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28 Things Type A Personalities People Don’t Do

28 Things Type A Personalities People Don’t Do

Have you ever looked at someone and said, “They’re a go-getter!”? Have you ever wondered how someone starting out in the proverbial mail room can advance through the company so fast and achieve her goals faster than other coworkers? These people might have a Type A personality. Some of the traits below might better clue you into what tendencies make up a Type A personality.

1. They Don’t Put Things Off Or Procrastinate

Why put off ’til tomorrow what can be done today? The longer the task is hanging around, the more they’ll dread completing it. The more they dread it, the less likely they are to start it. This is a vicious circle the Type A personality hates. They just do it now and move on.

2. They Don’t Wing It

Always having a task list means there is not a moment wasted. Done with one thing and onto the next.

3. They Don’t Keep Looking At Their Watch

Having several alarms and reminders set will create deadlines. Having a deadline is the surest way to not lollygag around. Having alarms and reminders also lets them know when the scheduled time is up and it’s time to move on to the next item.

4. They Don’t Like Laziness

Type A people understand laziness is a choice. The more often they make the choice to be active, the easier a habit of good decisions will form.

5. They Don’t Lack Passion

The Type A person has a lot of passion for what they do. A good example would be a political lobbyist. They have a laser focus on what they want and why they want it. The rest of the world is muted and they go full steam ahead toward their goal.

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6. They Don’t Show Indifference

Being emotional can be helpful or hurtful. When emotions get the best of a person, their judgement can be clouded, letting them stray from their goal. On the other hand, having emotion can help center people on their goal, helping them choose a clearer path.

7. They Don’t Relax Often

They are prone to stressing over everything. Many Type A people feel something is missing when there isn’t any stress in their lives. They always feel like there is something that they should be doing, even when they are already doing something productive.

8. They Don’t Fall Short On Energy

A Type A person will love sleeping, but not for the same reason as other people might. They see it as a way to recharge their battery so they can get a jump on the next day’s tasks. Many people with a Type A personality have a strict sleep schedule and are early risers.

9. They Don’t Like Failure

They tend to be perfectionists. While doing the task right is part of what drives their perfectionist attitude, they also like the challenge of making sure no one else can do it better or faster.

10. They Don’t Like Unscheduled Time

If the event can’t be scheduled, it won’t happen. Flying by the seat of their pants is not the way to be productive during the day. Similar to having a task list, a Type A lives and dies by their calendar.

11. They Don’t Live In The Shadows

Some Type A people would live on praise and admiration if they could. They love the spotlight and getting recognition for their hard work.

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12. They Don’t Like To Be Late

No matter who is late, you or them, a Type A person will be irritated about not being punctual. Being late can throw off a whole day which will be even more stressful.

13. They Don’t Let Problems Go Unsolved

They love solving problems. It’s seeing a challenge or the competing part that draws them to figuring out a solution.

14. They Don’t Have Much Patience

Hurry up and get it done is the motto of the Type A personality. When one task is done, there are always 10 more waiting. When they have to wait for someone to tell a long-winded story or someone is walking slow, they get frustrated.

15. They Don’t Know How To Solo Task

Having a single browser window open with a single tab simply means they aren’t getting anything done. Usually you will see them doing more than a couple of things at the same time. While this can give the appearance of getting more done, it often spreads their attention thinly across all of the tasks, making it hard to focus.

16. They Don’t Leave Their Workspace Dirty

No matter how long of a day it was, they will always clean up their area. This might be because they won’t be able to sleep at night knowing there was something is out of place or they could have done it but didn’t. Another possibility could be that they just want to be able to jump right into working in the morning.

17. They Don’t Like Working With Other People

Working with other people slows down the completion time of the project. Needing to explain why they are going to do something or talk about what will work with someone else is torture.

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18. They Don’t Do Well With Being Passive

Aggressiveness gets things done. Waiting for someone to hand them something just won’t do. If they need to talk to someone or find out information to complete a task, they make it happen. They don’t wait around hoping they will get what they need.

19. They Don’t Like To Punch Out At The End Of The Day

A couple of emails from home can’t hurt, right? Working after hours and on the weekends is the norm. Just because the rest of the office is relaxing doesn’t mean the Type A needs to rest.

20. They Don’t Have Many Close Friends

They usually don’t have close friends because they work a lot. Friends just want to hang out and do nothing. If there is a job to be done like building a deck, there is a greater chance a Type A will hang out; otherwise there’s work to be done.

21. They Don’t Say No To More Work

Something in their head won’t let them say no to more work. They feel challenged and they love to prove they can do what they set out to do. They will find a way to make it happen, even if it means they have to give up something like sleep or a day off.

22. They Don’t See Tasks As Anything But A Challenge

The challenge is the motivator. Striving to be better, to get more done, testing the waters and see what they can get away with are all things you could see in this personality type.

23. They Don’t Beat Around The Bush

Their directness could be seen as aggressiveness. However, it’s really just a way to get things done. Asking someone how their day was might lead to a long conversation when in reality they just want to know one detail. They will just ask about the detail they want to know to save time and misunderstandings.

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24. They Don’t Always Take Care Of Their Health

Hypertension and higher risk of heart disease are common side effects of having a Type A personality. Along with the stress associated ailments, they are usually not the most healthy people out there. Exercise and eating right take precious time.

25. They Don’t Let People Finish Their Sentences

People take a long time to get to the point. Finishing their sentences helps the story move along, or so they think. Being impatient is why they are not the best communicators.

26. They Don’t Walk At A Slow Pace

Walking fast gets them where they need to be. Plus its about the only exercise time they can justify during the work day.

27. They Don’t Like Waiting In Line

Waiting in line anywhere or even slow moving traffic is enough to make a Type A want to snap. They go into a rage when they are driving and they come to a slow down. They are furious when there isn’t actually anything there to cause the slowdown. They would also rather pay for the person’s groceries than wait for the person ahead of them to write a check at the grocery store.

28. They Don’t Go With The Flow

Make plans how to get the goal done and get to it. With a clear plan, there is no reason for them to have to think during the process. They just work, work, work once the plan is set and the goal is made.

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How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

Many of us feel awkward talking to strangers. I’m a very outgoing person, even though I sometimes feel uncomfortable walking up to someone and asking a question or starting a conversation. I consider myself pretty high up on the extrovert meter. So what is it that makes us pause and become worried or anxious about talking to people we don’t know?

In this article, we will discuss why we feel this way as well as some tips on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

Step right up, don’t be shy!

Why We Feel Awkward Talking to Strangers

The next time you feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger, tell yourself that’s completely normal. There are numerous reasons why it’s actually natural to feel awkward talking to strangers:

Our Stress Levels Rise Around Strangers

Numerous studies have show that our levels of cortisol go up when we are around strangers.[1] Cortisol is the hormone inside of us which produces stress responses.[2]
So there you go, right off the bat you can see part of your standard response to strangers is due to a chemical reaction!

A very interesting by product of increased cortisol is that it makes us less empathetic. More than likely this can be traced to our evolution. The increase in the cortisol and the corresponding decrease in empathy makes us want to stay away from strangers. We are biologically wired to feel concern around strangers.

Evolution Taught Us to Be Wary

Evolution has also taught us to be wary of strangers in general. Humans as a whole have spent a large chunk of their history banded together in small protective groups. We did this in order to help protect each other and maximize resources.

When you think about it in this context, outsiders to our small groups or strangers are considered potential threats. Fear of strangers is common across almost all human cultures.

Culturally Conditioned

We can also thank our society for helping us feel uncomfortable and sometimes afraid of strangers. The term “stranger danger” is something most of us can relate to either growing up or raising kids. Or both.

I remember hearing this from my parents, mostly about not getting in someone’s car I didn’t know. And as the father of 2 teenage girls, you can be sure I’ve talked to them about this very concept more times that they want to hear.

The thought that strangers can be dangerous is built into us as it is. Toss in the amplification of the media on strangers doing things such as kidnapping kids and it takes it to an even higher level.

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Now that we’ve reviewed some of the reasons why we are nervous, let’s look at why you should talk to strangers more.

Benefits of Getting over the Awkwardness

Let’s take a quick look at some of the advantages of how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward. These are some high level benefits of talking to strangers.

1. Broadens Your Network

After you talk to someone, you didn’t know previously they become someone you know at least a little bit. This alone helps broaden your network of people you know. This is helpful in many ways whether it is work related or socially related.

2. Improves Your Communication Skills

I am a huge proponent of the value of solid communication skills and have written about it often. The more you talk to people, especially people you don’t know, the better your communication skills become.

Interacting with a wider variety of people will bring the added benefit of improving your communication skills.

3. Continually Learning

So many of us don’t actively seek to learn new things. This is one of the primary keys to staying engaged in life and our own personal self fulfillment.

Almost every time I speak to someone I didn’t know previously, I’ve learned something new. When we speak to strangers, it pushes us out of our comfort zones and we tend to learn new things.

4. Increases Self Confidence

Every time we learn to do something we were previously anxious about, we feel better about ourselves.

Forcing ourselves to talk to strangers will lead to increased self confidence. As we get more and more comfortable doing something that previously made us feel awkward, our self confidence will go up and up.

So, how to talk to strangers to reap these benefits?

How to Talk to Strangers

Here are some tips to on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

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1. Say Hello

Putting “say hello” first may seem a bit obvious but let’s take a deeper look. Much of the social awkwardness when speaking to strangers is simply breaking the ice. The first words that will engage someone.

Most people will respond when someone says hello or hi to them. And those that don’t, you probably don’t want to talk to anyway.

Practice being the person that opens the door to a conversation. Say hello.

2. Ask About Them

Something that I have noticed over the years is that people love to talk about themselves. Even fairly private people tend to open up when asked about events in their lives.

You can ask leading questions that get people to talk about themselves and recent events. Things like recent movies watched or the summer vacation are great to get someone talking.

As a father, I also know that people love to talk about their kids. Asking about kids is a fairly easy topic to bring up and in general, most people will expound upon all the great things their kids do or are involved with.

3. Just Do It

One of the biggest reasons we don’t do things we want to or know we should is because we overthink it. Quit thinking about it so much and just do it.

When you give yourself the time to analyze every little angle about a situation, you also give plenty of time to talk yourself out of it. You’ll wind up thinking what if this happens or what if that happens.

Try to force yourself to jump right in without thinking about it too much. Whenever I have done this, I always feel great about it afterwards, no matter how it turned out.

4. Don’t Take It Personal

One of the greatest lessons in life I ever learned was don’t take anything personally. We all go through life with our own sets of experiences and see things through our own lens. The way people react to different situations has almost nothing to do with us. It has to do with previous experiences and the way people feel about things other than us.

When someone’s reaction isn’t what you’d hoped or expected, chances are it has nothing to do with you. Remember that and keep it in context.

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5. Get a Chuckle If Possible

I used the word chuckle purposely because it makes me laugh. In my opinion, it’s one of those funny words. We all like to laugh because it makes us feel good. And when someone makes us laugh, we typically remember those people in a positive light.

One of the best ways to make a conversation easy and free flowing is to get some laughter going. It doesn’t mean you have to be the master joke teller or anything. See if you can work in a way to make the person you are talking to get a smile or some laughter in. In fact, laughing at yourself maybe a nice try.

6. Detach

A great feeling is when you don’t mind which way something turns out, that you will be fine no matter what happens. Kind of like when I watch my two favorite football teams play against each other. I don’t really care who wins, I just want a fun game.

Treat talking to strangers the same way. You don’t really care how the conversation goes because you are detaching from the outcome. Make it a fun time with yourself and if the conversation goes well, awesome! If not then no big deal, move on.

7. Share Your Stories

Well, all like to feel connected to other people. And many times we wind up hanging out with people that we have things in common with. No surprise here.

To help with how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward, tell stories that have commonalities with the person you are talking to. Kids are an easy one. I have a daughter who was a competitive cheerleader and now plays club volleyball. I have instant connection and stories with strangers I speak with who have kids that play sports. It’s easy to relate to.

So when you are speaking to a stranger and you have a story or mutual connection point, bring it up.

8. Give a Compliment

Almost everyone likes hearing a compliment, whether they admit to it or not. As a general rule, we don’t give out enough compliments. It’s amazing how one small remark someone tosses your way about how good you look can literally make your entire day.

When you are speaking with someone you don’t know, see if you can work a compliment in. Nothing creepy here. Not a good idea to tell someone you just met that they are the prettiest or handsomest person you ever met. However, if you can share how you like their tattoo or shoes or something like that, it will help put the conversation into an easy going, smiling place.

9. Relax Your Body Language

If you go into a situation all worried and nervous, it shows on your body. Your shoulders are tensed up, there’s a look of consternation on your face, things like that.

When you engage a stranger in conversation, make it a point to relax your body language. Take a deep breath before you engage the person, let your body relax, and put a smile on your face. This will help relax you and it has the added benefit of putting the other person more at ease.

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If they see that you are relaxed, it helps them relax. Plus having open, engaging body language is very conducive to inviting someone to open up into a conversation with you.

10. Practice, Practice, Practice

Like everything else in life, talking to strangers gets easier with practice. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

Make it a point to talk to several strangers each week and it will definitely help you relax as you do it more and more.

After a while, it will become something you don’t even think about, you just do it. And that takes all of the awkwardness out of being in these type situations.

The Bottom Line

As we have seen, it is perfectly natural to feel awkward talking to strangers. We are biologically built that way and we have our own society constantly warning us how dangerous it is. It’s no wonder we feel awkward talking to strangers!

There are numerous benefits to learning to be more comfortable talking to strangers. See if you can employ some of the techniques mentioned to learn how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

Once you start practicing speaking with strangers more often and utilizing some of the tips, you will become more comfortable doing so. This in turn will lead to a learned new skill and increased self confidence.

Remember, everyone you know was a stranger at one time. Now get out there and make some new friends.

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