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The 7 Dwarfs Live in You: This Is Why You Should Love Each of Them

The 7 Dwarfs Live in You: This Is Why You Should Love Each of Them

Which of the seven dwarfs is your favorite? Which one do you hate the most? Did you know that all of them live within you? That you are not only Doc and Happy, but also Grumpy, or Bashful?

The good news is, all of them are adorable as long as you can see the good points each have, just like Snow White did. So why not start feeling like Snow White and learn to love each of them? Learn to love your inner self. Here you are some reasons why you should:

Bashful

Do you think being social and outgoing is good? Are you willing to share your life – both personal and professional – through social media? Well, according to a TED talk by Susan Cain, introverts bring extraordinary talents and abilities to the world, and should be encouraged and celebrated. At the end of the day, if Bashful makes the effort to speak, maybe it is time to listen to him.

Next time you experience something new, you can be like Snow White and love your inner Bashful; he knows when it is better to keep something for your own joy.

Doc

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Let's Go Dwarfs

    Is it possible to never fail? I don’t think so. Failing makes you a loser? Of course not. And you know what? Doc, the leader of the gang of seven, is not afraid of mixing up his words, because he knows every leader makes lots of mistakes. But he has more than mistakes to show the others. Doc is wise enough to know that learning comes after failing. It is because he fails that he can keep learning and leading his team.

    Next time you make a mistake, you can be like Snow White and love your inner Doc because of the many things you do well.

    Dopey

    Have you ever felt sorry just after saying something? Your mouth was faster than your mind, so words came out, and there’s no going back.

    What about being Dopey? He never speaks, so he never feels that way. And, moreover, Dopey is clumsy, which is very good because people around him can feel good about helping him. If you don’t love Dopey and try to do everything well, people can start feeling useless next to you.

    Next time you need to say something, you can be like Snow White and love that mute Dopey; and, if you fail, be sure you are leaving room for others to help.

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    Grumpy

    Why do you need to love Grumpy? He is always complaining; he doesn’t like anything. He doesn’t even like Snow White!

    Well, Grumpy is not afraid of showing his feelings, like it or not. Sometimes we’d like to share our feelings but we fear other’s reactions, so we say nothing. And the problem is we find no relief in silence. On the contrary: feelings tend to increase through silence, until we explode at the wrong time in front of the wrong person. Grumpy doesn’t suffer this process because he expresses his feelings.

    Next time you feel there is something you need to say, you can be like Snow White and love your inner Grumpy; he will find the way to express your feelings in an assertive way.

    Happy

    Happy is always joyous. He celebrates life. He knows that the glass is half full. Of course he feels sad – especially after Snow White bites that apple. But Happy knows there’s always another way to view things. He is always ready to see happiness around him. He knows life is unbalanced because joy is heavier than sadness, and a bad moment cannot bring darkness to all those bright experiences.

    Next time you feel sad, you can be like Snow White and love you inner Happy; you’ll start focusing on good times, in the past and yet to come.

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    Sleepy

    Sleepy

      Today’s world pushes us to try harder. We keep struggling to be better parents, better friends, better workers, better lovers, better citizens. The more demanding, the better. And there’s no time to stop. Every day lasts from 5 to 23, no breaks in between. But, as Sleepy knows, the best results come after a balance between training and rest. So he makes sure he is having enough time to take a nap. Sleepy takes care of himself, because he knows no one else will.

      Next time you think you cannot stop and breathe, you can be like Snow White and love Sleepy, your inner dwarf who knows you are the most important thing you have.

      Sneezy

      Sneezy suffers hay fever; he is always ill, sneezing like a giant, though he’s only a dwarf.

      What can be good with him? Well, does he really look ill? Does he stop doing anything because of sneezes? Nope. Sneezy works in the mine, just like the other six, and sings and eats and walks and dances and smiles. Sneezy is not stopped by sneezing. Even better, he has found a way to move heavy objects without even touching them. That “illness” is actually a gift!

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      Next time you feel beaten by illness, you can be like Snow White and love your inner Sneezy who, while sneezing, lives a great life.

      Bonus track: Snow White

      As you probably know, my favorite character in this tale is Snow White. She has the power of looking at others and bring out the very best in them. She has suffered from the very first day of her life, and she still can find love and happiness everywhere.

      Snow White’s friends are not just dwarfs anymore, but people with powerful gifts. And all those gifts actually live in you. Are you ready to start using them?

      Featured photo credit: Lead the way, Happy / Hector Parayuelos via flickr.com

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      12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

      12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

      The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

      However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

      “Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

      Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

      1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

      When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

      Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

      2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

      That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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      Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

      3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

      If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

      For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

      People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

      This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

      4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

      Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

      Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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      Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

      Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

      “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

      5. Crack a smile.

      If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

      Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

      6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

      Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

      And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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      7. Groom yourself.

      This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

      A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

      8. Dress nicely.

      Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

      While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

      9. Do activities you enjoy.

      Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

      You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

      10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

      Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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      Why?

      Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

      Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

      Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

      11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

      Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

      Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

      12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

      Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

      The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

      Featured photo credit: Freshh Connection via unsplash.com

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