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Remind Yourself These 7 Things When You Have A Bad Day

Remind Yourself These 7 Things When You Have A Bad Day

We all have good days and bad days. But most of the time, things really aren’t as bad as they seem. Our minds play tricks on us and make us feel like the world is ending. Fortunately, we all have the ability to turn our bad day around instantly by putting things into perspective and remembering a few simple truths. Here are seven of them.

You’re stronger now. 

Unfortunately, suffering is a part of life. But here’s the good news: adversity builds character. While it’s hard to understand why bad things happen to good people, there’s one certainty: what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. As hard as it may be, try to learn something from every bad experience you go through. Be reflective and mindful of how you react in certain situations. For example, I get easily stressed out while driving. Then I realized how ridiculous it was to overreact to things out of my control that don’t really matter much anyway. These behaviors were learned reactions. I’m not saying I never get annoyed and irritated in the car these days. But I recognize when these reactions start to happen, and I’m better able to control them. Treat every bad thing that happens as a learning experience, and you’ll get stronger every time.

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You’re capable of more than you think. 

Humans are the most intelligent animals on earth. We have an amazing ability to think, reason, and adapt. Use that gift. Understand that you are capable of whatever you want if you’re willing to work for it. Circumstances don’t define us. Our mindset does. If you think you can’t, you’re probably right. Your capabilities are limitless. Whether you want to get a great job, find love, lose weight, or just stop feeling so sad all the time, you can do it–you need to be willing to take action though. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop make excuses. Take the first step.

It’s worth it to take the next step.

The first step will be the hardest but the second isn’t always easy either. We’re a society that expects immediate gratification in everything we do. That’s not how things work though. Nothing great comes easily. That’s why it’s important to always keep moving forward. 10 years ago I was fat, depressed and miserable. So I decided to change. I started working out one day a week. I started cooking more instead of going out. I took baby steps. But those steps began to compound into amazing changes in my life. Keep moving forward and taking small steps every day and the same will happen for you.

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It could be worse.

Life is relative. I thought I had a bad day yesterday because I had a stressful day at work and got caught in a traffic jam on the way home. Then I realized there are people who don’t have a job, a car or even a home. There are people suffering from life-threatening diseases. There are people who have endured suffering infinitely deeper than I have ever experienced. Sometimes when we have a bad day it helps to stop thinking it’s all about us. Others have it much worse than you. Help them and you’ll help yourself.

What’s done is done.

Some days you get dealt a bad hand. But guess what? It’s over. Whatever bad things have happened to you are done with. Put them behind you. Those bad moments don’t exist anymore. Remind yourself of this whenever you have a bad day: the only thing that matters is the present. Focus your energy on right now because whatever happened in the past no longer matters.

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The light in your life will always outweigh the dark.

It’s easy to get caught up on the negative when bad stuff seems to pile up on you over and over. When I have a bad day and negative thoughts swirl through my head, here’s the strategy that always seems to help me the most: I refocus on everything I do have instead of what I don’t. Think about the people who love you, the hard work you’ve put in to whatever skills you’re really good at, and all the great things that have happened in your life. If you’re like me, you’ll realize you’re pretty darn lucky.

You’re still here.

Life will test you in more ways you can imagine. You have probably suffered a lot in your life. I know I have. But here’s the thing: we’re still here. The fact that you’re alive and reading this is a miracle. So let’s stop taking life so seriously. Have fun, love deeply, put your stamp on the world, take risks and live your life.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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