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9 Amazing Life Lessons I’ve Learned from Paulo Coelho

9 Amazing Life Lessons I’ve Learned from Paulo Coelho

Certain books seem to enter our lives at the perfect time and provide a glimmer of hope where there was once only darkness. My journey into health and wellness, which is now my life’s work, began with serious reflection about who I was and what I wanted to do. One of the most important people that helped me get there was Paulo Coelho, the author and philosopher most famous for his book, The Alchemist. Coelho is a master at simplifying life’s difficult questions into easy-to-understand bits of wisdom. His words have been instrumental in helping me overcome hurdles and find my life’s purpose. These are some of the lessons I learned from him. I hope that you’ll take some of these to heart and benefit from them as much as I did.

1. The secret to life.

The secret is here in the present. If you pay attention to the present, you can improve upon it. And if you improve on the present, what comes later will also be better. Forget about the future, and live each day according to the teachings, confident that God loves his children. Each day, in itself, brings with it an eternity.

2. The world’s greatest lie.

At a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That’s the world’s greatest lie.

3. The language of the world.

There is a language in the world that everyone understands: the language of enthusiasm, of things accomplished with love and purpose, and as part of a search for something believed in and desired.

4. What happens when we die.

Those who don’t return become a part of the clouds, a part of the animals that hide in the ravines and of the water that comes from the earth. They become a part of everything…they become the Soul of the World. 

5. The only way to learn.

There is only one way to learn. It’s through action. Everything you need to know you have learned through your journey. 

6. The way to view others.

We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path. 

7. The most extraordinary things in life.

The simple things are also the most extraordinary things, and only the wise can see them. 

8. The power of truly believing.

When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.

9. What we can learn from children.

A child can teach an adult three things: to be happy for no reason, to always be busy with something, and to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires.

10. The only way to understand the miracle of life.

You have to take risks. We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen.

Whether you’re struggling through a tough situation or your life is calm and content at the moment, these words hold immense power. Take these life lessons from Paulo Coelho and find ways to apply them to your own. This means never ceasing to seek out knowledge, reading something new every day, having a child-like sense of wonder about the world and learning as much as you can about as much as you can. I’ll leave you with these words to ponder from The Alchemist:

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No matter what he does, every person on earth plays a central role in the history of the world. And normally he doesn’t know it.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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