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Beliefs That Will Free You From Negative Thoughts

Beliefs That Will Free You From Negative Thoughts

All of us have almost the same life but there is a very little thing that makes each life different from one another. This thing results in the difference between success and failure, winning and losing, living and surviving, taking the initiative and being run upon and so on. This thing is what we call ‘attitude.’

This attitude towards life and the happenings of life is what makes you think in a particular way. If you have a pessimistic attitude towards life, then the result would be you thinking negative all the time and this negativity will reflect in your actions, hence classifying you in the group of people which you don’t want to be a part of in this life. I will discuss with you 20 beliefs that you can incorporate in your life which will free you from negative thoughts and take you on the path of progress and prosperity.

1. Life Is Not Perfect But It Is Great

The first belief that can prove to be of great benefit to getting free from negative thoughts is believing and understanding the fact that life is not perfect. But its imperfection is no reason to give up or be sad about it. Rather it is this imperfect part that motivates us to take the leap and strive to make it perfect. Therefore, consider the imperfections of your life as blessings, which motivate you to keep on going and making it perfect.

2. What Others Say About You Is Their Problem

One of the major factors that instigate negative thoughts is thinking of what people think about you. This is a serious performance killer and keeps you pessimistic and within your shell. Therefore, in order to do away with it, don’t worry about what other people think about you. Consider it a problem of theirs which they have to deal with and you don’t have to take their burden.

3. Bad Days Are A Natural Part Of Life

None of us could have the same days over and over again. It is natural that we ought to face bad days every now and then. Do not consider all your life full of bad days, neither should you consider it a thing that shouldn’t exist in your life. Consider them as a natural part of life and have a belief that where there are bad days, there are good days as well.

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4. Everything Won’t Be There Forever

One of the greatest contributors to negative thoughts is that we stick with people or things and do not want them to leave our life. What most of us forget is that all the things in this world are temporal and sooner or later everything has to expire. Therefore, try believing that everything won’t be there forever but your life must move on.

5. In Every Bad Experience There Is A Lesson

Do you think that all the successful tycoons in the world faced success in whatever they did? If you think so then you need to rethink as they also faced failures in their life. They were smart enough to realize that in failures there are lessons, thus they learned a lesson in every failure and did not repeat it again, which was the key to their success.

6. Happiness Is Your Creation

The one thing that can perhaps end all your worries is to find ways to live happy in whatever situation you are in. It is only possible when you know that happiness is a creation of your own mind and it has very little to do with the outside circumstance. Thus, if you succeed in training your mind to remain happy, then there is no day when you will wake up worried in your life.

7. The Work Is Worth It

Another negative thought that diminishes our potential is the thought of hating doing work. We want to live life and enjoy it without doing any work. If you have ever been in a situation in which you had to stay at home without doing any work, then you would have realized that the free time you get after the weekends is so charming because you had worked five days. If you remain free and do nothing then this free time in general and life in particular will have no charm for you. Whatever work you do, consider it worth spending your time.

8. Being Wrong Is Necessary For Being Right

Have you ever imagined what your life would be if you had never committed all the mistakes you committed in your life? Although the objective of life is to minimize mistakes, being wrong is necessary in order to be right. Because if you are not wrong, then you will never know the ills of being wrong and consequently won’t strive to be right. Therefore, to free yourself from negative thoughts accept the existence and importance of the odd wrong in life.

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9. You Are Free To Be You

Although there are all sorts of constraints around us, when you think you are free to be you then there is no stopping you. You can definitely break the shackles of negative thoughts.

10. The Struggling Phase Is Something To Be Grateful For

Most of us start to whine when the struggling phase in our life begins. Very few realize that it is a great blessing to be grateful for the chance to struggle in life. For most people, life is just a downhill ride and they can do nothing to stop it. Therefore, be grateful for the struggle phase as well.

11. Life Moves On

The hard fact of life is that it moves on. If there is something that is holding you back, then realize that it is limiting your potential. In order to move forward in life you will have to let it go.

12. People You Spend Time With Matter

This does not require any additional stressing, as the people that you spend your time with have an influence over your thinking. Be around positive people for positive thoughts.

13. Being Judgmental Is A Waste Of Time

It happens often that people or things don’t turn out to be what we think them to be. Instead of being judgmental about everything that comes across in life, weigh things and people on their merits.

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14. People Think That You Judge Them Too

All the while when you are thinking that people are judging you, at the same time they are thinking that you are judging them. Thus, if you realize this fact, negative thoughts will stop making place in your mind.

15. The World Needs You

No matter how insignificant you think of yourself in this life, it is a fact that you have a role to play in this world and the world needs you. Therefore, instead of thinking that people don’t need you, thinking that you can make the world a happy place will surely bring you out of pessimism.

16. People Are Free To Think What They Want

Never worry about what people are thinking about you and keep in mind that you cannot prevent people from thinking. The best way is to let them think what they want and you can go on with your life.

17. You Know Yourself Better

No matter whatever the world says, don’t let it get you and always keep in mind that it is you who knows yourself better than anyone in this world. Therefore, don’t let the opinions of others identify your potential, rather be your judge yourself.

18. Change Is The Only Constant

Most of us go into pessimistic thoughts when we think of something changing in our life. Do whatever you want, but I tell you that change is the only constant and it will take place. Therefore, instead of worrying about it and resisting it, accept it to stay happy.

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19. Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining

No matter how bad the conditions get, if you have the attitude that you believe in a silver lining in every cloud, then you will definitely find that silver lining and prosper.

20. It’s Mind Over Matter

Above all, the one thing that can keep negative thoughts at bay is the thinking that mind is over matter. If you work on making your brain strong and controling your thoughts, then there is nothing in this world which you can’t get through.

Now It’s Your Turn!

Do you have negative thoughts? How did you get out of them? What elements govern your thinking process? Please share your insightful thoughts in the comments section below.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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