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When You Erase Your Limits, These 10 Amazing Things Will Happen

When You Erase Your Limits, These 10 Amazing Things Will Happen

Your limiting beliefs are those negative beliefs about yourself that stand in the way of what you really want for yourself and your life.  When you erase your limiting beliefs, amazing things can happen.

As is the case with all beliefs, whether positive or negative, a limiting belief starts off as a single thought in your mind in reaction to a certain event, or to what you were told by your parents or society in general. This thought was repeated often enough until it was accepted as an unchecked “truth” by your subconscious mind. In other words, your limiting beliefs are a learned thought pattern and the good news is that they are up for re-programming.

If you are not where you want to be in your life, whether physically, emotionally, romantically or financially (and so on), the chances are that an underlying, deeply ingrained negative belief is limiting your progress.

Some common limiting beliefs are:

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  • The feeling of not being enough
  • The feeling of not having enough
  • Having to work hard for money
  • Not deserving success

What are your limiting beliefs? Once you identify them, ask yourself if you want to continue to have each of those beliefs dictate your life.  If the answer is no, seek to understand the belief fully—how it may have supported you in the past—and then let it go.  In releasing the belief you are able to transform it into a belief that is intentionally chosen by you to benefit your life.

There are tremendous benefits to understanding and transforming your beliefs.

1. You’ll stop identifying with the belief.

Most beliefs are difficult to change because we identify closely with them. They seem to be ingrained as a part of who we are. And because we identify with them, we allow ourselves to be defined by them.

2. You’ll stop playing small.

Instead of allowing your limiting beliefs to dictate your actions and keep you playing small, you will feel inspired to play BIG, and to take creative, massive action to create a life you love.

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3. You’ll test your assumptions.

Without pushing the boundary and testing your assumptions, it’s impossible to move past your limiting beliefs. You need to do something to break the pattern of your limiting belief. Questioning is the first step, but if you only do that, the possibilities of moving to a more empowering perspective stay in your head. Suspend your judgment and take some kind of action to test your assumptions.

4. You’ll kill your conclusions.

Whatever you think you know to be certain is probably a lot more flexible than you think. What you think of as required is certain to be much more negotiable. Question all of the conclusions you have about what you think to be true, fixed or possible.

5. You’ll stop caring what other people think of you.

Most people are held back not by their fear of what other people will think, but rather by their own limiting beliefs. Without your limiting beliefs casting a shadow on other people’s opinions of you, you will find yourself not caring what people have to say about you.

6. You’ll stop recording your life as a series of missed opportunities.

Your life story will no longer be filled with what-ifs and can’t-haves and will become comprised of life-giving actions and choices.

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7. You’ll guard your self-talk.

You will no longer allow negative self-talk. You will speak to yourself in the same way you would speak to someone you love—with compassion, love and empathy.

8. You’ll have a whole new relationship with your body.

Your body is constantly trying to communicate with you. Listening to it, and honoring what it has to say, is life changing. For example, if you think you’re fat, you may not feel inspired to diet to exercise, and you may decide to ignore your body because you don’t like it (really, it’s your limiting belief that doesn’t like your body). Sans limiting belief, your body may have very surprising things to tell you!: when it’s tired, when it wants to play, and what foods will really nurture it.

9.  You’ll choose to stop agreeing.

Sometimes limiting beliefs come from the collective consciousness: “that’s just the way things are.”  By releasing these limiting beliefs we can reclaim our power, and choose to stop agreeing with the masses.

10. You’ll like yourself more.

Zig Ziglar says, “It’s impossible to consistently behave in a manner inconsistent with how we see ourselves. We can do very few things in a positive way if we feel negative about ourselves.” Releasing limiting beliefs will unconditionally, and often unexpectedly, allow you to be you, and in doing so, to like yourself more.

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This year, give yourself the gift of releasing your limiting beliefs.  They really are relatives that have overstayed their welcome. Help them pack their bags and leave.

Featured photo credit: 121H via gratisography.com

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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