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What Millionaires Want, Other Than Money

What Millionaires Want, Other Than Money

Some millionaires are missing out on some of life’s great treats. Money, it seems, cannot buy them contentment, health or real friendships. There are, of course, lots of happy millionaires but a fair number of them are not really happy or connected.

The ideal income is only $75,000 a year, according to a Princeton University study. Anything beyond that is no guarantee of emotional well-being!

According to the Hurun report on China’s Rich List, the top five have as much wealth as Microsoft. But this has not automatically brought them happiness. For example, 35% of female Chinese millionaires are either divorced or unmarried. This is twice the number of their male counterparts.

Wondering what millionaires want? Here are some of their wishes:

1. They want genuine human contact

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    Karl Rabeder used to be a millionaire but gave away all his money because it was making him unhappy. He sold everything, gave the money to charity and now lives in a modest mountain chalet in Austria. He has also kept a mini apartment in Innsbruck.

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    He decided to do this because he felt that the high lifestyle was false and it was impossible to connect with real people. He also felt guilty when he witnessed poverty. He could not help thinking that he was somehow complicit in the world’s inequality. Now, he is much happier.

     2. They want their lives to have meaning and purpose

     I’ve got all the money I could ever dream of, but have nothing in my life that really excites me.

    – Anonymous Australian millionaire

    This millionaire wanted psychotherapy because his life lacked meaning and purpose. He was no longer able to become passionate about his relationships, hobbies or community involvement. After a few months of therapy, he felt happier. He had learned how to regain contact with nature, value his family time and become involved in community work. He felt less disconnected than before and that his life had some pleasure and purpose again.

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      3. They cannot enjoy any privacy

      Juan Rodriguez regrets winning the lottery because he now cannot go out without meeting people who either owe him money or want to owe him money! He cannot enjoy any privacy when he goes out and his life is very boring because he only has dogs for company and he no longer trusts even his own family.

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      Financial consultants say that with sudden wealth, the winners are very likely to ruin their lives in trying to cope with it. There seems to be high burnout rate among lottery winners.

      4. They wish they had looked after loved ones better

      Money will not change how healthy you are or how many people love you.

      – Warren Buffett

      Many self-made millionaires wonder what went wrong. They seem to have dropped the ball while they were so busy making all that money. They forgot to live life to the full and cherish their loved ones. When they ended up as super rich celebs, they suddenly found their lives were rather empty.

      As Warren Buffett says, the most important assets we own are our families, friends and partners.

      5. They wish they could trust people more

      Millionaires have plenty to worry about. They are always worried about who they can trust. They are concerned that friends may turn into sharks because of their wealth. They worry that their children may squander their fortune.

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      Alan Nunn won the Texas lottery and is generally fairly happy with his active and meaningful life. But one thing really worries him all the time: he doesn’t know whom to trust. He loves his sister but feels he cannot trust her.

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        6. They worry about their safety

        Many millionaires have to lay out considerable sums to protect themselves, all their properties and their loved ones. They live in fear and worry about robbery, violence and burglary, not to mention kidnappings.

        A Sicilian woman was very happy when she won £79m in the Italian lottery. But consumer groups made such a fuss that her identity was revealed. She had to go into hiding because she feared that the Mafia would come calling.

        7. They want to work

        It becomes an illness because you don’t have to support yourself, you don’t have to decide on a career, and you don’t have to worry about whether you can afford to do something, and it can become incredibly disempowering. It’s very bad for your self-esteem. You don’t feel as if you’re succeeding. You feel like a fraud, in fact.

        – Sara Robin, ex millionaire.

        Sara Robin inherited a huge fortune. She had a car at university and found that she gave lifts to everybody as a sort of penance. But the quote above reveals her unease with not having to really work for a living. She was missing out on so many things. She solved the problem by reinventing herself and set up a bike co-op. She also decided that her fortune was an encumbrance and she gave it all away to charity.

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          8. They wish they could savor the present moment

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            Did you know that 15.5% of the people in Singapore are millionaires? In the USA, that figure is only 4.5% while Switzerland is 9.9%. The interesting thing is that the Singaporeans are among the unhappiest people of the world and they come further down the list than people in Iraq, North Korea and Afghanistan.

            The problem many millionaires face is that they cannot step back from their rush to invest and save their money or give it to charity. They are thinking that this is the path to happiness and that there will be a long journey ahead. They become so absorbed in this that they can never savor the pleasures of life now.

            Let us know in the comments whether wealth could really change your life for the better and how you would cope with all the problems money might bring.

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            Featured photo credit: Mark Zuckerberg Keynote – SXSW 2008 /kris krug via flickr.com

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            Last Updated on June 13, 2019

            How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

            How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

            Think you have a boring life?

            The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

            Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

            1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

            What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

            Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

            2. Go Play with Kids

            Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

            They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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            3. Order a Hot Dog

            While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

            4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

            Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

            5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

            You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

            You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

            6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

            Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

            Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

            7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

            Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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            What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

            8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

            You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

            9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

            Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

            10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

            We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

            11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

            It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

            12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

            This will give you something to look forward to.

            Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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            13. People Watch

            Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

            People are infinitely interesting.

            14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

            Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

            15. Dance

            You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

            If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

            16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

            This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

            17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

            Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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            18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

            Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

            19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

            OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

            20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

            This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

            Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

            Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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