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Beliefs That Will Free You From Negative Thoughts

Beliefs That Will Free You From Negative Thoughts

All of us have almost the same life but there is a very little thing that makes each life different from one another. This thing results in the difference between success and failure, winning and losing, living and surviving, taking the initiative and being run upon and so on. This thing is what we call ‘attitude.’

This attitude towards life and the happenings of life is what makes you think in a particular way. If you have a pessimistic attitude towards life, then the result would be you thinking negative all the time and this negativity will reflect in your actions, hence classifying you in the group of people which you don’t want to be a part of in this life. I will discuss with you 20 beliefs that you can incorporate in your life which will free you from negative thoughts and take you on the path of progress and prosperity.

1. Life Is Not Perfect But It Is Great

The first belief that can prove to be of great benefit to getting free from negative thoughts is believing and understanding the fact that life is not perfect. But its imperfection is no reason to give up or be sad about it. Rather it is this imperfect part that motivates us to take the leap and strive to make it perfect. Therefore, consider the imperfections of your life as blessings, which motivate you to keep on going and making it perfect.

2. What Others Say About You Is Their Problem

One of the major factors that instigate negative thoughts is thinking of what people think about you. This is a serious performance killer and keeps you pessimistic and within your shell. Therefore, in order to do away with it, don’t worry about what other people think about you. Consider it a problem of theirs which they have to deal with and you don’t have to take their burden.

3. Bad Days Are A Natural Part Of Life

None of us could have the same days over and over again. It is natural that we ought to face bad days every now and then. Do not consider all your life full of bad days, neither should you consider it a thing that shouldn’t exist in your life. Consider them as a natural part of life and have a belief that where there are bad days, there are good days as well.

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4. Everything Won’t Be There Forever

One of the greatest contributors to negative thoughts is that we stick with people or things and do not want them to leave our life. What most of us forget is that all the things in this world are temporal and sooner or later everything has to expire. Therefore, try believing that everything won’t be there forever but your life must move on.

5. In Every Bad Experience There Is A Lesson

Do you think that all the successful tycoons in the world faced success in whatever they did? If you think so then you need to rethink as they also faced failures in their life. They were smart enough to realize that in failures there are lessons, thus they learned a lesson in every failure and did not repeat it again, which was the key to their success.

6. Happiness Is Your Creation

The one thing that can perhaps end all your worries is to find ways to live happy in whatever situation you are in. It is only possible when you know that happiness is a creation of your own mind and it has very little to do with the outside circumstance. Thus, if you succeed in training your mind to remain happy, then there is no day when you will wake up worried in your life.

7. The Work Is Worth It

Another negative thought that diminishes our potential is the thought of hating doing work. We want to live life and enjoy it without doing any work. If you have ever been in a situation in which you had to stay at home without doing any work, then you would have realized that the free time you get after the weekends is so charming because you had worked five days. If you remain free and do nothing then this free time in general and life in particular will have no charm for you. Whatever work you do, consider it worth spending your time.

8. Being Wrong Is Necessary For Being Right

Have you ever imagined what your life would be if you had never committed all the mistakes you committed in your life? Although the objective of life is to minimize mistakes, being wrong is necessary in order to be right. Because if you are not wrong, then you will never know the ills of being wrong and consequently won’t strive to be right. Therefore, to free yourself from negative thoughts accept the existence and importance of the odd wrong in life.

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9. You Are Free To Be You

Although there are all sorts of constraints around us, when you think you are free to be you then there is no stopping you. You can definitely break the shackles of negative thoughts.

10. The Struggling Phase Is Something To Be Grateful For

Most of us start to whine when the struggling phase in our life begins. Very few realize that it is a great blessing to be grateful for the chance to struggle in life. For most people, life is just a downhill ride and they can do nothing to stop it. Therefore, be grateful for the struggle phase as well.

11. Life Moves On

The hard fact of life is that it moves on. If there is something that is holding you back, then realize that it is limiting your potential. In order to move forward in life you will have to let it go.

12. People You Spend Time With Matter

This does not require any additional stressing, as the people that you spend your time with have an influence over your thinking. Be around positive people for positive thoughts.

13. Being Judgmental Is A Waste Of Time

It happens often that people or things don’t turn out to be what we think them to be. Instead of being judgmental about everything that comes across in life, weigh things and people on their merits.

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14. People Think That You Judge Them Too

All the while when you are thinking that people are judging you, at the same time they are thinking that you are judging them. Thus, if you realize this fact, negative thoughts will stop making place in your mind.

15. The World Needs You

No matter how insignificant you think of yourself in this life, it is a fact that you have a role to play in this world and the world needs you. Therefore, instead of thinking that people don’t need you, thinking that you can make the world a happy place will surely bring you out of pessimism.

16. People Are Free To Think What They Want

Never worry about what people are thinking about you and keep in mind that you cannot prevent people from thinking. The best way is to let them think what they want and you can go on with your life.

17. You Know Yourself Better

No matter whatever the world says, don’t let it get you and always keep in mind that it is you who knows yourself better than anyone in this world. Therefore, don’t let the opinions of others identify your potential, rather be your judge yourself.

18. Change Is The Only Constant

Most of us go into pessimistic thoughts when we think of something changing in our life. Do whatever you want, but I tell you that change is the only constant and it will take place. Therefore, instead of worrying about it and resisting it, accept it to stay happy.

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19. Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining

No matter how bad the conditions get, if you have the attitude that you believe in a silver lining in every cloud, then you will definitely find that silver lining and prosper.

20. It’s Mind Over Matter

Above all, the one thing that can keep negative thoughts at bay is the thinking that mind is over matter. If you work on making your brain strong and controling your thoughts, then there is nothing in this world which you can’t get through.

Now It’s Your Turn!

Do you have negative thoughts? How did you get out of them? What elements govern your thinking process? Please share your insightful thoughts in the comments section below.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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