so don’t neglect another chance to look even more charming. Here are a few simple rules to follow:

          • The size of handbag should be proportionate to your body type – short girls look taller with small handbags, while tall girls look better with large or even over-sized bags.
          • The shape of a handbag should be opposite to your body type – choose a round handbag if you are tall and slim and opt for rectangular shapes if you are shorter and plump.
          • The length of a handbag – where the bottom hits the body – will emphasize that area – Short handbags make your top appear lager, while too long straps can attract extra attention to your bottoms. Most girls look great wearing handbags that hang to the mid-torso.

          9. Take a break from the mirror

          Set an experiment and use the mirror only twice a day in the morning when you do your hair and in the evening when you brush your teeth. Resist the urge of catching your looks in the rear view mirror or shop windows, focus more on how you feel inside. You should always remember how charming you are and you don’t need to see yourself in the mirror five times a day to know that!

          10. Smile more

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            A simple, yet powerful advice that will make you appear more attractive instantly. Happiness is the most attractive feature in females and in general, men find smiling women more beautiful a recent research claims. Smile to feel better about everything in your life, including your appearance!

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            Last Updated on January 17, 2019

            8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

            8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

            In life, we all need to be conscientious of what we are doing. You don’t need to live a life of stress if you don’t want to. You can achieve peace and happiness in life by carefully building mindfulness exercises into your life’s routine.

            Exercising mindfulness isn’t rocket science and as importantly, you can do it. It will, however, take a few tries to get into the groove of things but once you get it, it is like riding a bike, you will never lose it.

            Trust me. It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. In this article, I will share with you 8 mindfulness exercises that will help you to boost your energy, vitality and live a more peaceful and happier life.

            Why Is It Hard to Live A Peaceful And Happy Life?

            Our Habitat Has Become Too Technological

            The world has accepted the idea that technology is often the cure for all evil. We have accepted, as a society, that everything technological will make us live a better life without fully investigating the many side effects that modernity brings.

            There are a number of technological side effects that have a tremendous impact on your life that the media rarely tells you about.[1] Some of them include self-harm, economic inequality, having less sex, and even suicide. The global community is becoming less happy because of technology.

            How can anybody live a peaceful and happy life when they are depressed? Technology advancements, ladies and gents, is a major reason for why we are living a poor life because it has infiltrated our lives too much.

            According to my research, Americans spend an average of 8 hours a day looking at the computer screen — The average screen time spent on smartphones alone is about 20 hours per week. That’s a lot! No wonder why living a happy and peaceful life is so difficult these days.

            Too Many People Don’t Want to Unplug

            Americans check their phones an average of 80 times during vacation.[2] Some admit to checking their smartphones 300 times every single day. In countries like Brazil, India and China, the situation is no different.

            The reality is that people are constantly plugged into technological devices and this behavior is literally making people all over the globe fight an inner war with themselves, which consequently makes them very sad. As we know, war is the enemy of peace which won’t make anybody happy.

            Listen carefully:

            We have a global anxiety epidemic because people don’t want to unplug from their smartphones and most people aren’t doing anything to fix it. It is a sad state of affairs but very real. This obsession with technology is turning us into perishable robots who live terrible lives.

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            The era of anxiety is here to stay. There is little doubt about it. We can, however, fight back with the best remedy of all — We call it mindfulness!

            Thank God there is an antidote to this whole technological madness. Without further ado, let’s go straight to the mindful exercises.

            8 Mindfulness Exercises to Start Practicing

            There are tons of mindfulness exercises available for you to engage with out there.[3] In the paragraphs below, I will include the best ones I’ve personally tried or have seen my close friends and family members try.

            Are you ready for it? Let’s go!

            1. Pray Daily

            You should pray on a daily basis. Why is that you may ask — Well, because science has told us to do so.

            When people pray, they feel peaceful, almost eliminating anxiety. Worries become secondary, and often gives people energy and hope to cope with the difficulties of life.

            Prayer can make you more confident and focused. Prayer also helps you with self-control, helps to control pain, and can protect you against illnesses and disorders like cancer and high blood pressure. At least, this is what researchers from Harvard Medical School have said.[4]

            Pray. You won’t regret it.[5]

            2. Pay Attention to Your Inner Thoughts

            A lot of people allow themselves to be influenced by their negative thoughts. Be different and resist believing in them. It is a bad habit that can lead to unhappiness.

            By the way, if you do feel this way, chances are high that somebody other than you put these thoughts into your head.

            Here is my secret to combat this cancer — look at things objectively. I bet that if you look at things as they are, you will realize that most if not all of your negative thoughts are only inside of your head.

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            If you pay close attention, you will quickly realize that these voices aren’t worth your time. Believe me — Ignoring them and looking at things with objectivity is often the best course of action.

            This article can guide you to beat negative thoughts:

            How to Stop Automatic Negative Thoughts When You’re Overwhelmed

            3. Smile Often

            Smiling will slow down your heart. It will also relax your body because when you smile, your body releases endorphins which in itself has a number of positive benefits for you as a person.

            Smile often! You may want to smile early in the morning, during the day, and late in the evening. It is amazing what happens to you when you decide to smile instead of being grumpy.

            Surrender your problems to a nice smile. You will notice two things. First, most people just don’t which makes them live a miserable life. Second, if you decide to smile often, you will eventually smile unconsciously which is the ideal.

            The moment that you smile unconsciously, you then know that you are truly happy.

            4. Organize Your Working Desk

            A messy desk will make you less productive and can agitate and overstimulate you. You don’t want that.

            When you clear your desk, you engage in deep inner-thinking and your systematic decision making ends up becoming therapeutic.

            Most people realize that they are most creative when their creative space is clean and organized. The former often makes people more aware of what they are doing which lends to less stress and more productivity.

            Organizing your desk will also make you more energetic and focused because order often decreases chaos which is a condition that often slows down daily progress.

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            5. Celebrate Your Friend’s Victories

            I love this mindful exercise. One of the best ways to live a happy and peaceful life is to celebrate the victories of others. When you do that, you automatically make your friends in a better mood which makes you in a better mood, as well.

            Happiness is contagious! We might as well celebrate others as much as we can. If you find out that your peer has won an award, celebrate with him! If your friend is the recipient of a local charity award, celebrate with her!

            What is also awesome is that when you celebrate with others, they often celebrate with you in return. This, ladies and gentleman, will make you feel fantastic. You can’t go wrong with this one, period.

            6. Listen to Your Spouse/Partner

            God put someone in your life for a reason. You might as well listen to him or her.

            I listen to my wife everyday. In fact, I often ask the following question to her, “Amanda, what are your thoughts about…” or “What am I missing about…” It is shocking what I hear back from her. Without her having much context and perspective, by the art of observation in my own nonverbal behavior and the behavior of others, she accurately gives me incredible insights which helps me out with living my life to the fullest.

            I’m a firm believer that spouses are supposed to engage in interpersonal communication every day. I most definitely do and will continue doing it. You should do the same.

            7. Give Yourself a Break from Technology

            You can’t be in total equilibrium if your computerized devices control your life. You must get away from technology on a daily basis.[6]

            How do you do that? This is my formula:

            First, take this smartphone control test. It is only ten questions but this test will place you somewhere in the human robot cycle continuum.

            If your score is between 25-30, take a break from the computer (or smartphone, pad, laptop/desktop) every twenty minutes and stop being on a computerized device after 8:00pm.

            If you score between 30-35, still take a break every 20 minutes but stop being on these devices at 5:00pm.

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            If you score more than 35, you need to take action immediately.

            Limit computer use as much as possible throughout the day. Give yourself as many breaks from the computer as possible. Are you ready for the challenge?

            8. Go Exercise

            Go exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care if you need to workout early in the morning, late in the evening, on the weekends or during work days. Working out is absolutely imperative for you to live happy and peaceful life.

            The stresses of the modern world are too much for you to neglect this important mindfulness exercise. When you go to the gym, you burn calories, focus on activities one step at a time, your mind relaxes, anxiety decreases, you sweat and often think about topics unrelated to your work place among many other benefits.

            You must exercise at least three hours each week for optimum results. Why? Just take a look at all the benefits of regular exercising:

            12 Benefits of Regular Exercise You Should Know

            The Bottom Line

            It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. Now that our habitat has become too technological and many people just don’t want to unplug, engaging in daily prayer, celebrate your friends’ victories, and listening to your spouse are among the best ways to be mindful about what you are doing and how you are living.

            It is possible to live a happy and peaceful life. It only depends on you.

            Go exercise! Take a break from technology and invest in you! Life is too short for distractions.

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