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How to Move Out of State, and Not Feel Like You’re Alone

How to Move Out of State, and Not Feel Like You’re Alone

Moving is a pain, but moving out of state is an entirely different battle. I made my first move my sophomore year of college. I lived in Minnesota all my life, and now after 20 years I was driving over 1,000 miles to Arizona. I then made another move within Arizona after college, only two hours away from where I went to school. Now, two years after graduating I am in yet another city. I now live in St. Louis, Missouri, and will be leaving again within the next 10 months. So, not only do I know a lot about moving, but I also know how absolutely alone it can make you feel. No matter how many times I move, it never gets easier. Moving away from the people you love (family or friends) is never easy. Here is how I continue to move without feeling like I am losing a something each time.

DO: Accept the fact that you are leaving, and probably for a long time

As soon as you can face the fact that you are leaving, the easier it will be for you to actually leave. Denial is an inevitable part of moving. You tell all your friends that you will keep in touch and talk to them just as much as you do now. The sooner you accept that this probably isn’t true, the quicker you will be able to cope with it. You won’t see these people again unless they visit you, or you are back for a visit yourself.

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DON’T: Get upset with people “back home”

In the age of social media it can be difficult not to notice your friends hanging out in all the places that you once frequented. This can make you feel like you are all alone in a new state that you know nothing about. Instead of feeling sad that you missed out, realize that there is a reason why you aren’t there. Bigger and better opportunities have brought you to a new place, and you should be happy about that.

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DO: Take time each week to catch up with a friend or family member

Doing this will make you feel instantly better. Make a point of setting aside an hour, one day a week to talk to someone from where you once lived. Try to make it a different person every week, and then rotate. When you move you will have to make new friends, and that can be stressful. Talking with someone you already know will relieve your stress, while keeping that relationship going.

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DON’T: Isolate yourself

A new city can be scary, but the answer is not to sit inside your house. Get out and meet new people! This can be intimidating if you aren’t an outgoing person, but it is extremely important to not feel alone in a new place. Hopefully you life in an area or apartment complex that has the same age range as you. Some apartment complexes have events for residents to do meet and greets. If you are lucky to live in a place like this, be sure to check them out. If you don’t live in a place that has events for residents, look in your local paper for events and festivals that the city is having. Make sure to go to them. You will meet new people, and get to explore your new city.

DO: Join Clubs/Groups/Activities

The fastest way to meet new people is to join a club or some sort. If you like basketball, join a local basketball team. Same goes for any other sport. If you love to write, go and join your local writers group. I can promise you that your new city has an activity that you can participate in. The best part about meeting people in these groups is that you already have something in common. The best relationships can stem from joining one of these groups.

Moving to a new city is always challenging. Don’t get down, follow the do’s and don’ts and you will make it!

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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