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Scientific Proof That Positivity Can Alter Reality

Scientific Proof That Positivity Can Alter Reality

In the past, whenever I read a quote telling me to improve my positivity, or whenever I see someone preaching about the benefits of a positive attitude, I roll my eyes, scoff at them and the naivety of their advocacy, and dismiss the idea of being positive altogether.

“Why should I be positive?” I thought, “Positivity will only make me vulnerable and clueless. It won’t push me to make the necessary changes in my life! Also, an optimistic attitude won’t help pay for the bills. I don’t need to be positive.”

And so, every time I encounter something in my life, I was so used to seeing the negative in every life experience that there came a point when I would rather stay at home, lie in bed and write about all the depressing things in my life instead of going to work, talking to new people. learning from these experiences and becoming a new and improved version of me.

As they say, when you hit rock bottom, there is nowhere to go now but up.

I tried going up.

Naturally, it wasn’t easy. I was so used to defaulting to negativity that it really took physical and mental effort on my part to try and look at the brighter things in life.

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Whenever someone criticized me, I refrained from criticizing them back.

I tried to keep an open mind and asked myself if I could learn from the comment. If I could, I’d try to improve. But then, if I couldn’t, I simply let it go. One perk that positivity has made me realize is this: “Sometimes, a criticism aimed at you may not always be about you. ” If that’s the case, then, let it go.

When I lost one of my big clients, it affected me significantly. I panicked, I sulked and I even took my disappointment out on the people closest to me. As a result, I was miserable and broke. No one even wanted to talk to me for the fear of getting hurt.

Again, I had to consciously make a decision to maintain my positivity, even at that time. After having a good cry, I decided to focus on my passion, personal finance. I made an effort to re-connect with loved ones and potential mentors.

The most important thing I did? I learned to say “thank you” to God, to everyone and even to myself!

“Thank you, God, for never failing to bless me with Your grace.”

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“Thank you, family and friends, for believing in me and supporting me for who I am.”

“Thank you, Lianne, for never giving up on yourself.”

And now, I have managed to author a personal finance book, I’ve become a licensed financial adviser, and I get to start on my (very) small publishing business.

Cultivating positivity and learning to be thankful are indeed great life-changers. By doing this, my life has significantly improved and turned a 180.

I understand if you don’t believe me—I was once a cynic, after all. How can I make sure that you’re going to be happy just by harboring positive thoughts and being thankful, right?

can’t give you definite proof based on personal experiences.

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But I do encourage you to reconsider positivity by watching this video:

In this video, Dr. Masaru Emoto placed rice into 3 beakers and poured water into them. For a month:

– He said “Thank you” to the 1st beaker;

– He said “You’re an idiot” to the 2nd beaker;

– And he completely ignored the 3rd beaker.

Can you guess what happened?

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– The rice in the 1st beaker started to ferment wonderfully and give off an amazing aroma;

– The rice in the 2nd beaker turned black;

– And the rice in the 3rd beaker started to rot.

Now, you can either continue being negative and trash-talking yourself, or you can start harboring positivity and empowering yourself to be the best version that you can be.

Science has already spoken.

What do you say?

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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