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Scientific Proof That Positivity Can Alter Reality

Scientific Proof That Positivity Can Alter Reality

In the past, whenever I read a quote telling me to improve my positivity, or whenever I see someone preaching about the benefits of a positive attitude, I roll my eyes, scoff at them and the naivety of their advocacy, and dismiss the idea of being positive altogether.

“Why should I be positive?” I thought, “Positivity will only make me vulnerable and clueless. It won’t push me to make the necessary changes in my life! Also, an optimistic attitude won’t help pay for the bills. I don’t need to be positive.”

And so, every time I encounter something in my life, I was so used to seeing the negative in every life experience that there came a point when I would rather stay at home, lie in bed and write about all the depressing things in my life instead of going to work, talking to new people. learning from these experiences and becoming a new and improved version of me.

As they say, when you hit rock bottom, there is nowhere to go now but up.

I tried going up.

Naturally, it wasn’t easy. I was so used to defaulting to negativity that it really took physical and mental effort on my part to try and look at the brighter things in life.

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Whenever someone criticized me, I refrained from criticizing them back.

I tried to keep an open mind and asked myself if I could learn from the comment. If I could, I’d try to improve. But then, if I couldn’t, I simply let it go. One perk that positivity has made me realize is this: “Sometimes, a criticism aimed at you may not always be about you. ” If that’s the case, then, let it go.

When I lost one of my big clients, it affected me significantly. I panicked, I sulked and I even took my disappointment out on the people closest to me. As a result, I was miserable and broke. No one even wanted to talk to me for the fear of getting hurt.

Again, I had to consciously make a decision to maintain my positivity, even at that time. After having a good cry, I decided to focus on my passion, personal finance. I made an effort to re-connect with loved ones and potential mentors.

The most important thing I did? I learned to say “thank you” to God, to everyone and even to myself!

“Thank you, God, for never failing to bless me with Your grace.”

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“Thank you, family and friends, for believing in me and supporting me for who I am.”

“Thank you, Lianne, for never giving up on yourself.”

And now, I have managed to author a personal finance book, I’ve become a licensed financial adviser, and I get to start on my (very) small publishing business.

Cultivating positivity and learning to be thankful are indeed great life-changers. By doing this, my life has significantly improved and turned a 180.

I understand if you don’t believe me—I was once a cynic, after all. How can I make sure that you’re going to be happy just by harboring positive thoughts and being thankful, right?

can’t give you definite proof based on personal experiences.

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But I do encourage you to reconsider positivity by watching this video:

In this video, Dr. Masaru Emoto placed rice into 3 beakers and poured water into them. For a month:

– He said “Thank you” to the 1st beaker;

– He said “You’re an idiot” to the 2nd beaker;

– And he completely ignored the 3rd beaker.

Can you guess what happened?

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– The rice in the 1st beaker started to ferment wonderfully and give off an amazing aroma;

– The rice in the 2nd beaker turned black;

– And the rice in the 3rd beaker started to rot.

Now, you can either continue being negative and trash-talking yourself, or you can start harboring positivity and empowering yourself to be the best version that you can be.

Science has already spoken.

What do you say?

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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