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This Is Happening: When Mobiles Are More Important Than Sex

This Is Happening: When Mobiles Are More Important Than Sex

Mobile phones have given us the ability to keep in contact with our friends, family, and co-workers, no matter where we are geographically; they also give us a lifeline in case we have car trouble, or are otherwise in danger. However, they have also presented the unique problem of becoming more important than our interpersonal connections. In a way, our primary relationship seems to be with the phone, rather than with another person. This had led to several oddities that need to be remedied very soon.

People check their phones while they are out dining with friends, spending time with their children, and shopping; they have become almost like a third arm. Many people state that they feel “lost” without their phones, but we have functioned many years without them. So what has changed? Are Americans so afraid of missing out on something online, that they will sacrifice living in the moment? Sadly, it appears this is the truth.

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When asked whether Americans couldn’t live without their mobile phones or sex, an astounding 26% said they couldn’t live without their phones over the 20% that couldn’t live without sex. Perhaps this is because 44% of U.S. cellphone owners sleep with their cellphones, and 67% of us check our phones even when they are not ringing or vibrating. This indicates an almost obsessive behavior with an inanimate object.

Since we have become obsessive about checking our cellphones, perhaps it should not be surprising that 69% of American single people are unsure whether or not an outing with someone they liked was a date or not. Which could explain the 27% of Americans who live in one-person households, which is up from 1970’s mere 17%.

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In a study by FinancesOnline.com, they examined some of the peculiar habits Americans display and how they are affecting every day life:

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    What does this mean? We enjoy spending time with our pets and our cellphone more than we enjoy the company of other people? Or is it simply that by the time we have finished working a full day, we do not have the energy to do anything else. Americans are worried about where their food comes from, the environment, and water, but not about the failing state of our interpersonal relationships. 67% of Americans have wondered if their food and beverages were produced in an eco-friendly, sustainable way.

    It seems a bit hard to understand that American care about the environment, but not each other. Possibly it is a case of Americans trying to do too many things at a time; we have a tendency to over-book, over-schedule, and over-work ourselves. We sacrifice time with our families, in order to gain respect and position at work. We sacrifice quality of work, in order to spend time with our families and not miss out on their activities. There does not seem to be a happy medium and this is true more now than ever before. In our fast-paced society, where you can get behind in an instant, it is almost impossible to take a break, relax, and just be in the moment, but the ironic thing is, we need those breaks now more than ever before, as well.

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    Whether you believe cell phones are the best technological innovation since the computer or you believe they are harming our every day lives; one thing is certain: they are a very integral part of our lives. Perhaps we should focus more on putting down our phones and turning our attentions to our friends and families. This way, we can live in the moment and check our emails, Facebooks, and Twitters later. Otherwise, our odd habits are bound to increase.

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    Last Updated on January 18, 2019

    7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

    7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

    Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

    But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

    If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

    1. Limit the time you spend with them.

    First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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    In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

    Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

    2. Speak up for yourself.

    Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

    3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

    This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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    But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

    4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

    Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

    This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

    Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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    5. Change the subject.

    When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

    Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

    6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

    Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

    I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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    You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

    Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

    7. Leave them behind.

    Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

    If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

    That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

    You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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