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If You Want To Be More Independent, Read This.

If You Want To Be More Independent, Read This.

Independence is valuable because it lets you clear your mind and refresh yourself as an individual. You can only shine as your true self when you know how to embrace your individuality.

If you want to be independent, explore when you are alone.

Are you introverted or extroverted? Different people crave a different type of independence.

If you’re introverted, you’ll seek some time alone to recharge — but this is really a time for you to explore your own individuality. Find out what you like to do best when no one else is watching.

When I’m the stranger at a large event, my energy will slowly seep out, my smile hanging lower as the day progresses. It’s always a relief when I can get home and geek out on my blog.

If you’re extraverted, the people around you will keep you energized, but don’t lose sight of your individuality.

Studies have shown that high performers are people who tend to reflect on their learning — in cases of standardized testing, people who take a few moments to reflect on their learning, can perform an average of 22.8% higher.

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At the end of your day, take just 5 minutes to catch up, and reflect. How was your day? What did you learn? What made you smile?

This will fuel your individuality and paint your life in (hopefully) more positive light. Just try it for 7 days and see what happens.

If you want to be independent, let your conscience be your guide.

You probably remember when a friend blindly followed someone else’s decisions– that’s never the smartest thing to do.

The next time you begin to question your decisions, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Does this feel right?” Or, as good ol’ Steve Jobs would say, “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?”

Don’t forget to make this day better than the last.

If you want to be independent, give yourself some love.

Today, most social media platforms let you peek into others’ perfectly curated lives– new trends are rising, but Facebook still makes many people feel bad about their own lives.

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Get off social media and do something that you love, that takes your mind off the buzzing connectivity.

Do you like playing piano? Sewing clothes? Gardening? Whatever you do, try to move into the state of flow.

When I lift the lid to my piano, the world around me falls away. I am free to explore.

However, if I pour negativity into the music and dwell on good ol’ anger, I’ll just get stuck– studies show that expressing anger will only make a person angrier. The last time I tried to bang out the anger, someone begged me to stop playing.

Dwelling on negative emotions is never smart– instead, accept the negativity and move on.

Do something you love, that helps you stay open to positivity and approach the world with kindness.

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If you want to be independent, love others too.

If you have a valuable skill, the world deserves to know about it.

Share your skill with someone– you might be surprised at what you learn. Don’t be afraid to help someone out. Be generous and show confidence. Teach your favourite tips to a person who will benefit from it.

If you play piano, perhaps make some music for someone you know, or even teach someone to play the instrument. If you write, perhaps mail a thoughtful letter to a friend.

Generous people are often happiest because they focus on giving genuinely rather than return on investment. Which means you might not see a return right away, but it’ll come when the time is right, sometimes when you least expect it. Get confident in sharing your skills to develop your individuality.

Plus, there are many ways to show how you care about someone– this is one of them.

If you want to be independent, learn a new skill and beat your fears.

Make this a personal mission that you believe in. Set a solid goal.

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When you accomplish it, you will be insanely satisfied, because this is a project you started on your own. Choose to learn anything, as small or big as you like– playing piano, photography, designing, cooking (oops, culinary arts), or even jogging.

Right now, I am learning to drive a car. When I tell someone about it, this is what they say: “Oh, Grace, it’s easy. And you’re a quick learner.”

The terrifying part of driving had nothing to do with learning, or so I thought.

“Do you play a sport? Your reflexes are real good,” the instructor said. “But quit slowing the car.”

Last week, I practiced parking in an empty lot for 8 hours. And I rear-ended two objects by accident. Besides scratching the car, I really learned that accidents aren’t always disastrous– hey, I’m still alive– and the disastrous ones don’t happen very often. So, if I’m not reckless, and if I watch out for reckless people on the road, then I have no reason to be scared. And I’m not, at least not anymore.

We learn fears by accident– but we can learn to overcome them, because we are human.

Featured photo credit: Viktor Hanacek via picjumbo.com

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What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

You can learn how to do so too: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future

19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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