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The 7 Dwarfs Live in You: This Is Why You Should Love Each of Them

The 7 Dwarfs Live in You: This Is Why You Should Love Each of Them

Which of the seven dwarfs is your favorite? Which one do you hate the most? Did you know that all of them live within you? That you are not only Doc and Happy, but also Grumpy, or Bashful?

The good news is, all of them are adorable as long as you can see the good points each have, just like Snow White did. So why not start feeling like Snow White and learn to love each of them? Learn to love your inner self. Here you are some reasons why you should:

Bashful

Do you think being social and outgoing is good? Are you willing to share your life – both personal and professional – through social media? Well, according to a TED talk by Susan Cain, introverts bring extraordinary talents and abilities to the world, and should be encouraged and celebrated. At the end of the day, if Bashful makes the effort to speak, maybe it is time to listen to him.

Next time you experience something new, you can be like Snow White and love your inner Bashful; he knows when it is better to keep something for your own joy.

Doc

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Let's Go Dwarfs

    Is it possible to never fail? I don’t think so. Failing makes you a loser? Of course not. And you know what? Doc, the leader of the gang of seven, is not afraid of mixing up his words, because he knows every leader makes lots of mistakes. But he has more than mistakes to show the others. Doc is wise enough to know that learning comes after failing. It is because he fails that he can keep learning and leading his team.

    Next time you make a mistake, you can be like Snow White and love your inner Doc because of the many things you do well.

    Dopey

    Have you ever felt sorry just after saying something? Your mouth was faster than your mind, so words came out, and there’s no going back.

    What about being Dopey? He never speaks, so he never feels that way. And, moreover, Dopey is clumsy, which is very good because people around him can feel good about helping him. If you don’t love Dopey and try to do everything well, people can start feeling useless next to you.

    Next time you need to say something, you can be like Snow White and love that mute Dopey; and, if you fail, be sure you are leaving room for others to help.

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    Grumpy

    Why do you need to love Grumpy? He is always complaining; he doesn’t like anything. He doesn’t even like Snow White!

    Well, Grumpy is not afraid of showing his feelings, like it or not. Sometimes we’d like to share our feelings but we fear other’s reactions, so we say nothing. And the problem is we find no relief in silence. On the contrary: feelings tend to increase through silence, until we explode at the wrong time in front of the wrong person. Grumpy doesn’t suffer this process because he expresses his feelings.

    Next time you feel there is something you need to say, you can be like Snow White and love your inner Grumpy; he will find the way to express your feelings in an assertive way.

    Happy

    Happy is always joyous. He celebrates life. He knows that the glass is half full. Of course he feels sad – especially after Snow White bites that apple. But Happy knows there’s always another way to view things. He is always ready to see happiness around him. He knows life is unbalanced because joy is heavier than sadness, and a bad moment cannot bring darkness to all those bright experiences.

    Next time you feel sad, you can be like Snow White and love you inner Happy; you’ll start focusing on good times, in the past and yet to come.

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    Sleepy

    Sleepy

      Today’s world pushes us to try harder. We keep struggling to be better parents, better friends, better workers, better lovers, better citizens. The more demanding, the better. And there’s no time to stop. Every day lasts from 5 to 23, no breaks in between. But, as Sleepy knows, the best results come after a balance between training and rest. So he makes sure he is having enough time to take a nap. Sleepy takes care of himself, because he knows no one else will.

      Next time you think you cannot stop and breathe, you can be like Snow White and love Sleepy, your inner dwarf who knows you are the most important thing you have.

      Sneezy

      Sneezy suffers hay fever; he is always ill, sneezing like a giant, though he’s only a dwarf.

      What can be good with him? Well, does he really look ill? Does he stop doing anything because of sneezes? Nope. Sneezy works in the mine, just like the other six, and sings and eats and walks and dances and smiles. Sneezy is not stopped by sneezing. Even better, he has found a way to move heavy objects without even touching them. That “illness” is actually a gift!

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      Next time you feel beaten by illness, you can be like Snow White and love your inner Sneezy who, while sneezing, lives a great life.

      Bonus track: Snow White

      As you probably know, my favorite character in this tale is Snow White. She has the power of looking at others and bring out the very best in them. She has suffered from the very first day of her life, and she still can find love and happiness everywhere.

      Snow White’s friends are not just dwarfs anymore, but people with powerful gifts. And all those gifts actually live in you. Are you ready to start using them?

      Featured photo credit: Lead the way, Happy / Hector Parayuelos via flickr.com

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      10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

      10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

      Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

      Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

      Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

      So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

      1. Be Authentic

      To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

      Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

      Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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      2. Listen

      Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

      To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

      Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

      Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

      3. Become an Expert

      Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

      You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

      4. Lead with Story

      From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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      If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

      5. Lead by Example

      It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

      ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

      We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

      6. Catch People Doing Good

      A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

      Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

      7. Be Effusive with Praise

      It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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      Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

      8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

      I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

      The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

      If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

      9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

      The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

      The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

      If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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      10. Understand Your Lane

      If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

      Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

      You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

      Final Thoughts

      Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

      It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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