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10 Easy Ways To Be Charming Without Much Effort

10 Easy Ways To Be Charming Without Much Effort

You don’t need to spend much time or money to be more charming. By merely accentuating your natural features like face shape and body type you can look more attractive. Here are ten easy ways how you can do it:

1. Throw away your conventional, media-defined ideals of beauty

Bruno Mars was absolutely right – you are beautiful just the way you are. If you are ten pounds heavier, or 20 inches shorter from currently trending beauty standards, you should not give a damn about it. Beauty standards change fast, but neither your soul, nor your body could ever chase them without any harm. Think of your flaws as peculiarities and learn to feel comfortable in your skin.

2. Pick a hairstyle that suits your face shape

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    A good haircut can make your face look thinner, longer, wider or more attractive in any other way you want. However some hairstyles won’t look that flattering and you should better avoid them. By types:

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    • Heart: introducing curls and waves around the cheekbone area will help you create a balance between the top and bottom of your face. Shoulder length style should look great on you, along with a long and side-swept fringe. However, avoid heavy fringes, along with sleek jaw-length bobs as they will make your chin look even narrower.
    • Oval: your face is equally proportional and  is roughly equal to one and a half times its width.  Most haircuts and hairdos look well on you.
    • Long: you can visually shorten your face with a mid-length or long cut with layers at eye level. Having a long, side-swept fringe will also help creating an illusion of a wider face. Avoid wearing top knot buns and long straight hair as both will make your face seem even longer.
    • Square: soften your strong jaw line with a medium or long hairstyle (straight, curly and wavy). Try avoiding long straight fringes and blunt cuts that stop at the widest part of your face.
    • Round:  the length and the width of your face appear roughly the same and your chick bones are rather prominent. Opt for hairstyles that soften your face like layered/feathered styles and soft waves. When making an up do, leave some loose tendrils of hair to fall around the hairline. Blunt bobs and sleek styles aren’t your best choice as they accentuate the roundness even more.
    • Triangle: bangs and half ups are your go-tos to make your forehead look narrower. Wavy bobs with bangs will also soften your face and widen the cheekbone/jawline. Avoid wearing super straight hair with minimal layers as it will make your face look even thinner and disproportional.

    3. Choose glasses and sunglasses depending on your face type

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      Same as with hairstyle – glasses can make or break your looks. For instance, round, oval and semi-rimless glasses will accentuate your eyes and balance the prominent jaw line if you have square face type. If your face is round, opt for wayfarers and rectangle shapes to make your face look thinner.

      4. Practice good posture

      By standing up straight, you’ll automatically look leaner, with more defined musculature and overall body look. You’ll also project more confidence – an quality that most people find extremely appealing. To practice better posture try the next things:

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      • Get a standing desk – spending hours sitting in front of the computer makes your back hurt and muscles lose tone. A few hours a day in front of a standing desk can fix that.
      • Do a simple exercise once a day: Roll your shoulders down and back, then pull your elbows back toward your back pants pockets.
      • Do wall angles: press your elbows and wrists against the wall. Don’t arch your low back. Now, lift your elbows up to height of your ears and down to lower ribs. Repeat at least 20 times a day.

      5. Buy tops with a flattering neckline or shirt collar

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        Not all shirts where created equal. Necklines and shirt collars also work with for or against your face shape and sharpen your looks. For example, classic “Semi-spread” collar suits best for oval types, while point collars with longer tips make a round face stand out and look more appealing.

        Wear boat neck or sabrina styled cleavage if you have a long face, while V-necks look flattering on round type faces.

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        6. Identify your body shape and buy clothes that fits

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          Knowing your body type will help you make smarter shopping decisions and identify those outfits that will suit you great without even trying them on. If you have Pear body type (your hips are much bigger than your top and you have a nicely defined waist) opt for tops with nipped or fitted waists; wrap shirts that emphasize your small waist with full or structured shoulders and a wide neckline to add more volume to the top and opt for A line skirts and straight trousers with no or minimal pockets as your bottom.

          Hour glass body types (bust and bottoms are well balanced and you have a beautifully defined waist) should choose belted and wrap-up tops to accentuate the waistline along with pencil skirts, skinny jeans and pretty much any other bottoms will look fine on you. You can check out this guide by Shop Your Shapes for more suggestions on each body type.

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          7. Use Technology to Find Clothes That Fit You Better

          If you struggle identifying your body type or finding the right clothes, let the technology do it for you! Fitbay app will suggest you clothes based on your body type (with detailed instructions on how to identify yours), plus match you with your body doubles to sneak peak inside their wardrobe. You can post pictures of your outfits and ask for tips and suggestions from the community. The app works great both for men and women.

          8.  Choose your handbag based on your body shape

          Yep, even your bag can create more allure around your persona, so don’t neglect another chance to look even more charming. Here are a few simple rules to follow:

          • The size of handbag should be proportionate to your body type – short girls look taller with small handbags, while tall girls look better with large or even over-sized bags.
          • The shape of a handbag should be opposite to your body type – choose a round handbag if you are tall and slim and opt for rectangular shapes if you are shorter and plump.
          • The length of a handbag – where the bottom hits the body – will emphasize that area – Short handbags make your top appear lager, while too long straps can attract extra attention to your bottoms. Most girls look great wearing handbags that hang to the mid-torso.

          9. Take a break from the mirror

          Set an experiment and use the mirror only twice a day in the morning when you do your hair and in the evening when you brush your teeth. Resist the urge of catching your looks in the rear view mirror or shop windows, focus more on how you feel inside. You should always remember how charming you are and you don’t need to see yourself in the mirror five times a day to know that!

          10. Smile more

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            A simple, yet powerful advice that will make you appear more attractive instantly. Happiness is the most attractive feature in females and in general, men find smiling women more beautiful a recent research claims. Smile to feel better about everything in your life, including your appearance!

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            How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

            How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

            You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

            We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

            The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

            Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

            1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

            Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

            For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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            • (1) Research
            • (2) Deciding the topic
            • (3) Creating the outline
            • (4) Drafting the content
            • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
            • (6) Revision
            • (7) etc.

            Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

            2. Change Your Environment

            Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

            One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

            3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

            Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

            Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

            My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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            Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

            4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

            If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

            Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

            I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

            5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

            I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

            Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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            As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

            6. Get a Buddy

            Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

            I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

            7. Tell Others About Your Goals

            This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

            For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

            8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

            What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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            9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

            If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

            Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

            10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

            Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

            Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

            11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

            At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

            Reality check:

            I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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