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When You Erase Your Limits, These 10 Amazing Things Will Happen

When You Erase Your Limits, These 10 Amazing Things Will Happen

Your limiting beliefs are those negative beliefs about yourself that stand in the way of what you really want for yourself and your life.  When you erase your limiting beliefs, amazing things can happen.

As is the case with all beliefs, whether positive or negative, a limiting belief starts off as a single thought in your mind in reaction to a certain event, or to what you were told by your parents or society in general. This thought was repeated often enough until it was accepted as an unchecked “truth” by your subconscious mind. In other words, your limiting beliefs are a learned thought pattern and the good news is that they are up for re-programming.

If you are not where you want to be in your life, whether physically, emotionally, romantically or financially (and so on), the chances are that an underlying, deeply ingrained negative belief is limiting your progress.

Some common limiting beliefs are:

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  • The feeling of not being enough
  • The feeling of not having enough
  • Having to work hard for money
  • Not deserving success

What are your limiting beliefs? Once you identify them, ask yourself if you want to continue to have each of those beliefs dictate your life.  If the answer is no, seek to understand the belief fully—how it may have supported you in the past—and then let it go.  In releasing the belief you are able to transform it into a belief that is intentionally chosen by you to benefit your life.

There are tremendous benefits to understanding and transforming your beliefs.

1. You’ll stop identifying with the belief.

Most beliefs are difficult to change because we identify closely with them. They seem to be ingrained as a part of who we are. And because we identify with them, we allow ourselves to be defined by them.

2. You’ll stop playing small.

Instead of allowing your limiting beliefs to dictate your actions and keep you playing small, you will feel inspired to play BIG, and to take creative, massive action to create a life you love.

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3. You’ll test your assumptions.

Without pushing the boundary and testing your assumptions, it’s impossible to move past your limiting beliefs. You need to do something to break the pattern of your limiting belief. Questioning is the first step, but if you only do that, the possibilities of moving to a more empowering perspective stay in your head. Suspend your judgment and take some kind of action to test your assumptions.

4. You’ll kill your conclusions.

Whatever you think you know to be certain is probably a lot more flexible than you think. What you think of as required is certain to be much more negotiable. Question all of the conclusions you have about what you think to be true, fixed or possible.

5. You’ll stop caring what other people think of you.

Most people are held back not by their fear of what other people will think, but rather by their own limiting beliefs. Without your limiting beliefs casting a shadow on other people’s opinions of you, you will find yourself not caring what people have to say about you.

6. You’ll stop recording your life as a series of missed opportunities.

Your life story will no longer be filled with what-ifs and can’t-haves and will become comprised of life-giving actions and choices.

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7. You’ll guard your self-talk.

You will no longer allow negative self-talk. You will speak to yourself in the same way you would speak to someone you love—with compassion, love and empathy.

8. You’ll have a whole new relationship with your body.

Your body is constantly trying to communicate with you. Listening to it, and honoring what it has to say, is life changing. For example, if you think you’re fat, you may not feel inspired to diet to exercise, and you may decide to ignore your body because you don’t like it (really, it’s your limiting belief that doesn’t like your body). Sans limiting belief, your body may have very surprising things to tell you!: when it’s tired, when it wants to play, and what foods will really nurture it.

9.  You’ll choose to stop agreeing.

Sometimes limiting beliefs come from the collective consciousness: “that’s just the way things are.”  By releasing these limiting beliefs we can reclaim our power, and choose to stop agreeing with the masses.

10. You’ll like yourself more.

Zig Ziglar says, “It’s impossible to consistently behave in a manner inconsistent with how we see ourselves. We can do very few things in a positive way if we feel negative about ourselves.” Releasing limiting beliefs will unconditionally, and often unexpectedly, allow you to be you, and in doing so, to like yourself more.

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This year, give yourself the gift of releasing your limiting beliefs.  They really are relatives that have overstayed their welcome. Help them pack their bags and leave.

Featured photo credit: 121H via gratisography.com

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Emma is a Creative Business Consultant, and Leadership Coach & Trainer

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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