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If You Want To Keep Passion Sparkling In Your Relationship, Here’s How!

If You Want To Keep Passion Sparkling In Your Relationship, Here’s How!

Do you feel like your relationship just isn’t what it used to be?  Is it lacking that special spark you and your partner had when you first got together? If you follow these 11 steps, you can learn how to put the passion back into your relationship!

1. Give each other space

One of the main things you have to remember while in a relationship is that it is important to give yourself, and your partner some space. If you and your partner spend too much time together, it is easy to get annoyed with each other, and that can easily take away the passion of a relationship. By giving each other space, you can give yourself, and your partner time to miss each other, making that “little reunion” pretty special.

2. Make Passion a Priority

Up there with honesty, integrity, and love and respect, passion should be another important trait you show in your relationship. If you make a habit out of expressing your passionate side, you will find it much easier to keep up with it, and keeping the passion alive will come more naturally!

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3. Experience Passion Within Yourself

Something people often forget to remember to do is to actually experience the passion within themselves. How are you supposed to be able to express passion with someone else, if you aren’t too sure what YOU are passionate about? Figure out what makes you passionate before trying to figure out how to to spark passion with someone else.

4. Experience new things together

Another fun way to keep the passion sparking in your relationship is to experience new things together. Whether you go to a new restaurant, travel somewhere new or take on something different — like rollerskating — don’t be afraid to try something new with your partner! You would be amazed what kind of positive effect that can have on a relationship.

5. Feel free to keep some secrets

Just because you think its okay to share every little detail with your partner, doesn’t always mean it is. I don’t mean withhold important information from your partner when I say this, I mean that you should feel free to choose what you want to share, when it comes to the little things.  For an example, its not that big of a deal if you don’t want to tell your partner that you don’t like his or her friends, or family.  Unveiling these types of secrets can put a damper on your relationship, and that is a step in the wrong direction.

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6. Don’t forget to touch!

What I mean by this is, don’t forget to use physical affection. There is something about a soft, gentle caress of the skin by the one you love that ignites a spark inside of a good relationship. Its the little things like this that keep relationships going strong.

7. Play

With stress from jobs, bills, and other everyday lives, its easy to forget how to have fun. Don’t forget to enjoy yourselves as a couple, even if it means just having your own little dance party in the middle of the living room, or even building a blanket fort, and watching your favorite childhood movie.

8. Say “I Love You”

Such a simple hint that a lot of people seem to overlook. Those three little words can have such a lasting affect on someone. And don’t be afraid to overuse them!  You never know when your loved one needs to hear you say it.

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9. Be Spontaneous

A good way to keep passion sparkling in your relationship is to be spontaneous. It always keeps your partner on their toes, as well as yourself. There is no planning needed during being spontaneous. It keeps things interesting between you two, and it keeps the passion burning!

10. Don’t Be Spontaneous

Now, I know what you are thinking. I just mentioned to be spontaneous, but sometimes its just as good to actually take the time to plan out a romantic evening for your partner. They will be so charmed by the time and effort you put into your plans, it will rekindle that passion in your relationship.

11. Don’t let intimacy become unimportant

Although intimacy isn’t the only thing that makes a relationship, it certainly is an important factor if you want to have a passionate relationship (And no, I’m not just talking about sex). You should always remember to take time out of your busy life to express intimacy with one another. You’d be surprised what kind of toll it can take on a relationship if it begins to lack intimacy.

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Take in mind these helpful hints when seeking help on sparking that passion fire, but always keep in mind what made you love your partner in the first place. After all, who knows your relationship better than the one in the relationship.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

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No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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