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An Open Letter To My Future Boyfriend

An Open Letter To My Future Boyfriend

Relationships are aimed to increase the “happiness quotient” in our lives. The first relationship is special to each and every one – the expectations, aspirations, dreams, fantasies, faults, more misunderstandings, etc. However, it tells us who we are and what we practically expect from a relationship. Moreover a break up makes us stronger.

I have seen a lot many of my friends, being more mature after ending up their first relationship. But girls always take longer time to overcome the breakup blues. So I have decided to dedicate this post to the lovely ladies all over the world because I believe that every girl is special and she deserves the man who is the best for her and brings out the best in her. Before thinking of any future relationship, a girl must learn to love herself and the present moment because the key to finding true love is self love.

In an open letter to my future boyfriend I would like to include all the things that make a relationship worthy of lasting till eternity. Here it goes:

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My Dear Future Boyfriend,

I have seen my share of immature first loves and the painful heartbreaks that follow. When I look back now, I feel that I have grown up. I know my priorities in life. I know myself and I am deeply, madly, and passionately in love with myself.

At the moment I don’t want a boyfriend. I don’t want to flaunt among my friends because I already have an awesome life.

But one day in my future I will need someone. Someone who can complete and compliment me. Someone who trusts me. Someone who understands me. Someone who is as strong as the wind to fight for me. Someone who is as soft as the breeze to calm me. Someone who is just there beside me, with unspoken words, with the unsaid promis to have the best talks in silenc. Someone who share my grievances.

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Will you be the one who stays?

I want someone who can forgive me for every fight. Someone who needs me in his life. Someone who can make me run on that road which never ends, which is build out of trust and patience, which has only love and longing to be the best for the best.

I want someone who is daring enough to steal the princess from her own self. Someone who looks beyond the figure and physical appearances and sees my true inner core. Someone who looks me in the eyes and connects with my soul.

Someone who allows me to be stupid and childish. Someone who strengthens me daily before I go to work. Someone who is my friend to support and understand me with my ways. Someone with whom I am free to be my own self.

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Together we will define love.

I want someone who can define love in my life. Love – as pure as the snow, as pious as the divine, as strong as the mountains, as beautiful as the stars twinkling above.

I know if he exists, I will meet him at the perfect time and in the perfect way. And I will change into my true self through him and for him. I will be changed. But what I love most is the irony that he won’t care if I change or stay the same, because he will love me no matter what.


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I am happy with my life and with each passing day. I am learning new ways to love myself. I am enjoying being single because it allows me to dream of you while pursuing my own dreams.

I wish the same accelerates with your entry into my life.

In Love,

Your Future Girlfriend

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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